How do you know if your relationship experiences "normal ups and downs" or is mired in abusive, toxic patterns? Determining the health of your most important relationships is the first step toward creating a happier life for yourself and those you surround yourself with. Complete this questionnaire once for each relationship you are concerned about. Don't combine answers about your spouse with answers about another relationship. You can apply the questionnaire to each of your relationships. It will help you not only identify whether your relationships are destructive, but in what way they are destructive. Adapted with permission from "The Emotionally Destructive Relationship: Seeing It! Stopping It! Surviving It!" By Leslie Vernick (Harvest House Publishers, 2007).