Quiz: How High is Your Self Esteem?

Your sense of self-worth and what you think about yourself determines a great many things. It shapes how you act and react, how others treat you, and what kind of people show up in your life. Do you have high self-esteem, average self-esteem, or low self-esteem? Take our quiz to find out.

Question 1 of 15

When someone asks for your help, you most often:

Stop and talk on the phone with that person for an hour

Drop everything and hurry to help him or her

Stick to your priorities and schedule a time to talk later

Question 2 of 15

Your friends want to watch a new movie you don’t want to see. Do you:

Let yourself be dragged to the movie but stew about it

Tell them you’ll meet them after the movie

Go with them anyway

Question 3 of 15

When you work through your daily to-do list, you typically:

Do something to nurture yourself only if all the other tasks are done

Do at least one thing to nourish yourself during the day

Don’t do anything for your own self-care

Question 4 of 15

When someone compliments your appearance but you believe you’re having a bad-hair day, do you:

Immediately object and say you don’t think you look good

Smile but doubt that the other person is being honest

Say, “Thank you. I appreciate that!”

Question 5 of 15

If you’re faced with a challenging task with a tight timeline, you tend to:

Feel helpless and give up

Ask for help and guidance

Do it yourself, even if you have to stay up all night

Question 6 of 15

How do you react when a friend or family member doesn’t show up when agreed or breaks a promise? Do you:

Act hurt the next time you see the person

Let the other person know immediately that this behavior doesn’t work for me.

Ignore it and assume you are the one who did something wrong

Question 7 of 15

When a repairman does a sloppy job, you generally:

Hesitate to confront him

Ask a strong male partner or friend to contact the person

Tell him you are not happy and you want it corrected right away

Question 8 of 15

In a meeting, if a co-worker disagrees with you in front of everyone, you tend to:

Roll your eyes while he or she is talking

Speak up to correct misconceptions and give facts to support your case

Slump down in your chair and wish you could disappear

Question 9 of 15

When in a room with a mirror, you tend to:

Frown at your image and quickly turn away

Smile and give yourself a mental hug

Obsess about the details of how you look

Question 10 of 15

When you and your partner disagree about what to do on vacation, you:

Toss a coin and grumble if you lose

Make sure both of your needs are met during the trip

Go along with what your partner prefers to do

Question 11 of 15

A big project is finally over. The next day you:

Indulge in overeating something that’s not good for you

Reward yourself by celebrating in a meaningful, uplifting way

Think about all the things you could have done better

Question 12 of 15

When you make a mistake, you usually:

Take action to correct the situation and move on

Pick up the phone and talk it over for a long time with friends

Criticize yourself and worry about what will happen for days

Question 13 of 15

How do you make important decisions?

You worry and often can’t make up your mind

Call all your friends and get their opinions

Spend time alone to tune in to what your heart says

Question 14 of 15

A job you’ve always wanted opens up. You:

Do nothing because you’re afraid you’re not good enough

Grab the application and fill it out immediately

Take a month to evaluate the pros and cons

Question 15 of 15

When the food you ordered at a restaurant is cold and overcooked, you:

Eat it and then complain to the waiter when the bill comes

Flag down the waiter and ask for a different dish—pronto!

Eat it anyway so you don’t embarrass anyone