Guy Finley explains that no matter how well something is interpreted, the interpretation will always be incomplete because it’s at a different level from the original impression. When you see that your mind is always interpreting your experiences for you, you will no longer allow it to continue stealing from you the impressions the moment has brought just for you.
We must do more than just try to remember that nothing disturbs our peace of mind without first having gained our consent to enjoin us in that conflict;
we must learn to fight for ourselves, to boldly reject any negative state that would rule us — or else accept the lot of victim and wear his mantle of woe.
Question: Regarding harmonious extended family relationships: How do you go about mending a problem (or do you?) between a sister and a wife that was caused by the mother, who naturally is now getting along with both?
Answer: Much in the same way we understand there is nothing we can say to a tornado to make it stop spinning, the same holds true for when and what we should say to people caught in negative states. Usually, if left alone, the storm they are in just fades away because it runs out of mechanical energy. At any rate, accentuate the positive, stay out of the negative.
It is impossible to lash out at another person without having first hurt yourself.
We will never be in command of ourselves until we feel the blow that we would give. Once we begin to feel the blow we would give, once we begin to taste what we would give to another human being, then we no longer want to do that. That is the beginning of command – not because we’re changing the person, but because we’ve started to see that there is a certain part of ourselves that surfaces in these moments, and the only thing it knows to do is to follow its own thinking.