Advertisement

Letting Go with Guy Finley

Letting Go with Guy Finley

Stop Stunting Your Spiritual Growth

posted by Guy Finley

Measure the degree of your resistance to unwanted moments, and you also know the extent to which you’ve forgotten who you really are… and the true purpose of (your) life.bare tree, sunset, clouds

Advertisement

Free Yourself from Negative Emotions

posted by Guy Finley

We have all felt the calming effect of a kind of unity when we stand on the ocean’s shore, and gaze out on its endless waters. In moments like these our relationship with the ocean is a meditative one; the mind naturally quiets down in the presence of immensity beyond the scope of its thought to contain it. So, the relationship between the ocean, and our awareness of it, creates a living meditation. Peace prevails. We know a pleasure that is one with the power of that moment in which we watch the ocean’s waves move through us.

Most of us hold the unquestioned belief that our hearts and minds are at peace before one of life’s “waves” washes in to disturb us. But if we take away the prejudice of self-pleasing images—and add the ease with which we are disturbed by unwanted moments—we have good cause to suspect something entirely different about ourselves. Could a truer view of what takes place in such times of trouble looks something like this? One of life’s many unpredictable waves rolls in, rocks our bed of dreams, and we get shaken awake!

Advertisement

One thing should be obvious to us: no one can be free who blames his or her unsettled stressful state on life’s unwanted events. Said a bit differently, how can we ever hope to be at peace with life if we fear, at any moment, that it may wash away our contentment? Let’s look at five simple examples of where – unknowingly — we are at war with the “waves of life.”

We feel irritated each time:
1. The weather refuses to behave according to our wish.
2. People around us fail to realize that our needs come first.
3. There is not supposed to be traffic at this hour!
4. People move like snails.
5. Someone tells us something about ourselves we don’t want to hear.

Need life be this way? The answer is found in the following question: can we ever hope to know the nature of real love, of its abiding peace, living from a false self that sees disturbances as its opportunity to get irritated? Is compassion or contentment possible for a nature that values being a victim? Clearly not; and yet, if we dare see it, we human beings are in a perpetual war with reality itself. We oppose any movement of life that seems to threaten our imagined sense of peace. Six-and-a-half billion people—all of us convinced that we know what should be happening in any given moment.

Advertisement

Yet, the evidence before us speaks louder than our protestations over it: we do not know what is “right.” We only think we do because within us lives a nature that can, and always does, point to what is wrong with the moment before us. Such a mindset, supported by negative emotions that, in turn, nourish a victim mentality, can never know peace. To see the truth of this is the beginning of a new mind, one that is the same as the meditative life within which it finds the secret source of confidence, kindness, peace, and contentment.

Advertisement

How to Bear Unwanted Moments

posted by Guy Finley

Question: What can I do with all the energy I feel surging through me when life does not go my way? Can you illustrate what it means to “bear the moment”?

Answer: Yes. The energy you’re describing, the onslaught of stressful thoughts and feelings, are all the product of parts of us that look at an unwanted moment and say basically, “That isn’t right.” Now normally that kind of reaction makes sense to us. But we can see better. In this instance, what we’re really doing in those unwanted moments is looking at reality and saying, “I don’t want you to be what you are,” which is like saying to a mountain, “I want you to be a lake.” It doesn’t work. But it does work up inside of us a whole host of energies whose principle basis is resistance.

Advertisement

So here we are full of resistance and doing all we can to rid ourselves of that energy by blaming or trying to control what has happened. Instead, from now on, the way to use these energies is to WANT what has happened. How do you do that? By seeing that any other action on your part is already doomed not only to fall and fail, but to repeat itself each time a similar circumstance takes place.

In other words, and we’ve all heard this, but now we’re learning the truth behind it: Let go and let God. What we resist in the moment is the expression of His presence as presented in the very moment that we resist. If we see the truth of this, we will bear what we must within us because we know it is the right and true thing to do. The more we do it, the clearer we see it. The clearer we see it, the more faith we have in the fulfillment of God’s promise that all is well.

Advertisement

The Source of Psychological Pain

posted by Guy Finley

The thing that is unwanted in any moment is not the event we blame for our pain. The real source of our suffering is mechanically identifying with a negative reaction, and then unconsciously resisting our own dark state. In other words: Resistance is the source of our pain, and not the event being blamed for it. Once this process — of how we are complicit in creating the moments over which we complain–is seen for what it is…it’s not that “unwanted moments” go away, but rather we stop identifying with the parts of us that see them as so.

Previous Posts

The Seed of Celestial Possibility
All that is moves through and expresses itself in cycles. Think of the seasons: each spring there is a stirring, the promise of a birth yet to come; we see, revealed before us, the appearance of possibilities that were formerly at rest. The ...

posted 12:00:10pm Sep. 01, 2015 | read full post »

The Path to the Indwelling Divine
Whenever we place any form of mental or physical consolation—be this food, friends, religious icons, some foolish purchase—ahead of our need to realize the indwelling Divine, we may be assured of the following result: the only thing that ...

posted 12:00:51pm Aug. 31, 2015 | read full post »

Real Life is Ceaseless Change
Life is equal opportunity for change … ...

posted 7:40:01pm Aug. 28, 2015 | read full post »

(Video) Optimist or Pessimist?
Guy Finley shares that each of us is part of a goodness that is far beyond any belief that you will ever know. Truth transcends belief. Become a Realist and find the truth of the way things really are independent of conditioned ...

posted 12:00:18pm Aug. 27, 2015 | read full post »

Let Go and Flow with Real Life
The truth is we can’t know what to do in advance of any given moment. When we meet life with preconceived ideas about how to respond to what unfolds before us—we are like downhill skiers trying to know when and where to make turns before it ...

posted 12:00:08pm Aug. 26, 2015 | read full post »

Advertisement


Report as Inappropriate

You are reporting this content because it violates the Terms of Service.

All reported content is logged for investigation.