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Letting Go with Guy Finley

How would you like to live, literally, in a sphere of light that by its very proximity to you enables you to see every step of your path? Imagine how nice it would be to be able to see situations clearly before they went bad so that, for example, you wouldn’t say those hurtful words. You wouldn’t spend the money you couldn’t afford. You wouldn’t take the drug or the drink or the food, or participate in the entertainment that somehow compromises or contaminates you. You wouldn’t fall into a depression.

We are each created to be in relationship with and have within us in that relationship a kind of golden orb whose radiance provides us with a protective sphere — a shelter of refuge, safety, strength — all in one powerful light. If you will work with what I am going to show you about negativity, you can experience the golden orb given to you by the same God that created you — one that will take away forever the power that negative forces have had over you.

Let’s begin by looking at resistance. What do you know about resistance other than that you run into it every day? Well, aren’t negativity and resistance the same thing? And isn’t it also true that in the moment that you resist something, you are absolutely certain about the fact that you must resist it?

Here’s an important fact about resistance: You cannot feel resistance without being secretly identified with something. You look at the desk stacked with bills, or you look at the sink full of dirty dishes, and you think, “Oh, I just can’t do this.” What you are really seeing is the content of your past experiences in similar moments. You do not look at the bills, you do not look at the dishes — you see only the content of your own nature.

In the moment of looking at something you don’t want to “do,” you’re really looking at someone you don’t want to be. “I don’t want to be the one who has to pile through the negative experience that I’m sure sits before me.” Instead, you must begin to understand that the negative thing doesn’t sit before you — it sits within you! And the real obstacle is that you see the condition through a part of yourself that has had moments similar to this in the past and is sure that what it now feels about the moment ahead of it is what it will feel once it begins to do what it now resists doing.

But if you’ve ever experienced going through some resistance, you know from yourself that you always discover that you’re much better off having entered into the condition as opposed to sitting back and hating it. If you hate anything, it means you’re identified with that negative state and you will assume its very shape. Do habitually lazy individuals suddenly become liberated workaholics, or, do they find ways to continue to degenerate into the very thing that they say they don’t want to be? Any state a person resists becomes his or her fate.

The next time you feel resistance, remember the Golden ORB. O-R-B is a helpful acronym that stands for Observation, Remembering, Being. Let us examine this powerful tool step by step:

If you work to observe yourself, you will realize that what you see and resist has nothing to do with what is in front of you and everything to do with what is within you. What you see is the content of your own negative past experience. You couldn’t resist something if you hadn’t experienced it — which means that what is really weighing you down is the unseen weight of your own experience. That’s all there is, and it does not belong to the subject of your observation — it’s yours! This shifts the responsibility, doesn’t it? Now there’s nothing to blame because you’re not a victim.You are responsible.

The next step is Remembering. Remembering what? Remembering that, “I’m not just this resistance. There’s a God. There’s Truth. There’s an “I” that isn’t conditioned.” You choose the words. The point is to apply yourself to remembering by bringing in the light of observation. Ask yourself, “Is it necessary for me to be negative?” That question is the beginning of self-observation. Why? Because no self would ask the question that was a part of the thing it was questioning.

And finally, Being. You enter into the situation consciously. You find out what the truth of it is. With repetition, the whole process of observation, self-remembering, and being moves in an upward spiral, lifting you above the negative forces that formerly enslaved you.

Call on the Golden Orb when you face any negativity. Come wide awake and wish to learn more about your resistance. Say to yourself, “Ah! I will not listen to what resistance tells me about this situation. I must find a new way of seeing it. I must find Something in me that understands more about this situation than what I’m telling myself is true about it.”

Challenge your own negativity and you will discover for yourself the truth that “beyond the resistance is the flow.”

All negative states are the dark effect of misusing resistance. The only way we can see that something is working against is when we allow resistance to reveal it…

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Patience can be a great virtue, while learning to push ahead often proves invaluable to those who prevail;

but only a marriage of these two spirits can grant us true success, because in their union we are empowered with a calm and steady watchfulness that is always ready and willing to act.

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Patience is an important, but unseen part of letting go — not unlike learning to tolerate the small thorns that grow on the stem of a rose bud.

But why would we agree to be hurt in this way?

Because we know that when, at last, the new bud blossoms, its gentle fragrance proves our pain to have been worthwhile.

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As promised in the last blog, following are five ways that we can work to develop real patience within ourselves:

1. We must develop the patience to let disturbances pass by without picking them up: This means we need to see that the reason we painfully resist any moment of life as it unfolds is that it runs contrary to our present notions of what we need to be happy and free. But the fact is, in spite of all our best ideas, we have never found this freedom from what pains us. Why? Each time we are drawn into a struggle with what disturbs us – meaning that we become identified with it – this struggle strengthens our conviction that our expectation is legitimate. How can the source of what sits behind our suffering liberate us from itself? It can’t; but to practice the patience of letting disturbances pass by frees us from both our expectations and their pain.

2. We must develop the patience to be concerned with the character of our own consciousness before we attempt to make over the character of another: We are in everybody’s life: Nobody walks by us – not even strangers – to whom we don’t give a makeover in our minds. We unconsciously sit in judgment of all we meet. What causes this mechanical reaction in us? Our present nature is limited to knowing itself through what amounts to a constant considering of anyone (and everything) that it perceives to be different from itself. So, this false nature necessarily looks, as a rule, upon the manifestations of others as a disturbance, a disturbance that we don’t know what to do with, except for trying to straighten out what has offended us. So, we must learn to patiently observe and consciously bear this part of our nature that gets negative when anyone or anything doesn’t match its desire. We need to put this judgmental aspect of ourselves behind us, and that takes patiently learning to ignore its demands that others conform to our expectations. New freedom follows.

3. We must develop the patience to be kind to those who do not care for us as we believe they should: This means that we can no longer do and be someone who meets others with the expectation that unless they give us our proper due, we will have nothing to do with them. What kind of human being is that? This level of self-work takes rigorous self-examination, beginning with wondering why we see some people as foes. The answer is simple: They don’t give us the deference we deserve. The unconscious nature that runs us through its resentments would prove, by the pain it produces in us, that others are wrong for being the way they are. Now we know that it is what has to go.

4. We must develop the patience to realize that we are not the only one who suffers: When we are suffering, we are sure that absolutely nobody else endures the kind of pain that we do. So, to consider the suffering of another human being almost never enters into our mind, unless it’s self-serving in some way. Then we envision ourselves as a rescuing hero. On the other hand, we can learn to realize that whenever someone we know is angry or anxious, whose heart is aching, that he or she is suffering just as we do. This kind of higher self-awareness awakens compassion. And in this awakened state we are willing to be patient towards both that person in pain, as well as towards the pain in us that this same person has stimulated.

5. We must develop the patience to work for what is True until the truth in our work reveals itself to us: If all that a flower needs to bloom is given to it, how much more so must this be true when it comes to the spiritual education of a soul? If we have hope in things unseen, and work patiently for their fruition in us, how could it be that we wouldn’t be given all that we need? Our task is to watch and wait; to do the work it takes to come to the end of that false nature within us under whose impatient influence we presently live. This dark nature is the soil out of which grows a level of self that is insatiable; whereas our True Self, and the true patience in which it is rooted, fulfill and perfect each other for all time.

Let us work to realize that long patience within us that we will need for the long run. Remember: Patient persistence in our labors, coupled with persistent patience throughout each one – these two powers serve not only to perfect the task at hand, but also work in harmony to perfect the hand that undertakes the task.