The past is as powerless to darken the present moment, as is a shadow to reach up and drag down the form that casts it…
Do you ever experience a nagging feeling that something is missing in your life? In this talk Guy Finley explains why this feeling exists and what you can do to move beyond it forever.
On the surface, meaning seen through the eyes of the self caught up in a negative reaction, resistance to an unwanted revelation about oneself makes “sense” — as in when we “eject” an intruding pest from our house. But, as we’re about to discover, resisting our negative states doesn’t distance us from them, let alone remove them from our interior world; quite the contrary. Here are the three secret stages of psychological resistance, and why it is the “anti-change factor.”
Resistance separates, isolates, and finally crystallizes whatever is being resisted.
Now, here’s the key to changing our relationship with what’s ruining our wish to change: resistance to some unwanted psychological state does not distance us from its suffering…it attaches us to it. This kind of attention doesn’t just animate what it falls on; it actually helps manifest what would have no right to exist otherwise. So that the longer we attend to — resist — whatever makes us ache in this way, the more real it becomes.
Let me restate the above in summary form: psychological resistance fixes — makes as one –the self and the negative state it resists. This means that the solution to our unwanted suffering is in seeing our complicity with it. For only then are we willing to die to the part of us that believes it can free itself by not wanting to be itself.
In these times, where social appearance is more important than spiritual substance, what has become our longing to change is really the unconscious desire to control not just the shape of our bodies — according to prevailing values — but to dominate our environment as well, regardless of the cost. In case it’s not clear, such “control” is the antithesis of change; it is in conflict with it. Cases abound if we take off our blinders to see them.
Consider for a moment the growing popularity of “anti-aging” products. In truth, all these salves, pills, shots, and drinks do is one thing: mask the fact that from the moment it’s born one’s body is doing what it has been created to do: flower and fade away, having passed on whatever perfection of understanding it may have gained for what it went through on its brief journey on this earth. But dying is part of changing, not the end of it, as most fear. And, regardless of retarding the inevitable, one’s conflict with life’s natural changes still rages on beneath the skin in one’s heart and mind; covering a battlefield with plastic flowers doesn’t change what’s taking place there, or what lies just under its ravaged soil. Which brings me to the reason for this blog:
Something lurks within all spiritually sleeping beings that doesn’t just serve to limit revelation — to inhibit the real and meaningful changes it brings — but that acts, decisively, to prohibit this kind of deep transformation. What is this agent of spiritual darkness? We will call it…the “anti-change factor.”
Resistance to revelation is the anti-change factor; and since human beings tend to automatically resist anything unwanted — whatever it may be that reveals their character and lives are nothing like what they’ve imagined them to be — this means that all such revelations are rejected on the spot… [to be continued]