It is not our duty to suffer over what will be or won’t be — to live with painful regret or guilt over what was or wasn’t. Our soul task is to be responsible for what is — and to allow this relationship with life to produce what it will. There may or may not be suffering in this order of responsibility but, if there is, it will be transformational as opposed to self-tormenting — which is the negative effect of every act born of assuming some false responsibility.