We are intended to be in relationship with the ongoing movement of life. But when you look at life as though nothing will change, it won’t. The more you push away what you don’t want, the more you keep it in place. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xn8iQ8D8H_o&t=14s
It is not our duty to suffer over what will be or won’t be — to live with painful regret or guilt over what was or wasn’t. Our soul task is to be responsible for what is — and to allow this relationship with life to produce what it will. There may or may not be suffering in this order of responsibility but, if there is, it will be transformational as opposed to self-tormenting — which is the negative effect of every act born of assuming some false responsibility.