(This is one of a series in which I try to show you how an astrologer can give you practical understanding that gets practical results. We all need a bit of that sometimes, don’t we?)
“Am I naturally someone who is meant to be single? I am curious as am always dating but really like being alone, its a hard contradiction to manage.”
Man, things are a lot more complicated than they used to be, aren’t they? Once upon a time relationship options were a lot simpler.
-If you are heterosexual: get married young and start reproducing as soon as possible.
-If you are not heterosexual: ACT hetero, get married young and start reproducing as soon as possible.
Things aren’t nearly that straightforward in our world of late, and overall I figure that’s a good thing. The problem of course is that this leaves most of us lacking for guidance as to what or who we should be involved with, and what that involvement should look like. Don’t worry though, FN… I figure you’re going to be just fine.
Here’s your chart, FN. If it looks different from what you’re used to looking at, remember that I use Whole Sign Houses. All the major placements are the same, though.
You may already have something in mind as to what you’re looking for in a relationship, or what kind of a person you’re looking for, but beyond that the details of your birth chart give us additional clues as to what you may actually need from a relationship. For this we look at two different factors:
- The condition of your Fifth House and its ruler (romance)
- The condition of your Seventh House and its ruler (partnership/commitment)
At this point, those of you who know a bit about astrology are probably saying “but what about Venus and Mars and the Eighth House? What about sex?” To which I can only say “thanks, but I’m busy writing a blog entry.”
Seriously though: there are lots of people who have sex without a relationship, and lots of people in relationships who aren’t having sex. If you’re even considering a relationship with someone, you already know whether or not you’re attracted to that person. We’re talking about you and your needs in a relationship. Sex is much more a different subject than many realize (or want to think about).
Your Fifth House is in interesting shape. On the one hand, Uranus (which is always a little weird and unpredictable) in that House indicates you’re probably fun to date, and you’re looking for something unique or different in a partner relative to what others might be seeking. Sure, “tall dark and handsome” is great, but “tall dark and handsome and a little weird (by most people’s standards)” probably works even better for you. Complicating this is the position of the Fifth House ruler, which in your case is Venus. Uranus may be a little odd, a little flaky even… but Venus in Scorpio is intense. You might like to keep things light at first, but once you’ve found someone or something you want. you’re going to latch onto it fiercely.
Getting that fish into the boat is one thing, but keeping it there is another. That’s where the Seventh House comes into play. You have Sagittarius on the Seventh House cusp. Sagittarius may not have the reputation for being the most faithful and committed of the Signs (and as a Sagittarius I protest this stereotype), but when a Sagittarius has a mechanism into which he or she can pour their ideals, they are committed as heck. Like, kamikazi-level committed. Its ruler is Jupiter, and yours is in Scorpio, so that goes double for you. And yes, I know there are no planets in your Seventh House, but “no planets” never means “no news.”
Most importantly: the ruler of your Fifth and Seventh Houses are conjunct. So, if you’ve given up on the idea that you’ll ever have a good, lasting, committed relationship, fear not. You may have given up on that idea… but The Universe hasn’t. And if there’s one thing an astrologer can tell you, it’s this: The Universe usually gets its way with things.
(NEXT TIME: Similar question, different chart, different answer.)
LAST TIME: I answered a reader’s question about her confusion around a career path (click here to read it). Now, I’ll demonstrate how it’s all put together.
So, my dear BC… after reading my delineation of how your birth chart can point the way to a career… did you notice there were no quick and easy answers in all that? No “you’d be a perfect dog groomer” or “you should go into sales” or “you’d love being a doctor”? There are two good reasons for that. First of all “career” is a lot harder to figure out now (astrologically and otherwise) than it was 500 years ago. Five hundred years ago it would have been simple…
“So, your mother married a farmer, her mother married a farmer, her mother married a farmer… so, you should marry a farmer. That’s your ‘career path.’ You’d better get right on that. Hey, I have a nephew who’s a farmer. I’ll call him.” (leaning out the window and shouting) “Hey Jedediah! I’ve got a twenty-one year old spinster here for you! Come and get her before she withers away!”
I’m glad that’s all changed, aren’t you?
Second: jobs are simply not that straightforward anymore. We’re all told that we need to keep changing and learning and adapting to circumstances. Thus, the “ideal job” for you may not even be something that An Old Guy like me has even heard of… or it may not even exist yet. Good thing for you that you have that 10th House Aquarius and you’ll likely be a lot more adaptable than most.
So, my advice? Roll with it. Don’t pressure yourself now to have a sense of direction. Now, how do I justify that answer? I have an astrological basis for telling you to relax and wait for the path to find you, as opposed to hacking through the bushes trying to find the path at this time. Remember when I said that the Saturn transit which is currently obscuring your sense of direction would be over with by January? That’s true, but after that point your career-related transits just get more interesting.
Here’s the punchline to my entire response: transiting Pluto is hovering around your Midheaven — that little inner voice that keeps asking “what should I be when I grow up?” no matter what your age is — and will be within conjunction range of it until 2020. That, and transiting Neptune is only now approaching your Sun-Saturn conjunction. That transit will be affecting you from early/mid 2017 until… are you sitting down?… about 2022.
Now, before you jump out the nearest window, let me explain: this is actually very good news. What this means is that, in a world where ever-increasing change demands more flexibility from us as individuals, you are going to be undergoing a process of mutation where both your career direction and you yourself as a human being are changing. Congratulations! You’re almost certainly going to come out of the next decade on the winning side of things, no matter how many times life moves the goal line in the meantime. So whatever it is you ultimately end up doing with your life, I think you’ll do well.
And remember, when that glorious Whatever-It-Is materializes in your life… a lot of successful people have an astrologer on retainer. Keep me in mind!
“Just wanted to ask for some help on my career house. Being born during the time that everyone had Uranus in conjunction to Neptune, mine is in my 10th house in Capricorn. With my Sun in Pisces (12th house) and moon in Leo (5th house) I’m just having some issues figuring out what I want to do because although I’m 21 and studying at university, I don’t feel a strong enough passion for anything. I was just wondering if there are any strong indicators you could see from looking at my chart that could tell you what areas I could possibly go into? I just feel very stuck at the moment.”
Before I move on to actually answering your question, let me stand things on their heads a little. If you’ve read much of my stuff, you know I’m a fan of Whole Sign Houses. Even if you knew that about me, go read this again, about career guidance and the birth chart of George Lucas.
To me, your chart is a good example of why the interceptions found in Placidus Houses may have some psychological validity, but they aren’t as much use when it comes to practical and observable results. If one only uses modern rulerships, your intercepted Aries leaves your natal Mars sounding half-hearted at best. And yes — already ahead of you on this one — you probably thought you were reasonably intuitive because of Sun and Saturn in Pisces in the 12th House. Well, I say it’s because Mars rules your 12th House and it’s conjunct the Moon. So there, ha!
I’m not too surprised at the lack of direction you’re facing at the moment. Transiting Saturn is conjunct your Jupiter, and you are having your waning Saturn Square, so that whole sense of being in the right place and time in your life is going to be hard to find. Don’t panic though: Saturn will be done messing with you that way by January.
When we look at work/career in your birth chart, BC, there are three main factors to consider:
- The ruler and condition of the 6th House, which is work habits in general,
- The ruler and condition of the 10th House, which is career in general, and
- The Midheaven, which is related to career but has a larger “what are you doing with your life?” vibe going for it (yes, the MC and the 10th House are two different things).
When we look at your chart, here’s what we see about your best possible career path:
-The ruler of your 6th House (Venus) is in your 10th House. This is a good overall indicator that your work habits will support your career well, and that whatever you do will benefit from attention to detail.
-The ruler of your 10th House (Uranus) is in your 9th House. Uranus tends to make things a bit of a wild card whenever it shows up, and since yours isn’t strongly aspected (for good or ill) you may find that ultimately you are best suited to work that gives you a lot of autonomy — or possibly self-employment.
-Your Midheaven ruler (Saturn) is conjunct your Sun in the 11th House. This tends to lead me to the conclusion that working with groups, applying some sort of care and/or compassion to people’s personal issues, and “people skills” in general would all be important to any job you do if it’s going to keep your interest and give you satisfaction.
NEXT TIME: the thrilling conclusion, in which Your Friendly Neighborhood Astrologer puts it all together and comes up with some solid advice.
The Moon in Pisces this Friday and Saturday will make for a happy, sensitive, and caring vibe throughout the weekend, with a couple of temporary glitches. Friday evening the Moon is square Saturn, which could make for a little moping and some hurt feelings. Later that evening/early Saturday morning the Moon’s conjunction with Neptune might make your judgement a little cloudy, but can help smooth any ruffled feathers from the earlier transit to Saturn. Overall, though, Moon in Pisces is great for creative thinking. On Saturday, the Moon is in opposition to Jupiter in Virgo. This could make for some excess, but is fun for partying. Finally, on Sunday, Moon in Aries makes positive aspects to the Sun and Mars that will boost your energy levels.
Have fun with your weekend!
Friday is my last day in Cancer and you couldn’t even be bothered mentioning it. You are a terrible and insensitive person.
Sorry about that. Feel free to write back Saturday when you are in Leo to remind us all that Life on Earth would be impossible without you.
You have given entirely too much credit to Moon in Pisces for its creative powers. Moon in Pisces is a stoner who needs some practical, logical guidance to get anything done.
This is going to be a fantastic weekend! I just got a makeover and some sexy new shoes and I am ready to take it to town!
I recognize your IP address, VenusInLeo. Why did you change your username?
MarsInScorpio was stalking me.
That’s a filthy lie, Venus, you tramp! Stop posting your crap all over the Internet and I’ll stop following you from site to site correcting your terrible lies.
Settle down everyone! Why can’t we all just get along? Have you folks considered that you’re eating too much red meat and that karma is blocking your colons? I have a fantastic quinoa pilaf recipe that could help you with that.
You suck, JupiterInVirgo, and so does your cooking.
Everyone calm down! You’re letting the anonymity of the Internet and your inflated sense of self-importance make you all behave terribly! Can we change the subject here?
My mother in law got laid off from her job last April and now she makes $28,000 a week working from home in her spare time! Write me for details!
Whoa, dude, that’s awesome! Does it involve marketing cannabis oil? Because if it does I’m totally signing up.
You want a proper weekend forecast? Here it is: this weekend, many people all over the world will die. Eventually, you’ll all be dead.