The past few months since the finalization of my divorce haven’t worked out quite the way I expected. It honestly, has left me at a loss for words.  Not because I didn’t still have a story to tell but because it was no longer the way I wanted to present it. And not because it’s…

I remember memorizing my childhood steps. My mom was sadly unaware this day had come. As the memories left her – they came towards us. I felt my foundation crumbling. The door to this emotional sanctuary slamming shut and forever exiling a part of me. Scratch that. Banishing a part of my family lost forever. More…

Ask any parent of divorce their greatest heartache and they will tell you it’s their children’s suffering. Ask any child of divorce their greatest heartache and they will likely spare their parent’s the truth. I’ve ridden both sides of this heartache. In many ways, making it worse knowing exactly the type of pain my children…

Suffice it to say agreements don’t always get honored. Of course, I knew this was coming, I just didn’t realize it would happen so quickly. I think this is a nice way of saying what many in divorce experience – ruthless divorces are often tag teamed by continuing antics. It’s about control and money. Needless…

You know when one person is ready to end a relationship and the other is not? It happens all the time in the relationship world. In fact, I write about it. I first met my lawyer five years ago, August 13th to be exact. It’s pretty fair to say he had absolutely no idea what…

Many people have reached out to me since my divorce settlement. The fairly universal question? How did it go? My rote response? “Not well, yet I can’t stop smiling.” Their next comment is usually – “What relief you must feel.” I do feel relieved. And more importantly, I no longer feel held captive by an…

I am at a loss for words. I am not sure whether to say I am exhausted, nostalgic, somewhat sad or relieved. What I can say with certainty is I am at peace. The kind of serenity which comes with finally accomplishing what I set out to do some five years ago. First though, let…

I punch the keys and sip my coffee. Tears find their way down my cheeks. I dab at them as my chocolate lab Hazel snuggles closer to my feet. I find myself chuckling. In between the tears, that is. I am editing my own work. Am I that good I writer I could move myself…

I wish someone had cautioned me to take divorce one day at a time. Or should I say one ‘pain’ at a time? I wish they had mapped out each scenario and told me what to expect. The first hint of suffering in my children’s heart. The first time I would feel uncomfortable walking into…

These past few months I have been a bit inconsistent in my writing. It stems from what I will call the ‘Court-down’ aka the countdown. I had no idea the extent of preparation the months preceding court would entail. I have a new appreciation for the legal field. It’s my life and I have had…

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