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“I am being shown images of ‘beautiful ‘women and none of them look like me….”

posted by B. Dave Walters

Question submitted via Formspring: “Hi, I’m a nineteen year old African American female and ever since I can remember, I’ve always wanted to be attractive. In this society, being “HOT” is valued. At least in the mainstream sort of way. […]

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Q&A: I love him, but I’m afraid all he wants is sex II

posted by B. Dave Walters

  Question submitted via Formspring: “I need advice. I’ve been seeing this guy for about 8 months now. We started out with a very casual relationship. We would hang out and we would have sex. That’s it. It was fun […]

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How to feel happy, and be at peace

posted by B. Dave Walters

“You always own the option of having no opinion. There is never any need to get worked up or to trouble your soul about things you can’t control. These things are not asking to be judged by you. Leave them […]

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How to finally attract what you want (VIDEO)

posted by B. Dave Walters

“Do not wait: the time will never be ‘just right’. Start where you stand, and work whatever tools you may have at your command and better tools will be found as you go along.” ― Napoleon Hill As of the […]

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Q&A: “I’m trying to smile, but I’ve hit rock bottom….”

posted by B. Dave Walters

Question submitted via Formspring: “Hello, I am on the journey of my life moving leaving everything i know to move to NYC by myself. I had to stay in a shelter and am still here. I have a job but […]

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3 Simple rules for a happy life

posted by B. Dave Walters

“You always own the option of having no opinion. There is never any need to get worked up or to trouble your soul about things you can’t control. These things are not asking to be judged by you. Leave them […]

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Suicide, and making sense of the senseless.

posted by B. Dave Walters

“But in the end one needs more courage to live than to kill himself.” ― Albert Camus Anyone who’s lost a loved one to suicide knows how uniquely painful and confusing it can be.  The death of Robin Williams opened […]

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Expectations and the Law of Attraction

posted by B. Dave Walters

“There were two ways to be happy: improve your reality, or lower your expectations” ― Jodi Picoult Question submitted via Formspring: “How can I use the Law of Attraction to remove negativity?  I believe with all my heart I’ll achieve […]

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How to Avoid Disappointment and Feel at Peace

posted by B. Dave Walters

“The primary cause of unhappiness is never the situation but thought about it. Be aware of the thoughts you are thinking. Separate them from the situation, which is always neutral. It is as it is.” -Eckhart Tolle On a recent […]

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Q&A: I love him, but I’m afraid all he wants is sex

posted by B. Dave Walters

Question submitted via Formspring: “Mr. Walters, I’ve been seeing this guy for about two and half months now. We spend lots of time together, sometimes he’ll call me just to chat and to see how I’m doing, he’ll even bring […]

Q&A: How to deal with emotional abuse

posted by B. Dave Walters

Question submitted via Formspring: “I think my partner is emotionally abusive, but I’m not sure if that means we need to separate. He stonewalls, withholds, ignores many of my requests for response/information, he seems entitled and self-serving, he claims to […]

Q&A: Can Christians and non-Christians date?

posted by B. Dave Walters

Question submitted via Formspring: “Can Christians and non-Christians date? If so is the outcome always one of being non-yoked?” Yes, it’s possible for a Christian and a non-Christian to date successfully.  However, it’s going to take communication and effort…just like […]

Q&A: We’re getting married, but he suffocates me; what should I do?

posted by B. Dave Walters

(Unedited) Question submitted via formspring.me: “I am in a relationship for few years now, to everybody he seems to be a perfect lover n partner,but i get irritated very frequently due to his “over lovingness”.feel suffocated as he keeps a track […]

Q&A: Why there is no ‘One,’ and that’s a good thing

posted by B. Dave Walters

Question submitted via Facebook: “I just broke up with my boyfriend for the third and final time. I’m feeling good about it, but truly discouraged at the fact that there isn’t one person in the world for everyone. Love is….not […]

How to be happy and powerful: Advice from the Emperor

posted by B. Dave Walters

This is the absolute best time in history to be alive. Let me say that again: This is the best time in history to be alive.  No human beings anywhere, ever, have had the level of peace, security, information, education, […]

Another love letter from your true self

posted by B. Dave Walters

Beloved, I have missed you since we last talked, but I’ve been with you the whole time.  I just wanted to tell you that I am SO very proud of you.  I see you every day, shining and brilliant. But, […]

Q&A: ‘Why did he go back to her?’

posted by B. Dave Walters

Question submitted via Formspring: “I have been with my neighbor for a month, and we have been very close. All of the things you would expect in a loving relationship and it was all heading the right way.. except he […]

Q&A: How to give yourself permission to shine

posted by B. Dave Walters

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, […]

Q&A: ‘I love him, but he doesn’t want a relationship’

posted by B. Dave Walters

Question submitted via Facebook: “Mr. Walters, I hope you can help me: There is this guy whom I really like. I told him about my feelings but he says that he doesn’t want to get into any relationship right now. I have been […]

Q&A: Is it too late to work things out?

posted by B. Dave Walters

Question submitted via Formspring: My husband and I are separated and “trying” to work it out – although it is very one sided. Sometimes I fear that if things were to work out, I won’t feel comfortable being intimate with him […]

How to get up when you hit rock bottom

posted by B. Dave Walters

“The primary cause of unhappiness is never the situation but thought about it. Be aware of the thoughts you are thinking. Separate them from the situation, which is always neutral. It is as it is.  Always say “yes” to the […]

Q&A: ‘How can I get another chance?’

posted by B. Dave Walters

Question submitted via Formspring: “I’ve made a lot of mistakes, but I am really trying to change.  The problem is my family and friends don’t believe it, and keep treating me like the same old me; how do I show […]

Q&A: ‘How do I get over my breakup?’

posted by B. Dave Walters

Question submitted via Formspring: “My brother got dumped and he’s been listening to all kinds of break-up songs ever since. I told him to listen to more positive music, but he’s being emo and says that these bitter break-up songs […]

Q&A: How can I be confident without seeming arrogant?

posted by B. Dave Walters

Question submitted via Formspring: “How can one be assertive and self-confident without seeming imposing or “better-than-thou”. Likewise  how can one be humble and reserved without seeming weak or insecure?” An excellent question! Just today a friend asked me if it was […]

Q&A: ‘I thought he was the one, but now I’m not so sure….’

posted by B. Dave Walters

Question submitted via Formspring: “Things started out so great. I thought I found “the one”. Now he is nice half the time, and angry the other half. I feel like I walk on eggshells. I don’t want to leave because I […]

Q&A: How to know when they are not interested

posted by B. Dave Walters

Question submitted via Formspring: “She was really pissed that day and when I was going to propose to her.  She said she doesn’t want to hear from me anymore. She thinks I’m a like a brother and friend and nothing […]

Q&A: How to learn emotional self-defense

posted by B. Dave Walters

Question submitted via Formspring: “How can I be less sensitive?  It seems that every little thing that people say or do upsets me.  Everyone says I am just ‘too sensitive’, but I don’t know what to do.  Help!” The simple […]

Q&A: How to find happiness and feel real love

posted by B. Dave Walters

In my coaching work, the number one question I get is: How can I be happy?  Inevitably, the second question is: How can I find true love? A common mistake people make is believing that the solution to their problems […]

Q&A: ‘How do I stop being so shy?’

posted by B. Dave Walters

Question submitted via Formspring: “I am perceived at work as being quiet and unassuming and unresponsive to the social interactions of others in the workplace. What should I about this when there is work to be done?” The simple answer […]

Q&A: ‘Why is my life falling apart?’

posted by B. Dave Walters

Question submitted via Formspring: “I don’t understand what I am doing wrong. I have made some mistakes, and I try to be a good person, but things just keep getting worse. Why does this keep happening, and what am I […]

Q&A: ‘He has stopped responding; should I confront him?’

posted by B. Dave Walters

Question submitted via Formspring: I had this date with a guy nearly a month ago, there were hints that he likes me, and he said he would like to see me again.   He also said that he would like to […]

Q&A: Dating advice for a 27-year-old virgin

posted by B. Dave Walters

Question submitted via Formspring: “I’m a 27 years old guy and have never dated and never had a girlfriend. I have been attracted to different girls throughout the years but when I expressed my interest to them they have always rejected […]

Q&A: ‘Do we all have a guardian angel?’

posted by B. Dave Walters

Question submitted via Formspring: “Do we all have spirit guides and guardian angels protecting over us at all times like in the paintings?”We discussed this in a recent episode of Rise UP with B. Dave Walters, along with: Whether or not ghosts […]

Q&A: ‘He says he wants space; should I move on?’

posted by B. Dave Walters

Question submitted via Formspring: “I’ve been in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend since January.   We don’t talk much, and I’ve only seen him on his birthday in the last three months, and I had to meet him half […]

Q&A: ‘Should I cheat on them to get even?’

posted by B. Dave Walters

  Question submitted via Formspring: “I caught my wife cheating on me. From what I know, it was only once, and she is sorry. To remedy our marriage, she has given me permission to have sex with another woman of […]

Q&A: ‘Why do I run away when I develop feelings for someone?’

posted by B. Dave Walters

Question submitted via Formspring: “Hello Dave. I’m young and happily single; only friends and fun from time to time. But sometimes when I meet someone with whom I can be a friend AND have fun, I develop feelings for him. This […]

Q&A: ‘How do I deal with a bully?’

posted by B. Dave Walters

Question submitted via Formspring: “What’s up with the anti-bullying stuff everywhere, and kids killing themselves? Are things really escalating and getting more frequent, or are things just being reported more frequently? Either way, what do you think is the best way […]

Q&A: ‘How do I tell my partner about my sexual fetish?’

posted by B. Dave Walters

Question submitted via Formspring: “Hello, Dave; I have a foot fetish, and I am scared to tell my girlfriend of 4 months about it. I’m scared that when she finds out, she’ll get grossed out. Should I tell her? And […]

Q&A: “My husband cheated 5 times…why did I stay?”

posted by B. Dave Walters

Question submitted via Formspring “I have been with a man who had at least five affairs during our 27 years or marriage, and even spent 7 years with the same woman. What makes a man do this? What made me accept […]

Q&A: ‘Should I still talk to my ex for the sake of the kids?’

posted by B. Dave Walters

Question submitted via Formspring: “Do I really need to communicate to my ex-husband for sake of my daughter? The problem is I am the one who always makes the first move, which is annoying me; so I decided to stop. […]

Q&A: ‘Is it possible to be too open minded?’

posted by B. Dave Walters

Question submitted via Formspring: “Is it possible to be TOO open minded?” Absolutely; especially when you consider it’s possible to be too much of anything! Although, it is far more common to find people who are too closed minded, the […]

Q&A: “He wants his space, but I don’t want to lose him….”

posted by B. Dave Walters

  Question submitted via Formspring: “I have been in a long distance relationship since January; I’ve had an amazing time and he was the best thing in my life.  But, he’s said he wants to tone it down; feelings have changed […]

Q&A: Should you stay together for the kids?

posted by B. Dave Walters

“Two questions submitted via Formspring: I’m stuck in a loveless marriage. We do nothing together but take care of the kids and take care of other things. We are basically just roommates. Our kids are young the youngest is 3. […]

Q&A: Do opposites really attract?

posted by B. Dave Walters

Question submitted via Formspring: “Do you think opposites attract?” The short answer is: no. One (dis)advantage of life in Los Angeles, is everyone is working to be absolutely identical. It may appear like they are so different, but if you look […]

Q&A: What’s the best way to break up?

posted by B. Dave Walters

(Unedited) question submitted via Formspring: “What is the best possible way to dump someone? I wanna break-off my relationship, but I’m pretty sure my partner is still enamored with me. I wanna stay friends, and don’t want to hurt anyone, […]

Q&A: How do I stop picking the wrong guys?

posted by B. Dave Walters

(Unedited) questions submitted via Formspring: “Hi, I am one of those “good girls” faling in love with “bad boys”. With a dad who was never at home and a mental unstabil mum. You say, we can not trust our first […]

Q&A: The married man and the 34 year old virgin

posted by B. Dave Walters

Question submitted via Formspring: “I am one of the oldest living virgin women at 34 years old. In dating, I have yet to trust anyone enough to take that from me. A long-time friend I trust has watched me struggle […]

Q&A: How do I know they are ‘The One'; Or, am I afraid to be alone? (VIDEO)

posted by B. Dave Walters

(Unedited) questions submitted via Formspring: “Heey. Um, how would I know if I’m with someone ’cause I’m afraid to be alone, or ’cause I actually love someone? Your responses are exact and helpful. Thanks!” And, “How would I know if […]

Q&A: How do I make up my mind, and give up confusion?

posted by B. Dave Walters

Question submitted via Formspring: “Hi Dave How is your day going? I hope really well, well I know! it is going well because you find the best in everything that happens I wanted to ask a question, I hope it doesn’t […]

Q&A: ‘Is it OK to have sex with someone you don’t love?’

posted by B. Dave Walters

Question submitted via Formspring.me: “Is it OK to have sex with someone you don’t love?” A great question! The answer, is kind of complicated though; since what do you mean by “OK”? People have different moral and religious views on sex, […]

Q&A: I don’t know what to do with my life…HELP!

posted by B. Dave Walters

Question submitted via Formspring: “I’m kinda lost I’m 30 years old and honesty I don’t know how to deal or what to do with my life I don’t know what makes me happy or whats is my passion I don’t have […]

Q&A: “I’m not sure if we should try again because I don’t want to get hurt”

posted by B. Dave Walters

Unedited question submitted via Formspring: “I’m in love with a guy. he broke up with me 1/2 year ago. hes(still) sometimes so sweet and says he loves me but sometimes he don’t seem to want me. I’m not sure if we […]

Q&A: “I forgot to tell him I had herpes, and now he doesn’t trust me”

posted by B. Dave Walters

(Unedited) question submitted via Formspring.me: “My boyfriend found out that I Was drinking behind his back. We are not together now and I am 12 days clean He says I betrayed his trust and he can’t trust me again I […]

Q&A: “I am married to an addict and don’t know how to leave”

posted by B. Dave Walters

(Unedited) questions submitted via Formspring: “Female married for 17 years, 47, 16 year old son. Husband drinks heavily and also addicted to prescription meds. I am not happy. Scared of what he might do if I try to leave.” And, […]

Q&A: “I’m stuck in a loveless marriage, but afraid to leave….”

posted by B. Dave Walters

(Unedited) Question submitted via Formspring: “Female married 20 yrs-no kids, 55. Marriage went bad 10 yrs ago when finances went bad. Stayed bc couldn’t afford not to, tried to work it out. No love. Met someone, but he will not […]

Q&A: “We met on Facebook and are in love, why won’t she talk to me? “

posted by B. Dave Walters

(Unedited) Question submitted via Formspring: “She and I met on the FB and wanted to get married(long distance relationship),she love me like anything and cant live without me and me too. But she’s quite reluctant to talk over the phone or […]

Q&A: Is it possible to be TOO picky?

posted by B. Dave Walters

Question submitted via Formspring: “My friend is VERY picky in choosing a man to date. She wants a relationship, but her standards are too high. She says it’s good because she knows what she wants and deserves the best. I […]

Q&A: Why is white skin believed to be so beautiful?

posted by B. Dave Walters

(Unedited) question submitted via Formspring: “Why is white so beautiful? Soap Operas all over the world only show the light-skinned people. Asian countries have surgeries and accessories to widen eyelids. Light-skinned artists are admired as the most beautiful ones (Beyonce, […]

Solving all our problems; Or, World Peace is up to * you *

posted by B. Dave Walters

Yes, you read that right: you, and only you, are TOTALLY responsible for world peace. How can this be? Here are some clues: “One who is injured ought not to return the injury, for on no account can it be […]

Q&A: Is the Ego a bad thing?

posted by B. Dave Walters

(Unedited) Question submitted via Formspring: “I’ve been to a lot of spiritual seminars, and most of them tend to say that the EGO is a bad thing. Is that necessarily true?” An excellent question! We discussed this question on a […]

Q&A: I caught him cheating and we broke up; but has he moved on?

posted by B. Dave Walters

(Unedited) Question submitted via Formspring: “I’ve broke up with my boyfriend for kissing and texting another girl and recently i wanted him back but he said he didn’t want a relationship. I’ve recently found out that he is meeting up […]

Q&A: Who should make the first move in a long distance relationship?

posted by B. Dave Walters

Unedited question submitted via Formspring  “If your in the long distance relationship should i make the first move and go to were he is or should he come here first to see me we was engaged once about 10yrs ago what […]

Q&A: Why do Good Girls love Bad Boys? (VIDEO)

posted by B. Dave Walters

Question submitted via Formspring (many, many times): Why do Good Girls love Bad Boys? This is one of those issues that has come up so many times that I covered it both on a recent episode of my radio show: […]

Q&A: “Is it OK to kiss him if he doesn’t want a relationship?”

posted by B. Dave Walters

(Unedited) question submitted via Formspring: “Hi Dave, is it OK to have a kiss knowing nothing if he really wants to have a relation with me & just because I love him?” Sure, why wouldn’t it be? A kiss is a […]

Q&A: We just broke up and he’s already moved on; what should I do?

posted by B. Dave Walters

(Unedited) question submitted via Formspring: “My BF and I just recently separated. Recently a friend stated she had to tell me something my BF told her husband. My heart dropped to the floor and ask if he’s in another relationship already. […]

Q&A: Which is the best way to remain connected?

posted by B. Dave Walters

The simple answer is: TALK TO EACH OTHER! We’ve said again and again: if you can’t communicate, you don’t have a relationship! It’s normal to settle in to a sort of routine in your relationship; almost no one has the […]

Q&A: How do I start a conversation, and how do I know if he’s interested? (VIDEO)

posted by B. Dave Walters

Questions submitted via Formspring: “I’m around great men in my apartment complex and work. Friends say that I should just “talk” to these men, but how? How do you start a conversation with someone without being creepy, and how do you […]

Your God-given talents; Or, playing the hand you’re dealt

posted by B. Dave Walters

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that frightens us most. We ask ourselves, ‘Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, […]

Q&A: Workplace romance gone wrong; Or, dealing with insecurity (VIDEO)

posted by B. Dave Walters

(Unedited) Question submitted via Facebook: “It’s been wonderful to discover you … this is my problem and I’m afraid I’m so close to a breakdown… please help. I fell in love with my boss and had a strange relationship with him […]

How to deal with jealousy; Or, the green-eyed monster in the mirror (VIDEO)

posted by B. Dave Walters

(Unedited) question submitted via Formspring.me: “I feel bad when I see my ex happy. I wanted to be happy before him. I am not happy. He has moved on and I can’t. Advise?” Los Angeles is quite possibly the most superficial […]

Q&A: How do I start dating and learn how to flirt? (Video)

posted by B. Dave Walters

The video below answers these questions submitted via Formspring.me Part 1: Hi Dave, I’m a 31 year old female, and I’ve never dated, or kissed anyone. It’s not that I haven’t ever been asked out. I am a bit overweight, but […]

Q&A: “Is there any way to say what I want, and be heard, without being aggressive?” (Video)

posted by B. Dave Walters

Question submitted via Facebook: “Hi Dave, you are really great and I love you! :o) I just watched the video on emotions and you are right about love patterns that we learn from our parents. I’m a happy optimistic person and […]

Letting go of guilt; Or, how to make things right (VIDEO)

posted by B. Dave Walters

Questions submitted via Formspring: “I have deep seated guilt issues which have made my self esteem lead me down paths of bad relationships and walking away from the only decent relationship of my life. How do I rid the guilt to […]

Knowing what you want, Or, wanting what you get (VIDEO)

posted by B. Dave Walters

“Be Content with what you have; rejoice in the way things are. When you realize there is nothing lacking, the whole world belongs to you.” -Lao Tzu Now we’ve let go of the past, and figured out how to feel good all the time, […]

How to deal with negative people; Or, how to be the life of the party (VIDEO)

posted by B. Dave Walters

“He who angers you, conquers you” -Elizabeth Kenny I have a confession to make: Los Angeles can *kind of * get under your skin. When you come here, it seems like it’s full of negative people, but that’s not really […]

One soul living in two bodies; Or, being a friend (VIDEO)

posted by B. Dave Walters

“A true friend is one soul in two bodies.” -Aristotle In the video below, I give several pointers on how to be a good friend, how to know when a relationship has run it’s course (or worse, turned toxic), and […]

Flying eagles and pecking pigeons, Or, the secret of success (VIDEO)

posted by B. Dave Walters

“Success is the progressive realization of a worthy ideal” -Earl Nightingale Los Angeles is a wonderland. Actually, Disneyland, the happiest place on earth, is right here! (OK…Disneyland is just south of Los Angeles in Anaheim, but we take credit for […]

Life; Or, advice to a young friend

posted by B. Dave Walters

A little while  ago, I had an unusual request from a young friend of mine. She told me she wanted me to write her a letter for her birthday; but not just email it, write it and mail it the […]

Getting rid of baggage; Or, how to change in an instant (VIDEO)

posted by B. Dave Walters

If we don’t change, we don’t grow. If we don’t grow, we aren’t really living. Gail Sheehy When I take on new coaching clients, either online or here in Los Angeles, one of the first things we talk about is what […]

Q&A: I love her, but she says I’m like her brother

posted by B. Dave Walters

(Unedited) question submitted via Formspring: “I met this grl online about a year ago we were cool and metin person 2 times when she was in my areaWe gotcloserabout two months ago and pretty much talked all day evry day since […]

Q&A: We broke up, now we still hang out but I don’t feel good, what should I do?

posted by B. Dave Walters

Question submitted via Formspring: “One month ago my 2-year relationship ended. I’m in college. That guy was my first ‘real’ relationship and I still love him a lot but we hurt each other because we were both unhappy. Now we still […]

Quit being a zombie; Or, how to make a choice (VIDEO)

posted by B. Dave Walters

“Nothing is more difficult, and therefore more precious, than to be able to decide.” -Napoleon Bonaparte. I apologize if the tone of this article is a little…harsher than usual, but I promise it’s only because I love you, and want […]

Q&A: How do I help my child without making things worse?

posted by B. Dave Walters

Two questions submitted via Formspring: “re: page Jesus is not a jerk. I want to share it with my son who is struggling with addictions. How can I explain your comment that Jesus enjoyed a good time (drinking) without him twisting […]

Q&A: I promised my late husband we’d be together in Heaven, but I’m lonely….

posted by B. Dave Walters

Question submitted via Formspring: “My husband died 1 year ago. I’m lonely, but I’m afraid of falling in love again because I promised him on his deathbed that we would be together again in heaven. If I fall in love with […]

Q&A: “I’m pregnant and scared…should I keep the baby?”

posted by B. Dave Walters

Question submitted via Formspring: “I’m in college, pregnant and scared. I don’t want the baby, but and couldn’t give it up if it gets born. Either the baby’s life ends or my life and hopes for law school ends.” On […]

Q&A: “How do I stay positive around all these negative people?”

posted by B. Dave Walters

Questions submitted via Formspring: “Hello. I am a recent college grad who still cannot find employment. I live with my parents and younger brother at home but they are all such negative people. Constantly angry and pessimistic it’s hard to […]

Q&A: You are good enough; Or, dealing with fear, doubt, and insecurity

posted by B. Dave Walters

Question submitted via Formspring.me: “I recently realized that when I’m in love,I worry so much,I have so many fears,that even when my boyfriend had to go away for ONE weekend I suddenly became unhappy!how do you REALLY get to that point […]

Emotions, Or, you’re great, and I love you!

posted by B. Dave Walters

“You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.” -Buddha I’ve written and talked many times before now about how to use your emotions and the need for self-love but this time I’d like […]

Q&A: “He loves me, but he doesn’t express it in the way that I want him to…”

posted by B. Dave Walters

Question submitted viaFormspring “I am in love with a person. He too loves me. But he doesn’t express it the way I want. How do I make him do that?” Well, there are at least three competing things going on […]

Meditation 101; Or, reining in the monkey mind (VIDEO)

posted by B. Dave Walters

To enjoy good health, to bring true happiness to one’s family, to bring peace to all, one must first discipline and control one’s own mind. If a man can control his mind he can find the way to Enlightenment, and […]

How to be psychic; Or, 3 Minds, 4 Bodies II (VIDEO)

posted by B. Dave Walters

Condemnation without investigation is the height of ignorance” -Albert Einstein. We have talked about your three minds: the conscious, subconscious, and super-conscious times before, so let us dive even deeper into what your mind is capable of. This article (and especially […]

Understanding personality; Or, 7 billion snowflakes

posted by B. Dave Walters

“Always be yourself, express yourself, have faith in yourself, do not go out and look for a successful personality and duplicate it.” Bruce Lee The cornerstone of my Life Coaching works is a science known as NLP: Neuro-Linguistic Programming. NLP is a set […]

Making sense of things, Or, lucky number 13

posted by B. Dave Walters

“”The map is not the territory. … The only usefulness of a map depends on similarity of structure between the empirical world and the map…”” Alfred Korzybski As I said before  what I do is help people make sense out of life: […]

Q&A: How soon should we have sex?

posted by B. Dave Walters

Two questions submitted via Formspring: “On my first date with a guy I’m seeing, i ended up making out with him at the club for a long time. I really like him, but I don’t want him to think that […]

Free at last! Martin Luther King Day 2012 quotes and video

posted by B. Dave Walters

I was fortunate to be born in 1978, long after Martin Luther King, Jr. said these words that changed the world.  Even though I am from the deep South, and encountered my fair share of discrimination and intolerance, it was […]

How to be HAPPY, Or, the un-given gift

posted by B. Dave Walters

“All that we are is the result of what we have thought. If a man speaks or acts with an evil thought, pain follows him. If a man speaks or acts with a pure thought, happiness follows him, like a […]

Why you self-sabotage; Or, how to stop making yourself miserable (VIDEO)

posted by B. Dave Walters

Question submitted via Formspring: “I’m in a two years relationship. I always thought, that we were indestructible, but for a few months I don’t think that anymore… And I dont wanna think all the time about “are we meant to be” […]

Q&A: “I’m constantly wondering when am I ever going to get married myself; how do I stop it?”

posted by B. Dave Walters

(Unedited) Question submitted via Facebook “O life coach (lol) I have something that is constantly on my mind that I can’t seem to shake. I want to get married. It’s constantly on my mind. Everyone around me is getting married or […]

Q&A: Why is it hard for men to say I love you?

posted by B. Dave Walters

Question submitted via Formspring: “Why is it hard for men to say i love you back ??” For a real man, it isn’t! Los Angeles is probably one of, if not the most, superficial cities in the world, so it’s not […]

Q&A: “I’m dating a man who’s is not as physically fit as I would love him to be…”

posted by B. Dave Walters

Question submitted via Formspring: “I’m dating a man who is wonderful, except he is not as physically fit as I would love him to be. How should I go about having him get in better shape, or should I just […]

Q&A: A married man falls in love with another woman…is that cheating?

posted by B. Dave Walters

(Unedited) questions submitted via Formspring.me part 1: there is a married man. he meets the love of his life 20 years ago, but they didn’t got a chance, cause he doesn’t wanted to leave his son. now he and his love […]

Q&A: “He says he is leaving her for me but never does, what’s going on?”

posted by B. Dave Walters

Question submitted via Formspring: “I have a male friend who lives with his girlfriend and been with her years. However, he flirts with me all the time, promises to come and see me (even though I live hundreds of miles away), […]

Q&A: “Is it ever possible to love two people at the same time….”

posted by B. Dave Walters

Question submitted via Formspring “Is it ever possible to love two people at the same time ?” This is a debate that has raged for many years, and will almost certainly keep raging. The answer is simple, but the implications are […]

You’re perfect but incomplete; Or, made in God’s Image (VIDEO)

posted by B. Dave Walters

All men’s souls are immortal, but the souls of the righteous are immortal and divine. -Socrates I’m going to do things a little differently today; I made a short video explaining things in more detail on Facebook. Give it a watch or […]

The myth of ‘Forever'; Or, tainted love (Video)

posted by B. Dave Walters

In my relationship coaching work, I often work with clients with one of two problems: an inability to start a new relationship because they are afraid it won’t work, or an inability to leave a relationship that ISN’T working because they are […]

“Why can’t I let him go;” Or, Tainted Love II

posted by B. Dave Walters

Question submitted via Formspring: “I was watching your video clip ‘Tainted love’ & EVERYTHING you were speaking of is me. I am in a relationship with a man who cheats, lies & really is a hypocrite. But still I stay. I recently figured […]

Getting over it; or, finding unconditional love (VIDEO)

posted by B. Dave Walters

“We are not held back by the love we didn’t receive in the past, but by the love we’re not extending in the present.” -Marianne Williamson Because of my writing, inviting people to ask me anything, and presence on Facebook, […]

Staying out of the prison of fear, Or, who are you really?

posted by B. Dave Walters

“Courage is the resistance of fear, the mastery of fear, but not the absence of fear” -Mark Twain If you’re read my other article, Breaking the prison of Fear, you may recall it ends like this: I want to leave you […]

Q&A: “No one will marry me because of how I act”

posted by B. Dave Walters

(Unedited) Question submitted via Formspring: “I’m 30 female..but there is a child soul inside me,,, it makes me happy,,,but people dislike it,, they keep saying you are old old old girl you are not pretty to act like that… no […]

Q&A: “I’m in love with my teacher, what should I do?”

posted by B. Dave Walters

(Unedited) Question submitted via Formspring: “I caught a sight love with my instructor, he doesn’t know .The course is over months back, I still think he is the perfect one. I pulled his pic from facebook and talk to it […]

Q&A: “Am I subconsciously racist or just have a certain type?”

posted by B. Dave Walters

Question submitted via Formspring: “My friends say I’m racist because I’m not sexually attracted to certain races. I have friends from all races and treat everyone equally but I’m just not sexually attracted at all to a couple races. Am […]

Q&A: “I always have to initiate the date, I fear he’s not interested because he’s not making effort.”

posted by B. Dave Walters

Question submitted via Formspring: “I’ve been seeing a guy for 2 months but we’ve only gone out 3 times no sex. He works on the weekend and has grad school during the week. I always have to initiate the date, […]

Sowing and reaping, Or, blocking the Universal flow

posted by B. Dave Walters

“Charity never humiliated him who profited from it, nor ever bound him by the chains of gratitude, since it was not to him but to God that the gift was made.” Antoine de Saint-Exupery I’ve noticed a strange thing. People […]

How to see the future; Or, no fate but what we make (VIDEO)

posted by B. Dave Walters

“The men and women who practice the foregoing instructions will certainly get and stay forever rich in all areas. In this process, we must stay conscious to that fact that any form of wealth received will be in exact proportion […]

Q&A: How to stay focused and lose weight; Or, the body as a temple

posted by B. Dave Walters

Question submitted via Formspring.me: “You seem to have a great body Dave. Any advise on how to be determined enough to lose all my weight????” “Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit, who is […]

Missing the mark; Or, the wages of Sin

posted by B. Dave Walters

We are punished by our sins, not for them. ~Elbert Hubbard. Spirituality, especially organized Religion, often gets a bad rap as being nothing but “Thou Shalt Nots”.  And, to be honest, in many houses of worship, it IS nothing but […]

Q&A: “Why do all guys cheat?”

posted by B. Dave Walters

(Unedited) Question submitted via Formspring “Hello Dave, I must admit that I like your articles on beliefnet and will like you to keep it up. My question is why is it so hard trying to get involved with a guy […]

Pornography, masturbation, and sin oh my!

posted by B. Dave Walters

Unedited questions submitted via Formspring: “I have a great girlfriend and we have a good sex life. But I watch porn everyday and I feel ashamed. I’ve tried to stop but after about a week I go back to my old […]

Homosexuality, virginity, guilt, and sex; Or, does God want you to wait till marriage?

posted by B. Dave Walters

This was one of my my controversial (and popular) articles to date.   In honor of the Beliefnet post on “Who said it: Jesus or Paul” (and the challenge of Christianity vs Paulianity) I am reposting it here: Question submitted […]

Depression, Or, why so serious? (VIDEO)

posted by B. Dave Walters

“Concern should drive us into action and not into a depression. No man is free who cannot control himself.” -Pythagoras For reasons I discussed in the video below, there is a world of difference between someone who is a bit […]

Q&A: “Should I convert to Islam for the sake of a man?”

posted by B. Dave Walters

Question submitted via Formspring: “I’ve met a great guy who is a Muslim. He won’t date me cause I am not Muslim. I know he likes me. I am 20 and I want to do the right thing, my friends say […]

Understanding Mr. Right; Or, how to train your husband (VIDEO)

posted by B. Dave Walters

“It takes time to persuade men to do even what is for their own good” -Thomas Jefferson Even though my emphasis is on ‘Spirituality’, the fact of the matter is the easiest way to see God is through feeling the […]

How to BE Mr/s Right, Or, spiritual loving II (VIDEO)

posted by B. Dave Walters

“A loving heart is the beginning of all knowledge” -Thomas Carlyle People say dating is hard in Los Angeles, because of the facades that people put up; but I think dating and relationships can be challenging all over the world. […]

Dealing with rejection; Or, goodbye Steve Jobs (VIDEO)

posted by B. Dave Walters

In the short video below, you’ll hear a wonderful story about a man named Steve, and the massive amount of rejection he endured on his way to changing the world It’s true that no one *enjoys* being shot down, but […]

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“I am being shown images of ‘beautiful ‘women and none of them look like me….”
Question submitted via Formspring: “Hi, I'm a nineteen year old African American female and ever since I can remember, I've always wanted to be attractive. In this society, being "HOT" is valued. At least in the mainstream sort of way. But I ...

posted 9:27:56pm Jun. 14, 2015 | read full post »

How to stop procrastinating and do what you know you should do
“Just that you do the right thing. The rest doesn't matter. Cold or warm. Tired or well-rested. Despised or honored. Dying...or busy with other assignments. Because dying, too, is one of our assignments in life. There as well: "To do what ...

posted 10:41:06pm May. 10, 2015 | read full post »

Q&A: I love him, but I'm afraid all he wants is sex II
  Question submitted via Formspring: “I need advice. I've been seeing this guy for about 8 months now. We started out with a very casual relationship. We would hang out and we would have sex. That's it. It was fun at first but as ...

posted 2:38:37am Apr. 13, 2015 | read full post »

An Eclipse, an Equinox, and a Super Moon, oh my!
Friday, March 20, 2015 will mark a very powerful alignment of energies that will burn you up if you’re not careful, or propel you like a rocket if you make use of them! Three major events are taking place, with several other events ...

posted 6:14:17pm Mar. 19, 2015 | read full post »

Are you growing, or just growing older?
“I saw my life branching out before me like the green fig tree in the story. From the tip of every branch, like a fat purple fig, a wonderful future beckoned and winked. One fig was a husband and a happy home and children, and another fig was ...

posted 4:27:15am Feb. 18, 2015 | read full post »

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