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“I am being shown images of ‘beautiful ‘women and none of them look like me….”

posted by B. Dave Walters

Question submitted via Formspring: “Hi, I’m a nineteen year old African American female and ever since I can remember, I’ve always wanted to be attractive. In this society, being “HOT” is valued. At least in the mainstream sort of way. […]

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Q&A: I love him, but I’m afraid all he wants is sex II

posted by B. Dave Walters

  Question submitted via Formspring: “I need advice. I’ve been seeing this guy for about 8 months now. We started out with a very casual relationship. We would hang out and we would have sex. That’s it. It was fun […]

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How to love again

posted by B. Dave Walters

“To be rejected by someone doesn’t mean you should also reject yourself or that you should think of yourself as a lesser person. It doesn’t mean that nobody will ever love you anymore. Remember that only ONE person has rejected […]

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Q&A: Can Christians and non-Christians date?

posted by B. Dave Walters

Question submitted via Formspring: “Can Christians and non-Christians date? If so is the outcome always one of being non-yoked?” Yes, it’s possible for a Christian and a non-Christian to date successfully.  However, it’s going to take communication and effort…just like […]

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Q&A: We’re getting married, but he suffocates me; what should I do?

posted by B. Dave Walters

(Unedited) Question submitted via formspring.me: “I am in a relationship for few years now, to everybody he seems to be a perfect lover n partner,but i get irritated very frequently due to his “over lovingness”.feel suffocated as he keeps a track […]

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Q&A: Why there is no ‘One,’ and that’s a good thing

posted by B. Dave Walters

Question submitted via Facebook: “I just broke up with my boyfriend for the third and final time. I’m feeling good about it, but truly discouraged at the fact that there isn’t one person in the world for everyone. Love is….not […]

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Choosing your life for a change

posted by B. Dave Walters

This Friday, June 21 is the Summer Solstice in the Northern Hemisphere, both the official start of summer, and the longest day of the year.  However, in esoteric circles it is the absolutely most powerful time of the year to […]

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Q&A: ‘Why did he go back to her?’

posted by B. Dave Walters

Question submitted via Formspring: “I have been with my neighbor for a month, and we have been very close. All of the things you would expect in a loving relationship and it was all heading the right way.. except he […]

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Q&A: ‘I love him, but he doesn’t want a relationship’

posted by B. Dave Walters

Question submitted via Facebook: “Mr. Walters, I hope you can help me: There is this guy whom I really like. I told him about my feelings but he says that he doesn’t want to get into any relationship right now. I have been […]

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Q&A: Is it too late to work things out?

posted by B. Dave Walters

Question submitted via Formspring: My husband and I are separated and “trying” to work it out – although it is very one sided. Sometimes I fear that if things were to work out, I won’t feel comfortable being intimate with him […]

Q&A: ‘How can I get another chance?’

posted by B. Dave Walters

Question submitted via Formspring: “I’ve made a lot of mistakes, but I am really trying to change.  The problem is my family and friends don’t believe it, and keep treating me like the same old me; how do I show […]

Q&A: ‘How do I get over my breakup?’

posted by B. Dave Walters

Question submitted via Formspring: “My brother got dumped and he’s been listening to all kinds of break-up songs ever since. I told him to listen to more positive music, but he’s being emo and says that these bitter break-up songs […]

Q&A: ‘I have never been in love; is there something wrong with me?’

posted by B. Dave Walters

Question submitted via Formspring: “I never have any feelings for any men… I’m attracted to men and meet a lot of nice guys but I can never feel anything more for any guy, and I only have even had strong feelings […]

Q&A: How can I be confident without seeming arrogant?

posted by B. Dave Walters

Question submitted via Formspring: “How can one be assertive and self-confident without seeming imposing or “better-than-thou”. Likewise  how can one be humble and reserved without seeming weak or insecure?” An excellent question! Just today a friend asked me if it was […]

Q&A: ‘I thought he was the one, but now I’m not so sure….’

posted by B. Dave Walters

Question submitted via Formspring: “Things started out so great. I thought I found “the one”. Now he is nice half the time, and angry the other half. I feel like I walk on eggshells. I don’t want to leave because I […]

Q&A: How to know when they are not interested

posted by B. Dave Walters

Question submitted via Formspring: “She was really pissed that day and when I was going to propose to her.  She said she doesn’t want to hear from me anymore. She thinks I’m a like a brother and friend and nothing […]

Q&A: How to find happiness and feel real love

posted by B. Dave Walters

In my coaching work, the number one question I get is: How can I be happy?  Inevitably, the second question is: How can I find true love? A common mistake people make is believing that the solution to their problems […]

Q&A: ‘He has stopped responding; should I confront him?’

posted by B. Dave Walters

Question submitted via Formspring: I had this date with a guy nearly a month ago, there were hints that he likes me, and he said he would like to see me again.   He also said that he would like to […]

Q&A: Dating advice for a 27-year-old virgin

posted by B. Dave Walters

Question submitted via Formspring: “I’m a 27 years old guy and have never dated and never had a girlfriend. I have been attracted to different girls throughout the years but when I expressed my interest to them they have always rejected […]

Q&A: ‘Should I cheat on them to get even?’

posted by B. Dave Walters

  Question submitted via Formspring: “I caught my wife cheating on me. From what I know, it was only once, and she is sorry. To remedy our marriage, she has given me permission to have sex with another woman of […]

Q&A: ‘Why do I run away when I develop feelings for someone?’

posted by B. Dave Walters

Question submitted via Formspring: “Hello Dave. I’m young and happily single; only friends and fun from time to time. But sometimes when I meet someone with whom I can be a friend AND have fun, I develop feelings for him. This […]

Q&A: ‘How do I tell my partner about my sexual fetish?’

posted by B. Dave Walters

Question submitted via Formspring: “Hello, Dave; I have a foot fetish, and I am scared to tell my girlfriend of 4 months about it. I’m scared that when she finds out, she’ll get grossed out. Should I tell her? And […]

Q&A: “My husband cheated 5 times…why did I stay?”

posted by B. Dave Walters

Question submitted via Formspring “I have been with a man who had at least five affairs during our 27 years or marriage, and even spent 7 years with the same woman. What makes a man do this? What made me accept […]

Q&A: “He wants his space, but I don’t want to lose him….”

posted by B. Dave Walters

  Question submitted via Formspring: “I have been in a long distance relationship since January; I’ve had an amazing time and he was the best thing in my life.  But, he’s said he wants to tone it down; feelings have changed […]

Q&A: Do opposites really attract?

posted by B. Dave Walters

Question submitted via Formspring: “Do you think opposites attract?” The short answer is: no. One (dis)advantage of life in Los Angeles, is everyone is working to be absolutely identical. It may appear like they are so different, but if you look […]

Q&A: How do I stop picking the wrong guys?

posted by B. Dave Walters

(Unedited) questions submitted via Formspring: “Hi, I am one of those “good girls” faling in love with “bad boys”. With a dad who was never at home and a mental unstabil mum. You say, we can not trust our first […]

Q&A: The married man and the 34 year old virgin

posted by B. Dave Walters

Question submitted via Formspring: “I am one of the oldest living virgin women at 34 years old. In dating, I have yet to trust anyone enough to take that from me. A long-time friend I trust has watched me struggle […]

Q&A: How do I know they are ‘The One'; Or, am I afraid to be alone? (VIDEO)

posted by B. Dave Walters

(Unedited) questions submitted via Formspring: “Heey. Um, how would I know if I’m with someone ’cause I’m afraid to be alone, or ’cause I actually love someone? Your responses are exact and helpful. Thanks!” And, “How would I know if […]

Q&A: How do I make up my mind, and give up confusion?

posted by B. Dave Walters

Question submitted via Formspring: “Hi Dave How is your day going? I hope really well, well I know! it is going well because you find the best in everything that happens I wanted to ask a question, I hope it doesn’t […]

Q&A: “I’m not sure if we should try again because I don’t want to get hurt”

posted by B. Dave Walters

Unedited question submitted via Formspring: “I’m in love with a guy. he broke up with me 1/2 year ago. hes(still) sometimes so sweet and says he loves me but sometimes he don’t seem to want me. I’m not sure if we […]

Q&A: “I am married to an addict and don’t know how to leave”

posted by B. Dave Walters

(Unedited) questions submitted via Formspring: “Female married for 17 years, 47, 16 year old son. Husband drinks heavily and also addicted to prescription meds. I am not happy. Scared of what he might do if I try to leave.” And, […]

Q&A: “I’m stuck in a loveless marriage, but afraid to leave….”

posted by B. Dave Walters

(Unedited) Question submitted via Formspring: “Female married 20 yrs-no kids, 55. Marriage went bad 10 yrs ago when finances went bad. Stayed bc couldn’t afford not to, tried to work it out. No love. Met someone, but he will not […]

Q&A: “We met on Facebook and are in love, why won’t she talk to me? “

posted by B. Dave Walters

(Unedited) Question submitted via Formspring: “She and I met on the FB and wanted to get married(long distance relationship),she love me like anything and cant live without me and me too. But she’s quite reluctant to talk over the phone or […]

Q&A: Is it possible to be TOO picky?

posted by B. Dave Walters

Question submitted via Formspring: “My friend is VERY picky in choosing a man to date. She wants a relationship, but her standards are too high. She says it’s good because she knows what she wants and deserves the best. I […]

Q&A: Why is white skin believed to be so beautiful?

posted by B. Dave Walters

(Unedited) question submitted via Formspring: “Why is white so beautiful? Soap Operas all over the world only show the light-skinned people. Asian countries have surgeries and accessories to widen eyelids. Light-skinned artists are admired as the most beautiful ones (Beyonce, […]

Q&A: Who should make the first move in a long distance relationship?

posted by B. Dave Walters

Unedited question submitted via Formspring  “If your in the long distance relationship should i make the first move and go to were he is or should he come here first to see me we was engaged once about 10yrs ago what […]

Q&A: Why do Good Girls love Bad Boys? (VIDEO)

posted by B. Dave Walters

Question submitted via Formspring (many, many times): Why do Good Girls love Bad Boys? This is one of those issues that has come up so many times that I covered it both on a recent episode of my radio show: […]

Q&A: We just broke up and he’s already moved on; what should I do?

posted by B. Dave Walters

(Unedited) question submitted via Formspring: “My BF and I just recently separated. Recently a friend stated she had to tell me something my BF told her husband. My heart dropped to the floor and ask if he’s in another relationship already. […]

Q&A: Which is the best way to remain connected?

posted by B. Dave Walters

The simple answer is: TALK TO EACH OTHER! We’ve said again and again: if you can’t communicate, you don’t have a relationship! It’s normal to settle in to a sort of routine in your relationship; almost no one has the […]

Q&A: Workplace romance gone wrong; Or, dealing with insecurity (VIDEO)

posted by B. Dave Walters

(Unedited) Question submitted via Facebook: “It’s been wonderful to discover you … this is my problem and I’m afraid I’m so close to a breakdown… please help. I fell in love with my boss and had a strange relationship with him […]

Q&A: How do I start dating and learn how to flirt? (Video)

posted by B. Dave Walters

The video below answers these questions submitted via Formspring.me Part 1: Hi Dave, I’m a 31 year old female, and I’ve never dated, or kissed anyone. It’s not that I haven’t ever been asked out. I am a bit overweight, but […]

Q&A: “Is there any way to say what I want, and be heard, without being aggressive?” (Video)

posted by B. Dave Walters

Question submitted via Facebook: “Hi Dave, you are really great and I love you! :o) I just watched the video on emotions and you are right about love patterns that we learn from our parents. I’m a happy optimistic person and […]

Life; Or, advice to a young friend

posted by B. Dave Walters

A little while  ago, I had an unusual request from a young friend of mine. She told me she wanted me to write her a letter for her birthday; but not just email it, write it and mail it the […]

Getting rid of baggage; Or, how to change in an instant (VIDEO)

posted by B. Dave Walters

If we don’t change, we don’t grow. If we don’t grow, we aren’t really living. Gail Sheehy When I take on new coaching clients, either online or here in Los Angeles, one of the first things we talk about is what […]

Q&A: I love her, but she says I’m like her brother

posted by B. Dave Walters

(Unedited) question submitted via Formspring: “I met this grl online about a year ago we were cool and metin person 2 times when she was in my areaWe gotcloserabout two months ago and pretty much talked all day evry day since […]

Q&A: We broke up, now we still hang out but I don’t feel good, what should I do?

posted by B. Dave Walters

Question submitted via Formspring: “One month ago my 2-year relationship ended. I’m in college. That guy was my first ‘real’ relationship and I still love him a lot but we hurt each other because we were both unhappy. Now we still […]

Quit being a zombie; Or, how to make a choice (VIDEO)

posted by B. Dave Walters

“Nothing is more difficult, and therefore more precious, than to be able to decide.” -Napoleon Bonaparte. I apologize if the tone of this article is a little…harsher than usual, but I promise it’s only because I love you, and want […]

Q&A: I promised my late husband we’d be together in Heaven, but I’m lonely….

posted by B. Dave Walters

Question submitted via Formspring: “My husband died 1 year ago. I’m lonely, but I’m afraid of falling in love again because I promised him on his deathbed that we would be together again in heaven. If I fall in love with […]

Q&A: You are good enough; Or, dealing with fear, doubt, and insecurity

posted by B. Dave Walters

Question submitted via Formspring.me: “I recently realized that when I’m in love,I worry so much,I have so many fears,that even when my boyfriend had to go away for ONE weekend I suddenly became unhappy!how do you REALLY get to that point […]

Q&A: “He loves me, but he doesn’t express it in the way that I want him to…”

posted by B. Dave Walters

Question submitted viaFormspring “I am in love with a person. He too loves me. But he doesn’t express it the way I want. How do I make him do that?” Well, there are at least three competing things going on […]

How to be psychic; Or, 3 Minds, 4 Bodies II (VIDEO)

posted by B. Dave Walters

Condemnation without investigation is the height of ignorance” -Albert Einstein. We have talked about your three minds: the conscious, subconscious, and super-conscious times before, so let us dive even deeper into what your mind is capable of. This article (and especially […]

Q&A: How soon should we have sex?

posted by B. Dave Walters

Two questions submitted via Formspring: “On my first date with a guy I’m seeing, i ended up making out with him at the club for a long time. I really like him, but I don’t want him to think that […]

Spiritual parenting, Or, how to live forever (VIDEO)

posted by B. Dave Walters

To bring up a child in the way he should go, travel that way yourself once in a while.  ~Josh Billings In honor of my daughter Alexandria Sophia (Lexi)’s birthday, I’d like to talk a little bit about parenting. Parenting […]

Q&A: “I’m constantly wondering when am I ever going to get married myself; how do I stop it?”

posted by B. Dave Walters

(Unedited) Question submitted via Facebook “O life coach (lol) I have something that is constantly on my mind that I can’t seem to shake. I want to get married. It’s constantly on my mind. Everyone around me is getting married or […]

Q&A: Why is it hard for men to say I love you?

posted by B. Dave Walters

Question submitted via Formspring: “Why is it hard for men to say i love you back ??” For a real man, it isn’t! Los Angeles is probably one of, if not the most, superficial cities in the world, so it’s not […]

Q&A: “I’m dating a man who’s is not as physically fit as I would love him to be…”

posted by B. Dave Walters

Question submitted via Formspring: “I’m dating a man who is wonderful, except he is not as physically fit as I would love him to be. How should I go about having him get in better shape, or should I just […]

Q&A: A married man falls in love with another woman…is that cheating?

posted by B. Dave Walters

(Unedited) questions submitted via Formspring.me part 1: there is a married man. he meets the love of his life 20 years ago, but they didn’t got a chance, cause he doesn’t wanted to leave his son. now he and his love […]

Q&A: “He says he is leaving her for me but never does, what’s going on?”

posted by B. Dave Walters

Question submitted via Formspring: “I have a male friend who lives with his girlfriend and been with her years. However, he flirts with me all the time, promises to come and see me (even though I live hundreds of miles away), […]

Q&A: “Is it ever possible to love two people at the same time….”

posted by B. Dave Walters

Question submitted via Formspring “Is it ever possible to love two people at the same time ?” This is a debate that has raged for many years, and will almost certainly keep raging. The answer is simple, but the implications are […]

The myth of ‘Forever'; Or, tainted love (Video)

posted by B. Dave Walters

In my relationship coaching work, I often work with clients with one of two problems: an inability to start a new relationship because they are afraid it won’t work, or an inability to leave a relationship that ISN’T working because they are […]

“Why can’t I let him go;” Or, Tainted Love II

posted by B. Dave Walters

Question submitted via Formspring: “I was watching your video clip ‘Tainted love’ & EVERYTHING you were speaking of is me. I am in a relationship with a man who cheats, lies & really is a hypocrite. But still I stay. I recently figured […]

Q&A: Finding love, how to apply The Secret, and more! (VIDEO)

posted by B. Dave Walters

If you are like many people (myself included), 2011 had some pretty difficult parts!  For me, I can say without question that the first 6 months were some of the hardest of my life; but the second 6 were some […]

Q&A: “No one will marry me because of how I act”

posted by B. Dave Walters

(Unedited) Question submitted via Formspring: “I’m 30 female..but there is a child soul inside me,,, it makes me happy,,,but people dislike it,, they keep saying you are old old old girl you are not pretty to act like that… no […]

Q&A: “I’m in love with my teacher, what should I do?”

posted by B. Dave Walters

(Unedited) Question submitted via Formspring: “I caught a sight love with my instructor, he doesn’t know .The course is over months back, I still think he is the perfect one. I pulled his pic from facebook and talk to it […]

Q&A: “Am I subconsciously racist or just have a certain type?”

posted by B. Dave Walters

Question submitted via Formspring: “My friends say I’m racist because I’m not sexually attracted to certain races. I have friends from all races and treat everyone equally but I’m just not sexually attracted at all to a couple races. Am […]

Q&A: “Why do all guys cheat?”

posted by B. Dave Walters

(Unedited) Question submitted via Formspring “Hello Dave, I must admit that I like your articles on beliefnet and will like you to keep it up. My question is why is it so hard trying to get involved with a guy […]

Homosexuality, virginity, guilt, and sex; Or, does God want you to wait till marriage?

posted by B. Dave Walters

This was one of my my controversial (and popular) articles to date.   In honor of the Beliefnet post on “Who said it: Jesus or Paul” (and the challenge of Christianity vs Paulianity) I am reposting it here: Question submitted […]

How to Trust; Or, how to Forgive (VIDEO)

posted by B. Dave Walters

If you have been following this blog, then you have no doubt heard that you have to forgive the people in your life who have hurt you. No matter who it was, no matter what they’ve done: forgive them. The […]

Q&A: “Should I convert to Islam for the sake of a man?”

posted by B. Dave Walters

Question submitted via Formspring: “I’ve met a great guy who is a Muslim. He won’t date me cause I am not Muslim. I know he likes me. I am 20 and I want to do the right thing, my friends say […]

Understanding Mrs. Right; Or, traveling to Venus (VIDEO)

posted by B. Dave Walters

“It is often necessary to know how to obey a woman in order sometimes to have the right to command her.” Victor Hugo Even though my emphasis is on ‘Spirituality’, the fact of the matter is the easiest way to […]

Understanding Mr. Right; Or, how to train your husband (VIDEO)

posted by B. Dave Walters

“It takes time to persuade men to do even what is for their own good” -Thomas Jefferson Even though my emphasis is on ‘Spirituality’, the fact of the matter is the easiest way to see God is through feeling the […]

How to BE Mr/s Right, Or, spiritual loving II (VIDEO)

posted by B. Dave Walters

“A loving heart is the beginning of all knowledge” -Thomas Carlyle People say dating is hard in Los Angeles, because of the facades that people put up; but I think dating and relationships can be challenging all over the world. […]

Letting go, Or, after the love is gone (VIDEO)

posted by B. Dave Walters

  *This was my most popular article to date…how to get over anyone or anything!* “I was never one to patiently pick up broken fragments and glue them together again and tell myself that the mended whole was as good […]

Q&A: “I stay because I’m afraid of being alone, but what can I do?”

posted by B. Dave Walters

Question submitted via Formspring “I stay with him because I’m afraid of being alone, but what can I do?” I have gone on record many time before saying that it is better to be alone, then to be with the […]

Q&A: “When is the right time to get married? What’s the purpose of marriage?”

posted by B. Dave Walters

*This is one of my most popular articles to date, (and was a big reason why I won the Next Beliefnet Featured Blogger contest!) I am reposting it here for everyone who hasn’t seen it…or needs to see it again! […]

Previous Posts

“I am being shown images of ‘beautiful ‘women and none of them look like me….”
Question submitted via Formspring: “Hi, I'm a nineteen year old African American female and ever since I can remember, I've always wanted to be attractive. In this society, being "HOT" is valued. At least in the mainstream sort of way. But I ...

posted 9:27:56pm Jun. 14, 2015 | read full post »

How to stop procrastinating and do what you know you should do
“Just that you do the right thing. The rest doesn't matter. Cold or warm. Tired or well-rested. Despised or honored. Dying...or busy with other assignments. Because dying, too, is one of our assignments in life. There as well: "To do what ...

posted 10:41:06pm May. 10, 2015 | read full post »

Q&A: I love him, but I'm afraid all he wants is sex II
  Question submitted via Formspring: “I need advice. I've been seeing this guy for about 8 months now. We started out with a very casual relationship. We would hang out and we would have sex. That's it. It was fun at first but as ...

posted 2:38:37am Apr. 13, 2015 | read full post »

An Eclipse, an Equinox, and a Super Moon, oh my!
Friday, March 20, 2015 will mark a very powerful alignment of energies that will burn you up if you’re not careful, or propel you like a rocket if you make use of them! Three major events are taking place, with several other events ...

posted 6:14:17pm Mar. 19, 2015 | read full post »

Are you growing, or just growing older?
“I saw my life branching out before me like the green fig tree in the story. From the tip of every branch, like a fat purple fig, a wonderful future beckoned and winked. One fig was a husband and a happy home and children, and another fig was ...

posted 4:27:15am Feb. 18, 2015 | read full post »

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