Happiness comes from within
In my coaching work, the number one question I get is: How can I be happy?  Inevitably, the second question is: How can I find true love?

A common mistake people make is believing that the solution to their problems lies outside of themselves.  Or, that the circumstances going on around them is the cause of how they feel inside, but nothing could be further from the truth.

The reality is, true happiness and real love both come from within, not from without.

In a recent episode of All About You with B. Dave Walters, we talked about: How to feel happy in an instant, how to feel real, true, and lasting, LOVE, and how to tap into the one real source of power in the Universe.

So here, I would like to talk about the love we can find in another human being.  First, realize something important about people: everyone is doing the best that they can.  We are all at the mercy of our own baggage and unresolved traumas from the past, and everyone makes mistakes.  We have talked many times about how to get rid of past baggage, but until we do it is all too easy to get hung up responding to what happened in the past, rather than what’s happening now.  For instance, if the last guy you dated cheated on you, and this one hasn’t returned your phone call for a couple of hours, you might find yourself getting needlessly upset.  There are 100 reasons why someone wouldn’t call you back in an instant; maybe he’s in a meeting.  Or at lunch, or asleep, or his cell phone battery died, or…anything!

The number one thing that blocks us from giving or receiving love is our own fear of getting hurt.  And the only reason we fear getting hurt, is deep down inside we feel like we aren’t really good enough to receive to receive love. This is why truly loving yourself is so important.  Remember, you cannot love anyone, or let anyone else love you, more than you love yourself.

Make sure you watch that video to learn how to feel happy in an instant, and how to anchor yourself in something bigger than yourself.  Once you have true and lasting love in your heart, then you’ll be able to freely share it with everyone around you.

You are great, and I love you!
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B. Dave Walters Writer, Life Coach, and Talk Radio Host

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