Sassy Spirit

Sassy Spirit

Ripping off the Band-Aid.

posted by jperry

I don’t know how many people follow this blog or my journey, but I always try to be honest and authentic.  I have big dreams, but one is not to be a guru.  I think a teacher doesn’t have to be perfect and my writing sure has more wisdom when there are lessons of mine in there and not just know-it-all-ness or do-this-or-else-you-die baloney.  I’ve been on and of with self-help, spirituality, self-empowerment and “woo woo” for almost eighteen years. When my oldest was born I learned about chakras from a PBS special with Caroline Myss and she blew open my mind just by making me re-think Catholicism and the parallels of other religions. I wasn’t sure what I actually believed once I had to think what I’d teach my little one.   At 21, starting yoga (yes, I started because Madonna was doing it and I’m not ashamed).  Giggling cause it’s the truth.  Now at 37, I’ve reached an awakening, crossroads, plateau…I’m not sure what the heck it is but it’s scary, uncomfortable, new, refreshing, and I’ve felt like a mess and a loser for moments of it.  I know I can always shift through it. I am uber-grateful for this and I’m excited to see what I’ll create in my life now that I’m getting out of my way.  Just when I reach a comfort zone, my soul stretches out and yearns to become more unlimited.  I have explored the ideas of an infinite Universe, manifesting, consciousness, and the Law of Attraction. Currently I’m working with an amazing coach, Marci Lock, and my world is rocked again.  Oh, it’s like a Universe earthquake.  She is beyond words, a firecracker-fierce badass-love machine-spirit warrior-soul sister just to name a few.

Working on my mindset means my brain is like scrambled eggs. Interesting to feel small and vulnerable again in this learning phase and yet know that I know a lot of epic shit…it’s time to implement and fully step into the rockstar me for good in all situations. Self-empowerment badasses know crying, overwhelm, getting your feelings hurt, anger, emotions, and feelings are not to be judged. They are part of the growth process. The ones afraid and not brave enough to walk through their BS, the ones unwilling to work on their “stuff” and blame others, circumstances, life, and their victim/martyr story will miss out on the gem of life. Moments of rawness that take you back to childhood are the way of the spiritual warrior at times.

Picture the scene of a home being renovated where people walking by wonder why they didn’t just tear it down, but the owners knew it just needed to firm up the structure with stronger materials and then they’ll add all the fancy upgrades. Nothing wrong with the old house, it was just built on material and “stuff” that is no longer working for the owners. Yep, that is what taking courses, doing masterminds, getting into the meat-juice-heart of your being. I am an even greater writer, coach, speaker and Goddess rockstar when I get real, learn more and apply it, take my mindset to the next level, uplevel my life really, and look at my limitations I had hiding in my subconscious (like the attic needed MAJ-OR renovations cause there were cobwebs and old boxes and such). I’m a metaphor girl. I had to share my process with you all, cause the journey is crazy, cool, wonderful, and amazing.

Ask yourself what you want and W-O-W-S-A…you can sure see what ya don’t. It’s a blessing. Trust that.

Ask yourself where you’re full of BS…and the Universe will show you.

Sometimes you have to rip the Band-Aid off to give the wound air to heal.

When your glass is looking empty-ish

posted by jperry

I’m a glass a half full girl. But even positive people can fall into slumps or need to remind themselves of what they know. I’m currently taking a doing course on mindset among other things.  I’ll share the details when it’s over. I’ve cut out added sugar and my beloved wine. Chocolate, I will see you soon. I’m doing it for thirty days. Getting rid of my mood enhancers has made me angry. Seeing anger arise in me is difficult and shows me how shame can feel again. I don’t like that version of me.

It’s the layers of the onion thing again and I am seeing the root of my anger, asking myself what I want. Where do I feel powerless that I need to assert my power? Where do I still need to work on? Where do parts of my shadow need to come to light in order to heal, rather than live in my subconscious?

This self-examination can make me feel vulnerable when I sure as hell prefer confidence. Asking myself…am I doing enough to make my dreams come true? Am I doing enough in business? Have I trusted the right people in business? I’ve made that mistake before. I’m too trusting and I’ll always be.

Being angry with my kids can make me feel like a terrible person.  It can be a trap I fall into that tells me I’ve learned nothing.  (Totally not true, I know.)

I want to keep the peace, yes, but I want to control them.  Just being honest.  It’s easier when they are nice.  Crazy is normal for kids, I know!  I’m not appreciating them when I’m refereeing.   I don’t want to be a drill sergeant or a door mat, but the middle ground is a wide open gray area.  Gotta find your own way with it and what works.  Working at home calls for me to be organized, scheduled, and go with the flow at the same time (cause baby don’t care about business).  I realize I’ve been focusing on the negative…cause they’ve been bad!  LOL!  But seriously, they play, fight, cry, yell and repeat.  It’s my middle kids, the boys, who challenge my patience immensely.  My seven year old and four year old are like a circus-zoo-carnival-frat house-loony bin-fight club sometimes.  My thirteen year old can be the ringer leader at times.  My oldest is driving now and she’s glad to escape the madness and I don’t blame her.  It would be so great to hit pause and regroup.  Add to the hysteria at times is a teething, nine month old baby who needs my attention.  My nerves can be frayed as I try to be fair and firm, and it comes out like crazy because I’m reacting.  Do I know better?  Sure, but in the moment, I’m human.  Enough with the “woe is me” drama, you get the picture.  As I’m typing this it’s Sunday night, the baby feel asleep too early and she’ll wake up now wanting to stay up until elven o’clock.  Maybe not?  It’s that “me time” I’m fantasizing about at night with my glass of wine, but it’s a cop-out.  I can choose peace. I can choose to look at the glass half full.  My kids are healthy.  I’ll find a way to make things more peaceful.  I’ll be peaceful.  I’ll meditate on peace.

I’ll finish my class for my homework and map out the week for my highest good.  I will focus on enjoying life.  I will make a cup of tea and make time to just be even for just a moment.  I’ll count my blessings. I will focus on what I want versus what I don’t want.  I will focus on the good.

Who intimidates you?

posted by jperry

In the past year I’ve met, or been in contact with, a few women who intimidated me. It doesn’t happen often. It awakens my inner dork from childhood. It’s an uncomfortable feeling where I don’t feel like myself and brings up old triggers. It never lasts for more than a few minutes where I slap myself back into reality like a splash of cold water.

You know when you meet someone who has that “it” factor, that magic, that special somethin’ that makes them seem like a rockstar even if they’re actually not. You can see them really going places in the world or even just possessing a lot of wisdom and knowledge. They’re like the cool kid. You can imagine people wanting to flock to be in their presence, just to be in their glow. That sparkle, inner fire, that mojo can throw us off, if we’re not feeling it within ourselves. It’s a huge lesson to re-center within.

A friend of mine was once looking to become a teacher and when she was going to classes herself on the same subject.  She wanted to give up becoming a teacher, because her teacher was so good and she naturally compared herself. It’s like girl instinct. If it happens, you don’t have to panic. You see what you are feeling so you can change it. Look at that person you’re comparing yourself too and thank them in your mind for teaching you. Send them a silent blessing.

Look at what’s awesome about them and then look within and see why you rock as well. If it seems weird and you feel small now, just send yourself some love.  If you’re new to self-love, it can send you in a tailspin at first, but know it’s a gift, there’s juice to squeeze out of it.  If you were loving yourself fully, you would still see that Queen Bee as a rad chick with all her greatness…but it wouldn’t make you feel like you shrunk.  Your brilliance can never go away.  Your essence is your magic. No matter how big of a star in their world, your world, or the world, someone else is…it’s not like the sun where it will cast a shadow that you’ll get lost in.  This is not TV or middle school, we don’t have side kicks.  You are the main character in your life. Competition and comparisons depletes our life force energy.  It’s okay to acknowledge when thoughts and feelings arise and then you must make a commitment to look within, rather than needing to shrink others to make you feel better.

In my twenties and early thirties, if I met a dazzling, dynamic darling that intimidated me, or evoked, triggered, or made me question my own worth at all, I had a few things I’d do.  I’d either want to instantly become BFF’s with them hoping their shiny rubbed off on me, talk badly about them behind their back, or distance myself from them and pretend they didn’t exist, so I could feel better.  Sounds terrible, but it’s true. I own who I was. You see, I was looking to feel better in those ways, as coping mechanisms to deal with my emotions when they arose. It didn’t dawn on me, until I decided to take responsibility for my happiness, that it had nothing to do with the other person.  It also came from a flawed logic that there was only so much good stuff to go around. There was only enough beauty, coolness, love, magic, abundance, attention, and “it” factor for some and I might not get mine if that diamond girl had it.  She could never have my share.  I live in an infinite Universe.  Thank goodness I know that now.

When you play a bigger game in business and in life, you’ll encounter people further along than you, and/or who know more, and it’s a blessing.  They are your mentors, teachers, supporters, cheerleaders, and not the enemy. We can all thrive. If there is something within another that you admire, you see that Light emanating from within them and you want to “be” like them…the potential dwells within you. This is a given. Or else you wouldn’t feel that tug at you, that desire, that yearning to feel more of that. You could poll other people to find out that they do not want to be like, nor admire the person, and in no way are intimidated by them.  It’s just you. Sometimes it’s sheer confidence, that badass nature in some, where you just want walk that proud, workin’ it every day. You can. The fact that you can recognize that it’s what you want for yourself, rather than actually having anything to do with the goddess you’re intimidated by, is what sets you free.  You are free to be the most fantastic, truest, fullest, deepest, most spectacular version of you EVER. You are a miracle. God created the unique cosmic spark that you are as YOU, not her.  Keep looking to create more of your own magic and don’t worry about what anyone else is doing.  Cultivate your specialness. It’s what sets you apart. You rock,  Seriously, you do.

It’s Time To Thrive.

posted by jperry

Why I love coaching is the same reason I love teaching and being alive…I love using my intuitive gifts, my nurturing nature, my fire goddess power, so I can…
Connect soul to soul with people.
Help them see their greatness.
Teach them the tips, tools, wisdom, and knowledge I’ve learned.
Give them a fresh perspective to shake things up and the old stuff loose.
To inspire, uplift, and empower others no matter what they are going through or despite of their curcumstances.
To give people permission to be their badass, kickass, sweet and sassy self in the mildest or wildest manner.

I don’t believe in just being a survivor once you decide to no longer play victim, but rather a thrivor who soars to epic heights in their heart and in their life. Your point of power is in your thoughts. Don’t fight your feelings. Decide to grow through them like a weed through a crack in the concrete. Be a freaking dandelion. They will find away to shine their bright yellow and bloom through wishes that were made when then were sent off into the Universe…as someone closed their eyes and believed anything was possible and then surrendered, going with the flow and letting the breeze fulfill it’s promise.

Weight loss, getting back into dating after divorce, starting a new job, or getting your mojo back, believe it is possible for you.  Put aside reservations and doubt, just to see what happens.  Release attachment.  Don’t need it to be a certain way.  The Universe can lead you to an even greater outcome than you can possibly imagine.  Don’t just say no before anything even starts, in your mind, stopping the flow of energy towards your dreams and desires.  We’ve all done that. Jumped to conclusions before we even entertained any idea beyond what we’ve known or experienced.  Our brain does that.  It has no reference point on that awesome new thing…

Visualize what you’d love.  See it.  Feel it.  Then let it go.  Trust this, or something better.

Can’t you remember a time in your past when things didn’t turn out the way you wanted and now you can see how it was in your best interest.  That if x,y, and z hadn’t happened you would not have something you have in your life now that’s wonderful.  Ask for your signs, as always, that you are going in the right direction.  Let your gut be your GPS, you intuition is strengthened when we listen to it.  Remember doubt feels different than a no.

If anything was possible, what would you really want?  Play with that this week.  Life distracts you, but take a feel minutes each day to check in and get clear about what it is that you want.  I, for one, have had a major clarity issue myself that prevented me from taking steps and moving forward.  Sometimes any step is better than no step to get things flowing and other times, no step is better than a misstep.  Isn’t that funny?  But you’ll know when to push through doubt and when you being down to the core says no.  Never just one path, but it’s always perfect.  We are always moving forward and learning in the process.

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