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Good Stuff Guilt

posted by jperry

I have a wonderful life.  It’s always getting better.   The holidays are one of the times I really feel it the most.  I look at those who have lost loved ones, have no family or the unhealthy dysfunctional kind, or just have so much less than I do and I send blessings.  If I could, I’d wave my magic wand and give them all the good stuff.  When people used to tell me how bad things in their life were, I’d want to relate to them and play down my life, complain, and minimize my problems in my own mind (guilt was my constant companion). I used to feel bad that I shouldn’t want more because I have a loving husband, healthy kids, etc.  God didn’t give me my words in order to play a small life to make others feel better.  That would be temporary anyway.  I came here to reach many with my words and help them improve their lives in some way, whether big or small.  No guilt or do I deserve all the good either.  That’s hogwash baloney sandwich.  We’re all worthy and no matter what hand we are dealt, good or bad, if we decide it will stop us, it will.  I used to believe in and live in limitations.

Luckily, I have an insatiable desire to connect to my own soul, God, and self-help/improvement/empowerment/love, ya know…all the selfies movements.  It means I believe you can change.  If you want to change things in your life, you must look at your thoughts, beliefs, and subconscious gunk in the process.  There will always be things I’m working on because I’m about growth and expansion, this epic love ride of self.  I cannot imagine a life without striving to be more and understand even deeper, this experience on this planet.  For instance, I had a block for years that I wasn’t smart enough to be a writer.  If I didn’t work on myself, that would have been where I stayed.  Not smart.   I thought I could never change that.  My second book will be out January 8th.  I was so intimidated by business stuff.  I thought I’d never know the business world and closed off a lot of possibilities for myself.  But that was just a story.  It wasn’t the absolute truth.  Question everything is one of my mottos and especially question your thoughts.  I am still learning business and working on upleveling.  New thoughts on these daily.

If you have thoughts that make you feel bad, examine them.  Are they truth?  Are they what you think you should think?  Are they thoughts that were passed down or you learned?  Look to open your mind up to new concepts and ideas.  This gives you clarity about what you really deep down feel, believe, or know.  Knowing is that place inside, past the thoughts, where grace resides.

Writing in a journal helps us really get to our subconscious blocks and also on the other side of our issues, our holy space of wisdom.  It’s also in writing what we are grateful for, where we can get to add more of that consciousness within us.  Focus on what you want to grow.  So always balance the wanting to learn and release more, with integrating and looking within.

Think good thoughts.  Many blessings to all.

Perfect Recipe

posted by jperry

I just cooked up a quinoa breadstick recipe. I have been staying away from cheese, but added it because the recipe called for it. My youngest son, Seamus, and I were calling in Quin-cheesy-roni because we added veggie pepperoni.

It was okay.  I’d need to tweak it.

I topped it with hot peppers and it was very Jennylicious then.  I love cooking and finding new recipes. I love learning.  I love newness.  I love expansion.  I love ideas, creativity, and possibilities.  I will be growing in some way every day of my life.  It’s how I want to live and how I see living to my fullest potential.

Now did this specific recipe work for me?  Not really.  I look at it as a metaphor for life.  Have you ever followed a recipe to a tee and it didn’t turn out right?  Like the Pinterest fails that make you feel so not crafty or Martha-ish, as in Martha Stewart, the Queen of home living type world.  I’ll go for the Goddess of being me instead, cause that I can do.  In truth, you never know what brand people use in their recipes and even if you do, altitude, temperature, and other factors come into play.  Just like in life.  You can follow someone else’s path to a tee and NEVER have the same journey.  You can read all the same books, go to the same training, school, workshops, or certifications and it would be impossible to have the same outcome. Your cake ain’t ever gonna look or taste like anyone else’s.  And thank God.  That would be so boring.

In my twenties, I was always comparing my cake-making skills literally and figuratively.  Even at this wise old age, I still get tripped up sometimes, especially in new surrounding, classes, or especially as I uplevel from a big fish in a tiny pond to a small fish in a big pond.  It’s like I’ll advise peeps in my upcoming book and what I spoke about relating to reinvention last year at a business event.  Take in your new surroundings and observe what you see others doing, how they are succeeding, what they’re good at, and what you want to strive towards.  You can look at that corner office and how great their view is and how amazing they are at their job…but then remember you are running your own race.  Stay in your own lane or you will trip up.

You have no idea how much hard work went into their cake.  They may have tried to perfect that recipe for ten years, toiling away at it every single day.  They may have “lucked” out with being handing the perfect recipe from their family.  They may have magic golden pans, a hook up for the good flour, a technique only told to certain people once their cake skills are at a certain level.  So should you give up making cakes cause what’s the use?  Their cake will always be better  That is a copout, an excuse, it’s giving up and you will create the life you don’t want that way.

If instead you don’t worry about other people’s cake or quinoa crusty thing and create a brand new recipe.  Maybe your cake will have quinoa in it and it will be delicious and healthy.  Maybe you will make a new cake every day.  You get to create the perfect recipe for your life.  What do you want to create?  How much fun can you have with your own recipe?  How delicious will your life get?

Start cookin’ now!

Work or Play?

posted by jperry

Is it possible to feel like what your job actually feels like play?

Growing up, I didn’t know that was possible, but jobs look glamorous through a child’s eyes.  I thought my parents’ jobs looked cool.  They looked really fun.  My dad was a bartender.  That soda gun with different flavor was power, baby.  He had limitless maraschino cherries, lemons, olives and….SODA!!!  I loved eating olives and still do.  Only now in my martinis.  Back then, I wanted bottomless Shirley Temples. Those pink drinks I’d raise my glass for a refill as often as I was allowed.  All the waitresses were older and very loving in the Italian restaurant in Center City Philadelphia.  I even loved the coat check lady, Diane.  They made such a fuss over me and my little sister.  I loved getting dressed up and going out to restaurants.  Who doesn’t?

My mom also worked in Center City Philadelphia.  She was a manager at Bell Atlantic, the telephone company.  She was a boss.  She was a pioneer in my mind for being strong and smart, while still being kind and a woman.  She wore the power suits in the eighties and I idolized her.  And I always will.  She would let us visit her work and spend some time there which was so magical.  Going up on the elevator to the higher floors was like being on a TV show in my pre-internet mind, I-just-play-in-my-Barbies mind.  Sitting at her desk and looking down below to the street where cars looked so small made me feel like a giant.  As we walked the hall (little kids are not very common in office buildings) people treated us like we were celebrities.  Plus, we were cute.  I have to say the highlight though was the office supply room.  I’ll take some pens please.  Black, blue, and yes colored paper clips are the jackpot.  The BEST part was using the copy machine to photocopy my hand.  It seemed like a dream job.

I would play teacher often as a kid and I’d always change my name.  I thought I’d marry Michael Jackson eventually.  My Barbie playing always included fashion, friends, and being in love.  I lived in a world of play as a child and had a great imagination and people skills.  I thought I’d be a star, cause doesn’t every kid think they’re special.  Some things never change, except the Michael Jackson part.  I don’t know what I wanted to be when I grew up, but I always knew I’d be a mom.  Never thought I’d have five kids though.

Fast forward to picking a career.  I tried psychology for a semester in college and then Culinary school.  I got pregnant at nineteen and was a cook, hostess, and waitress.  I set up make-up at a drugstore.  I sold home goods.  I stayed at home with the kids and didn’t know what my career would be or if I’d be anything beyond a stay-at-home mom.  I decided I wanted to write.  But didn’t think of it as anything but play.  It was a hobby.  I didn’t think I was smart enough to be an actual writer.

I wrote because it was fulfilling me.  It was also an escape from the same day syndrome of cleaning, dishes, laundry, school pick up, talk about the weather.  Writing my novel opened up a world to me.  Once that door opened in my mind, writing fiction lead me to writing blogs.  I gave author talks and realized I could actually teach what I’ve learned.  Being open to play and not being afraid to work means the world is my oyster.  I’ve taken my writings and saw they belonged in a few books…which are to come.  My first non-fiction book will be coming out January 8th and I am getting more excited by the day.  I love inspiring, uplifting, and empowering others.  I am going to be able to work and play my whole life.  Writing is both.  What about you?  What can you do that is both work and play?

These are the days of our lives

posted by jperry

I remember watching this soap back in the 80’s and loved that there was a character named Jennifer. I also remember Kim Delaney being on All My Children, playing a character named Jenny. I loved being home from school to catch all the good TV. From game shows to talk shows and my soaps I watched from 12:30-4:00 on ABC and then the Oprah Winfrey show would come on. If we did have DVR back then, I maybe would have never left my room. I was a TV lover. Now, I’m so picky. I am on the internet a lot though and can waste a lot of time when I research something. I fall down the rabbit hole of google and time flies.

The difference is that I get to control what I search, versus watching a soap that pulled you into drama. I will admit to watching the Real Houewives, but I am not a drama junkie. I used to be. I am a peace seeker now…

Oh, the glamorous life…I was trying to finish this blog yesterday, but the baby threw up and life got crazy.  When a kid is sick, we stop everything.  She’s fine today.  Thank God.

I’m designing a program and working on the finishing touches for my book  Sexpot With Stretch Marks to come out January 8th, and doing a bazillion other things while raising five kids.  As a work at home as blogger/writer/entrepreneur and more, I am 24/7.  Lesson here is we must have time to play.  I don’t know what the point I was going to make yesterday except to cherish all of the days of our lives.  I have the busy disease and need to learn to not volunteer to do things or to say no more often…or yes to only the right things.  Good news is the holidays force me to focus on the important things with the kids and make lots of memories.  As I was typing this, I had to stop, throw on my referee jersey because my seven year came into the room crying because my four year old bit him for changing the channel.  Sometimes I live in chaos, so I do cherish the yummy, holiday moments as well as the everyday hugs and smiles, of course.  I make life look easy at times in blogging and on social media I suppose, because I focus on the positive when I am writing.  It’s hard to do all the things I do sometimes.  Scheduling in some special family time and some special me time this week.

Maybe we will talk about adding another family tradition this year to the Holiday season, which will be from Thanksgiving until the kids go back after Christmas break.  My eighteenth wedding anniversary is on January 4th and my book come about the 8th.  2015 is gonna rock!  Going to not set resolutions but something like blisslutions.  Maybe bliss will be the theme of the whole new year.  Makes me think of Edie Weinstein, my fellow Beliefnet blogger.  Check out her blog, The Bliss Blog.  We all need those reminders to follow your bliss.

As Joseph Campbell said:
Follow your bliss.
If you do follow your bliss,
you put yourself on a kind of track
that has been there all the while waiting for you,
and the life you ought to be living
is the one you are living.
When you can see that,
you begin to meet people
who are in the field of your bliss,
and they open the doors to you.
I say, follow your bliss and don’t be afraid,
and doors will open
where you didn’t know they were going to be.
If you follow your bliss,
doors will open for you that wouldn’t have opened for anyone else.”

All the days of our lives…we should follow our bliss.

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