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Is it Spring yet?

posted by jperry

It’s Sunday afternoon here in New Jersey. Yesterday it was raining and the temps are in the 30’s. Today is a freakish 50 degrees.  Tomorrow night they are calling for a blizzard.  Snow days make kids crazy!  At least here they do. Is it Spring yet?  Not even close.

It’s the end of January, which means we still gave few months until Spring. Thank God for Valentine’s Day and St. Patrick’s Day for something to celebrate.  I’m a sunshine and beach girl who would rather live somewhere warm and know I will end up there at some point.  What I like about Winter is Christmas, the boots, my kids’ birthdays (3 out of 4 are winter babies), velvet, cool coats, and hearty foods.  I am a make the best of it girl.  Sitting by the fireplace and drink a cup of hot tea is the remedy.

Wishing for things to be different is good for dream manifesting, goal setting, vision board type stuff.  But accepting what is, the present moment is key.  As a parent, I have lots of pooping in the pants, tantrum throwing, messy moments and most of the time this is my children doing this luckily and not me.  But I’m human, so yes I have thrown a tantrum.  Mom tantrums, or meltdowns, I bet are more frequent in the winter when kids are stuck inside or schedules are action-packed.  But then again, in the summer the kids get bored and naturally get on each others nerves and mine.  I still take that warm weather and the freedom of a schedule over cold and windy days.

Maybe I am secretly a Southern California girl anyway.  I love the vibe and the food for sure.  People say you wouldn’t appreciate the Spring as much without the Winter.  I think sometimes they say that to make themselves feel better.  At least I have when I’ve said it.  I wonder if that’s like in life.  If you didn’t have those not so fun moments with your kids, would you appreciate the happy, sunny moments as much?

My winter feel good tips are:
1. Get out in nature or at least take drive on sunny days.  Sit by a window and let the sun bathe you.
2. Music is a healer.  Listen daily.
3. Exercise daily to keep that good energy flowing.
4. Meditate and journal.  Light a candle and set intentions, say a prayer or blessing.
5. Hug someone or something (like pet).  Human touch is sacred and creates good hormones.

My mantra is:  Every day is a bright day as I choose it.

Blessings to all.  Let’s envision sunshine and be a Light in the world.

Forgive to Be Free

posted by jperry

Yesterday I didn’t get to post because I was trying to referee all day with my kids stuck in the house.  It’s Winter in New Jersey. This includes wind and a lot of inside time where I reflect on a lot.  I wanted to touch on two things today. One of which was the great man, Martin Luther King, we celebrated yesterday.  The second is forgiveness.

Martin Luther King taught us all to believe in our dreams. That one person can change the world. That the whole business of racism was and will always be insane. That we should not judge others by the color of their skin or anything but the content of their character. Equality in every way is higher consciousness. If we feel the need to put others down of another group, causing us versus them mentality, therefore separating ourselves from “them,” it is OUR problem. Thinking we elevate ourselves by looking down on others only separates us from our own Divine Source. To be enlightened is to walk in the Light, which means you look for the Light in others and know that souls are not a color. Love hearts and rise above the media which is only skin deep.

This concept of forgiveness is misunderstood.  Forgiveness is not about being weak, a doormat or pushover. The seeming to let things go easily when it’s just stifling emotions and resentment is different. It’s people pleaser behavior that is in the mind.

Truly detaching from the energy of a person, place, or thing, rising about it literally into a higher realm of understanding is true forgiveness of the soul. It’s not about being nice, it’s about being free. It could almost be looked at as selfish, to just want to feel good and not be weighed down, to just feel one with the Divine.

This is powerful warrior level, only it’s not hard edged, but rather softer and always just as strong. It’s resilient and flexible like a the trees that sway in epic storms, that peaceful goddess embodiment vibe. It’s badass. It’s beautiful. It’s living beyond blame and rather in one’s own truth.

Prayers to all this morning. A lot of struggles I see and feel you are going through. Know that you are all Divinely loved and supported. Take it in. Nothing to earn it. The love is from Spirit and is always there if you are willing and open to see it. Be a Love Light whenever you can. Kindness, forgiveness, and compassion are strengths of the soul for the truly brave. Namaste and blessings.

Tennis Anyone?

posted by jperry

I played tennis in high school. I never won a match. My doubles partner would get so frustrated. She once even threw her racket. I just kept trying. I took private tennis lessons for years and wanted so badly to be good because my Dad loves tennis. I liked it, but I just wasn’t good. I would get scared and I wasn’t aggressive. I was afraid of looking dumb or weak constantly. I pretty much felt awkward until I was 34 really. I liked tennis, but I was really trying to find a worth. To have a value. I didn’t think I was smart, so school I wasn’t going to be exemplary there. I felt less than. I needed to increase my low value. I became bulimic in that quest. If I could be thin enough, I would have value. You see, my friends, this body stuff goes back to even when I was teased at age 10.

I was always either on a journey to be more or escape my feelings. Writing my experiences became a liberation. I, in effect, rewrote my story. You always can folks. You are the author. No matter how bad you have felt about yourself in the past, there is the present which is a gift you get to decide what to do with. Rock your best self. Your value is immeasurable. It is priceless. I’m not saying you have to quit tennis, but maybe try out others like writing. Don’t be afraid. Look at life like an adventure. You will look foolish at times, but it’s so worth it.

You get to question right now how the story has been going.  Were you stuck on being a victim, bad at tennis, not smart enough to do something?  People can take the past dramas, hurtful words of others, family projections of their own limitations and wind up repeating the story over and over again unconsciously.  It’s sabotage, but the worse kind, self-sabotage.  I know it well.  I was the Queen.  I thought so many different things I do not belief anymore.  I wrote two books.  I didn’t finish college.  I went from self-loathing to self-loving.  I knew how to lose weight, because diet and exercise do work, but they don’t guarantee even in the slightest that you will like yourself.   I retrained myself through not just reading the books, but stepping outside my comfort zone, and repetition.  I did things differently than I had before,  therefore changing the future.  I also healed my past.  Forgiveness for myself and others, leaving regret, shame, and guilt out of my story.  Fear and doubt terrorized my mind in the past. I brought in the big guns, peace, love, and joy.  Every day, I put energy in me and I put it out there into the world as well.  It’s like a piggy bank.  What I put into it, I get out of it.  Try it.  Focus on what you want.  To think experience, feel, and be what you actually do want versus do not want.  Life starts again in each moment as a reset.  Don’t wait for Monday mornings.

The Valley of Boring or Peace

posted by jperry

I launched my book “Sexpot With Stretch Marks”  a week ago today.  It went #1 over the weekend.  I’ve done some press and will continue to as well. Today was like a day off in that I had no clients or interviews.  When you live your passion though, you are never off, because you like being on.

My husband and I did a health screening at his work which lowers our health insurance cost.  We both scored flying colors and we compare our numbers, which I won all categories this time.   The woman conducting the testing was in awe of my scores.  I guess it was not the norm.  She said, “Keep doing whatever you’re doing.”  So wine and chocolate it is.  Seriously.  But all those numbers don’t matter if you don’t feel good.  Feeling good is mind-body-spirit.  I love life.

It was a valley in between that epic high with my book until the next one.  I don’t chase the highs.  I embrace them and peace as well.   It could be boring.  I don’t get bored easily.  Occasionally I’ll wish I was doing something fun of a Saturday night.  But then I realize it’s cold out and I’d rather in my pj’s.  Every day, I consider an adventure.  As I was driving to pick up my son from preschool, Prince came on the radio.  I blasted it of course.  I saw a Mack truck with a cursive “P” on the front.  As in my last name, but also for passion and purpose.  Those are what I’m all about.  I have a passion for life.  I also saw a “Baby On Board” sticker on someone’s car like from back in the day.  This one read “Baby Jedi On Board” which was so cool because we are big Star Wars fans here.

On the way home, “Bootylicious” by Destiny’s Child came on.   I went into this hand waving, neck moving like chicken thing and I could feel my for year old son’s eyes on me, which said…What is she doing?  Is that dancing.  Oh, I’m embarrassed for her.  I love car dancing.  Embarrassing them is my JOB.  I also forgot that I saw a heart shaped sludge mark in the parking garage of my husband’s work.  I had to post a picture to Instagram.  I also took pictures of  a chandelier which I would love to own, or wear.  I’m not kidding there.  They had light up trees in Brookstone which brought me joy, one in pink, one in blue, and one in red.  One day.  I got Starbucks Oprah Chai Latte with Organic Soymilk.  The sun was out.  It was an extraordinary day.  And we are having pizza for dinner.   I also have on my black fringe boots which make me feel like a rockstar.

My one year old is in my lap as I type this, she sucks her thumb and holds my hair in her hand.  Her smile is the world.  My kids are my joys.  It’s these little things.  It’s those combined with my life’s purpose to empower women that make my life feel so whole.  In the Valleys, are peace and they are never boring if you keep your eyes open.

 

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