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Fun flu

posted by jperry

This week was partially a fog.

On Monday, my teenage son had ingrown toenail surgery on both big toes. Afterwards I did blizzard prep shopping as we were expecting almost a foot and a half of snow starting Tuesday.  They cancelled school and closed the restaurant my husband works at for the day…actually the day before the storm that never happened. I’m not complaining. I’m over snow. I like winter clothes, but I hate being cold. I had client sessions. Hubby got a new tattoo. (Still needs work on it.) My youngest son had a fever and tested positive for the flu. Middle son had gotten over being sick. Then baby had a fever but tested negative for the flu. This morning my oldest son tested positive for the flu and has a fever. So four out of five kids have been sick this week. Life coaches may have great tools, but life happens to them too. I resisted reality a few times in worry as a mom. I had to center in trust a few times very intensely.

It’s the times when you just want to wish away the day. When the kids are fighting or sick, I wish I could fast forward. Times of fun, I wish I could pause.  There was even more craziest in the week, but you get the point.  It wasn’t the best on in our history. But it wasn’t the worst.  My brain is a little mushy now and I’m taking some R & R.  I don’t really know what that means but I’m being slower and more peaceful.  I will make sure I have fun at some point today though.  Hey, at least I showered.

I started writing because it was fun. I started coaching because it was fun.  These are two things I can do in my sleep.  I love fulfilling my purpose.  But when MomWorld gets intense, you must do minimal to conserve energy.  I don’t need to do everything…or even perfect or right.  Some people may have perfect lives, but I don’t know if that’s real and with five kids is possible.  My kids all have big personalities.  Wonder where they get that from?

As the baby finally naps on my lap, I finish this blog and ask…
“What do I want to create?”

Setting intentions for a peaceful evening with my kids.  I want to be more present with them than I have been before.  When there is sickness that rolls through the family, you cherish health.  I will have even more gratitude for all of my blessings.  I could complain about a lot of other things that happened this week that were inconvenient, stressful, annoying, and not what I wanted.   What would that do?  A victim has no power.  A goddess always has power.  She thinks of solutions, possibilities, silver linings, and hot the Universe has always got her back.

No matter kind of week you had, no mater what is going on, stop…
Regroup only after you let go.

Deep breath.
Release the tension and the questions.

Breathe in God and the answers.
Exhale whatever no longer serves you.

Blessings to all.

Is it Spring yet?

posted by jperry

It’s Sunday afternoon here in New Jersey. Yesterday it was raining and the temps are in the 30’s. Today is a freakish 50 degrees.  Tomorrow night they are calling for a blizzard.  Snow days make kids crazy!  At least here they do. Is it Spring yet?  Not even close.

It’s the end of January, which means we still gave few months until Spring. Thank God for Valentine’s Day and St. Patrick’s Day for something to celebrate.  I’m a sunshine and beach girl who would rather live somewhere warm and know I will end up there at some point.  What I like about Winter is Christmas, the boots, my kids’ birthdays (3 out of 4 are winter babies), velvet, cool coats, and hearty foods.  I am a make the best of it girl.  Sitting by the fireplace and drink a cup of hot tea is the remedy.

Wishing for things to be different is good for dream manifesting, goal setting, vision board type stuff.  But accepting what is, the present moment is key.  As a parent, I have lots of pooping in the pants, tantrum throwing, messy moments and most of the time this is my children doing this luckily and not me.  But I’m human, so yes I have thrown a tantrum.  Mom tantrums, or meltdowns, I bet are more frequent in the winter when kids are stuck inside or schedules are action-packed.  But then again, in the summer the kids get bored and naturally get on each others nerves and mine.  I still take that warm weather and the freedom of a schedule over cold and windy days.

Maybe I am secretly a Southern California girl anyway.  I love the vibe and the food for sure.  People say you wouldn’t appreciate the Spring as much without the Winter.  I think sometimes they say that to make themselves feel better.  At least I have when I’ve said it.  I wonder if that’s like in life.  If you didn’t have those not so fun moments with your kids, would you appreciate the happy, sunny moments as much?

My winter feel good tips are:
1. Get out in nature or at least take drive on sunny days.  Sit by a window and let the sun bathe you.
2. Music is a healer.  Listen daily.
3. Exercise daily to keep that good energy flowing.
4. Meditate and journal.  Light a candle and set intentions, say a prayer or blessing.
5. Hug someone or something (like pet).  Human touch is sacred and creates good hormones.

My mantra is:  Every day is a bright day as I choose it.

Blessings to all.  Let’s envision sunshine and be a Light in the world.

Forgive to Be Free

posted by jperry

Yesterday I didn’t get to post because I was trying to referee all day with my kids stuck in the house.  It’s Winter in New Jersey. This includes wind and a lot of inside time where I reflect on a lot.  I wanted to touch on two things today. One of which was the great man, Martin Luther King, we celebrated yesterday.  The second is forgiveness.

Martin Luther King taught us all to believe in our dreams. That one person can change the world. That the whole business of racism was and will always be insane. That we should not judge others by the color of their skin or anything but the content of their character. Equality in every way is higher consciousness. If we feel the need to put others down of another group, causing us versus them mentality, therefore separating ourselves from “them,” it is OUR problem. Thinking we elevate ourselves by looking down on others only separates us from our own Divine Source. To be enlightened is to walk in the Light, which means you look for the Light in others and know that souls are not a color. Love hearts and rise above the media which is only skin deep.

This concept of forgiveness is misunderstood.  Forgiveness is not about being weak, a doormat or pushover. The seeming to let things go easily when it’s just stifling emotions and resentment is different. It’s people pleaser behavior that is in the mind.

Truly detaching from the energy of a person, place, or thing, rising about it literally into a higher realm of understanding is true forgiveness of the soul. It’s not about being nice, it’s about being free. It could almost be looked at as selfish, to just want to feel good and not be weighed down, to just feel one with the Divine.

This is powerful warrior level, only it’s not hard edged, but rather softer and always just as strong. It’s resilient and flexible like a the trees that sway in epic storms, that peaceful goddess embodiment vibe. It’s badass. It’s beautiful. It’s living beyond blame and rather in one’s own truth.

Prayers to all this morning. A lot of struggles I see and feel you are going through. Know that you are all Divinely loved and supported. Take it in. Nothing to earn it. The love is from Spirit and is always there if you are willing and open to see it. Be a Love Light whenever you can. Kindness, forgiveness, and compassion are strengths of the soul for the truly brave. Namaste and blessings.

Tennis Anyone?

posted by jperry

I played tennis in high school. I never won a match. My doubles partner would get so frustrated. She once even threw her racket. I just kept trying. I took private tennis lessons for years and wanted so badly to be good because my Dad loves tennis. I liked it, but I just wasn’t good. I would get scared and I wasn’t aggressive. I was afraid of looking dumb or weak constantly. I pretty much felt awkward until I was 34 really. I liked tennis, but I was really trying to find a worth. To have a value. I didn’t think I was smart, so school I wasn’t going to be exemplary there. I felt less than. I needed to increase my low value. I became bulimic in that quest. If I could be thin enough, I would have value. You see, my friends, this body stuff goes back to even when I was teased at age 10.

I was always either on a journey to be more or escape my feelings. Writing my experiences became a liberation. I, in effect, rewrote my story. You always can folks. You are the author. No matter how bad you have felt about yourself in the past, there is the present which is a gift you get to decide what to do with. Rock your best self. Your value is immeasurable. It is priceless. I’m not saying you have to quit tennis, but maybe try out others like writing. Don’t be afraid. Look at life like an adventure. You will look foolish at times, but it’s so worth it.

You get to question right now how the story has been going.  Were you stuck on being a victim, bad at tennis, not smart enough to do something?  People can take the past dramas, hurtful words of others, family projections of their own limitations and wind up repeating the story over and over again unconsciously.  It’s sabotage, but the worse kind, self-sabotage.  I know it well.  I was the Queen.  I thought so many different things I do not belief anymore.  I wrote two books.  I didn’t finish college.  I went from self-loathing to self-loving.  I knew how to lose weight, because diet and exercise do work, but they don’t guarantee even in the slightest that you will like yourself.   I retrained myself through not just reading the books, but stepping outside my comfort zone, and repetition.  I did things differently than I had before,  therefore changing the future.  I also healed my past.  Forgiveness for myself and others, leaving regret, shame, and guilt out of my story.  Fear and doubt terrorized my mind in the past. I brought in the big guns, peace, love, and joy.  Every day, I put energy in me and I put it out there into the world as well.  It’s like a piggy bank.  What I put into it, I get out of it.  Try it.  Focus on what you want.  To think experience, feel, and be what you actually do want versus do not want.  Life starts again in each moment as a reset.  Don’t wait for Monday mornings.

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