A Reason to Smile

A Reason to Smile

Racism and the Law of Attraction (Video)

posted by B. Dave Walters

“I love America more than any other country in the world, and, exactly for this reason, I insist on the right to criticize her perpetually.”
-James Baldwin

That's all there is to it!

That’s all there is to it!

Question submitted via Formspring:
“Hi, I am trying to find a way to apply the Law of Attraction to the police shooting of Micheal Brown. I am a black woman who has known racism, how do I understand this? I don’t want to harbor hatred but it is hard not too. I have also have a son.”

I’ve been doing this for a long time now, and I always make it a point that you can ask me anything, you can even ask anonymously.  And I’ll either reply directly, I’ll write an article, do a video, or talk about it on the radio.  This is one of those rare times that I’ll do all of the above.

In the video below, I finally weigh in on Ferguson and New York, as well as where racism comes from and how the Law of Attraction can be used to counter it!

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I realized afterwards, that there’s was more to say about it (there’s always more to say about, unfortunately), so we talked about this again on a recent episode of Rise UP with B. Dave Walters, which ended up being a Law of Attraction master class, along with:

How the Law of Attraction can be used to change the world and heal rifts like in Ferguson and in New York. Why your goals aren’t manifesting, and how to get out of your own way so that they will, And, how you can start *today* building 2015 into the best year of your life, and much, much, more!

So here in this article, I want to deal with the specific question of how to apply the Law of Attraction to major issues like this, all while avoiding allowing bitterness to overtake you.  So as always, let us break this down into pieces:

You are a black woman.
You have experienced racism, and are trying to understand what happened.
You don’t want to harbor hatred in your heart, but you’re concerned because:
You have a son yourself.

A point I made in the video, as well as on the radio that I’m a large black male in America, which makes me about two steps away from being a large black bear.  Also, being from Little Rock, Arkansas, means I have experienced almost every shape and flavor of racism and intolerance you can imagine.  And yes, it will wear you down if you let it.  So as for how you manage it, a few things.

First, you said you’ve experienced racism, but you counter that with all the examples you’ve had dealing with people who didn’t behave negatively at all.   If I run into someone who’s rude to me, my initial assumption is that they are having a bad day.  My second assumption is maybe they are just a jerk.  A very distant third is they’re a racist.  Remember, the more you look for something, the more you tend to see it…even when it’s not really there.  Especially when it’s not really there!

If you don’t want to hold on to hatred, the simple answer is: Don’t.

Never forget that police are human beings. And because of that, there are good ones and there are bad ones, and even good ones make mistakes. There are bullies and there are heroes, and all too often it’s the bad eggs that get all the attention. Not unlike the brakes on a car, no one notices when they are working properly, but EVERYONE knows when they aren’t.

Buddha said holding on to anger with the intent of hurting someone else, is like picking up a hot coal with the intention of throwing it: You are the one who gets burned.  And while some anger can be good—as long as it prompts us into healthy action—bitterness is a poison that hurts you, and ends up spilling onto the ones you love.  While we cannot let injustice go unchallenged, we also can’t let bitterness take over, or the haters win. And the haters must never, ever, win.

And you help yourself by letting your son know there is bad in the world, but that there is FAR more good!  Teach him to be a good person, and to stand up for what is right; and to show him as many examples as you can of other people doing the same.  Never forget that now and always, there is much more that unites us than separates us, and we are all in this together.

There is and always will be darkness and injustice in this world.  You don’t beat darkness by allowing it into your heart; you beat it by letting your own light shine brighter.

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How to finally attract what you want (VIDEO)

posted by B. Dave Walters
Don't wait!

Don’t wait!

“Do not wait: the time will never be ‘just right’. Start where you stand, and work whatever tools you may have at your command and better tools will be found as you go along.”
― Napoleon Hill

As of the time of this writing, New Years is around two weeks away.  Soon, people all over the world will be making their New Year’s resolutions…lists of changes they intend to make, that quite frankly won’t happen.

But why?

Why is it that we set these huge goals that we don’t reach, and more importantly, how can we make sure this year is different from all the ones that came before?

On a recent episode of All About You with B. Dave Walters—the BEST show about *you* on the internet!—we talked about mastering change:

Why you aren’t attracting what you want, and how to change it, and how to make this coming year the best of your life! I also tell you how I managed to make more progress in 2014 than in the last few years combined!

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Now we’ve talked before about what to do if you don’t know what to do with your life , and what to do to have your breakthrough, so here in this article I want to talk about why most people’s resolutions fall flat.

Because you don’t really want those things; not REALLY.  We make resolutions at New Years because we are ‘supposed’ to.  And more than becoming the dream shopping list from the Universe that our goals should be, they end up turning into an opportunity to beat up on ourselves.  I feel fat, so I ‘should’ work out.  I feel broke, so I ‘should’ make more money.  I feel lonely, so I ‘should’ get out there and meet people.  But any ‘should’ is never going to happen; only our MUSTS happen.

Now it’s true that all human action is based on one of two things: To gain pleasure, or avoid pain.  And as such, there can be some value in setting goals to move away from what you don’t want, but it’s less effective than moving towards what you DO want.  For instance, let’s say you set that goal that pretty much everyone has of getting into better shape.  If you make it about running from ‘feeling fat’ and whatever negative judgments  you have associated with that, then any time you miss a workout or fall short on your diet, you’ll use it as ammunition to beat up on yourself and feel even worse.

However, if you make the goal about what you are trying to achieve, such as how good it will feel to get back into your old jeans, how fantastic it is to be able to do something that you once couldn’t, how great it is to feel confident and strong…and the ego boost of turning heads when you walk by, then working out and sticking to your diet becomes easy, and when you fall short, you’ll just get up and get back on track.  No drama required.

As a side note, if you do plan on getting into better shape—which you should, since there’s no greater investment than you can make in your own health—I highly recommend BeachBody’s programs. You can change your life in 30 minutes a day, but like anything, they only work if you do!  If you have questions or need help getting started, shoot a message to my good friend Coach John Tantillo and he can help you get started. http://johntfitness.com/

Another reason why people’s goals don’t manifest is they don’t give themselves permission to want what they want.  They feel guilty for dreaming big, or worry about what other people will say, to which I tell you: It doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks.  What matters is that you look in the mirror and like what you see.

Who cares if the entire world approves of your life, if you are unhappy with it?

And finally, the biggest reason people’s goals don’t manifest is because they don’t DO anything to make them manifest!  Remember the Law of GOYA: Get Off Your A! Nothing changes until you do, and if you’ve set the right goal, one that makes you feel 60% excited and 40% terrified, then putting in the work becomes easy.  But remember, do something every single day that gets you closer to what you are trying to be, do, or have.  Every day…no exceptions!

Losing a pound a week might not seem like much, but that’s 52 pounds in a year.  Writing one page a day is a novel in 6 months.  Running another mile a week is a marathon in around 7 months. Slow and steady wins the race, so don’t quit.

And above all else: Don’t wait!  Don’t wait for January 1, show the Universe you are serious by starting NOW! 6 Months from now, you’ll wish you started today, so get to it; trust me, you’ll be glad you did.

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Q&A: “I’m trying to smile, but I’ve hit rock bottom….”

posted by B. Dave Walters

Question submitted via Formspring:
“Hello, I am on the journey of my life moving leaving everything i know to move to NYC by myself. I had to stay in a shelter and am still here. I

Rock bottom is a firm foundation to begin again!

have a job but the main reason for coming here was to evolve into a respected actor and writer. Haven’t got anything done and just living in a routine of work and back to the shelter. I need my training but can’t afford it. I’m going have to spend the holidays in here. Not to mention my continuous failure with women. My confidence in everything is at a bottom and I refuse to call my mom for support. I just know i need to change because who i am is a weak beans. People see me as angry or sad. I’m doing my best to smile through but I’m at bottom and don’t know what to do.”

I understand your frustration, so let’s see what we can do. First, let’s break this down into pieces:
You moved to NYC by yourself (bravo!), but you’ve been staying in a shelter.
Your goal is to be a writer and an actor, but you’ve been stuck in the routine of surviving.
You know you need training to improve, but can’t afford it.
You’ll be in the shelter for the holidays (how long have you been there?)
You can’t get a date.
Your confidence is at bottom, but you don’t want to ask your mom for help.
You come across as angry and sad, and don’t know how to change.

Well, my first question would be: Where did you intend to stay when you arrived, and why aren’t you there now?  Although it may be you didn’t have a place lined up, and at least you have a roof over your head, so that’s a good place to start.  I’m actually going to jump ahead a bit to the point about not wanting to ask for help.  Really, you’ve got two choices: Ask, since if you need help, you need help; it happens to absolutely all of us sometimes.  There are two things I can tell you for certain do not exist: The Self-Made Man and the Overnight Success.  Everyone needs a hand sometimes.

However, if you DON’T want to ask for help, then you have to admit this is what you are choosing for yourself and stop resisting it.  That’s like being sad about being trapped in a cage that locks from the inside; if your current state is preferable to calling home, then it must not be ALL bad.  Only you can decide if that is you being courageous, or blinded by your ego.  You might get an earful from her, but words can’t hurt you, and that’s part of what makes Mom, Mom.

Now, whether or not you choose to ask for help: If your goal is to be a writer, write.  Do something every single day that’s going to get you closer to your goal.  That’s what no one tells you about pursuing your dreams: It’s a long, hard, climb.  But writing is an individual sport, no one is stopping you from practicing but you.  Even acting can be done by yourself if you are acting out scenes.  You can choose to look at this time like Thoreau’s time in the woods, when you can focus on honing your craft completely free from distractions.

Now you need training but can’t afford it, which happens.  The solution there is, start looking for a better job.  Don’t quit the one you’ve got, but start keeping your eyes open for the next thing.  Craigslist is fantastic for job hunting.  Because the day to day grind of surviving can and will consume you if you let it.  You have to consciously decide to put your foot down and make your creative work your focus, which your job exists to support.  Otherwise it will always be a ‘someday maybe’ goal.

As for the girls, I’ve got some bad news for you, man: Girls tend not to like sad, angry guys living in shelters; unless they are equally sad and angry, of course.  This is a time to focus on YOURSELF, and taking the next step in your journey.  The solution to how you feel right now is absolutely not going to come from another person; it will come from you and you alone.

“There is nothing outside of yourself that can ever enable you to get better, stronger, richer, quicker, or smarter. Everything is within. Everything exists. Seek nothing outside of yourself.”― Miyamoto Musashi, The Book of Five Rings

The way to stop being angry and sad…here are 3 simple rules for a happy life.

One other thing, I highly, *highly* recommend you read the Meditations by Marcus Aurelius; it’s some of the best advice ever give for enduring tough times.

In the end, this is the path you chose for yourself, and if you believe it is truly what you are meant to do, then you have to see it through to its conclusion.  And if you don’t believe it’s what you’re meant to be doing, do something else instead.  There’s nothing to be angry about; everything is under your control!

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A crash course in creativity

posted by B. Dave Walters
Good advice!

Good advice!

In honor of the National Novel Writing Month (www.nanowrimo.org), in which we are all challenged to write a 50,000 word novel in a month, I wanted to put together a very quick crash course in creative writing.  I can tell you having finished my book is the accomplishment I’m most proud of, there’s nothing quite so fulfilling as having done something you didn’t think you could, and overcoming all the obstacles and laziness that try to get in the way. I wish nothing more for you than having this feeling for yourself, so join up! Yes, I know you’re busy, but we’re all busy; we all have 168 hours a week to work with, so jump in; if not now, when?

Although I think the spirit of the challenge is to just get a rough draft done, the number one thing you can do to make the process easier, is the very same thing that will make your book that much better: Having a solid structure.  I can’t think of anything that will torpedo your chances of finishing on time faster than just sitting down at the keyboard and writing whatever pops into your head.  That is a recipe for hard days when you have no inspiration, and a novel that lags and wanders all over the place.

So the way to counter this is through having your structure and the ‘beats’ (high points) of your story figured out in advance.  Once you have decided on the beats, filling in the events in between them because easy.  Once you have that, you have your story’s skeleton, so fleshing it out becomes easy.

Well, easier.

The best structure I’ve found was written by Blake Snyder in his book Save the Cat.  Although the structure was intended for screenplays, I’ve applied it just as easily to short stories, comic books, and more.  You can find a quick overview of it here, although I *highly* recommend you read the whole book.  If you want to be a better writer, it really is the place to start.

Now that you have the structure in place, you’ll want to be clear on some of the details you want to include in the story.  Pixar’s 22 Rules of Storytelling will give you some quick guidelines for telling a story that people will remember.  Again, these rules were primarily aimed a film, but they are just as true about writing fiction:

#1: You admire a character for trying more than for their successes.

#2: You gotta keep in mind what’s interesting to you as an audience, not what’s fun to do as a writer. They can be v. different.

#3: Trying for theme is important, but you won’t see what the story is actually about til you’re at the end of it. Now rewrite.

#4: Once upon a time there was ___. Every day, ___. One day ___. Because of that, ___. Because of that, ___. Until finally ___.

#5: Simplify. Focus. Combine characters. Hop over detours. You’ll feel like you’re losing valuable stuff but it sets you free.

#6: What is your character good at, comfortable with? Throw the polar opposite at them. Challenge them. How do they deal?

#7: Come up with your ending before you figure out your middle. Seriously. Endings are hard, get yours working up front.

#8: Finish your story, let go even if it’s not perfect. In an ideal world you have both, but move on. Do better next time.

#9: When you’re stuck, make a list of what WOULDN’T happen next. Lots of times the material to get you unstuck will show up.

#10: Pull apart the stories you like. What you like in them is a part of you; you’ve got to recognize it before you can use it.

#11: Putting it on paper lets you start fixing it. If it stays in your head, a perfect idea, you’ll never share it with anyone.

#12: Discount the 1st thing that comes to mind. And the 2nd, 3rd, 4th, 5th – get the obvious out of the way. Surprise yourself.

#13: Give your characters opinions. Passive/malleable might seem likable to you as you write, but it’s poison to the audience.

#14: Why must you tell THIS story? What’s the belief burning within you that your story feeds off of? That’s the heart of it.

#15: If you were your character, in this situation, how would you feel? Honesty lends credibility to unbelievable situations.

#16: What are the stakes? Give us reason to root for the character. What happens if they don’t succeed? Stack the odds against.

#17: No work is ever wasted. If it’s not working, let go and move on – it’ll come back around to be useful later.

#18: You have to know yourself: the difference between doing your best & fussing. Story is testing, not refining.

#19: Coincidences to get characters into trouble are great; coincidences to get them out of it are cheating.

#20: Exercise: take the building blocks of a movie you dislike. How d’you rearrange them into what you DO like?

#21: You gotta identify with your situation/characters, can’t just write ‘cool’. What would make YOU act that way?

#22: What’s the essence of your story? Most economical telling of it? If you know that, you can build out from there.

And one last point,  from Kurt Vonnegut’s 8 Rules for Writing Fiction:

1. Use the time of a total stranger in such a way that he or she will not feel the time was wasted.
2. Give the reader at least one character he or she can root for.
3. Every character should want something, even if it is only a glass of water.
4. Every sentence must do one of two things — reveal character or advance the action.
     *Note, you can also reveal theme, aka what the story is about.
5. Start as close to the end as possible.
6. Be a sadist. Now matter how sweet and innocent your leading characters, make awful things happen to them — in order            that the reader may see what they are made of.
7. Write to please just one person. If you open a window and make love to the world, so to speak, your story will get                              pneumonia.
8. Give your readers as much information as possible as soon as possible. To heck with suspense. Readers should have such         complete understanding of what is going on, where and why, that they could finish the story themselves, should                               cockroaches eat the last few pages.

And there you have it!  It’s very possible you can (and hopefully will) spend the rest of your life honing your skills as a story teller, but this is the fastest, firmest foundation I can possibly give to someone just starting out.  Now go write something amazing, and remember to thank me in the introduction.  I’ll see you at the finish line!

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The bad news about pursuing your dreams

posted by B. Dave Walters
It's a marathon, not a sprint!

It’s a marathon, not a sprint!

We talked recently about what to do to have you breakthrough, and soon afterwards a friend contacted me about a hang up he’s having.  Essentially, he’s been in action towards achieving his goals, but his emotions have been all over the place.  I share this with you, since even though we were talking about him breaking in as an actor, everything I said to him will apply to most anyone, going after most anything.

Here is the question he sent me via Facebook:
“I have an upcoming meeting with big casting director. It’s my action/ leap of faith (law of attraction) towards my goal of being an actor and even more specifically being cast on one of the shows she casts for. The closer time gets the more scared and full of doubt i become. These feelings are not only affecting my belief and confidence in that area but they are simultaneously affecting me in other aspects of life. I desire love, peace and happiness, but feeling as if i will never obtain those things. I’m just really confused. Its one of those things that has been off and on for me. One day I’m good feeling hopeful, and  the next i feel like these things are out of my reach.”

I responded with:
I’ve got some bad news, and some good news for you: The bad news is, this one meeting is *probably* not going to be the big break that launches your career. It may be, sure; but far more likely it will be another brick in the path. Don’t look at it as your one big hope, or you’ll feel like a fool if nothing major comes out of it. If you look at it as a chance to meet some people, get your feet wet in the industry, and hopefully learn some things, then you’ll go home happy no matter what.

And, a little more bad news: It is HARD to break in. It’s hard to pick yourself up every time you get knocked down, and keep climbing that hill. And the truth is, the vast, vast, *vast* majority of people who try to break in won’t make it. BUT, they won’t make it because they don’t do what it takes, not because the opportunities don’t exist. So if you truly decide in your heart to set out down this path, understand that it’s a long uphill journey.

That’s the bad news.

The GOOD news, however, is it CAN be done. It’s true that people are breaking down every single day out here, but they’re also breaking *through* every day.

“The brick walls are there for a reason. The brick walls are not there to keep us out. The brick walls are there to give us a chance to show how badly we want something. Because the brick walls are there to stop the people who don’t want it badly enough. They’re there to stop the other people.” ― Randy Pausch, The Last Lecture

You have all the tools necessary to make it. It’s good that you’re feeling some fear, that means you understand that this thing is REAL! All you have to do is stay clear on what you want and why you want it, make a plan and stick with it. If you stay in motion, victory is guaranteed; it may take a week, it may take a year, it may take 10, but it WILL arrive.

I can tell you for sure though, there’s a certain peace that comes with knowing you’ve done your best, no matter what else happens. Plenty of other people will question you, and try to convince you to stay in your shell. And yes, they mean well; but the truth is, deep down you moving up takes away their excuses. The harder you struggle and the higher you climb, the more obvious it becomes that they are standing still. So they’ll try to pull you down, rather than pull themselves up.

Never forget that an object at rest tends to stay at rest.

One more thing: Love, peace, and happiness come from inside of you, not outside. You won’t find them in a career, a home, and definitely not in another person. You bring them with you wherever you go. Doing work you’re passionate about makes it EASIER to feel these things, yes. And the right relationship makes it possible to do more than you ever thought possible (but there’s no bigger anchor than being involved with the wrong person).

Just remember that your job is to be clear on what you want, WHY you want it, and to do something towards its attainment *every single day*. Enjoy the process because it IS a process, and I think you’ll find that as you move more into alignment with your bliss, the Universe will open up to you.

And yes, you’ll have some down days. You won’t always feel your absolute best; no one does. But rainy days on set in Hawaii are a lot easier to deal with than rainy days working at a coffee shop somewhere miserable!

I’ll leave you with one last thought:
“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat.” –President Teddy Roosevelt

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A full moon, a Blood Moon, and a Hunter’s moon; oh my!

posted by B. Dave Walters
Fire in the sky!

Fire in the sky!

Starting on October 8, his week will have a particularly powerful alignment when we have a Blood Moon, a Hunter’s Moon, AND a full moon in Aries will be happening all at once!  This is a particularly powerful alignment of energies, and here is how to make use of it rather than be burned up!

First and foremost, The Hunter/Harvest Moon is the first full moon after the Autumnal Equinox, signaling the real end of summer, and the time to gather the results of her efforts before the Earth goes to sleep.   This full moon is in Aries, which is bound to bring out a lot of energy and aggression; be careful not to lose your temper, or take things other people say too personally.

A “Blood Moon” is another name for a total lunar eclipse.  Eclipses always signal times of massive change; lunar eclipses tend to focus on matters of home and heart.  As always, this time of year is moving into the ‘darker’ times, when change tends to be more introspective; a time for planting seeds.  A combination of the inner energy of the eclipse with the outer energy of the full moon in Aries, may cause you to feel restless, frustrated, or like ‘enough is enough’; instead of becoming frustrated, channel that energy into making different choices and new plans that you can begin to put into motion.  Pay particular attention to any dreams you might have these next few days; you can learn a lot as long as you interpret them correctly!

One final note: Because of this unique (and complicated) combination of events, a lot of repressed energy in relationships will be coming to the forefront.  Hidden affairs, unexpressed love, and all things unsaid are going to be VERY close to the surface, and may bubble up with the slightest nudge.

Remember, a lot of inner turmoil going on; if possible, use this time to have open, heart-to-heart talks with your significant other (remember, if you can’t communicate, you don’t have a relationship!).  This can be a time of substantial breakthroughs in your inner and romantic lives…if you make the most of it!

And remember, if people seem to be acting like they are going a bit crazy, don’t take it personally…they are!

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What to do to have your breakthrough

posted by B. Dave Walters
From the Universe to you!

From the Universe to you!

“Believe and act as if it were impossible to fail.”
– Charles Kettering

As of this week, I’ll have been writing these articles for five years, and to celebrate, I want to share with you some of the most important things I’ve learned.

On a recent episode of Rise UP with B. Dave Walters I shared the ONE thing you need to do in order to be, do, or have, *anything*; why your goals aren’t manifesting, and what to do about it; how to give yourself permission to be happy and feel comfortable in your own skin, and much, much, more!

Now, for our purposes here, I have some good news and some bad news.  Some of the best and worst news you’ll ever hear, actually!  And that is this:

The bad news is, you have created everything in your life that you are unhappy with.  The good news, however, is that you have created everything in your life that you are unhappy with…which means you can create something better!

The mistake people often make is falling all over themselves to blame others, and justify their own lack of achievement.  But blaming others is quite possibly the worst habit you can form, since if you choose to believe the problem exists outside of yourself, then you are also saying the solution exists outside of yourself.  It makes you a cork bouncing on the waves of fate and chance, instead of being a battleship cruising towards what you want.

I’m pleased to report that over these last 5 years, I’ve achieved many things.  I’ve become a nationally syndicated columnist, written a book, become a talk radio host, a featured convention panelist, tripled my income, and many other things.

I have accomplished all of this by being clear on exactly what I want, and knowing that it’s up to me to do what it takes to make it happen.

So the most important thing that I have to share with you is this: Decide who you want to be, and do what you have to do.  Make a plan, and take action on it, no matter how small, every single day.  Learn to ask yourself when you wake up “what am I going to do today to get me closer to what I want?” And before you go to bed, ask yourself what you did that day, and what you intend to accomplish tomorrow.

Once you form the habit of doing SOMETHING every single day to get you closer to your goals, whatever it is that you want to be, do, or have, will show up faster than you can ever possibly imagine.

What do you think? Feel free to comment down below!

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How to make use of the Autumnal Equinox

posted by B. Dave Walters
Make the most of it!

Make the most of it!

September 23, 2014 marks the Autumnal Equinox, the second day of the year when day and night are exactly equal.

The Fall (Autumnal) Equinox is important, since it signifies the transition into the ‘dark cycle’ of the year:
“When the sun passes through the autumnal equinox, the evil forces of darkness are said to be ruling. On the three darkest days of the year, the sun is dead from December 21 to 24. His resurrection restarts on December 25, when the sun starts to ascend again.”

There’s a particularly interesting connection between the rising of the sun on December 25, and the story of Jesus Christ, which you can learn about here. For our purposes, this is in no way an ‘evil’ time, just like the Earth seems to go to sleep during this time in order to bring forth new life in the spring, it signifies the time for us to turn and look inwards in order to prepare ourselves for new growth.

What this means for you, is this is a especially powerful time to dedicate, or rededicate yourself to your spiritual practice.
Be it resolving to pray more often, meditate regularly, read the Bible from cover to cover in the next year, anything.

Now is the time, today is the day!

This window will stay open for roughly three days or so but the most powerful opportunities are today.
Remember, today is yesterday’s tomorrow; so whatever you’ve been putting off now is the time to get after it! Now is the time, and here is your chance!

What do you think? Feel free to comment down below!

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B. Dave Walters Writer, Life Coach, and Talk Radio Host

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3 Simple rules for a happy life

posted by B. Dave Walters
You are worth it!

You are worth it!

“You always own the option of having no opinion.
There is never any need to get worked up or to trouble your soul about things you can’t control. These things are not asking to be judged by you. Leave them alone.”
— Marcus Aurelius (Meditations)

On a recent episode of Rise UP with B. Dave Walters we talked about “Finding Your Power”, along with: How to stay calm and peaceful, how to pick yourself up when you fall, timeless secrets for happiness and power, and much, much, more.

One of the things we talked about were the three phrases carved on the front of the Temple of Delphi, and how these simple reminders can improve your life.

Number 1: Know thyself.  This simple statement is one of the most common, and yet most misunderstood sayings around.  Here is another way of looking at it:
“At 30 a person should know themselves like the palm of their hand, know the exact number of their defects and qualities, know how far they can go, foretell their failures – be what they are. And, above all, accept these things.”

We waste an astonishing amount of time trying to live up to other people’s expectations and defining ourselves based on other people’s opinions.  And they of course are operating out of their own unresolved baggage, issues, and trauma from the past, which sets up a vicious cycle of everyone doing what they thought would make them happy, and yet ending up feeling unfulfilled and non-specifically disappointed and unhappy.

So how do we break this pattern?  First and foremost, by looking at yourself, TRULY looking at yourself, rose petals, thorns and all. It is only once you accept who and what you are inside, that you can start living out of that, and into the specific purpose you’ve been sent into the world to do.  But you’ll never find your purpose while you’re still shackled by someone else’s definition of you!

Number 2: Nothing in Excess.  Aristotle said “Anybody can become angry – that is easy, but to be angry with the right person and to the right degree and at the right time and for the right purpose, and in the right way – that is not within everybody’s power and is not easy.” Notice, it says nothing in excess; not food, drink, anger, working, playing, nothing.  How many times have you heard someone (or yourself!) say “I know I shouldn’t ________ so much __________, but…” and then proceed to do the thing anyway?  Notice how much pain in life could be avoided if we just skipped the things we knew we shouldn’t do, and actually DID the things we know we should!

Notice how rule one and two fit together so seamlessly: Once you have a firm grasp on who and what you are, what you should do flows out of it seamlessly.  If you find yourself facing a lot of confusion about what you want, the issue is that you aren’t completely clear on who you are.

Number 3: Make a pledge and mischief is nigh.  This can also be translated as “don’t make promises/commitments you aren’t prepared to keep”.  Yes, this rule does relate to keeping your word to others, but there’s a much deeper meaning.  When we talked before about finding true love we said the foundation of a healthy relationship is trust and respect, since only then can real love grow.  The same is true with loving yourself; you need a proper foundation of trust and respect for yourself.  And that, comes from integrity, since integrity means keeping the promises you make to yourself.

Once again, we come back to living a life in proper alignment.  Since a key component of self-knowledge is being honest with yourself.  This is not easy, since we humans have an infinite capacity for self-deception.  Think about your closest friends, and the things you know that are true that they aren’t admitting to themselves.  Of course, if I ask them, they’ll have a list of things that you aren’t admitting to yourself, either!

However, you can resolve today to start turning this all around.  Take a moment to look in the mirror (I mean it, actually look in the mirror) and ask yourself what you see.  Look into that person’s eyes, and ask yourself who you see there.  And take the time to answer. By the way, never, ever, EVER, accept the answer ‘I don’t know’, after all, if you don’t know you then who does?

The bad news is, this process is not easy, but nothing worth having in life ever is.  Only the weak get hung up on ‘easy’, and you are not weak; you are as strong as they come!  The good news is, you’ll get the joy of feeling peaceful, happy, powerful, comfortable in your own skin and at home in your own life.  And if that’s not worth putting in a little effort to give yourself a checkup from the neck-up, I don’t know what is!

What do you think? Feel free to comment down below!

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B. Dave Walters Writer, Life Coach, and Talk Radio Host

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Suicide, and making sense of the senseless.

posted by B. Dave Walters
It's not worth it.

It’s not worth it.

“But in the end one needs more courage to live than to kill himself.”
― Albert Camus

Anyone who’s lost a loved one to suicide knows how uniquely painful and confusing it can be.  The death of Robin Williams opened the conversation again about how someone seems to ‘have it all’ can still choose to take their own lives.

On a recent episode of Rise UP with B. Dave Walters we talked extensively about: Suicide, hitting bottom, and making sense of the senseless. What to do when you hit rock bottom, and how to get back up again; how to face problems without giving up; why people choose to take their own lives, and much, much, more.

So for us here today, the first thing that has to be addressed is why anyone chooses to take their own life.  And the answer is simple, but not necessarily easy to accept.  People choose to end their lives for one reason, and one reason only:  Because they are in so much pain, and as they look ahead into the future they see no hope of things getting better, and probably getting worse.  And so faced with that, death seems preferable.

While I would not label suicide as ‘selfish’, the truth is it is supremely short sighted  It is a permanent solution to temporary problems.  As you look back over your life, think about how many things that seemed like catastrophes at the time, can be laughed about now.  Even major, seemingly ‘incurable’ illnesses may have new treatments or cures right around the corner.  Sometimes the hope of a better tomorrow is all we need to keep going; but hope cannot be given, it can only be chosen.

The most important thing to remember is, if you have someone who’s talked about suicide: Listen to them.  It really may be they are only talking this way ‘for attention’, or as a plea for help, but understand that it only takes about 30 seconds to make a very permanent mistake.  Many bridge jumpers and other suicide survivors have said they regretted it the moment that they jumped, but more often than not, it’s too late by then.

However, it’s not up to you to ‘save’ them.  Yes, you want to remind them of how important they are to you, and how much of a difference they make in your life; but if you are sure they are considering hurting themselves, you’ve GOT to get them professional help. Tell a teacher, priest, or someone you trust that can make a difference.   And don’t be worried about possibly breaching their trust by telling someone; I can tell you from firsthand experience that having them be mad at you, but *alive* is much, much, better than the alternative.

And one final thing:  If you are considering ending your life, I would only say this: Please don’t.  The simple act of you being alive is influencing people around you ways you can never imagine, and no one will feel better off if you are gone.  The very things that seem like catastrophes now may be the seeds of your destiny.

And if you aren’t sure how to make yourself feel better, look for people who are worse off than you (I guarantee you won’t have to look far), and work to ease their suffering.  It’s impossible to make other people feel better without feeling better yourself.

That’s the thing about life: It has to be lived forward, but tends to only make sense in retrospect!

And by the way, if you need help: In the U.S., call 1-800-273-8255 for the
National Suicide Prevention Lifeline, I promise you they can help.

What do you think? Feel free to comment down below!

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