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Healing and Transformation

Healing and Transformation

Q&A: Jealousy and anger are killing me inside

posted by David G Arenson ND


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Question submitted via email:

Hi David
I”m really enjoying your posts and look forward to receiving them every week!

Q:
I really hope you will have time to reply to me. I very much appreciate your time.

I wanted to find a solution for the jealousy and anger I feel inside – it’s killing me on a daily basis, just eating me up! Please tell me what to do. I really wish to clear these feelings from inside me.

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Thank you again for your time! Will you help me?!!

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A: Hi brother

I’m happy you’re enjoying the blog. It’s about Healing and Transformation, so your question is entirely appropriate.

I did consider what you’re going through and think you are having a ‘spiritual awakening’ – it is a good thing! It’s grand to be questioning how things are, and how they got there! I love the way you are feeling your feelings, and wondering why there are there. They are there for a reason – and trust me, you will find that reason.

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Jealousy and anger are unstable emotions. Jealousy occurs naturally, and is a product of undeveloped thinking. If one watches kids play, one will see that jealousy is common. With maturation, usually the focus of concentration becomes developing one’s higher self, and the achievement of goals. There are always others around with more money, better skin, younger, harder-working, better family, more advantages, (the list is endless) … yet it is our unique ability to shine that sets us apart. Our unique talent and ability is innate – it comes from our soul. We all have a unique destination, a unique journey, and our talents are unique. There is nobody else on the planet quite like you!!!

With a change in perception, and a shift in focus from seeing the “good things others have” over you, to appreciating the beauty in others, you will find that you no longer need to feel jealous. Coming from love, will mean, you’re able to love others and that is unconditional.

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Jealousy is also a lack of love and appreciation for the self and for God, what I would consider, an undeveloped sense of self and one’s place in the world. Focus on yourself, rather than on other people. You probably don’t want what they have – it’s an illusion!

For instance, the people who drive the nicest cars could be the most miserable (and I’m not saying there’s anything wrong with driving a nice car) – you just don’t know their challenges or their pain, or even how they got where they are today. Perhaps they had to climb over corpses or work through the night? Do you know you really want what they have?

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If so, are you willing to do what they did to achieve whatever they have achieved?

Think of a sprinter winning a gold medal at the Olympics, a remarkable feat of speed and agility. It seems very impressive and surely an object of jealousy. Now, consider the years of sacrifice and endless sweat, blood and tears that went into this achievement. Do you have the guts for that? If you just look at the end result, you miss the big picture.

If they have achieved their dream, good luck to them. It takes nothing away from you to see another achieve. Embrace their success and enjoy it as if it were yours. (Then imagine how much more pleasure you can get!) Let others be a source of pleasure and inspiration.

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Don’t focus on what you think another person has. If you knew what they were really going through, perhaps you would feel sympathetic/ compassion for them. Perhaps you would realize how crazy it is to want what another has. Rather focus on wanting what you have. And creating what it is you really want.

We are also all a human family. So, like a father might get pleasure from his son’s glory, may you also derive pleasure from the achievements of others.

Do things you enjoy, and develop your spiritual side. Your light comes from God.

Anger is natural and is important for our survival, in balance.

The anger you experience, needs to be directed in a positive way. I suggest physical sport like boxing and running or wrestling. It will release this from your body.

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It would help for you to look within and find out what is calling you anger/ frustration and then release this in a positive way. Find a private place where you can SHOUT and SCREAM whatever you feel. Or get your own boxing equipment and LET THE ANGER OUT.

It often comes from childhood, at how we were treated or mistreated by family/ school/ etc.

Always go to the SOURCE. If you keep searching, you will discover so much about where the anger comes from, and how it is triggered. Then you’ll be able to find healthy ways to release it.

I hope this helps.

Love and light,

DAVID

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You are awesome as you are, and I love you!

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David G. Arenson ND, Australia’s Leading Soul-Coach – Spiritual Teacher and Energy Healer
Find out more about me: http://www.findshambhala.com

Inquire about arranging a retreat: http://www.mretreat.com

To send a question for Q&A with David, please email David – david@mretreat.com

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Q&A: I have this pain in my stomach when I’m criticised

posted by David G Arenson ND

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Question submitted via email:

Hi David
I”m really enjoying your posts and look forward to receiving them every week!

Q: I really need your assistance and guidance on how to get over my daily negativity and stress.

I have this pain in my stomach when I receive any criticism from people about my work. A little argument with a client or my superior could turn my day upside down. I need help to flip this to positive energy – I need to learn the good in things. Will you help me?!!
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A: Thanks for reaching out. It’s great to hear from you!

When you work on inner change, both inner and outer worlds change. So when you change and resolve your inner world, you’ll find your outer world will change too. Your life will begin to reflect what you truly desire.

Let your desire propel you forward to the outcome you seek.

What you are experiencing, is a pattern in the body, via the mind-body connection (our thoughts create emotions and “results” in the body like elevated blood pressure, release of chemicals like adrenaline, etc.).

Now, being immune to criticism is difficult, as you are apparently a sensitive person. The way I suggest you deal with this is via HUMOUR.

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Always make a joke of the comment via agreeing with your colleagues at work. For instance, respond with – “Yes, I’m such an idiot, haha – must be something in the coffee!”, and smile! And then make them give you POSITIVE suggestions – make it about them. Say – “what do you suggest for me to do to make this right?”

or

“how can I make sure this never happens again?”

This way your put the ball in their court. It becomes about then, and removes the focus off you and onto them. Force them to make this into something beneficial and productive. Thus the outcome will be positive and affirming

You come out of the conversation empowered.

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Acknowledge to yourself that you are a sensitive person, yet also conscientious, caring and good at your job.

Let me know how it goes. Play with it, and have lots of FUN!

Put the following quote (via Eckhart Tolle) on your wall:

“The primary cause of unhappiness is never the situation but thought about it. Be aware of the thoughts you are thinking. Separate them from the situation, which is always neutral. It is as it is.”

Now in terms of your body and how you feel/ react, I believe that laughter and coming out feeling positive will help you the most. However, if you do feel some pain, put your hands over your stomach and take deep breaths, sending love to that part of your body (stomach) until the pain resolves.

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Focus on the breathing, make it DEEP………………………..

Find Joy..it’s there waiting for you….

EXPECT MIRACLES!

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What do you think? Feel free to comment down below!
You are awesome as you are, and I love you!

And if you love me back, please click ‘share’ up at the top!

David G. Arenson ND, Australia’s Leading Soul-Coach – Spiritual Teacher and Energy Healer
Find out more about me: http://www.findshambhala.com

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Inquire about arranging a retreat: http://www.mretreat.com

To send a question for Q&A with David, please email David – david@mretreat.com

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Top 10 Spiritual Tips for Life

posted by David G Arenson ND

by David G Arenson ND

You have accepted your LIFE ASSIGNMENT.

Now it’s up to you how to fill in the blank canvas

 

Good luck!

Whatever your personal journey, you are guaranteed an epic adventure.

 

 

Remember the oft-quoted words of Joseph Campbell to guide you, “The cave you fear to enter holds the treasure that you seek.”

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Go boldly!

 

This is your assignment:

1. You will forget everything.

You start at the beginning with no instructions, and the rest of your life, you are tasked with remembering who you are. You start from nothing, and at the end, all you get to take with you are the lessons learnt.

“The world is its own magic.” ~ Shunryu Suzuki

2. You will get a body, hopefully in decent working order.

Your body is borrowed. At the end of your life, you don’t get to take it with you.
So treat it with care whilst you have it. It’s your most valuable possession. Treat it like a gift, a resource for you to use to get the most out of life. If you treat it impeccably, it will serve you well for the longest time.

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3. What you do with your life is up to you.

It’s your choice what to do, how to feel, and what to create with what you have. You are never a victim. Imagine your life as a canvas; it’s up to you to fill that canvas with the things and people you most care for. If you change, the world changes. Beliefs are the most powerful weapon in your arsenal.

4. You are here to learn lessons.

As you “evolve” on your path, the lessons may become harder and harder. If you don’t learn the lesson, it will keep coming back into your life until you do learn it. In the end, everyone is successful from a spiritual perspective.

5. Don’t give up!

It’s guaranteed to get hard, yet you are not alone in this. Suffering is part of your assignment. Learning equanimity and patience will help a lot.

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6. Every choice you make takes you on a different path.

There is no wrong and right path, every path you take is a choice, and will take you somewhere. Even if you feel it’s not the path for you, and you have to go all the way back to the beginning again. It’s an illusion. You’re not the same person who left in the first place. Every decision changes you.

You may not realise today, yet in a few years time when you look back, you will be amazed at how circumstances magically worked out to take you where you were meant to be.

“Only those who will risk going too far can possibly find out how far one can go.” ~T.S. Eliot

7. Accept the darkness and the light.

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Within other people contains an element that is within you as per a holographic principle. If you hate something too much, perhaps you’re rejecting that part within yourself? We call this our “shadow.” Learn to accept all of you including your shadow.

When you suppress or reject a part of yourself, you will feel stunted. In maturity comes greater fulfillment of who you are.

“And you? When will you begin that long journey into yourself?” ~ Rumi

8. Understand the benefit of perspective.

How you view the world is everything. If you look for dark, you will find it. If you look for light, you will find it. If you think it is good, it will be good. When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at are changed.

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“One’s destination is never a place, but a new way of seeing things.” ~ Henry Miller

See the world with new eyes.

9. The most important thing is to love.

Your choice is to choose love over fear every time. That’s the most important thing you need to know. Love is all there is.

10. Enjoy the journey!

Don’t sweat the small stuff or take life too personally. There is always a big picture and the world doesn’t revolve around you! Life is one of the greatest journeys imaginable.

You don’t ‘pass’ or ‘fail’—you may as well enjoy the journey, and no need to take life so seriously by the way. In the final analysis, there is no failure. In the end, there is only one guarantee – everyone “passes”…

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Be grateful for how things are, and work to make them how you want them to be.

 

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What do you think? Feel free to comment down below!
You are awesome as you are, and I love you!

And if you love me back, please click ‘share’ up at the top!

David G. Arenson ND, Australia’s Leading Soul-Coach, Spiritual Teacher, Keynote Speaker and Energy Healer

Find out more about me: http://www.findshambhala.com

Inquire about arranging a retreat: http://www.mretreat.com

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Light at the End of the Tunnel

posted by David G Arenson ND

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As Proverbs reminds us – “There is light at the end of the tunnel.”

Yet the tunnel fills us with a darkness so deep, we are left breathless, hopeless and lost in our suffering. It’s a black hole of hopelessness.

When you’re inside that tunnel and the darkness is all you can see and feel, it’s difficult to imagine there may be hope. The darkness can suck all the life out of you, and take you further than feeling lost, desolate, disconsolate – sadly some are nipped or engulfed by thoughts of suicide.

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The tunnel is the feeling of falling. The darkness is falling into oblivion.

When you’re in the tunnel, you can’t see any light.

If you’re there, take time out, be patient, and seek help wherever you can find it. Suffering alone makes the whole experience of despair deeper. There is help available, and there are those who do understand.

The light at the end of the tunnel is no illusion; the tunnel is. The tunnel is the illusion of separation, the illusion of being alone, the illusion of being lost.

“We are all on the same path… Our separation from each other is an illusion of consciousness.” ~ Albert Einstein

Life is an imperfect experience, a journey that, for everyone, contains light and dark aspects. Suffering is part of growth.

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There are choices to be made about whether to focus on the tunnel, or take positive active steps to shift into the light. Yet, I understand that in the tunnel, it feels hopeless, and it feels like there is no choice. I’ve been there. There is no judgment in the tunnel of despair. How can one judge another’s suffering?

Darkness imprisons us in fear, love liberates us from the tunnel of despair.

I believe we do have power to overcome suffering, although it may not always disappear. Until one reaches one’s last breath, there will still be a new sunrise on the horizon, a new day, a new breath, something to look forward to.

In the tunnel, the world makes no sense, and we are brought to a place we would do anything to avoid. Yet, the tunnel is there, it lies relentlessly in our consciousness like a noose held tightly around our neck. We feel strangled by fear and loss.

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The dark tunnel is the strangulation – it feels like one cannot breathe – one has nowhere to go but to vanish and be swallowed up into the earth’s abyss.

The vacuum is not the end of the road. There is a new beginning and a new hope, a new light around the corner. Stay present to the breath….

Some Helpful Suggestions:

    • Take a moment outside to connect to the ground preferably barefoot, and hug a tree, take some deep breaths and keep breathing deeply as long as you can. Don’t think of anything, just focus on your breath.
    • Go for regular walks in nature. If you can get a friend or partner to join you, even better.
    • Find ways to take small positive actions like connecting with an old friend, going for a walk, going to an exercise class, doing something you enjoy.
    • Reach out to others who understand and can support you.
    • Don’t give up on the light. There are people and organisations who can help. Keep moving forward even if you have to force yourself to consciously take it one step at a time.
    • Reach out your hand, reach out your hand. Give hope a chance.

Dedicated to those amongst us who may be feeling the pain of darkness. Please share with those who may be suffering with depression, confusion or loss. Somebody may benefit from your caring intervention.

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Remember, we are all one.

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What do you think? Feel free to comment down below!
You are awesome as you are, and I love you!

And if you love me back, please click ‘share’ up at the top!

David G. Arenson ND, Australia’s Leading Soul-Coach, Keynote Speaker and Healer
Find out more about me: http://www.findshambhala.com

Inquire about arranging a retreat: http://www.mretreat.com

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