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The Event Will Go As The Event Will Go

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Rolling the clock back to the spring of 2005 and I find myself in the 5th floor walk up apartment in Manhattan of Reid Mihalko and Marcia Baczynski. Surrounded by blankets, pillows and pj clad strangers, save my brave friend who trekked the few hours up there with me, I was attending a workshop that would become a way of life for me. Cuddle Party  is a  relationship enhancing, communication and boundary setting workshop. It just so happens that consensual, non-sexual, nurturing touch that could include snuggles, cuddles, hugs and massage are part of the world wide phenomenon that was created by Reid and Marcia as somewhat of a social experiment that blossomed beautifully. Although I am cuddler by inclination, it had never occurred to me that an entire workshop was being wrapped around it like a comfy quilt. By the time it had ended and we were helping to fold blankets and tidy up the space, I knew that it had to be brought to Philadelphia- appropriately named The City of Brotherly Love and I was equally certain that I was going to have to become a certified facilitator so it could stay here. That summer, Reid came to the area to facilitate and I embarked on the training program. By January of the following year, I was named Cuddle Party facilitator #27. Now there are around 100 people certified to teach this workshop worldwide. In the interim, I have facilitated over 250 of them up and down the East Coast, from here to Virginia and Maryland. It has been one of my greatest joys and honors that attendees have trusted me to create a safe space for them to explore relationship matters and facilitate healthy touch.

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A few years after I took the leap into the ‘puppy pile,’ way across the country in Utah, another affectionista, named Monique Darling entered the realm of Cuddle Party facilitator. We became friends when we had support calls as she was going through her certification process. Her enthusiasm matched mine and to date, she has offered 369 of them. When the opportunity came to team up with Monique and Reid to teach in my neck of the woods, I was giddy with delight. She and Reid have taught together, she and I have taught together, but I’ve not taught with Reid. Let the games begin …. as we put on the books, what we were referring to as an ‘epic event’. Between the three of us, we figure we have facilitated close to 1000 of them.

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Since they were each coming on separate flights, I was to pick them up at the airport. A few days afterward, I discovered that they were due in 90 minutes or so before the event was to begin, which wouldn’t allow much time for travel and then set up. I took a breath and remembered wisdom that Reid shared a long time ago, when I would call him, nerves all aflutter, right before my first few workshops. He would say “Darlin’, the event will go as the event will go.” I would sigh, smile and proceed to accept the truth in it.

I left for the airport with plenty of time to spare, mentally going through the checklist in my head about what needed to be done to prep for the workshop as soon as we arrived. As I was enroute, I get a message from Reid that his flight would be an hour late. Not even a moment of panic, but still a thought “Now what are we going to do?,” arose. Immediately, a spark of brilliance and the words “Call Rusty,” came through. He was going to be attending and knew the area, so I called him and he was more than happy to be Reid’s airport shuttle service. Whew~ I could let that one go.

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I pulled up at baggage claim just in time to scoop up Monique, since her flight was early. Laughing along with Spirit’s sense of humor, we headed for my friend Christina’s lovely home in the woods where the workshop was taking place. As it turned out, we arrived in perfect timing and began the teaching and 20 minutes later, Reid and Rusty arrived and he merged seamlessly and the workshop flowed smoothly. At the end of the evening, participants floated out the door on an oxytocin high and I felt elevated for so many reasons; one among them that I really had surrendered outcome, without attempting to control it. What a relief and such a departure from my habit of attempting to micromanage. Ahhhhh~ Surrender is a beautiful thing.

 

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Make Every Day Earth Day

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I am an earnest Earth advocate since it is the only planet we have and I want it to continue to sustain life for a long time to come. I also honor what Gaia- the Greek name for the Goddess as embodied by the Earth,  does for us each day. She hosts breathable air, drinkable water, plants, animals and human life. She does it without expectation of return AND YET, if we neglect her, like any mother, she will no longer be able to care for us. We shortsighted human beings erroneously believe that we can continue to take her for granted without consequences. Ain’t gonna happen.

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On April 22nd , 1970, John McConnell, Gaylord Nelson and Denis Hayes planted the seeds for the eco-fest that now  has taken on epic proportions as the need for environmental awareness has reached a crucial level. Earth Day, according to Hayes, it is “the largest secular holiday in the world, celebrated by more than a billion people every year.”

Being environmentally conscious is more than about what we think, but also what we do. Some steps to take:

Reduce, re-use, recycle

Walk and bicycle when you can, rather than drive

Take public transportation

Combine trips

Take re-usable bags, not just for grocery shopping, but all purchases. They can be washed and dried

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Compost food scraps

Eat organic and locally grown food when able

Stop smoking~ since the toxins in cigarettes pollute your lungs and the air of those who don’t smoke

Reduce energy consumption- turn off lights when out of the room

Turn off water when brushing teeth, washing or shaving since there is no need to let it run

Run the dishwasher when full

Sign petitions that ask legislators to take action on climate change

We also feed the collective soul of the planet with our thoughts and energy. Consistently angry thoughts, hatred and violence pollute the stream of consciousness that flows though each of us. Consistently loving thoughts clean it up.  If we embrace the planet and all inhabitants on it, we will leave a thriving home for the next seven generations.

Partner with the planet and each other.  Together we can make a difference.

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Life Is Lumpy

This morning, I was reading a newsletter sent by my friend Kurt Koontz. In it he was described his latest adventures in the Big Apple. He had taken a few forays to the 9/11 memorial and was deeply moved by what he saw there. Although I have not seen, I imagine that it brings with it a plethora of emotions. He was speaking about the importance of daily gratitude for our blessings and the ways in which our lives are changed when we focus on what are thankful for, rather than what we are cranky about. He referenced things such as getting cut off in traffic or an electronic device malfunctioning.

As I was writing to respond to the email, guess what happened?  On a bright and sunny day, the power suddenly zapped off. Now, I would have expected it yesterday, since a whole bunch of storms blew through, with a hurricane watch in effect for many hours. I laughed, of course and then decided to fold clothes and go to the gym. Before leaving, I called the electric company and was told that there was some kind of disconnect under ground and they should have it repaired quickly. Within 30 minutes, the lights and radio went back on and the clocks on the stove and microwave began blinking. I attempted to go back on line, only to discover that the internet was down. I called Comcast and was told that there was limited coverage in the area for a time. Sighing and surrendering, I headed out to sweat.

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Lately, I have been facing the reality that life is about surrender. There is more that I don’t have control over than that I do. It could be disheartening or encouraging to recognize this paradigm. I choose the latter since I wonder what good it would do to be in a consistent state of discouragement. The Serenity Prayer is my go-to when I am tempted to feel pissy and pouty over plans gone awry or people not acting in ways that I would like for them to.

“God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference.”-Reinhold Niebuhr

I am acutely aware that what happened this morning was a ‘first world problem’. That I have electricity and internet is remarkable when I consider how many people don’t have the basic necessities of life. I also was certain that the service would go back on and that there were other things I could do in the meantime that would be far more productive that grumbling about it.

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What came to me right away was how synergistically perfect it was in the light of what Kurt had written. Stuff like that happens in my life all the time.

I also remembered a beautiful story written by Robert Fulghum about learning the difference between a problem and an inconvenience. He tells it in his book called Uh Oh. One of the lines that remains with me is this: “Life is lumpy. A lump in the oatmeal, a lump in the throat and a lump in the breast are not the same thing.” These days, I have far fewer problems and occasional inconveniences. I can live with them.

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It’s A Beautiful Morning

The peeking in sun woke me up before my intended arising time. Clearly, the day had other ideas for how I should be spending its first few hours. I so wanted to tumble back into slumber, but it wasn’t gonna happen. Rolled over, turned on the radio to listen to Sleepy Hollow on my favorite station called WXPN which is a Saturday and Sunday morning gentle ease into the day program. Breakfast smoothie with dark chocolate almond milk, berries,  bananas and chia seeds tossed in for good measure jump started the metabolism. My mind is awash with the items on my agenda. Meeting with a young man I am mentoring, workout at the gym, editing a friend’s book and then dinner with a friend I haven’t seen in a year or so. Some writing in between, I’m sure, since I know that The Muse will have some dazzling ideas to present for me to recycle through my brain.

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Although it is spring here in the Philadelphia area, the temps will make it seem summer-like. Planning on shorts and sneakers to celebrate the ending of a harsh winter. Cleaning and clearing out the excess, huddled up piles of stuff that accumulated. Bringing a huge bag of clothes from my closet and drawers to donate, since they have been taking up space, just as old emotional garb does. Feeling lighter in all ways. Exercising more, breathing deeply, surrounding myself with people who lighten my heart.

WXPN is celebrating poetry and has been playing music to honor the wondrous word weavings. Some of my favorite poets, include:

Mary Oliver

Rumi

Hafiz

Oriah Mountain Dreamer

Emily Dickinson

Walt Whitman

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Kahlil Gibran

Maya Angelou

John O’Donohue

Each one of them listened to the whispers of the Divine and offered them back out to a waiting world. They were willing to be conduits, hollow reeds and channels. When I experience goose bumps, giggles, tears and smiles, I know their arcing high into the sky arrows reached their mark. Their words nourish my soul. I am inspired to write when I read them and put aside my fears that my musings are not matching up to their examples.

On this beautiful morning, I wish you your soul’s delight. Drink it in, slurp it up, roll around in it, scatter it to the sky. Rejoice~

 

 

 

 

 

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The Event Will Go As The Event Will Go
  Rolling the clock back to the spring of 2005 and I find myself in the 5th floor walk up apartment in Manhattan of Reid Mihalko and Marcia Baczynski. Surrounded by blankets, pillows and pj clad strangers, save my brave friend who ...

posted 10:47:25pm Apr. 23, 2015 | read full post »

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posted 1:36:35pm Apr. 22, 2015 | read full post »

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posted 3:54:58pm Apr. 21, 2015 | read full post »

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