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Sexpot With Stretchmarks

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Imagine having your own personal cheerleader who enthusiastically reminds you that you are gorgeous, worthy, creative, brilliant and loveable. Would you believe her? Would you say “Who are you kidding? I’m overweight, under-paid, over worked and under-played.”

Jenny G. Perry is a Renaissance Woman, like many who are reading this article. She is a writer, speaker, coach, embracer of a fit, healthy lifestyle, married since age 19 to her sweetheart Brian, who is an Executive chef, as well as the mother of five incredibly active and diverse children, ranging in age from 17 to one year old. Her confidence level is off the charts, this woman who in her self doubting youth, was immersed in the addiction of bulimia and now calls herself the ‘silly, sassy, spiritual sexpot’. She is also a blogger for Beliefnet and  Huffington Post.

Perry is a fierce supporter of women perceiving themselves as beautiful and powerful, despite societal messages, particularly around the area of body image. At a compact 5 feet tall, she has weighed as much as 200 lbs. and as little as 110 lbs. She had a roller coaster ride of a love-hate relationship with her body at every weight in between. These days, it’s all about the love, as the photo on the cover of her new book, entitled Sexpot With Stretch Marks will attest.

From the outset, the reader will see page after page of pep talk beginning with the proclamation:  Stretch Marks are the New Black.  The encouragement is to “wear them with pride.” She earned each love stripe on her belly, since they reflect her five pregnancies. Despite, or perhaps, because of them, she gave herself permission to wear a bikini. Good thing her Jersey shore home gives her easy access to the beach on which she gets to rock it!

Throughout this enthusiastic self love romp, Perry’s intention is clear; that what we focus on, we call into our lives. She unabashedly welcomes success, adventures, abundance, juice and joy and insists that they are all attainable. She laughs in the face of those nagging perfectionistic voices that lament that we will never do enough, be enough or have enough. The chapter on that topic is called ‘Perfect is a Crap Trap’.

Perry invites readers to “own your fierce flavor,” as well as our quirks which could be messy and obnoxious at times,  but also unique to each of us. Resilience in the face of life challenges allows us to rise above what might have dragged us down. Seeing our own value in the face of the naysaying voices, gives us power. Using our own  unique and dynamic voice to speak our truth is part of her credo.

Other chapter titles:

Validate Your Own Worth

The Eye of the Beholder

Duh …I’m Good Enough

Desire Is A Gift

Dear Oprah

She also encourages women to be cooperative, rather than competitive with each other. A big win-win for us all.

Because I am blessed to know this powerhouse personally, I can literally hear her voice in every word I read.

Celebrate your own stretch marks; not just the ones on your body, but those that will appear in your mind and heart after reading this book.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

How Do You Create A Life That You Love?

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One of the most essential questions you can ask yourself,  is the one presented in the title of this article. We have a choice to experience an existence that takes us from the day of our birth to the day of our death, with the ‘same old, same old’ activities that is about getting by OR we can live a rich, full, juicy life. Filled to overflowing with excitement, magic, bliss of course, possibility and miracles, can be a daily intention. It is mine. It is also that of conscious entrepreneur, Kathy Davis- head Inspirista of Kathy Davis Designs.

I met Kathy many years ago when she had a store in a local mall. Whenever I would walk through the door, I felt as if I was stepping across a portal into a world of wonder. Colorful greeting cards and gifts seemed as if they were dancing on the shelves. When I walked back out, usually with some token of my visit for myself or to give to someone else, I felt as if I was paint splashed. I love soaking in the energy of creative environments. A few years later, I happened to see Kathy there and approached her with the question about being a free lance text writer for her. I had been writing poems and framing them as gifts for family and friends and thought this would be a cool extension of that. She informed me that a few months hence, she was launching a new card line called Tutti-Frutti which sounded whimsical and playful, and that she would let me know when they were having a meeting to discuss it.

When I received the invitation, and met with her creative team, I was astounded to see that I was the only free-lance writer in a room of artists. Within short order, I was teamed with two delightful artists named Viviana and Janet. Thus I was teleported into a six year run of  writing for her company. I was honored and moved by the idea that the cards I penned were given to people all over the world as tokens of love. I never knew where they would end up.

I would like to share a  cool story that was told to me, long after the free-lance program was no more, that let me know that my cards were still in circulation. A friend’s parents were celebrating an anniversary and his girlfriend had purchased a card for them that she thought reflected their relationship. She didn’t know that I had been in this field. When they opened the card, my friend, who had seen my work, was astonished. He asked them to turn the card over and sure enough, my name was imprinted on the back.

Last week, Kathy celebrated 25 years in business, which is quite something to acknowledge, since many businesses don’t have that type of longevity. I attribute it to a number of factors.

Commitment to an ideal of  quality in her product lines.

Excitement about her work.

A solid team around her that are family of choice.

A relationship with her persistent creative Muse.

Being of service and donating to charities.

Innovation and ongoing growth.

Being genuine.

A good reputation in the local and world community.

A desire to live her business branding:  Scatter Joy~

She has written a lovely book called Scatter Joy: Living, Giving and Creating A Life That You Love. It is a beautiful telling of her life and sets the stage for her personal and professional joys and challenges. Imagine scooping up bubbles or flower petals and blowing them out into the world. How wondrous would that be? We don’t know where they will land and maybe that is part of the adventure. Her artwork is also scattered throughout the book, as well as notable quotes that highlight them.

I  paged through this rainbow hued tome quickly as if scarfing down a favorite treat, finishing it today while I was on the recumbent elliptical at cardiac rehab. It occurred to me that what Kathy included in the book were activities and attitudes that have been part of my life for decades. I have created a life that I love and celebrate it daily.

How do you create a life that YOU love?

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Is Sleep Highly Over-rated?

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I had long believed and expressed that sleep was highly over-rated whenever someone would ask how I managed to maintain what I called a ‘crazy-busy’ schedule that included a full time job, several over-lapping consulting jobs, raising a child as a single parent after being widowed at 40, doing ‘normal people’ household stuff and having a rewarding social life. By the time I would meet the sandman, the hands on the clock were often completely vertical. My eyes would pop open sometimes before the sun peeked out from under its cloud cover and I would hit the ground running. As I recall those days, I think about the heart palpitations that I mistook for excitement and the lightheadedness and fatigue that I related to menopause. What they really were, were precursors of the impending heart attack that occurred on June 12, 2014.

Since then, I have begun to actually relish sleepy time. Naps have become frequent activities. Fleece jammies have become the ‘new sexy’ attire here and bundles of blankets and quilts have been my go-to décor in my room and on the sofa. There have been times when I have simply lain on the couch with lots of pillows, simply staring up at the ceiling fan as it spun languorously.  “Who is this woman and what have you done with Edie?” was the voice echoing through my head.

Some benefits of sleep:

Clearer thinking

Improved heart health, since it can prevent inflammatory response

Weight loss related to greater hormone balance

Looking lovelier

Enhanced creativity

Better eye-hand coordination

Safety behind the wheel and operating heavy equipment

More patience with people in our lives

Warding off illness

Increased vitality

Longer life

How much is enough?  Most experts indicate that between seven and eight hours a night are optimum, however, it depends on lifestyle and age. What I have discovered for myself, is that I do best in that range, with supplemental naps as needed. On days during which I really pump it out at cardiac rehab and have other activities on my to-do list, naps are a necessity. Room darkening/thermal curtains, soothing music and burrows under the blankets now that winter has arrived, all contribute to my sweet dreams.

 

When You Dream~  Barenaked Ladies

With life just begun, my sleeping new son
has eyes that roll back in his head
They flutter and dart, he slows down his heart
and pictures a world past his bed
It’s hard to believe
As I watch you breathe
Your mind drifts and weaves

When you dream,
what do you dream about?
When you dream,
what do you dream about?
Do you dream about
music or mathematics
or planets too far for the eye?
Do you dream about
Jesus or quantum mechanics
or angels who sing lullabies?

His fontanelle pulses with lives that he’s lived
With memories he’ll learn to ignore
And when it is closed, he already knows
he’s forgotten all he knew before
But when sleep sets in
history begins
But the future will win

When you dream,
what do you dream about?
When you dream,
what do you dream about?
Are they colour or black and white,
Yiddish or English
or languages not yet conceived?
Are they silent or boisterous?
Do you hear noises just
loud enough to be perceived?
Do you hear Del Shannon’s “Runaway” playing
on transistor radio waves?
With so little experience,
your mind not yet cognizant
Are you wise beyond your few days?
When you dream,
what do you dream about?
When you dream,
what do you dream about?

 

 

 

 

The Gift of Vulnerability

A quote from one of my favorite books has set the stage for an ongoing process in my life. The Velveteen Rabbit is a tale of a little boy whose toys dispense wisdom to each other,  the child and the reader of this classic. The rabbit, who is a bit insecure and wondering if the tot will favor him, asks the insightful Skin Horse how toys become real.

 

“Real isn’t how you are made,’ said the Skin Horse. ‘It’s a thing that happens to you. When a child loves you for a long, long time, not just to play with, but REALLY loves you, then you become Real.’

‘Does it hurt?’ asked the Rabbit.

‘Sometimes,’ said the Skin Horse, for he was always truthful. ‘When you are Real you don’t mind being hurt.’

‘Does it happen all at once, like being wound up,’ he asked, ‘or bit by bit?’

‘It doesn’t happen all at once,’ said the Skin Horse. ‘You become. It takes a long time. That’s why it doesn’t happen often to people who break easily, or have sharp edges, or who have to be carefully kept. Generally, by the time you are Real, most of your hair has been loved off, and your eyes drop out and you get loose in the joints and very shabby. But these things don’t matter at all, because once you are Real you can’t be ugly, except to people who don’t understand.”
Margery Williams, The Velveteen Rabbit        

I sense that we are all born real, but somehow that gets schooled, acculturated, media-ed, beaten, religion-ed, politicized, criticized and drugged out of us. By the time we are old enough to voice our emotions, we have forgotten our genuine identity, which is Love. The thing about being real is that our shields are down and we risk vulnerability. When we are vulnerable, we are like that bare naked bunny whose hair has been loved off. We have a choice. We can decide that we want to be pristine and kept in a box, like a Star Wars action figure that we want to be worth a lot of money down the road, or we can come out of our container, as we get down and dirty with life. Emotional boo boos and bruises could be part and parcel of that adventure. We bump up against other ‘real’ human beings with their own baggage to haul about.

I have been on both sides of the box, shielding myself by ‘playing it safe,’ with the mistaken belief that I was protected from pain and have dashed out into the world, emotionally buck nekkid. I had feared that by exposing my darkest secrets and deepest heart longing, people would run screaming. Not so. If anything, they drew closer, since they felt a kinship. When we dare to bare, we give others permission to do the same.

Here’s to being blissful bunnies, even if we have to get shabby in the process~

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