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Our Bodies Hold Memory

posted by Pervis Taylor, III

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I was watching a workshop put on by the famous dance company, Alvin Ailey, here in New York.  The piece, co-directed by a good friend of mine, was breathtaking.  What really amazed me was that the Ailey adviser, a beautiful older woman in her 50′s was still agile and could dance just as good as the younger dancers.  I asked my friend who is a dancer why was the lady able to move as if she was a young woman? She replied simply “muscle memory”.

It got me to thinking about how not only do our muscles hold memories, our bodies as a whole hold memory.  Think about for a second the last time you felt joy.  You should be able to feel the whole experience throughout your being. If you ponder you will see how powerful this is!  With this knowledge we have the power to try to create the most exciting experiences imaginable!

We often allow the experience of depression to linger for way too long. Thus, we walk around in an unhappy state.  But the good news is we now should have an intentional focus on living the most abundant life possible.  We have to learn to hold on to goodness just as much as we hold on to misfortune and down times.  It’s only then that we begin to treat ourselves properly.  Yes, we are human and fall short, but truly we are to enjoy this human experience.  Today begin to treasure the good times deep within you.  You will begin to see the richness of life.

Remember we have the ability to not only change our world, but the world as a whole….BE GREAT!!

Until Next Time,

Pervis

Pervis Taylor, III is an Author, Life Coach, Speaker and Contributor. His books Pervis Principles Volume 1 and 2 are available exclusively on his website: www.pervistaylor.com/author. He is the creator of the inspiration/life coaching mobile app, I-Inspire, available for IPhones, Ipad and Ipod Touch via: www.pervistaylor.com/i-inspire/. He resides in New York City. Follow him on Twitter @pervistaylor or Facebook www.facebook.com/pervistaylor3.

 

Breaking New Ground in Relationships

posted by Pervis Taylor, III

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Today, I got to see my girls ( a group of teens at a Girls’ Home) whom I life coach each week.  There was a new girl who I hadn’t met. I was excited to be able to bond with a new person in the house. I wish I could say the feeling was the same.  The new girl, was not feeling me in the least and was not interested in anything I had to say.  It wasn’t until I extended myself with genuine loving-kindness that I was able to make a connection.

I often play a game with the girls where I have them act out certain emotions.  The new girl’s word was joyous.  She said she didn’t understand the word.   I told her when you smile it brings this feeling to others. I wasn’t lying. Underneath that tough exterior was a 1000 watt smile that could light any room. She certainly opened up shortly after that.  My point is when is the last time you’ve gone the extra mile in your relationships?  I don’t know if it’s pride or fear, but we as humans seem to have a ceiling in terms of trying to break new ground in our relationships.

For me I have an understanding that if you desire to have genuine enriched relationships, then you have to commit to digging deep and going above and beyond your comfort zone to truly experience it. We have to be vulnerable in not only in our pursuit of goals, but also with our human connections.  We can only grow in the context of community.  The only way to build up our communities is making a concerted effort to cultivate and nurture the relationships.

Remember we have the ability to not only change our world, but the world as a whole….BE GREAT!!

Until Next Time,

Pervis

Pervis Taylor, III is an Author, Life Coach, Speaker and Contributor. His books Pervis Principles Volume 1 and 2 are available exclusively on his website: www.pervistaylor.com/author. He is the creator of the inspiration/life coaching mobile app, I-Inspire, available for IPhones, Ipad and Ipod Touch via: www.pervistaylor.com/i-inspire/. He resides in New York City. Follow him on Twitter @pervistaylor or Facebook www.facebook.com/pervistaylor3.

 

 

The Gift of Being Wrong

posted by Pervis Taylor, III

 

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For me I used to pride myself on being right. I had to win every argument and every fight.  I wouldn’t stop until my opponent gave in. I guess for me being right was my vindication for the years of being bullied and made fun of and never got the chance to defend myself.  I’d dare to say it was part of the demise of one of my romantic relationships.  In a weird way it made me feel empowered knowing that I was right and there was nothing you could tell me.  Until one day….

I discovered that I was missing out on life in so many ways.  Yes I was right about how my life had been and even the shortcomings I felt about myself, but was I really right? When you’re destined to be right, you’re going to be right. However, when you’re open to being wrong you begin to discover life.  I didn’t say it earlier, but I had such low self-esteem.  In my mind I was right that I didn’t deserve love, that I wasn’t attractive or even talented.  Thus, for a long time I attracted what I was feeling. It wasn’t until I had an interruption in my thought process that I finally began to understand.  My mother always told me to be a student of life.  Moreover, she said the more I was willing to learn the more I could grown and experience life.

She was right.  Being right is rooted in pride, no matter what  caused it. I kid you not the day I let go and was willing to be wrong about things that’s when I truly began to live.  I now walk in a freedom that I’d never known before. So what is it in your life that you’ve been so right about? Are you willing to let it go and begin to discover a whole new possibility or are you afraid of what you may uncover?  Today let’s stop being right and begin to live  (for some for the first time)!

Remember we have the ability to not only change our world, but the world as a whole….BE GREAT!!

Until Next Time,

Pervis

Pervis Taylor, III is an Author, Life Coach, Speaker and Contributor. His books Pervis Principles Volume 1 and 2 are available exclusively on his website: www.pervistaylor.com/author. He is the creator of the inspiration/life coaching mobile app, I-Inspire, available for IPhones, Ipad and Ipod Touch via: www.pervistaylor.com/i-inspire/. He resides in New York City. Follow him on Twitter @pervistaylor or Facebook www.facebook.com/pervistaylor3.

Facts vs. The Truth

posted by Pervis Taylor, III

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One of the biggest “A-Ha” moments of my life came to me when I was sharing with a friend some deeply personal hurts. She said to me ” Pervis that may have been the facts of your situation, but that by no means is the truth of who you are.” I remember sitting in my pain and frustration and trying to understand what she meant.  She continued, “Wilma Rudolph was born with polio. That’s a fact. But the truth was she was an Olympic Champion.”

Think about it for a second.  How long have you and I been living our lives based on the facts and circumstances that have happened to us versus the truth of who we are?  Whenever I speak to a group of students or adults I always say, “It’s not what has happened to us that defines us, but what we choose to make happen that defines us.”  If in this moment you’re finding yourself living based on the facts and not the truth, it’s okay.  You can break that cycle by shifting your focus from what was to what can possibly be.

Begin to dream and step into your future.  Who would you be if everything had gone your way? Guess what? You can be that person.  When we live in the truth of who we are that’s when the magic really happens.  God, in his infinite wisdom often allows certain unfavorable things to happen to us. Not to harm us, but to build us up and position us for the life he has laid out for us.  It’s really a matter of switching gears in our mindsets from facts to truth.

As an exercise, I want you to think of a time that you believed something wasn’t possible based on the facts.  Then I want you to think about a time you overcame the facts with the truth.  Write down how that made you feel and explore that moment.  You’ll discover that if you can do it once, you surely can do it again.

Remember we have the ability to not only change our world, but the world as a whole….BE GREAT!!

Until Next Time,

Pervis

Pervis Taylor, III is an Author, Life Coach, Speaker and Contributor. His books Pervis Principles Volume 1 and 2 are available exclusively on his website: www.pervistaylor.com/author. He is the creator of the inspiration/life coaching mobile app, I-Inspire, available for IPhones, Ipad and Ipod Touch via: www.pervistaylor.com/i-inspire/. He resides in New York City. Follow him on Twitter @pervistaylor or Facebook www.facebook.com/pervistaylor3.

 

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