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“I am being shown images of ‘beautiful ‘women and none of them look like me….”

posted by B. Dave Walters

Question submitted via Formspring: “Hi, I’m a nineteen year old African American female and ever since I can remember, I’ve always wanted to be attractive. In this society, being “HOT” is valued. At least in the mainstream sort of way. […]

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How to stop procrastinating and do what you know you should do

posted by B. Dave Walters

“Just that you do the right thing. The rest doesn’t matter. Cold or warm. Tired or well-rested. Despised or honored. Dying…or busy with other assignments. Because dying, too, is one of our assignments in life. There as well: “To do […]

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Are you growing, or just growing older?

posted by B. Dave Walters

“I saw my life branching out before me like the green fig tree in the story. From the tip of every branch, like a fat purple fig, a wonderful future beckoned and winked. One fig was a husband and a […]

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How to feel happy, and be at peace

posted by B. Dave Walters

“You always own the option of having no opinion. There is never any need to get worked up or to trouble your soul about things you can’t control. These things are not asking to be judged by you. Leave them […]

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How to motivate yourself…finally!

posted by B. Dave Walters

“It’s a New Year and with it comes a fresh opportunity to shape our world. So this is my wish, a wish for me as much as it is a wish for you: in the world to come, let us […]

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How to finally attract what you want (VIDEO)

posted by B. Dave Walters

“Do not wait: the time will never be ‘just right’. Start where you stand, and work whatever tools you may have at your command and better tools will be found as you go along.” ― Napoleon Hill As of the […]

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Q&A: “I’m trying to smile, but I’ve hit rock bottom….”

posted by B. Dave Walters

Question submitted via Formspring: “Hello, I am on the journey of my life moving leaving everything i know to move to NYC by myself. I had to stay in a shelter and am still here. I have a job but […]

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A crash course in creativity

posted by B. Dave Walters

In honor of the National Novel Writing Month (www.nanowrimo.org), in which we are all challenged to write a 50,000 word novel in a month, I wanted to put together a very quick crash course in creative writing.  I can tell […]

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The bad news about pursuing your dreams

posted by B. Dave Walters

We talked recently about what to do to have you breakthrough, and soon afterwards a friend contacted me about a hang up he’s having.  Essentially, he’s been in action towards achieving his goals, but his emotions have been all over […]

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A full moon, a Blood Moon, and a Hunter’s moon; oh my!

posted by B. Dave Walters

Starting on October 8, his week will have a particularly powerful alignment when we have a Blood Moon, a Hunter’s Moon, AND a full moon in Aries will be happening all at once!  This is a particularly powerful alignment of […]

What to do to have your breakthrough

posted by B. Dave Walters

“Believe and act as if it were impossible to fail.” – Charles Kettering As of this week, I’ll have been writing these articles for five years, and to celebrate, I want to share with you some of the most important […]

3 Simple rules for a happy life

posted by B. Dave Walters

“You always own the option of having no opinion. There is never any need to get worked up or to trouble your soul about things you can’t control. These things are not asking to be judged by you. Leave them […]

Suicide, and making sense of the senseless.

posted by B. Dave Walters

“But in the end one needs more courage to live than to kill himself.” ― Albert Camus Anyone who’s lost a loved one to suicide knows how uniquely painful and confusing it can be.  The death of Robin Williams opened […]

Q&A: I STILL don’t know what to do with my life…HELP!

posted by B. Dave Walters

Question submitted via Formspring: “Hi, I’ve been reading some of your posts, really interesting and encouraging, I kinda feel better and not that lost but I can’t stop thinking about what I can do. The thing is that I’m one […]

Q&A: Why there is no ‘One,’ and that’s a good thing

posted by B. Dave Walters

Question submitted via Facebook: “I just broke up with my boyfriend for the third and final time. I’m feeling good about it, but truly discouraged at the fact that there isn’t one person in the world for everyone. Love is….not […]

How to be happy and powerful: Advice from the Emperor

posted by B. Dave Walters

This is the absolute best time in history to be alive. Let me say that again: This is the best time in history to be alive.  No human beings anywhere, ever, have had the level of peace, security, information, education, […]

Q&A: ‘Why did he go back to her?’

posted by B. Dave Walters

Question submitted via Formspring: “I have been with my neighbor for a month, and we have been very close. All of the things you would expect in a loving relationship and it was all heading the right way.. except he […]

Q&A: Prayers and Inspiration for Tough Times

posted by B. Dave Walters

Question submitted via Formspring.Me/BDaveWalters: “What are some Bible verses I can share with a relative who just went to jail?” The Holy Bible is a source of inspiration for Jews, Christians, and even Muslims all over the world.  The real […]

Q&A: ‘I love him, but he doesn’t want a relationship’

posted by B. Dave Walters

Question submitted via Facebook: “Mr. Walters, I hope you can help me: There is this guy whom I really like. I told him about my feelings but he says that he doesn’t want to get into any relationship right now. I have been […]

Q&A: Is it too late to work things out?

posted by B. Dave Walters

Question submitted via Formspring: My husband and I are separated and “trying” to work it out – although it is very one sided. Sometimes I fear that if things were to work out, I won’t feel comfortable being intimate with him […]

How to get up when you hit rock bottom

posted by B. Dave Walters

“The primary cause of unhappiness is never the situation but thought about it. Be aware of the thoughts you are thinking. Separate them from the situation, which is always neutral. It is as it is.  Always say “yes” to the […]

How can you create the life you really want?

posted by B. Dave Walters

Cheers to a New Year and another chance for us to get it right. -Oprah Winfrey Every year around January 1, we take out a piece of paper and list our resolutions; all kinds of things we are ‘resolving’ to […]

A love letter from your true self

posted by B. Dave Walters

Beloved, I’ve been trying to talk to you lately, but you’ve been so busy; hopefully writing this letter will get your attention.  I just want you to know something very important: I love you; I really, truly, do. I know it’s been […]

Q&A: How to find happiness and feel real love

posted by B. Dave Walters

In my coaching work, the number one question I get is: How can I be happy?  Inevitably, the second question is: How can I find true love? A common mistake people make is believing that the solution to their problems […]

Q&A: ‘How do I stop being so shy?’

posted by B. Dave Walters

Question submitted via Formspring: “I am perceived at work as being quiet and unassuming and unresponsive to the social interactions of others in the workplace. What should I about this when there is work to be done?” The simple answer […]

Q&A: ‘He has stopped responding; should I confront him?’

posted by B. Dave Walters

Question submitted via Formspring: I had this date with a guy nearly a month ago, there were hints that he likes me, and he said he would like to see me again.   He also said that he would like to […]

Q&A: ‘Why do I run away when I develop feelings for someone?’

posted by B. Dave Walters

Question submitted via Formspring: “Hello Dave. I’m young and happily single; only friends and fun from time to time. But sometimes when I meet someone with whom I can be a friend AND have fun, I develop feelings for him. This […]

Q&A: “My husband cheated 5 times…why did I stay?”

posted by B. Dave Walters

Question submitted via Formspring “I have been with a man who had at least five affairs during our 27 years or marriage, and even spent 7 years with the same woman. What makes a man do this? What made me accept […]

Q&A: Do opposites really attract?

posted by B. Dave Walters

Question submitted via Formspring: “Do you think opposites attract?” The short answer is: no. One (dis)advantage of life in Los Angeles, is everyone is working to be absolutely identical. It may appear like they are so different, but if you look […]

Q&A: How do I stop picking the wrong guys?

posted by B. Dave Walters

(Unedited) questions submitted via Formspring: “Hi, I am one of those “good girls” faling in love with “bad boys”. With a dad who was never at home and a mental unstabil mum. You say, we can not trust our first […]

Q&A: How do I know they are ‘The One'; Or, am I afraid to be alone? (VIDEO)

posted by B. Dave Walters

(Unedited) questions submitted via Formspring: “Heey. Um, how would I know if I’m with someone ’cause I’m afraid to be alone, or ’cause I actually love someone? Your responses are exact and helpful. Thanks!” And, “How would I know if […]

What’s your life worth; Or, God: $4.50 a slice

posted by B. Dave Walters

“You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.” – Buddha Let’s start with a question: how much is your life worth? You may remember that I said before  that you’re worth millions of dollars worth […]

Q&A: I don’t know what to do with my life…HELP!

posted by B. Dave Walters

Question submitted via Formspring: “I’m kinda lost I’m 30 years old and honesty I don’t know how to deal or what to do with my life I don’t know what makes me happy or whats is my passion I don’t have […]

Q&A: Is it possible to be TOO picky?

posted by B. Dave Walters

Question submitted via Formspring: “My friend is VERY picky in choosing a man to date. She wants a relationship, but her standards are too high. She says it’s good because she knows what she wants and deserves the best. I […]

Q&A: Why is white skin believed to be so beautiful?

posted by B. Dave Walters

(Unedited) question submitted via Formspring: “Why is white so beautiful? Soap Operas all over the world only show the light-skinned people. Asian countries have surgeries and accessories to widen eyelids. Light-skinned artists are admired as the most beautiful ones (Beyonce, […]

Q&A: Is the Ego a bad thing?

posted by B. Dave Walters

(Unedited) Question submitted via Formspring: “I’ve been to a lot of spiritual seminars, and most of them tend to say that the EGO is a bad thing. Is that necessarily true?” An excellent question! We discussed this question on a […]

Your God-given talents; Or, playing the hand you’re dealt

posted by B. Dave Walters

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that frightens us most. We ask ourselves, ‘Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, […]

Letting go of guilt; Or, how to make things right (VIDEO)

posted by B. Dave Walters

Questions submitted via Formspring: “I have deep seated guilt issues which have made my self esteem lead me down paths of bad relationships and walking away from the only decent relationship of my life. How do I rid the guilt to […]

Knowing what you want, Or, wanting what you get (VIDEO)

posted by B. Dave Walters

“Be Content with what you have; rejoice in the way things are. When you realize there is nothing lacking, the whole world belongs to you.” -Lao Tzu Now we’ve let go of the past, and figured out how to feel good all the time, […]

How to deal with negative people; Or, how to be the life of the party (VIDEO)

posted by B. Dave Walters

“He who angers you, conquers you” -Elizabeth Kenny I have a confession to make: Los Angeles can *kind of * get under your skin. When you come here, it seems like it’s full of negative people, but that’s not really […]

Getting rid of baggage; Or, how to change in an instant (VIDEO)

posted by B. Dave Walters

If we don’t change, we don’t grow. If we don’t grow, we aren’t really living. Gail Sheehy When I take on new coaching clients, either online or here in Los Angeles, one of the first things we talk about is what […]

Quit being a zombie; Or, how to make a choice (VIDEO)

posted by B. Dave Walters

“Nothing is more difficult, and therefore more precious, than to be able to decide.” -Napoleon Bonaparte. I apologize if the tone of this article is a little…harsher than usual, but I promise it’s only because I love you, and want […]

Emotions, Or, you’re great, and I love you!

posted by B. Dave Walters

“You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.” -Buddha I’ve written and talked many times before now about how to use your emotions and the need for self-love but this time I’d like […]

Buddha vs Tony Robbins; Or, finding the middle way

posted by B. Dave Walters

(Unedited) question submitted via Facebook: “Hey Dave, one thing I would like to add to the question of how it is possible for some people like Tony Robbins to be so emotional and energized most of the time: There are two […]

You’re perfect but incomplete; Or, made in God’s Image (VIDEO)

posted by B. Dave Walters

All men’s souls are immortal, but the souls of the righteous are immortal and divine. -Socrates I’m going to do things a little differently today; I made a short video explaining things in more detail on Facebook. Give it a watch or […]

Staying out of the prison of fear, Or, who are you really?

posted by B. Dave Walters

“Courage is the resistance of fear, the mastery of fear, but not the absence of fear” -Mark Twain If you’re read my other article, Breaking the prison of Fear, you may recall it ends like this: I want to leave you […]

How to see the future; Or, no fate but what we make (VIDEO)

posted by B. Dave Walters

“The men and women who practice the foregoing instructions will certainly get and stay forever rich in all areas. In this process, we must stay conscious to that fact that any form of wealth received will be in exact proportion […]

Missing the mark; Or, the wages of Sin

posted by B. Dave Walters

We are punished by our sins, not for them. ~Elbert Hubbard. Spirituality, especially organized Religion, often gets a bad rap as being nothing but “Thou Shalt Nots”.  And, to be honest, in many houses of worship, it IS nothing but […]

Jesus is not a jerk; Or, the man, the myth, the legend

posted by B. Dave Walters

“I like your Christ, but I do not like your Christians. Your Christians are so different from your Christ” -Mahatma Gandhi Imagine there was a great teacher. A brilliant man who’s words move, touch, and inspire many who hear him. […]

Beating pessimism, Or, always look on the bright side of life

posted by B. Dave Walters

“A pessimist is one who feels bad when he feels good for fear he’ll feel worse when he feels better.” – Anonymous A friend of mine asked me to help her beat her pessimism, so I decided to dedicate today’s […]

Breaking the prison of fear Or, how to be happy all the time (VIDEO)

posted by B. Dave Walters

“Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves – regret for the past and fear of the future.” -Fulton Oursler Is there anything you want to do, but just don’t? Is there anything you know you NEED to do, but […]

Why God, Why; Or, Letting Go II (VIDEO)

posted by B. Dave Walters

The Root of pain is Attachment; this is the second Noble Truth. -Buddha As I have mentioned in the past, Los Angeles has quite a few bitter, unhappy people in it. Because for whatever reason, their goals have not manifested […]

The Heart Vs. The Mind; Or, Science And Its Darker Twin

posted by B. Dave Walters

There have been a handful of times in my life when I felt like certain things were ‘given’ to me by a higher power, and all I had to do was get it out and written down. This is one […]

Q&A: “Why do all guys cheat?”

posted by B. Dave Walters

(Unedited) Question submitted via Formspring “Hello Dave, I must admit that I like your articles on beliefnet and will like you to keep it up. My question is why is it so hard trying to get involved with a guy […]

Jesus and Buddha, their sayings compared; Or, meeting with the Masters

posted by B. Dave Walters

We have discussed Buddhism and how to ‘properly’ interpret scripture before, so today we will discuss the parallel sayings of two of the world’s Great Masters: Buddha and Jesus Christ. Originally, this article was intended to compare, contrast, and explain these passages; but upon […]

Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional , Or, why things go wrong, and how to make them go right

posted by B. Dave Walters

“All that we are is the result of what we have thought. If a man speaks or acts with an evil thought, pain follows him. If a man speaks or acts with a pure thought, happiness follows him, like a […]

Gnostic Theism, Or, Digital Spirituality

posted by B. Dave Walters

People often ask me what I personally believe; what follows is the sum total of my life experience, as well as spiritual and philosophical thought…so far at least. The points below came to me suddenly, or were ‘received’ over a […]

Q&A: Self-control; Or, How to manage your moods (VIDEO)

posted by B. Dave Walters

Question submitted via Formspring.me: “Hi Dave, do you have any advice on controlling moods. Today was a kinda off day for me. A guy was trying to flirt with me at the grocery store, and I completely blew him off. […]

Finding peace; Or, who are you really? (Video)

posted by B. Dave Walters

In the video below, I share: *How to step out of your comfort zone *How to know what’s really stopping you *How to deal with the pain of the past, and *How to create whatever you want. PS: The video […]

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