Heart of the Soul

Heart of the Soul

You’re Already Perfect

posted by Jodi Chapman

Jodi Chapman - Perfect Timing

In the past I seemed to believe that I’d achieve perfection if I only tried hard enough, pushed hard enough, and worked hard enough. 

So that’s exactly what I did. I tried until I couldn’t try any more. I pushed until I was absolutely exhausted and had nothing left to give. And I worked until I was so burned out that I couldn’t imagine ever working again.

And still I wasn’t perfect. Still there was something to better or something to strive for or something to, well, perfect.

This battle within me to be perfect goes back all the way to childhood. It goes back to being praised for being the smart one and the pretty one and the best one. It goes back to being told that I was the only one in my family who would succeed. It goes back to wanting approval and love.

I know all of this. I’ve known all of this for a long, long time.

And I’ve moved through so much of this quest for perfection. Throughout my journey, I realized that I am already perfect – that we all are. I realized that everything is happening exactly how it’s supposed to. I trust that on a deep level. I really do.

But I still find that I am triggered into old habits from time to time. I still find that someone can say something about how I’m not doing something perfectly that can bring me right back into this spiral of shame – worrying that I’m not doing enough or that I’m not doing it right or that I’m not good enough at whatever it is that I’m meant to be doing better in their eyes.

So in these moments I realize something: I am human. 

I am human, but I am also divine. And the things that I think I should be doing, the things that I think I should be striving for, the things that I think I should be pushing to better in myself aren’t nearly as important and don’t matter nearly as much as my own well being and inner peace.

It’s all a façade, this whole perfection thing. We have created it in our minds, and we can’t strive for something that doesn’t exist. We’ll never reach it. It will never be attained. At least not in the way we think.

So when I find myself being triggered back into this old pattern, I remember this. And I remember that those days of striving to be perfect are in the past and need not make their way into the present. And I remember to wrap myself in a loving embrace and choose to move through life with love and grace.

If you also struggle with perfection, I would invite you to do the same.

We are already perfect. If it feels otherwise, please give yourself permission to span out and see yourself through the eyes of love – through the eyes of the universe – through the eyes of God. You’re already perfect. You’re already enough. 

And all of the rest that you do and achieve and bring into your life is simply icing on the cake. It’s an added bonus to an already perfect you.

And that’s the truth.

Hugs,

Jodi

 

about jodi
Jodi Chapman is a bestselling author, an award-winning blogger, and a soulful community builder. She lives her life with love and faith in the driver’s seat, and she hopes to leave a trail of inspiration wherever she goes. She believes that we each have the ability to hear our soul’s whisper and create our best lives. She would love to connect with you!

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You Can Design Your Life

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Jodi Chapman - powerThe other day, after looking at my calendar and seeing how jam packed the upcoming week, month, year was, I started to feel panicky. The days are full. Completely full. They are the kind of days where I wonder how it’s all going to get done. They are the kind of days where I know it can’t all possibly get done. They are filled with to-dos, check lists, calls, and emails, writing deadlines, and work, work, and more work. They are the days where I move from one task to another – mindful of getting each one finished but not particularly mindful of the bigger picture and how I fit into it and how this is all part of my purpose. I didn’t see much downtime on the schedule or much self care or much space for being. And I could feel my chest begin to tighten.

Sometimes, in these moments of overwhelm, I need to move away from it before I completely go into hysterics. I can feel my soul crying out that it needs me to slow down, and so I either lie down and pull the covers up or go to the couch, wrap myself in a blanket, and turn on the TV – which is what I did on this particular day.

Oprah was on, and she mentioned that years ago she was telling Jerry Seinfeld that she was really tired, that she wasn’t looking forward to going back to her show (which at that point still had several years left to be on the air). He told her to stop whining and realize that she had the power to design her own life. Because of that conversation, she made the decision to end her show and to create space in her life to do the things that she wanted to do – the things that fed her soul.

A light bulb went on in my head, and I realized that this was the exact message that I needed to hear right then. I, too, have the power to design my life. We all do. If there is something that I don’t like about it, I can change it. Maybe not immediately, but I can begin taking steps to remedy whatever is hurting my soul.

For me, not having enough time to myself – time to go within, write, reflect, and BE – was weighing heavy on my heart and making me not super excited about my life in general. When I looked at the schedule, I was missing from it. And I knew that this was something that I had the power to change.

I create my schedule. And so if I’m not on it, I can change that. I can move appointments around or shift how I run my business in order to make sure that my own needs are met. If I look at something and feel that it no longer feeds my soul, I can take it out of the schedule or at least make plans to eliminate it in the near future.

This is something that I knew, but I hadn’t taken action on. And sometimes, all it takes is hearing it from a loving messenger (for me, in the form of Oprah) to wake us up and help us to take action.

I hope that I can serve as a loving messenger for you right now.

Is there any part of your life that you aren’t happy about – that you would like to change? Would you be willing to believe that you have the power to design your own life – that you can start right now to begin making changes to create whatever kind of life you want? 

You can start slowly – begin with awareness. Start by just imagining what your ideal life would look like. And then take baby steps to begin making it your reality.

I’m looking at my schedule in a completely different way now. And I love seeing that I’m back on it – big pockets of downtime where I can have some space and time for myself.

That feels amazing. And I’ll be much more present for others when I’ve honored my own needs in this way.

I hope you’ll take some time to reflect on your own life and see how you would like to design it. It matters because you matter. 

Hugs,

Jodi

 

about jodi
Jodi Chapman is a bestselling author, an award-winning blogger, and a soulful community builder. She lives her life with love and faith in the driver’s seat, and she hopes to leave a trail of inspiration wherever she goes. She believes that we each have the ability to hear our soul’s whisper and create our best lives. She would love to connect with you!

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Bravely Living with an Open Heart

posted by Jodi Chapman

Jodi Chapman - HeartLast week something happened that hurt me deeply. Because of this incident, I was faced with a choice:

I could either close off my heart in order to protect myself from being hurt in the future. Or I could feel my anger, hurt, disappointment, pain, and sadness. I could allow myself to be there and take as long as I needed to work through these feelings. And then I could come through to the other side of them feeling stronger and even more committed to living openly and truthfully and honestly and lovingly.

I will be the first to admit that when faced with these choices, my first inclination (like many of us) was to pull away. No one likes to be hurt or feel betrayed or put themselves out there only to be mistreated. I certainly don’t.

And, for a brief moment, I began to wonder if being so publicly open and honest was worth it. I began to question if it would be easier to just pull the shades and pull back from it all and take a completely different path. I considered putting my walls back up and closing  my heart to the world.

And then I remembered that I spent most of my life living this way. And it wasn’t much fun. I felt alone and sad and completely disconnected from all of life. Yes, my heart was protected from being hurt by others, but it also was prevented from feeling love and from letting others in and from being connected.

And I remembered how this incident that occurred was such an anomaly in my world. I remembered that in the many years that I’ve been sharing from this open space, it’s only been once or twice that I’ve felt hurt or betrayed. And every single day, I hear from several beautiful souls how my living with an open heart inspires them to do the same. And that means so much to me. That is evidence that this matters. It matters for me, and it matters for you.

And so, after spending some time seriously considering pulling away, I decided to come back even more open (if that’s possible) and even more loving (if that’s possible) and even more emphatic about how important it truly is that we each do the same.

We are the brave ones. Those of us who choose from one moment to the next to live with open hearts. Those of us who have decided to share honestly and vulnerably. Those of us who have consciously taken down our walls and who have chosen to show up in the world as ourselves – our true selves. We are the brave ones.

And I believe that we are protected. I believe that we have the universe on our side. I believe that we have love on our side. I believe that our bravery and our vulnerability and our love will have such a beautiful ripple effect that will be felt around the world. I believe that.

It doesn’t mean that we won’t be hurt. That’s part of the deal. Openness means exposing our hearts to the good and also the bad. But I believe that there is much, much, much more good than bad. And that’s what I am choosing to focus on.

I will not allow one little bit of hurt to trump years of open heartedness. I won’t. I will not allow any amount of darkness to dim my light. And I hope that you won’t either. 

Please join me in focusing on the light and focusing on the love. Please join me in staying open and continuing to share your truth.

Please. It’s essential that we do this together.

We truly are the brave ones. And filling the world with love is a noble cause.

I’m so glad we’re in it together.

Hugs,

Jodi

 

about jodi
Jodi Chapman is a bestselling author, an award-winning blogger, and a soulful community builder. She lives her life with love and faith in the driver’s seat, and she hopes to leave a trail of inspiration wherever she goes. She believes that we each have the ability to hear our soul’s whisper and create our best lives. She would love to connect with you!

Website   ♥   Facebook     ♥   Free Ebook & Meditation     ♥   Soulful Life Sanctuary

Making Space for Peace

posted by Jodi Chapman

Jodi Chapman - CandlesI’ve been looking for ways to invite more peace into my life. More balance. More yin energy. More restful energy. More “ahhhhhhh” energy.

Like many of us, I’ve been going, going, going for years. And all of this doing has become a habit. It’s become the known in my life. It’s become my comfort zone.

I love what I do. I really do. I get to write, inspire, connect, and collaborate. I get to witness shifts in others. I get to be a part of seeing someone embrace their life and realize how they, too, can communicate regularly with their soul. I get to see how their lives deepen and become fun again. I also get to sleep in, choose how to spend my days, and go where my muse takes me. And I’m definitely filled with so much gratitude for all of this. Truly I am.

I just want to shift my energy a little bit. I want to slow down and nurture my spiritual foundation. I want to listen to my body and give it what it needs: to rest, to recharge, to be still. 

I want to create routine where downtime is built in and peacefulness is the norm. I want to create space where I connect with my inner voice and the divine.

It’s time. And I think that if I’m feeling this yearning, chances are someone else is, too.

So I’m going to share what I’m doing to create this peaceful, easy feeling in my life. And I hope that you’ll get in touch with your soul and make space for peace in your life as well.

Buddha painting

Here’s what I’m doing to create this space:

  1. Setting boundaries. This is a big one for me. I tend to want to please everyone, which means I say yes to things that I don’t have time for, don’t always want to do, or do want to do but don’t need to do right this moment. So I’m learning to set boundaries. I create buffers in my day. I take the first week of each month off from calls/Skype sessions in order to center myself and have space to go within. I also have at least 3-4 days each week without calls for the same reason. And I’m learning to be extra mindful of not saying yes to something right away. I’m sitting with it first and seeing how it would feel if I said yes. Does it fit into my life right now? Does it create stress and constriction or openness and excitement? I am learning to listen to my heart and go where it leads – even if it means disappointing someone else (which isn’t ever a good feeling, but it’s all part of honoring my own needs).
  2. Creating a sanctuary. I am creating a peaceful home, which feels amazing. I have LED candles that all go on at the same time each night and fill my home with a warm, soothing glow. I have artwork that invokes a calming energy. I have soft, comfortable couches with blankets to snuggle up with. I turn the lighting down. I turn the phone off and the music off and the TV off, which helps me go within and simply BE.
  3. Making time. I am finding that if I wanted to, I could always come up with a reason (excuse) for why I simply don’t have time to slow down. There will always be so many things to do. There will always be a million reasons why I should keep going. There will always be the same number of hours in the day that I will want to fill with creative projects. But there comes a point (now) where it’s enough. There comes a point where I have to remember that a peaceful life is the foundation of everything – a peaceful life leads me to my core, my essence. And everything flows from that space of knowing. So when I try to come up with a reason why I don’t have time to slow down, I’ll remember this and do it anyway.
  4. Giving myself permission. I’ve found that there have been times when I want to make time to slow down, but I felt a little strange doing it – almost like I was slacking on the job (even though I’m my own boss). I am so used to doing and going that simply being has become uncomfortable. So giving myself permission to relax has been huge. It allows me to lie on the floor and space out or take an afternoon nap and not feel guilty or sit outside while soaking up the sun and watching the birds without thinking about what I “should” be doing. Permission is huge for me, and I’ll keep reminding myself that I deserve this rest. We all do.
  5. Taking peaceful action. It’s one thing to say that I’m going to invite more peace into my life. It’s another to actually make changes and do it. Because this is so important to me, I’m making sure that each day I do something to create a more peaceful life. Whether I sit outside for a little while and soak up the sun or I sit in my living room and stare at the candles, I have made the commitment to embrace the downtime and make it a habit in my life. 


I would love to hear some of the ways you are already making space for peace in your life (or how you plan to begin making space). 

We all deserve this. We really do.

And I can’t wait for all of us to make room for it. We’ll have so much more to give others if we’re settled in and at peace in our life.

Hugs,

Jodi

 

about jodi
Jodi Chapman is a bestselling author, an award-winning blogger, and a soulful community builder. She lives her life with love and faith in the driver’s seat, and she hopes to leave a trail of inspiration wherever she goes. She believes that we each have the ability to hear our soul’s whisper and create our best lives. She would love to connect with you!

Website   ♥   Facebook     ♥   Free Ebook & Meditation     ♥   Soulful Life Sanctuary

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