Heart of the Soul

Heart of the Soul

The Gift of Presence

posted by Jodi Chapman

matter copyI’ve been feeling more and more that in a world that seems to be speeding up and in a time when gadgets and technology are available (and oftentimes in our hands) at any moment, that presence has become the best present we can offer to ourselves and also to others. 

Years ago, when cell phones were just becoming popular and mainstream, I was having lunch with a friend. In the middle of our conversation, her phone rang. She went to grab it, and I thought that she was going to turn the ringer off and apologize. Instead, she answered it and began having a conversation. I sat there not entirely sure what to do. Should I busy myself with something else? Should I pretend that I can’t hear the conversation? Should I get up and leave? While the phone conversation only lasted a minute or two, in those moments I felt like I wasn’t important to her, like I didn’t matter. And that definitely didn’t feel good.

This experience was actually such a blessing for me. Because I will always remember how I felt in that moment, and I vowed to do everything in my power to be fully present for those I interacted with from then on. I wanted them to know that when I was with them, I was there 100%.

Like I said, this was years ago. And so much has changed since then. We now have even more gadgets to distract ourselves from those who are right in front of us. We have a constant stream of Facebook updates and Tweets and Instagram pictures and texts and calls and videos and the list truly goes on and on. And I will admit that I’m not immune to these distractions. I feel the pull to check Facebook when I’m on a call with someone. I feel the desire to just look and see if any new emails have come in. And while I’m definitely not perfect, I can say that I do my best to stay present and give my full attention to whomever I am talking to. I know that they deserve this attention. I know that if the tables were turned, I would want that from them. I feel that the best gift I can give to them is this complete presence – letting them feel on a deep level that they matter to me. Letting them feel that they are more important to me than anything else that is happening in the world. All of that stuff will still be there when our conversation ends. But in this moment, I want them to feel that they have my full attention.

I was on a group Skype call the other day with five other people. Two of the five were watching TV in the background and one was constantly checking her smart phone. And while they were (for the most part) keeping up with the conversation, it still reminded me of how I felt all of those years ago with my friend answering her phone. I felt that they didn’t really want to be there.

And while I know that it’s nothing personal and that everyone seems to do this and it has nothing to do with me, I can’t help but take it a bit personally, to be honest. I feel like if we’re going to be together (virtually or in person), we can give each other the gift of presence. We can put our phones down and our gadgets down and (as best we can) turn our full attention to whomever we are with for the entire time we are with them.

You can feel the difference when someone is present, and it feels amazing, right? You can tell when someone is physically with you but their thoughts are clearly somewhere else. And you probably don’t think that it feels that great when someone is listening to you and also checking their email at the same time or watching the game or texting their friend.

And while I definitely don’t think that anyone means any harm by any of this, I do believe that it is doing harm. It’s perpetuating the feeling that we aren’t enough – that we don’t matter – that we aren’t seen. And all of this can be remedied with presence. It’s really that simple.

This non-presence is simply a habit that many of us have gotten into that we can change (if we want to). We can choose to be present. We can choose to give our full and complete attention to each person that we interact with. We can choose to show them how much they matter to us. We can help them feel that they are enough.

So with that in mind, I would love for all of us to try an experiment: 

Let’s all commit to being fully present with everyone we interact with for the rest of the day. 

When you eat dinner with your family, put your phones away. Turn the TV off. And if you notice that your thoughts start to drift away from the conversation, lovingly bring them back.

When you are checking out at the grocery store, look up and smile at the cashier. Ask them about their day. Listen to their response. Really engage with them.

When your kids ask you to help them with their homework, again put away all distractions that may take you away from being fully present with them. Let them feel how important they are to you. Let them see that this is where you want to be. Give them your undivided attention.

When your spouse asks to spend time with you, be there for them. Ask them how they are feeling. Listen. Look into their eyes. See them. Really see them.

I guarantee that doing this will help each person that you interact with to feel seen and heard and loved. They will love this gift of presence that you have given them, and they will be more likely to give this gift to someone else. It has a beautiful ripple effect. And it all starts with setting the intention to be as present and as engaged as you can be with each person.

See them. Hear them. Listen to them. Be present for them.

It’s so, so worth it.

It’s a beautiful way to go through your day. Fully connected. Fully present.

Hugs,

Jodi

 

about jodi
Jodi Chapman is a bestselling author, an award-winning blogger, and a soulful community builder. She lives her life with love and faith in the driver’s seat, and she hopes to leave a trail of inspiration wherever she goes. She believes that we each have the ability to hear our soul’s whisper and create our best lives. She would love to connect with you!

Website   ♥   Facebook     ♥   Free Ebook & Meditation     ♥   Soulful Life Sanctuary

I Am Here

posted by Jodi Chapman

 

Heart - Jodi Chapman

I am here to hold your hand when you aren’t sure if you can keep going.

I am here to cheer you on when you have soared higher than you knew was possible.

I am here when you are elated. I am here when you are devastated.

I am here when you have forgotten me. I am here when you remember me.

I am here when you push me away. I am here when you pull me close.

I am here to love you with a love that’s fuller than anything you’ve ever felt.

I am here when you have lost all faith. I am here to help you find it again.

I am here if and when you forget how to put one foot in front of the other. I am here to guide you forward one step at a time.

I am here to help you remember why you are here.

I am here to encourage you to dream – to live fully.

I am here to connect you with all of life.

I am here to support you in remembering to love, love, and love some more.

I am here to remind you that it’s all going to be okay. Because it already is, even if it doesn’t feel that way.

I am here.

I am right here. Inside you. All around you. Everywhere.

I am here – loving you endlessly and unconditionally.

I am here – loving you always.

I am always here – in your next breath, in your next word, and in your next heartbeat.

I am here.

With you. Forever.

Love,

Your Soul

 

about jodi
Jodi Chapman is a bestselling author, an award-winning blogger, and a soulful community builder. She lives her life with love and faith in the driver’s seat, and she hopes to leave a trail of inspiration wherever she goes. She believes that we each have the ability to hear our soul’s whisper and create our best lives. She would love to connect with you!

Website   ♥   Facebook     ♥   Free Ebook & Meditation     ♥   Soulful Life Sanctuary

A Soul’s Perspective on Death

posted by Jodi Chapman

Image by Kreuzschnabel/Wikimedia Commons, License: artlibre

I’ve been in a reflective space today and have been thinking about dying and the soul and the other side and why we’re here and why we leave when we do.

Do you ever have those days? I call them my “seeker” days – where these deeper thoughts are at the forefront of my mind and at the tip of my heart.

I think about all of the amazing people in our world who have passed onto the other side. I think about how many of them were ready to go and how many of them wanted to stay. I think about how many of them had time to process that they were leaving and how many transitioned to the other side before they even realized it – not having had the chance to say goodbye to their loved ones.

Death can seem messy and unplanned and tragic and extremely sad. And I started to think that these are words that my human self is using to describe this natural part of our time here on Earth.

From our soul’s perspective, I know that there is no such thing as death – there is only a transition from one realm to another. And so, when one of our loved ones die here on Earth, I believe that it is only their physical body that dies. Their soul floats away from it and continues on somewhere else.

And this brings me so much comfort. Just like you, I have lost loved ones throughout my journey here on Earth. And each time it happens, I am so very sad and long to bring them back. I long for our moments together to stand still in time. I wish that we could go on together like that forever. And I’m always terribly sad when I realize that I will never see them here on Earth again. That I will never hear them laugh again. Or see them smile again. My heart breaks that time in their physical body is over. That they will not grow older. That they will not do the things that they wanted to still do. Their time as they knew it had ended.

And this is so painful to think about. My human self mourns and grieves and cries. Which is all exactly what a human is supposed to do. It’s normal to long for things to remain the same. It’s normal for us to wish that our loved ones would never leave us.

But that’s just not the way things work, right?

And so when I’m grieving for those who have gone before me, something that helps me tremendously is to span out – away from my physical body and my mind and even my heart – and expand into my soul. This is the part that is connected to the universe and to the afterlife and to everything. This is the part that goes on and that is connected to all of the other lives that are also eternal.

And in doing this, I remember that we never die. I remember that we are always together. I remember that death is a transition. I remember that our time here on Earth is just a blip of time along the entire spectrum of our soul’s life. I remember that I can reach out to my loved ones at any moment and talk to them, listen to them, be with them. I remember that we have all chosen to be here, and we have all chosen when and how we will leave. I remember that our time here on Earth is a beautiful journey – one to be embraced and celebrated. I remember that we are all made of pure love, and we will all return to pure love when we leave this world.

And while remembering these things doesn’t take away my pain completely, it definitely does bring some comfort to me.

We’re always together, and while we may not currently understand why it was our loved one’s time to transition to the other side, just knowing that there is a plan and a purpose and life after death helps me so much.

I hope that it brings comfort to you as well when you are missing your loved ones.

Hugs,

Jodi

 

about jodi

Jodi Chapman is a bestselling author, an award-winning blogger, and a soulful community builder. She lives her life with love and faith in the driver’s seat, and she hopes to leave a trail of inspiration wherever she goes. She believes that we each have the ability to hear our soul’s whisper and create our best lives. She would love to connect with you!

Website   ♥   Facebook   ♥   Soul Shakers Sale    ♥   Free Ebook   ♥   Free Meditation

Telling a New Story

posted by Jodi Chapman

story“I’ve never been a morning person. I wake up tired and a bit grumpy. I never feel fully rested. I immediately begin to feel stressed about all of the things that need to be done during the day ahead. I drag myself out of bed and start the day feeling overwhelmed and overcommitted and overly exhausted.”

This has been one of the stories that I’ve lived for as long as I can remember. When I was younger, my sister used to comment that it’s best not to even try talking to me until I had been awake for at least an hour – I would just be too grumpy otherwise.

Through the years I just sort of believed this story and accepted it as a part of who I was. I told myself that I’m just not great in the morning. Give me a little while to wake up, and I’ll be back to my happy and grateful self.

What’s really funny about this story is that I live a really great life. I get to spend my days doing what I love. I get to spend my days with my loved ones: my amazing husband, our sweet cats, and all of the beautiful souls in my various online communities. My soul is full. My heart is full. My brain is stimulated. I’m living my purpose and embracing my passion each and every day.

So why am I still telling (and living) this grumpy outdated story? 

Because I’m used to it. Because it’s just always been that way. Because I haven’t ever consciously changed it.

Until now.

I know that there is another way. And starting tomorrow, I’m going to shift this story and start telling a new one: 

“I love waking up each day. I feel well rested and grateful for my life. I am so happy to hear the birds singing right outside my bedroom window. I love that I get to see my sweetie when I open my eyes and tell him that I love him. It makes me happy to say good morning to my cats. I feel grateful for the day ahead – knowing that I will get to share my soul with so many and feel the beautiful energy that comes from the loving hearts that I interact with. I know that the day ahead will bring many wonderful surprises, and I look forward to receiving them.”

This story feels much more in line with who I have become. This story feels more like me. And it’s definitely the story that I am going to tell (and live) from now on.

So how will I shift the old story to the new one? 

With conscious presence. By continuing to remind myself of this desire to create the reality that I want to be a part of. And with practice – one morning at a time.

Are there any old stories that you’re still telling that no longer seem to fit? Would you be willing to create a new story and start living it instead? 

I sure hope so! We really do get to create our own reality, and shifting our stories is a wonderful way to start doing exactly that!

Hugs,

Jodi

P.S. – I’m so excited to share this free ecourse with you that my husband just created! It’s completely free for a little while longer, so be sure to download it soon! It’s called: Rewrite Your Story: A Soulful Path to Becoming the Empowered Author of Your Own Life! Click here to download it!

 

about jodi

Jodi Chapman is a bestselling author, an award-winning blogger, and a soulful community builder. She lives her life with love and faith in the driver’s seat, and she hopes to leave a trail of inspiration wherever she goes. She believes that we each have the ability to hear our soul’s whisper and create our best lives. She would love to connect with you!

Website   ♥   Facebook   ♥   Soul Shakers Sale    ♥   Free Ebook   ♥   Free Meditation

Previous Posts

Just One Thing
Sometimes, life can feel overwhelming. It can feel disheartening. It can feel like it’s all just too much to handle, to process, to sift through. Especially for sensitive souls – those of us who live our lives with our hearts wide open and with our emotions close to the surface. I know. I rea

posted 7:53:45pm Jun. 06, 2014 | read full post »

In the Stillness (Free Printable Poster)
I created this printable poster as a loving reminder for each of us. It's my hope that it helps us remember to slow down and give ourselves the beautiful gift of stillness and presence. You can click on it, save it, and print it out - I created it at high resolution for you. Hugs, Jodi &nbs

posted 10:02:15pm May. 26, 2014 | read full post »

Lean Into It
I oftentimes feel that my life is a drag car race – where I’m going around and around and around at super fast speeds, and the only time I stop to recharge is when I absolutely have to – when I’m about to run out of gas or when my body simply can’t go any longer and needs to refuel – eit

posted 1:50:03am May. 18, 2014 | read full post »

You Already Know
Yes. It’s easy to look to another for the answers. It’s easy to look outside of yourself for the way forward. It’s easy to ask and plead and beg for someone to tell you what to do, or how to live, or where to go. It’s so easy to put all of your power in someone else’s hands – to turn you

posted 1:31:15am May. 07, 2014 | read full post »

You're Already Perfect
In the past I seemed to believe that I'd achieve perfection if I only tried hard enough, pushed hard enough, and worked hard enough.  So that’s exactly what I did. I tried until I couldn’t try any more. I pushed until I was absolutely exhausted and had nothing left to give. And I worked unti

posted 8:03:59pm Apr. 30, 2014 | read full post »


Report as Inappropriate

You are reporting this content because it violates the Terms of Service.

All reported content is logged for investigation.