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Breast Feeding Baby Doll: Would You Buy It?

posted by Linda Mintle

Looking for a special doll for your young daughter this Christmas? Well, there is one that has stirred up quite a bit of controversy. It’s called Breast Milk Baby and is sold through Berjuan Toys for $89.00.

The doll comes with an apron type top that a little girl puts on over her clothes. Two flowers are positioned where the nipples would be and when the baby’s mouth comes to the flowers, the doll makes a sucking sound. The child can then burp the baby after feeding. The doll basically simulates a mom nursing her baby.

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The doll has polarized parents. Those in favor of the doll see it as just a way to imitate mom, and hope it will create a positive view of breast feeding. Since breast feeding is so beneficial for babies, some parents feel this is a positive step in normalizing the act.

Opposers are worried that the doll is too much too soon. The concern is that this is one more way we over sexualize young children. Some parents wrote on social media that the doll would encourage pregnancy, others just say it makes them uncomfortable and would choose another type of doll for their child.

Honestly, I can’t see the harm. Many kids watch their moms nurse their younger siblings and do not see this as a sexual act.  Psychologically, I do not believe this is a way to over sexualize children. I nursed both of my children and trust me, it wasn’t a sexual thing!

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Perhaps, we Americans have sexualized breasts to the point of making this a creepy thing. Research points to the multiple benefits of breastfeeding–breast milk is easier to digest, fights disease, saves money and benefits the mothers health as well. While I don’t think a child has to have a doll to feel that breastfeeding is a normal action of a mom, I don’t think this doll is going to harm young girls.

But you are free to disagree with me. In fact, I would love to hear your thoughts!

So come on friends. Let’s do life together by weighing in on this one.

 

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Can a One-Year-Old Be Influenced By TV Viewing?

posted by Linda Mintle

If the TV is on in a room, do infants pay attention to it?

If so, does it influence them?

Researchers at Tufts University say YES!

One-year-olds can be influenced by messages from television. Infants pick up on the emotional signals they observe and actually base decisions on them.

Here is what has been found: When infants are awake, they observe the actions and reactions of others and take it all in and use it to make decisions. For example, let’s say an infant watches someone on TV get angry at a ball. He watches the emotion the person presents towards that object and is somehow able to draw implications for his own behavior based on that observation.

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Sounds incredible, doesn’t it? Tufts researcher, Donna Mumme, an expert on emotional communication in infants, found that infants are impacted by emotions they see on TV.

This remarkable finding–that infants pay attention to television stimuli and use it to guide their interactions–gives us all pause for concern.

The take-away is that what children are exposed to in media can influence their behavior.

So think twice before you react harshly to something or someone in front of your infant. She is paying attention.

Also, be careful concerning media exposure. It is never too early to monitor television viewing!

 

 

 

Source: January/February issue of Child Development, the publication of the Society for Research in Child Development.
Read more at http://scienceblog.com/803/research-shows-tv-carries-messages-that-influence-infants-behavior/#x8lIhxpksGlVSTA0.99

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5 Tips To Help Control Your Anger

posted by Linda Mintle

Are you easily angered? Do you have a low tolerance for frustration. Does any little thing annoy and frustrate you? Are you tired of feeling out of control? If so, consider these five tips:

1) Take a 20 minute time-out from an angry situation. Walk away, practice deep breathing to calm down your body. Come back to the situation once you are physically relaxed.

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2) Take each thought captive (2Corinthians 10:5). Angry emotions are rooted in angry thoughts so learn to stop that angry thought and think on something more positive or good (Philippians 4:8).

3) Choose not to take offense. Even if offense was given, it is your decision to take or refuse it. Always err on the side of giving mercy to others.

4) When you are the target of injustice, do the unnatural but biblical thing-pray for that person (Matthew 5:44). I admit, this isn’t easy to do.

5) Choose to forgive.  Because God forgave you, you must forgive others. It’s a biblical mandate (Matthew 18:21-22). Forgiveness is an act of obedience to God and prevents bitterness from forming.

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Always remember. You are the only one who has control over your responses. An angry emotion may creep up, but how you handle it is what counts. The biblical directive is to be angry and not sin (Ephesians 4:26). The way we meet that requirement is to respond in a godly way no matter what the source of the anger. Paul sums it up in Romans 12:19-21 (NLT) ” Dear friends, never avenge yourselves. Leave that to God. For it is written: “I will take vengeance; I will repay those who deserve it,” says the Lord. Instead do what the Scriptures say: “If your enemies are hungry, feed them. If they are thirsty, give them something to drink, and they will be ashamed of what they have done to you.” Don’t let evil get the best of you, but conquer evil by doing good.”

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Dr. Linda’s small book, Breaking Free from Anger and Unforgiveness has helped thousands of people respond to anger in a healthy way.

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The Truth About Holiday Weight Gain and 5 Easy Tips to Avoid It

posted by Linda Mintle

Are you feeling that after turkey bloat and wondering, “How I am going to make it through the holiday season without gaining a lot of weight?”

The popular notion that most people gain between 5-7 pounds just isn’t true. Truth is that most of us will gain about a pound.

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The problem is that we tend to keep that pound and it accumulates throughout the years. According to the National Institutes of Health, that extra pound a year may be a contributor towards obesity. So don’t go diving into the desserts with abandon just yet!

One way to prevent holiday weight gain is to think about what it takes to gain a pound. You must consume an extra 3500 calories.

So do simple things:

1)   Drink water instead of soda or high calorie drinks.

2)   Stop eating after one helping. Don’t gorge yourself.

3)   Avoid stress eating by doing non-food related activities.

4)   Exercise if you eat a heavy meal. Research shows that there is benefit to exercise two hours after you have indulged. So if you overeat, hit the gym!

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5)   Struggling to find time to exercise with all the holiday busyness. Remember that a 10-minute brisk walk gives huge benefit. Now, get out there and enjoy!

 

For more tips to prevent overeating, check out Dr. Linda’s book, PRESS PAUSE BEFORE YOU EAT

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