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be who you are | Terezia Farkas | depression help | courage| Beliefnet

Courage is dynamic action. Courage is putting yourself in a position that isn’t comfortable, is outside your comfort zone. Courage is a growth-orientated energy.

Courage comes from the heart.

You naturally radiate heart energy – love, encouragement, support, guidance, growth. All of that is intended to radiate outward from you. But when you discourage yourself or someone else, you’re limiting that energy. You are squeezing down on the amount of love that travels outwards from your heart.

If you say to yourself, “I’m a beautiful, accomplished, well educated person” and your heart says, “Yeah right,” who’s going to win? Your heart will win, because that energy, that thought is driven by emotion which comes from your subconscious.

That thought is driven by a part of you that says, “That’s not true for me.” You want it to be true. You think in your mind that it is true. But unless your subconscious aligns with the way you and others talk to you, believing or manifesting that thought will be difficult.

Take baby steps.

The person you are has been created by yourself and other people. Many of your ideas about yourself are based on how others have acted towards you, or what they have said about you. Many of these ideas are hiding in your subconscious, waiting for triggers to take them to the surface.

Using affirmations, talking to yourself in a loving manner can be tough. It’s not easy when you haven’t done it for years or heard others say loving things to you. But change starts with baby steps towards transforming how you think about yourself.

Courage is emotion.

Courage is emotion. When you pray, it’s not the words or the ritual that creates change. It’s the emotion. The energy that moves from deep within your consciousness. That energy lets you connect with God and manifest what you have your heart set on.

When you put your heart into anything, you become very dynamic. You fill yourself with solid energy that moves you past where you think you’re capable of going. This is how you know down your walls. This is how you transcend your limits.

Stretch past your comfort zone!

Courage enables you to put yourself in a situation that’s uncomfortable because its not inside your comfort zone. By stretching past your comfort zone, and by being passionate while you’re there, your life becomes bigger. Your life expands. So if you stand up to your boss, or to some authority, and say, “This is wrong. I’m choosing to do this,” your courage puts you into that spot.

Once you stretch yourself out of your comfort zone, your comfort edges won’t be the same anymore. Even if you zoom right back to where you feel comfortable and familiar with life, your space is no longer limited the way it was originally. Like a stretched sweater, you have new room to be courageous, to stand up for your beliefs, to speak your truth. Dare to be remarkable!


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deserving visualization | Terezia Farkas | depression help | meditation | Beliefnet

Deserving is part of the cycle of life, and of the cycle of creation.

Choosing happiness is the greatest way of indicating to the Divine your choice, your acceptance that you deserve not only to be happy, but to be lavishly happy, not only to feel joy, but to be full of joy.

A deserving visualization.

Close your eyes and begin to slow down your breath.

Breathe in the golden green light of the Divine, letting it fill your body. Breathe out and release all that which no longer serves your physical needs.

Breathe in the golden blue light of Higher Thought, filling your entire space. As you breathe out you release all thoughts and patterns of thought that no longer serve you.

Breathe in the golden pink light of Unconditional Love. Let it fill all your spaces and all the spaces in between. As you breathe out every form of condition attached to the world, the experience of Love is released. It is fully a part of your self, your life.

Allow yourself to be in a beautiful garden filled with an abundance of flowers and living forms in all colours, in fragrances that soothe and bring you and your vision to a greater sense of inner peace.

As you sit in the garden, feeling the peace, become aware of little cool droplets falling into the palms of your hands, into your lap.

Let yourself enjoy the refreshing moment.

Fell the strain and stress in your shoulders begin to ease away. Relax your forehead, your throat, your eyes, and your ears.


As you relax, become aware that the cool droplets are droplets of clear, golden light.

They represent the lovingness of the Divine who created you.

They are abundance at all levels.

They are your ability to receive.

Say, “This is magic. I deserve the joyous life I would choose from the point of happiness.”

“I deserve a life of abundant goodness and love that God showers me with.”

Notice that the golden light falls gently, peacefully and abundantly onto your shoulders. It sticks in your hair. It fills up your lap.

“I deserve all of life’s goodness, for I am loved. I am good to myself. I deserve all of love’s goodness no matter how I judge myself.”

The golden shower embraces you with its radiant light.

“I deserve peace. I deserve success according to my definition.”

“I deserve abundance. I deserve friendship.”

“I deserve compassion and healing. I deserve contentment.”

“I deserve to receive and know Divine love for no other reason that because I exist.”

Give yourself a moment to add your own wish.

Then with an expression of gratitude in your heart, allow yourself to come gently, peacefully out of your meditation. Open your eyes.


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Good Morning America shuts down Suicide awareness | Terezia Farkas | depression help | Beliefnet

Last week, we brought the fight to #StopSuicide to Good Morning America. They told us people “didn’t want suicide on the brain.”

Please share this article by our VP of Research Dr. Jill Harkavy-Friedman to show the people at GMA that millions of Americans already have #SuicideOnTheBrain, and we must talk about it!

At 6:00 a.m. on Sept. 8, 2016, my daughter, son-in-law and I went to join our American Foundation for Suicide Prevention colleagues and supporters to appear on “Good Morning America.” We were all excited, dressed in our lively bright blue “Be the Voice #StopSuicide” shirts, with smiles on our faces, ready to talk about saving lives. Our sea of bright blue dominated the colour palette of the rope line. People who hadn’t come with us reached out, let us know they supported us and in some cases revealed they had a personal connection to suicide loss themselves. Many gladly took a free shirt and put it on in solidarity. We’d been told that probably between 7 and 8 a.m., someone would come out and interact with the crowd. We were psyched and ready.

I was crushed when we were asked to step aside, take ourselves and our National Suicide Prevention Week signs out of the camera’s view, and given the explanation that, “It’s the top of our morning show. We don’t want suicide on the brain.”

I now feel more passionate than ever.

It’s not the fault of “Good Morning America” exactly. We know we had supporters inside the building. They knew we would be there, and wanted to feature us. Probably, one executive made a snap decision, not realizing that suicide is a health issue, that it is the 10th leading cause of death in the United States and that it can be prevented. But only if we talk about it. And only if we educate people about what to look for in order to recognize the signs and get people help.

Thirty years ago, when I started working to prevent suicide as a researcher and clinician, no one wanted to even use the word “suicide.” In fact, I got into the field as a new psychologist because no one in the psychiatric department I joined wanted to focus their work on adolescent suicide. Lately, though, I have been heartened to notice a shift in the conversation.According to a Harris Poll, nearly 90 percent of people realize that mental health is as real as physical health. I now regularly hear people discussing their mental health and even their experiences with suicide just as they would talk about diabetes, appendicitis or a cold. Media has also begun handling suicide prevention from a more enlightened perspective. It’s a slow process, but progress is happening.

I am familiar with people being uncomfortable talking about suicide. Often, suicide presentations at conferences are slotted for the last day at the last hour. Yet when people attend, they feel it was time well spent because they realize they can make a difference. I am no longer stopped in the ladies’ room by people wanting to share their personal experiences about suicide; instead, I am approached in the open, in front of others and the discussions are often lively.

Thanks to all of our research, we know that suicide can be prevented: one life, one moment at a time. We know about risk factors like mental health conditions, early trauma and abuse, head injury, chronic pain and chronic health conditions. We know genetics plays a role, particularly in terms of sensitivity to stress and one’s ability to “bounce back.”  Most people with mental health conditions or major life stresses do not try to kill themselves. We have methods we know work to help people to manage suicidal thoughts without acting on them. All that needs to be done is to spread awareness and knowledge. Like the name of one of our educational programs, talk saves lives.

The incident at “Good Morning America” just happens to be the latest reminder there is still work that needs to be done. We were in such good moods, standing there in our colourful shirts: far from a dour image that would have brought any early morning viewers down. We were ready to happily answer questions like, “What can we do to prevent suicide?” and, “How can you start a conversation with someone you’re worried about?” Simply giving people the answers to these questions saves lives. We just need to spread the word. Some of the bravest people I know have faced suicide and survived.  But we can’t bring people who need help out of the darkness if we’re pushed into the shadows for fear that it’s a sad topic. Our message is a hopeful one!

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what's the best app to manage mental health | Terezia Farkas | depression help | Beliefnet

With the increase of mental health apps, it’s important to make sure you have the app that’s right for you. Don’t just pick up any app. Choose the one that’s best for you.

Tori Utley gives you four questions to ask when choosing the best app to manage your mental health.

1. What is the purpose of the app?

There are numerous apps on the market with a mental health focus, so you must determine your purpose for using an app. Is the app for tracking or therapeutic purposes? If you’re looking for an app simply for tracking for your own benefit or for your care providers, then you must ensure you’re tracking the right dimensions – depression, overall mood, anxiety, general mental health, etc. Conversely, if you’re looking to an app for therapeutic elements, make sure the app has the right research, backing and features to ensure you’re getting advice that will help you improve your mental health in the best way possible.

2. Is it validated?

This may take some research, but looking for clinical validation of an app is wise. Have there been any clinical trials or tests that assess the performance and functionality of the app? This is especially important if the app claims to be prescriptive or therapeutic. You don’t want to choose an app that is directing you toward therapeutic principles if it has not been tested and validated or if it does not use evidence-based tools. Though not all apps or techniques without these qualifications are of poor quality, proceed in using them with caution. As a best practice, find the app that has the validation and will give you the confidence that you’re receiving care and insight that is validated, true and helpful.

3. What is the app’s performance?

It is easy to review an app’s ratings – before you download, see what people have to say about the product on the app store or in any online articles. Look for app crashes, how the app has been updated, the insights the app offers, and how other users’ experiences have been. Additionally, do some research on what capabilities the app is harnessing. There are many functionalities offered to app developers today – Apple’s ResearchKit, IBM Watson and other tools using artificial intelligence and machine learning. What level of technology are you looking for and how are you hoping it will benefit your mental health?

4. Are there any notable partnerships?

In the midst of startup culture, it’s not always critical that a new technology be associated with a long-standing brand. However, partnerships and associations with trusted brands are not a bad thing, especially in health care. Look for associations with research or clinical organizations known for their work in mental health. This will boost your confidence when using a particular app, knowing that it is founded with trust and quality.

Mobile technology can be extremely beneficial for those who are managing a mental health condition – offering ease of use, efficiency and constant access, among many other benefits. Make sure, if you are going to use a mobile app to manage your mental health, that you ask critical questions to choose the right one. Choosing the right app, wearable or other therapeutic mechanism will ensure you remain on the right track toward health and wellness.


Original article appeared in Forbes

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