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Author Terezia Farkas: Why #Lets Talk Matters To Me

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Bell Let's Talk article by Terezia Farkas www.tereziafarkas.com

On Wednesday, January 28 there will be a nationwide, full day conversation about mental illness and stigma in Canada. Every year, Bell Canada hosts a Let’s Talk Day. The purpose is to break stigma and raise awareness of mental health issues and support systems. It’s a great idea and one that helped me open up about my depression.

When Let’s Talk Day started, I hated the concept. I was in that stage of depression where I didn’t want any more help. I was in recovery from suicide attempts, had gone through personal and group therapy sessions, and was on medication. Yeah, I had decided I wanted to live, but I really hated hearing other’s opinions about depression. Group therapy had sucked. There was a young girl, a single mother, a grieving dad. The group left me with the feeling that my depression wasn’t sexy or important enough. Then the group ostracized me for talking about God, the soul and afterlife. By the end of therapy I felt more isolated than when I started.

That’s when the first Bell Let’s Talk day was announced. TSN host Michael Landsberg and Bell created the special “Darkness and Hope: Depression, Sports, and Me.” I refused to watch it. What did Michael know about depression? Big star, big name, he was probably being paid millions to do this gig. The next year Bell rebroadcast the special. My brother made me watch. He told me throughout the days leading up to the show that we were going to watch it together. He even googled up Michael’s story with the hope I’d realize that the guy knew what he was talking about.

So I sat on the couch with my brother, watching and listening to Michael Landsberg. Michael was severely depressed. I wanted to criticize but instead I identified with everything he said. Fake smiles, false fronts. Acting how you think others want to see you. Meanwhile you’re dying emotionally every moment, every second. No one wants to see that. You only have one person you confide in. It could have been me saying all those things.

You never get out of depression, Michael said, and you’re lying to yourself if you say you’re cured. My thoughts flew to how I had tried explaining that for me, depression felt like cancer that was in remission, with the illness still in my body. “Yes!” I said to my brother. “That’s my type of depression! This is what I’ve been trying to explain about how I feel. He’s exactly like me!” I started crying.

Then there was Daryl Strawberry. When his mom died, Daryl’s grief took him into depression. Again, it was my experience mirrored by Daryl. I couldn’t believe it. Then it Clara Hughes’ turn to talk about depression. Clara could laugh and smile. I looked at her and thought at least she didn’t slip down to where I was. It also gave me hope that one day I could feel joyful enough to give a simple smile.

By the end of the two-hour special, I’d gone through several tissues. For several hours afterwards, my brother and I continued talking about my depression and my suicide attempts. Hearing other stories gave us a starting point.

Bell Let’s Talk Day is about hope. It gives you a chance to take off your mask and talk about your pain. It allows you to mourn the loss of who you were and to say, “It’s okay I’m like this now.” It cracks open the darkness for a minute and gives you hope by letting you realize there are people who’ve made it out to the other side.

Terezia Farkas. International Bestselling Author, Huffington Post/ CNN contributor, columnist of Depression Help. Focus is mental health. Her bestseller Heart of Love Evolution – Surviving Depression is available on Amazon. Website:  www.tereziafarkas.com Follow on  Twitter.

How To Beat Being Unemployed And Depressed

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unemployed| depressed | terezia farkas| beliefnet.comBeing unemployed for more than a few months can make you depressed. Hearing ‘No’ after ‘No’ is hard on anyone’s self-esteem. Add in bills, family demands, and embarrassment and you have a downward emotional spiral. A couple of my friends were laid off their jobs just before Christmas. So far my friends have been able to deal with their situation in a healthy, positive way. How can you beat depression when you become unemployed?

  1. Stay Positive. It’s tough to be positive when you feel like you’ve been kicked in the gut. The adage that positive attracts positive is true when it comes to dealing with negative situations. When you have a positive attitude, you’ll notice opportunities or random chances more often than if you are bitter or negative. People will also respond positively to you because having a good mood gives a better impression at interviews.
  2. Chuck Bad Attitude. It’s easy to blame the boss, co-worker, or family member for your job loss. Revenge never works and isn’t the Christian thing to do. Hold off before you start dishing out the blame and anger. Ask yourself who is really to blame? Be honest. If you think you might have had something to do with losing your job, take responsibility. Sometimes it isn’t your fault and the reason for the entire situation is beyond your control. Accept that and instead of wasting energy and time on being angry, focus on the present and what you can do to improve your situation.
  3. Talk. Egos and identities get wrapped in jobs. There’s shame and embarrassment about not working plus the feeling you’re a burden on others. Talking helps take you out of that negative space and puts you into a supportive, positive world. Remember that your purpose on earth is something greater than the job. A job is a job, but you bring the sparkle and light that makes what you do special.
  4. Reach Out. Toss your pride. Don’t become isolated from connecting with others. Network on social media sites. Inquire into that dream job you’ve wanted forever. You won’t loose anything and at best you’ll achieve a goal. Tell your story but be careful not to dish your employers or the job. Tech connects us more than ever before. No one wants their words to haunt them years later.
  5. One Day At A Time. The bills are mounting, kids need stuff, and the in-laws think you’re a waste of time. It’s easy projecting negative thoughts into your future. It’s harder being positive when things seem bad. But it’s all about perception and belief. Negative thoughts attract negative situations. Soon you’ll see only the negative side of things that come your way. Positive thinking attracts positive results. Focus on one day at a time, on your ‘right now moment’ instead of tomorrow or next week. Right now you’ve filled out applications, you did some interviews and that’s positive. It’s also all the control over the situation you have so allow the process to take over.

“When one door closes, another opens; but we often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door that we do not see the one which has opened for us.” ~ Alexander Graham Bell

Terezia Farkas. International Bestselling Author, Huffington Post/ CNN contributor, columnist of Depression Help. Focus is mental health. Her bestseller Heart of Love Evolution – Surviving Depression is available on Amazon. Website:  www.tereziafarkas.com Follow on  Twitter.

The Archangel Michael Prayer – Battling Depression

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When I lay emotionally broken at the bottom of my pit of hell, a friend gave me a prayer to the Archangel Michael to battle depression. At first the words didn’t mean much. When I remembered to pray, however, it was the prayer I used to give me courage.

I’m sharing the Archangel Michael prayer with you. Say it slowly, thoughtfully. It may take time before the words mean something to you. If you persist, though, the prayer can be a powerful tool in fighting negative thoughts and battling depression.

The Archangel Michael Prayer

All that I can be

Allow me to be

All that I can do for You

Set in motion in me

All that I am is You

Manifest through me

Allow me to be Your Gift

As I accept Your Gift into my Life

Beating Post Christmas Fatigue

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depression help with terezia farkasStill exhausted by those Christmas hormones? Post Christmas fatigue doesn’t have to linger or overwhelm you. It’s effects can be lessened with a few simple tricks.

  1. Proper Sleep. Your body might need a few nights of good, restful sleep before it starts feeling normal again. Expect and prepare for that. If your mind won’t let you sleep well at night, take power naps during the day. Naps are a great and simple way to recharge your batteries. Even a 30 minute snooze can invigorate you.
  2. Hydrate Yourself. Your body needs 1-2 litres of water a day. Caffeine and alcohol dehydrate your body, so it’s essential that you restore balance to your body’s water supply. Take a water bottle along with you to work or activities. Juice also hydrates but be aware that acid levels may cause other problems for your body, like too much stomach acid or wear on teeth enamel.
  3. Cut Caffeine. Caffeine raises your adrenaline. It also dehydrates you. Dehydration leads to stress, which is not what you want. If you absolutely need your coffee fix, cut down the number of coffees you have.
  4. Avoid Diets. You’ve put on a few pounds and I mean only a few. Why do you need to get rid of the weight overnight? Dieting is stressful. It isn’t a solution to long-term weight loss and unbalances hormones. Dieting also wrecks havoc on self-esteem. Remember, you are beautiful right now.
  5. Be Realistic. Know your limits. If you feel tired or overwhelmed, ask for help. Pace yourself. Household chores can wait one more day, even if you believe everything needs to be done today.
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