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Four Things Not To Tell Someone Who Is Depressed

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We want to help someone who is depressed. So we offer what we think is good advice to help him or her. But sometimes we make the situation worse because what we say hurts the depressed person.  You might not think that what you’re saying is hurtful or realize what you’re saying is wrong . So here are four things not to say to someone who is depressed.

 

 

  1. “Snap out of it!” Although it’s tempting to say this to someone who is depressed, it really won’t help. Depression is an illness. It’s feelings and thoughts associated with deep pain, guilt and anxiety. While the depressed person would love to snap out of it, it’s  not something that can be done at the snap of a finger or a single thought. It takes time to fight the negative thoughts of depression. Instead, offer to help the person or ask what you can do to help.
  2. “What are you depressed about?” We all like to think or believe that we know each other. The truth is we often see only what we are allowed to see. Even if the person is a family member or a loved one, there are secrets in the heart that only God and the person know. You might think there’s nothing to be depressed about and you may even feel impatient about why the person doesn’t see the goodness in his/her life. But the person might not feel lucky or happy. Instead, try acknowledging their pain and say “I’m sorry you’re feeling so bad.”
  3. “Why don’t you go for a nice walk?” Sounds like a good plan, right? Exercise is supposed to relieve depression plus a walk provides a nice distraction from negative thoughts. But depression sucks the energy out of a person. Going for a walk might seem easy to you, but to the depressed person it can feel like running two marathons right after each other! Putting the question like a demand instead of making it seem like a choice only aggravates someone who is depressed. Ask instead if he/she feels like going for a walk or maybe doing some other activity with you. That leaves the choice up to the individual plus including yourself shows that you are there to support the person. Don’t get upset if your loved one simply wants to stay home.
  4. “It’s all in your head.” This one is the zinger that will really upset a depressed person. No, depression isn’t all in the head. It’s a real disease that causes real physical problems for the body. High blood pressure, gastro-intestinal difficulties, heart problems including heart attacks, and troubles with the immune system are just a few of the physical symptoms of depression. While depression isn’t something you can cut out like a tumour, it can feel as painful as any form of cancer.

 

Depression In The Bible

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Talk about depression is found everywhere in the Bible. Sure, the modern word “depression” isn’t used in the Bible but the Bible does talk about depression and about people who were depressed. There are words such as downcast, sad, forlorn, discouraged, downhearted, mourning, troubled, miserable, despairing, and brokenhearted which all describe depression or being depressed.

Depression affects women and men equally. The Bible is full of women and men who suffered depression. Women like Naomi, the mother-in-law of Ruth and Hannah, mother of Samuel who was depressed because she was barren. Job, Saul, John the Baptist and Paul are some of the men who suffered depression. Jeremiah was called the “weeping prophet.” Even Jesus experienced depression when Herod Antipas beheaded John the Baptist:

When Jesus heard what had happened, he withdrew by boat privately to a solitary place. (Matthew 14:13, NT)

Depression is an illness, not a punishment from God. It is a decrease in brain chemistry that leads to lowered mood and physical changes that can be damaging. Depression can be caused by grief, divorce, losing a job, leaving home or other traumatic events. Depression is a part of the human experience that a soul wants to undergo. God does not punish someone for being depressed. The Bible tells how God comforts the downcast, gives hope to the hopeless, strength to the weak, and love for the unloved. 

The LORD himself goes before you and will be with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged. (Deuteronomy 31:8, NT)

The LORD is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit. (Psalm 34:18, NT)

On every page of Scripture, God wants depressed people to find hope and a reason to endure. One of the most beautiful writings of this is 2 Corinthians 4:16-18 (NT):

So we do not lose heart. Though our outer self is wasting away, our inner self is being renewed day by day. For this light momentary affliction is preparing for us an eternal weight of glory beyond all comparison, as we look not to the things that are seen but to the things that are unseen. For the things that are seen are transient, but the things that are unseen are eternal.

Special thanks to Jack Zavada ‘What Does the Bible Say About Depression?” reference for this article.

 

World Suicide Prevention Day : One World Connected

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World Suicide Prevention Day is September 10. This year the day is particularly important because WHO has released its report, ‘Preventing Suicide: A Global Imperative‘, the most comprehensive and up-to-date report on suicide prevention internationally. The report gives proof to the idea that a person who feels connected to the world through family, friends, religion and society is less likely to commit suicide than someone who feels isolated and alone. Thus the theme for this year is ‘Suicide Prevention: One World Connected.’

Suicide doesn’t discriminate between age, gender, race, religion or class. It can happen to anyone and affects everyone who is connected to the person. The biggest risk for suicide is depression. Depression isolates the person in layers of pain and despair. It severs all connections with loved ones and the world. It speaks of death as the only relief from the intense pain and anguish. Suicide Prevention Day reminds us of our loved ones who committed suicide and urges us to talk about suicide so that others might be saved.

According to global stats, suicide is the 10th leading cause of death in the U.S. It’s been estimated that one person commits suicide every 13.3 minutes. There are three female suicide attempts for every male attempt. Male suicide attempts are usually successful because they involve the use of firearms or hanging. The rate of suicide increase in spring and there are several theories as to why this is the case. The elderly suicide rate is highest for those who are divorced or widowed. At the other side of the age spectrum, suicide is the second leading cause of death for young people 15-24 years old.

Many who attempt suicide never seek professional help. About 75% visit a physician a month before committing suicide. Often these people complain to their doctor about other health issues that may or may not be related to depression. People who attempt suicide will debate whether to live or die right up to the final second of the act. Sometimes the method chosen is so brutal and instant it kills the person who has decided at the last second to live.

80% of those who seek treatment for depression are treated successfully. Research has shown that medications and therapy are the most effective tools of suicide prevention. People who are religious also tend to be less suicidal because of their religious beliefs. Treating depression and making the person feel connected to others reduces the risk for suicide. Suicide can be prevented through education and public awareness. Help lines and suicide prevention organizations deal with thousands of suicidal people every year.

For more information about Suicide Prevention Day and what you can do to help promote the event, please visit the official website of the International Association for Suicide Prevention at http://www.iasp.info/wspd/

Daily Positive Thought: Forgive Yourself.

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Be compassionate. Forgive yourself.

If you can forgive others, why won’t you forgive yourself? We are all human and prone to make mistakes. Remind yourself that it’s okay not being perfect. It’s okay to sometimes let your emotions get the better of your judgement as long as you take full responsibility for your actions. Mistakes don’t define who you are as a person. Forgiving yourself brings freedom from being controlled by the past. Forgiveness destroys guilt, anger and fear. It brings peace to the present and hope for the future.

Mantra: I am a child of the Universe, learning and growing in wisdom. I feel all the love that surrounds me and I forgive myself.

 

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