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Daily Positive Point: A Good Day

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I came across this poem one day when depression was killing me. It made me feel good for a moment and so I’m sharing it with you. Have a good day my friends!

A GOOD DAY

Throughout all the ups and downs of this day,

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Throughout all the challenges, doubts, frustrations,

Throughout the joys, the boredoms, the bliss, this day,

Remember:

There is blue sky above you,

The good earth is holding you,

There is air in your lungs.

There are moments you will never touch again.

Moments to connect, moments to open your heart.

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Moment by moment,

You are alive, friend, and it is a good day.

Jeff Foster

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If You’re Spiritual, You’re Probably Depressed and Anxious

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If you are spiritual, you’re more likely to be depressed and anxious. According to a new U.K. study, spiritual people are consciously aware of the world around them and have an increased ability to feel the emotions of others. Heightened senses and intuition make spiritual people depressed and anxious.

Now hold on, before you mock spiritual people, here’s a few things you should know. Spiritual but not religious is not throwing out God and accepting Satan. Spiritual is the private realm of thought and beliefs. You can be spiritual and religious or, spiritual and not religious. You can even be an atheist and still be spiritual. Spirit itself means the soul or vital principle in people. Spirituality means a process of transformation, of bettering your soul.

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The U.K. study found that spiritual people are more empathic than other people. Empaths are more depressed and anxious because of what they feel off others. I think that for an empath, being more in tune with the world and your surroundings, might mean you actually feel electromagnetic vibes or see spectrums that others miss. Empaths are usually spiritual and not religious.

 The U.S. National Library of Medicine published a first time study looking at empathic abilities and social anxiety. It found that socially anxious people are highly empathic. They have an increased ability to feel the emotions of others around them and are more consciously aware of the world. They are able to feel and interpret people’s emotions and mental states accurately. It’s a unique social-cognitive ability.

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Empathic people are also generally more intelligent. A study from Lakehead University discovered that people with anxiety scored higher on verbal intelligence tests. The study also found that people with GAD (generalized anxiety disorder) and depression scored higher on verbal-linguistic testing. It’s the saying, “An anxious mind is a searching mind.” A GAD person is usually analyzing, assessing, formulating ideas, reflecting, and processing information. Even with depression, the mind is constantly going, analyzing and reflecting. All that data processing keeps the mind active, hence the anxiety and depression. But it also makes the person learn more things and keep searching for answers.

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A GAD person is more likely to foresee situations or be aware of danger not yet detected by others. The Interdisciplinary Center Herzlyia in Israel found that “people with anxiety were better than others at maintaining directed focus while overcoming a primary threat as they are being bombarded by numerous other smaller threats, thereby significantly increasing their chances of survival.” What this means is that a GAD person is usually on high alert and anxious about what is coming next or what’s going to happen if this or that choice is made. This same research team found that people with anxiety have “sentinel intelligence.” Sentinel intelligence is the ability to detect real threats that aren’t yet detectable to others (like the smell of smoke) or foresee possible problems (who is least likely to react well to a fire alarm). 

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It’s true that spiritual people are more depressed and anxious. But we might be looking at this situation backwards. People who are depressed or anxious have heightened intuition and an ability to accurately interpret people’s states, or possible dangers. These gifts may just be superior biological traits. It might also be these people are drawn to spirituality because of their ability. If so, then we might argue that depressed and anxious people are more spiritual. 

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Can Depression Be Cured?

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Can depression be cured? Is coping with depression the same as being cured of depression? Simple answer is no.

Depression is a mental illness that doesn’t get cured by any medication or treatment. Only a lucky few, maybe 10%, actually come out of depression behaving and feeling like they did before being depressed. These people for whatever reasons felt depressed. They were diagnosed, got treated, and felt better. Once cured, they stopped taking medications or going to therapy. That’s the dream, the ideal situation for someone who is depressed. But in 90% of cases, it doesn’t happen.

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You learn to cope with depression. You learn to deal with the darkness so it doesn’t take you over the edge into death. You understand why people stop talking to you or being your friend. It’s fear, stigma, and plain old being worn out from your attitude and behaviour. You realize that the darkness will stay with you forever. You will eventually see the light again and feel happy, but your happiness will no longer be the happiness others feel. Your happiness will be a more profound, true reflection of you.

I am not cured. I am not healed. I am not in recovery. Recovery means there will come a time when I can wake up day after day, month after month, year after year not feeling depressed. That will never happen.

I am as recovered as I can be – for now. A few months from now I may feel better. I may enjoy things I don’t today or take pleasure from the simple things life offers. Or I might relapse. I might just go backwards in a sudden storm or gently slide into the familiar darkness. All the effort I’ve put into recovery might seem lost to an outsider, but I know better. I know my relapse is my mind, body, and soul telling me I’ve tried too much too fast. I need all three parts of my being to be synched. My relapse is just a time out, however long I need it to be, before I can go ahead once more.

So how would I describe someone who is depressed and seems to be getting better? I would simply say you have learned how to cope with depression and you’re doing a good job of it at this moment. Tomorrow might be another story – either better or worse. But I will never say you are cured.

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Male Menopause and Anxiety

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Male menopause and anxiety. As ugly, tough, and weird to go through as female menopause. When a man turns forty, testosterone goes down, cortisol goes up. Emotions go berserk. Depression and anxiety are common. Behaviour can get down right weird or upsetting. It’s puberty hormonally reversed.

A man’s body goes through several changes in male menopause. Most produce anxiety that’s often laughed at or not talked about by men.

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  • Hairline recedes. Sometimes all the way until hair loss becomes chronic, resulting in baldness. Self-esteem linked to how you look takes a tragic hit.
  • Skin begins to thin. This is natural in men and women. Thinner skin needs moisturizing so a man will start using lotions and balms, something he might not be used to doing.
  • Joints stiffen, partially because they’re worn out. This is from a life of hard work, rough play, possible genetics, and time. Arthritis and joint pain start kicking in.
  • Muscle is lost and fat is gained, particularly around the gut. Man boobs start forming. So do the jokes. But man boobs can be sensitive and cause pain, which isn’t a joke.
  • You start shrinking. A 5 foot 10 inch twenty-year old man will shrink 1/4 inches by age 40 because the disks of his back naturally compress over time.
  • Sex drive goes down as testosterone level falls. There are pills to help with this, but depression and heart attack are possible side effects.
  • Hormones go out of control. Depression and anxiety are up because as testosterone drops, cortisol rises. A man will feel emotional and become sad or angry.

Mid-life becomes body maintenance time. Emotions start churning. Questions about personal performance and life choices start weighing on a man’s mind. Life is about processes that if aren’t managed well, become crises. Mid life crisis is when answers to the questions you ask about yourself disappoint you. For instance, is your marriage really as bad as you think it is, or are you just taking a lot of anxiety and unresolved issues to bed? Divorce, extramarital temptations, sexual performance add stress to a hormonally charged body.

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Most men don’t talk about their anxiety. They are left to navigate the waters of male menopause alone, with vague ideas or jokes instead of facts or open discussion. Sex is usually the first joke. No one wants to admit being dismal in the performance department. Male menopause is also a time to question past life goals and start setting new ones. When you’re moody you are in a wrong frame of mind to judge your life. Chances are, your life is better than what you believe.

So what’s a man to do? If male menopause isn’t going well for you, get a hormone saliva or blood test for testosterone, SHBG, estrogen, cortisol, DHEA. If these are lower than normal, your doctor can give you supplemental testosterone injections weekly or a daily transdermal. Diet and exercise can raise testosterone levels as does lowering your stress. Male menopause doesn’t have to be a time of high anxiety or depression. Life at all stages should be enjoyable.

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