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15 tips on joyful living | Terezia Farkas | author | depression help | Beliefnet

15 tips on joyful living, regardless of what life throws at you.

Life can be difficult at times, even a struggle. But joyful living is possible.

1. The most important person in your life is the one who agrees to share his/her life with you. Sharing a life means always being there for each other. Treat the person with love and respect.

2. Take care of your body. You might live a long life, or a short one. Your body lasts you that entire lifetime – so take care of it.

3. Stuff is just stuff. Don’t hold onto material objects. These fade and pass from your interest with time. Hold onto moments of time and experiences instead.

4. Jealousy destroys relationships. Trust your significant other. Keep open communication lines. Be willing to admit you’re jealous for no good reason.

5. “Get a job doing what you love’’ isn’t always possible. Very few people have a job they love every day. Even if they love the job, there will be days when it feels like just that – a job. The right job is the one you love some days, can tolerate most days, and still pays the bills.

6. If you’re overwhelmed by life, return mindfully to the present moment. Take a deep breath, relax. Focus your thoughts on the present moment, and allow yourself to fully feel that moment. You can’t enjoy life if you’re not aware of the moments you’re passing through.

7. Years go by in the blink of an eye. Live your life. Go places. Do things. If you have the means or not. Pack a bag and go wherever you can afford to go.

8. Don’t take life so seriously. Even if things seem dark and hopeless, there is always a solution. Try to find humour. Learn to laugh at yourself.

9. Children grow up way too fast. Make the most of the time you have with them.

10. Nobody ever dies wishing they had worked more. Work hard, but don’t prioritize work over family, friends, or even yourself.

11. Floss and brush regularly. Good teeth are more important than you may realize. Teeth allow you to enjoy eating, they shape your face, and they help your beautiful smile shine.

12. Don’t take someone’s advice as gospel. Ask for advice from someone you respect, then consider your situation and make your own decision. Make your own choice based on what is best for you.

13. Your time on this earth is now. Suddenly you’re 60 years old and you realize you haven’t done the things you dreamed about. If you want to do something, don’t put it off for later.

14. Shoot for the moon. If you have a dream, go for it! You may not achieve your dream, but simply trying is an achievement. And that counts.

15. When you meet someone for the first time, realize you know nothing about the person. Individuals are unique. See every person for who he/she is, not what you’ve learned to expect.

Challenges transform you and provide experiences which teach you about joyful living. What are your suggestions for joyful living?

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be who you are | Terezia Farkas | depression help | author | Beliefnet

Be who you are, because its okay to be you.

You Are Not Everyone’s Cup Of Tea

The world is filled with people who, no matter what you do, no matter what you try, will simply not like you. But the world is also filled with those who love you fiercely. The ones who love you: they are Your People.

Don’t waste your finite time and heart trying to convince the people who aren’t your people that you have value. They will miss it completely. They won’t buy what you are selling. Don’t try to convince them to walk your path with you because you will only waste your time and your emotional good health. You are not for them and they are not for you. You are not their cup of tea and they are not yours.

Politely wave them along and you move away as well. Seek to share your path with those who recognize and appreciate your gifts, who you are.

Be who you are. 
You are not eveyone’s cup of tea and that is OK.

~ Terezia Farkas


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your soul's journey between death and rebirth | Terezia Farkas | author | depression help | Beliefnet

What happens to your soul from the moment you die to the moment you’re reborn? For 50 years, Dr. Michael Newton studied the question by documenting people’s subconscious memories of past lives, and the time in between lives. There’s a similar process every soul goes through.

What happens to your soul from the moment you die to the moment you’re reborn? 

1.)    Death and departure –

People recall looking down at their body and seeing other people mourning their death. Some people report staying around their loved ones until after the funeral. During this time, your soul feels a pull towards a light. Usually there’s a tunnel to go through but sometimes it’s a forest or pathway.

2.)    Gateway to the spirit world

You reach the light at the end of the tunnel. The location of the tunnel varies. It may appear above your body. You might have to travel above the Earth to reach it. At the end of the tunnel, there are beautiful visions, music, and scenery. Dr. Newton suggests that these images are beloved memories from your life, meant to give a feeling of familiarity during such an overwhelming process. Younger souls may feel sad or confused, so their guides will come to comfort.

3.)    Homecoming –

You’re greeted by souls who are close to you. These souls appear as luminous beings who sometimes project faces of people still alive on earth. That’s because a soul only projects a certain percentage of itself into a physical body, so there will always be a part of a soul existing in the spirit realm. You remember more about the afterlife and previous lifetimes, and feel more at ease with the process. Souls which committed murder or suicide analyze their actions with their guides and decide on an appropriate path to begin almost immediately.

4.)    Orientation –

Your soul sheds any regret, doubt, sadness, and traumatic memories from its previous life. It goes through a ‘shower of light’, which contains healing energies. This renews your soul’s vibrancy, restoring it to its original vibration. You discuss with your guide everything that happened in your life. You decide whether or not you lived up to your expectations of what you wanted to achieve. You examine how you dealt with life situations. You decide if lessons need to be repeated in the next life.  

5.)    Transition –

This is the most breathtaking part of the entire journey. You see a mega-hub of souls at the same stage, all moving through beautiful tunnels of light to their destination. People describe this moment as exciting because there is no darkness, just pure light. You’re on your way to meet your soul family. Once you meet these souls, you compare experiences and learn from each other. These are souls that you keep reincarnating with over and over again. They are your partners, siblings, parents, friends, etc. Sometimes other souls are present but they’re dimmer and quieter. That’s because they’re still projecting a physicality at that moment.  Another crucial aspect is meeting a grand counsel that oversees your previous life, and goes into more detail about your experiences and lessons learned.

6.)    Placement –

It’s like a school. Large groups of soul families who incarnate around each other in cycles learn about their previous experiences. People report projecting into specific scenes from their previous life and into other people’s minds to gain a full understanding of the larger picture. You feel what others felt so you can understand how you hurt people.  The larger soul groups connect in circles, sharing more ideas, singing, and experiencing other joyful events.

7.)    Life selection –

You move to a large sphere of light where you choose your next life path. You’re able to see multiple paths. You can temporarily project into these lives to feel which one would be most appropriate. You also have the ability to fast forward through the timelines to see critical events that will happen. Some souls will choose greater challenges to experience, such as a disability or premature death.

8.)    Choosing a new body –

This process is a part of the life selection stage, but it focuses on the physical appearance that you’ll possess in the new lifetime. This choice is important because your body will influence your life.

9.)    Preparation and embarkation –

After choosing your life path, you meet up with the people who will play roles in your new lifetime. There’s extensive planning and creation of cues to guide you throughout your life. Higher-level guides also help plan out specific symbols you’ll see or hear that will trigger certain thoughts and actions at specific times. After everything is decided, you again meet with a counsel to go over your goals and plans for the new lifetime. You’re encouraged to have patience, to hold true to your values, to trust yourself in the midst of difficult situations, and to avoid indulging in anger and negativity.

10.) Rebirth –

You travel back to Earth through the same tunnel you first saw. You’re born. Until the age of 5, your soul is able to leave your baby body to travel and meet up with other souls if it wishes. But you’ll snap back to your body if it is in any turmoil. During the first few years your soul will work to integrate its energy with the brain.

The journey between lifetimes is as complex as your earthly lifetime. There is always the choice and opportunity to remain in the ethereal dimension. That is how spirit guides and guardians get started.


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blending personal stories and group stories builds respect | Terezia Farkas |author | depression help | Beliefnet

Everyone has a personal story. A story of “I” and “Me”. Groups want your story to blend into their story of “We” and “Us”. But everyone is unique. Sometimes, you simply can’t blend in.

The basis for any relationship is the exchange of stories.

Nothing is black or white. Everyone has the responsibility to listen and reflect on each other’s story. Why? Personal stories make up the group story. Blending personal and group stories builds a safe communication space, and a relationship of respect and inclusiveness.

For example, you’re depressed because you’re transgender. Your personal story of “who I am” isn’t what’s making you depressed. It’s the group story of “what I should be” and the “us versus them.” If only the group would listen respectfully and engage in a conversation of inclusiveness, your life would feel a whole lot easier to live.

Stories are the essence of life

My personal story is my narrative of my life. It’s the story I tell myself over and over, of who I am and what I can become. Sometimes it’s true. Sometimes it’s twisted by lies I tell myself. Other times it makes no sense. That’s okay. It’s me trying to make sense of myself, the world, and the universe. It’s the essence of life, of the meaning of why I exist.

My personal story is the foundation of my mental health. I’m depressed. It’s important for my recovery to tell my story over and over. To get it out there in the open, out from the dark corners of my mind. When my personal story doesn’t match or fit in with the group story, problems and conflicts arise. That’s when I lose hope, or don’t believe there’s anyone out there to help me.

Personal stories aren’t group stories

Personal stories are just that – personal. It’s about you. It’s what you believe, understand, know, and are. It’s your past revealed in present you. It’s the hopes and dreams you have for your future. It’s your gender, sexual orientation, race – things that are part of you but which others label, judge, and try to control.

Group stories, on the other hand, are the stories of a group of people. It’s a whole bunch of personal stories linked together by common threads. That’s the key – common threads. For example,  Aboriginal Natives and African Americans both have histories of racism, discrimination, violence and abuse. These are the common threads. But the personal stories of each group are different. Personal stories make up the fabric of each group. In the end, the collective experience of each group is different because each group endured similar experiences differently.

When your personal story doesn’t fit in with the group

Personal stories don’t have to fit in with the bigger group. That’s something taught by the group to keep control and a certain homogenous flavour. But everyone is unique. So when your personal story doesn’t match the group’s story, you stand out. You’re labelled as different, broken, or wrong. So you try to fit in. You hide your personal story. You hide “Me.”

But the story of “Me” doesn’t need to hide. “I” can find support groups inside the bigger group. Depression forums where people safely and openly talk about their experiences. Support groups, peer counselling – these groups connect me with people who have similar personal stories. I realize that I’m not alone. That my story matters.

Connecting head and heart

The exchange of stories brings about respect and inclusiveness. When you listen to someone’s story, you need to hear what is being said. Nothing is black and white. You need to open your heart and soul to the person. That’s the most profound way of learning, of bringing relationships into your life, because what you understand of the person’s story is connecting your head with your heart.

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