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How Human Givens Treats Depression

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How Human Givens treats depression | author | Terezia Farkas | depression help | Beliefnet

by Andrew Richardson

Understand why you dream – what Human Givens teaches

Tonight you will dream. What is going on is that your brain will act out in story-like form the hopes, fears and reflections that occupied your mind today. Today’s concerns are tonight’s dreams.  

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But dreaming is exhausting.  If you need more dreaming because you are worrying too much then you will slip into a vicious cycle – of worrying, being exhausted over dreaming, reduced motivation and energy, and unproductive rumination. This is a depression.  Many describe it as being locked in their brain, unable to escape from useless and obsessive rumination – a terrifying trance state of inward obsession.

Sleeping better lessens Depression

All efforts must be directed in just two directions.  First, to get arousal levels down so that sleep improves. Second, help the person problem solve so that they can take the action needed to get their life working better. This may require the healing of past trauma and strong emotional patterning

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These two directions are closely connected. The high arousal of a depressed person is a trance-like self obsessed focus, which destroys the person’s capacity to problem solve and correct the underlying problem that caused the depression in the first place. Being able to problem solve and take control gives a sense of hope and movement.

How Human Givens treats Depression

  1. Explain what depression is so that the person doesn’t feel that they are to blame.  This often leads to ‘light bulb’ moments that are liberating and relaxing.
  2. Undertake a Needs audit so that the person can begin to perceive the situation differently and in a more empowering way. As part of this make suggestions and recommend tasks that lead to understanding of the changes that might be needed and the options that are available.  All of this is designed to engage the person’s problem-solving capacity.
  3. Investigate whether there is trauma or threshold trauma. If there is, then you can clear this trauma using Human Givens trance methods.
  4. Take every opportunity from the beginning to reframe the person’s thinking. Soften strong black-and-white thinking, or suggest more empowering explanations of the past.
  5. Explicit trance work. Trance work should be designed to relax, to access the person’s strengths and resources, to heal habits and emotional patterns that aren’t helpful, and to rehearse beneficial changes.

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Understanding Depression The Human Givens Way

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by Andrew Richardson

Human Givens has been called the first new bio, psycho, social model of psychology for forty years. Human Givens is UK based and dates from the late 1990’s and challenges the conventional way of dealing with mental problems

I am a therapist who helps those who come to me lost in their depression. My methods are based on the Human Givens approach. Human Givens is only some 15 years old yet even in that time, it has received recognition in the NHS and there is respectable peer reviewed evidence of success – that Human Givens helps with depression more effectively that medication or CBT.

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Understand why you dream and you will understand Depression

Tonight you will dream, even if you don’t remember doing so. And what is going on is that your brain will act out in story-like form the hopes, fears and reflections that occupied your mind today. Today’s concerns are tonight’s dreams.  In simple terms, dreaming is our brain’s emotional flush toilet. This extraordinary process refreshes our emotional brain, leaving it better prepared to deal with tomorrow’s stresses.

But dreaming is exhausting.  And if we need more dreaming because we are worrying too much then we will slip into a vicious cycle – of worrying, exhausting over dreaming, reduced motivation and energy and thus even more unproductive rumination. And this is a depression.  Many describe it as being locked in their brain, unable to escape from useless and obsessive rumination – a terrifying trance state of inward obsession.

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Why people get depressed

People sink into a depressed mood when their innate physical or emotional needs are not being met and, instead of dealing with this situation, they begin to worry about it and so misuse their imagination. All depressed people worry. This increases the amount of dreaming they do, upsetting the balance between slow-wave, recuperative sleep and dream sleep. Consequently they start to develop an imbalance between energy burning dream sleep and refreshing slow-wave sleep. Soon they start to wake up feeling tired and unmotivated. This makes them worry even more as they feel that “something is wrong with me”. To be depressed is an added layer of misery often piled upon genuine challenges, further reducing the person’s ability to cope with their difficulties.

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And then what feeds the depression

It can be a number of things.  They would include how difficult is the life situation someone finds themselves in. From a Human Givens perspective, the question would be put this way – how possible is it to live a life where essential needs can be met, around safety, control, relationships and satisfying work. And what is the nature and extent of the crisis that might have triggered depression?  Finally there are the resources of that client – how well are emotions, habitual patterns of thinking and responding helping or not to get these essential needs met?  And finally it is important to discover if there is trauma lurking somewhere in the past as often it is the active reliving of past traumas that is the main inhibitor to a person’s capacity to get their life working better.

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Personal Motivation Helps With Depression

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by Terezia Farkas

Personal Motivation

What’s personal motivation? Personal motivation is what drives you internally and externally to succeed in what ever you want to succeed in.

Personal motivation helps you accomplish something. Personal motivation can be motivation to do just about anything. It can be motivation to lose weight, complete a task at work, or to do something that you have put on the back burner for a while.

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Depression sucks the energy out of a person, so even if you are a motivated individual, you don’t have the energy to do things. Simple tasks others take for granted become huge struggles. But personal motivation, that inside voice that keeps driving you forward, fights hard against depression. It’s a good friend. It’s what makes a depressed person get out of bed, eat breakfast, or get help for depression.

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How do you get motivated?

So how do you get motivated? The first thing you need to do is set goals for yourself. The goals have to be realistic goals and they have to be a possible gain.

Too often we tend to set our goals too high, fail, and then blame ourselves. This is just a step backward in the personal motivation search. Goals give us the push we need to get the job done. But they need to be achievable.

It’s a good idea to write down your goals. This makes it easier to see your goals on a daily basis and be reminded of what you’re reaching for.

Write out your goals, stating each goal clearly. In depression, your ultimate goal is to feel better and love yourself. You know you can’t make that goal in one shot. You have to take baby steps, one mini goal at a time.

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For instance, a mini goal might be to do something nice everyday for a week to yourself. Well what does nice mean? It changes day to day when you’re depressed. With such a vague goal, you could say watching tv all day is that something nice. That might be true, but ask yourself are there 10 other things I like to do or used to like doing more than watching tv?

A better way of writing out that mini goal would be to list 10 nice things you like to do. This way you have a clearer idea of what nice really means to you. So on that crappy, miserable day you just want to watch tv and say to yourself you did something nice, check your list. Is it on there? If it is, then good. If not, then look for something else you can do that’s nice. Maybe it’s as simple as eating a chocolate bar.

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Look at the gain.

You also need to look at the gain. It’s a positive gain if it helps you feel better. Eating a chocolate bar is something you might set out as a goal. But a lot of people think chocolate is bad for you because it adds pounds to your hips. But that one bar can be a positive gain. How? Chocolate is proven to improve mood. Eating chocolate when you’re depressed can elevate your mood for a while, which is a good gain. It can also give you an energy boost to do something else you like doing. Another good gain.

So you set out the goal : do something nice everyday for a week to yourself. You listed 10 things that you like to do. You made sure each item was a positive gain for you.

It’s time to go to the next step. The next step is making a commitment to keep after these goals until they are met.

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Never look back on past failures. This really does nothing for your self-esteem. It will only set you back. You can learn from your mistakes, just don’t keep looking back at them.

 

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It’s All About Effort

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It’s All About Effort

It’s easy to pop a pill and think that’s the fix you need for depression. But depression takes more effort than that.  In fact, it’s all about effort. You have to change your way of thinking. This is extremely difficult to accomplish and can take years of work. Even then, when you believe you’re cured and okay, relapses and other life situations can happen that make you feel the bad old way.

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The more positive thoughts you bring forth, the better. The more you see your problems and depression as an opportunity for growth, the better. The more you eat healthily, exercise, and follow your passions, the better.  It’s not easy, and when you’re in the deep pit of despair, it seems impossible. Don’t give up. Change starts within you, not from something outside of yourself.

You’re Not Abnormal

Being depressed doesn’t mean you’re abnormal. Many of us are forced into lives we do not want to live. We work long hours at a job we don’t like so we can have food to eat and a shelter. Our passions, joy, and heart desires are put aside. We are encouraged to become  normal, to fit into society. Yet genius is celebrated if it brings something productive. If you think about it, depression does bring something productive to you. The illumination about life, the soul, and the universe you get from  living through the darkness of depression is genius, but it isn’t celebrated as genius. In fact, you’re called abnormal, crazy, or mental for being depressed and then for talking about your shift in consciousness.

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The idea of success is heavily marketed to us. It’s an ideal many people aren’t able to achieve. As a result, they feel worthless or useless. The same thing goes for education, looks, and so on. It’s like we have a defined set criteria of what it means to be successful or to have done well.

True success, I believe, is measured by how you see yourself. You have to see the reality of your life and judge yourself accordingly. If you feel happy, love yourself, or take pride in the job you do, then how can you say you’re not successful? You are successful because you are doing something that brings joy and balance to your life. You have this life to live.

Many so called successful people are unhappy. Why? They keep judging themselves against other people’s success, looks, or happiness. This is why it’s important to love yourself, to follow your heart and your passions.

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Depression is very judgemental. It takes effort and time to change your thinking, to start believing you have value. You don’t have to follow the herd and be what they think means success. You’re successful just by surviving depression, or by fighting depression daily.

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