2021-12-09
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All marriages face problems at some point. In human relationships, we face disagreements and sin. When you’re struggling with a troubled marriage, you wonder where you can find hope. The Bible offers scriptures on restoring broken marriages with the work of the Holy Spirit. When you feel tensions arise, let God speak to your heart through these scriptures.

The most important thing is to care enough to restore a broken marriage. Often, people do nothing because they’re scared of doing the wrong thing. While it’s possible to do something wrong, doing nothing may cause more damage. When trying to restore a broken marriage, don’t hesitate to ask for help if you feel like your marriage is in crisis. It would be best to reach out to a trusted pastor or Christian counselor to start the process of restoring your broken marriage.

Indeed, only God’s grace can redeem deep hurt that sometimes brings us to the point that marriage feels like it’s failing. Here are some scriptures that will help you along the way.

Scriptures on Marriage Restoration

Hebrews 10:24-25: Let us think of ways to motivate one another to acts of love and good works. And let us not neglect our meeting together, as some people do, but encourage one another, especially now that the day of His return is drawing near.

There’s a familiar phrase that goes, “It takes a village,” when raising children. The same is true for solid and Godly marriages. Accountability is vital to a healthy marriage and particularly important when you’re working to restore the broken spaces of your marriage. Your village could include a professional counselor. The power of meeting together with a counselor to do better at loving one another is unbelievable. When a marriage hits a part of life that knocks the wind out of you, it’s not giving up to call in reinforcements; God honors when we reach out to find wisdom. Don’t be afraid to grow your village. You may have to be vulnerable, but it can make all the difference when fighting to restore your marriage.

Ephesians 4:32 – Instead, be kind to each other, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, just as God through Christ has forgiven you.

You may not realize this, but marriage requires you to say sorry to the same person to stay connected over a lifetime. The struggle is that those “sorries” become harder to say and harder to accept overtime. Bitterness starts to build up instead of forgiveness. Don’t get discouraged and stop apologizing because you think your words don’t matter. Apologies will always be necessary for a committed relationship.

Another thing to remember is that you have to keep forgiving. Jesus said we forgive endlessly, and He indeed had marriage in mind when He gave that advice. It’s not easy but making a life together means a million apologies and a million times to forgive.

Scriptures on Healing a Broken Marriage

Galatians 6:2 – Share each other’s burdens, and in this way obey the law of Christ

To rebuild intimacy in our relationships, offering each other empathetic responses is required. The building blocks of a solid relationship happen in the tiny approaches we make throughout the day. It’s as simple as pausing what you’re doing to hear the concerns of your spouse fully. It’s choosing to smile rather than scowl when things don’t go as planned. It’s also choosing to respond warmly when your spouse gets our attention. A warm tone builds trust; it says that you’re safe to share with, that you’re on the same team, and that you’re willing to try to understand each other’s point of view. Being understanding is essential when you want to restore a broken marriage.

Romans 13:8 – Owe nothing to anyone, except for your obligation to love one another. If you love your neighbor, you will fulfill the requirements of God’s law.

The Bible teaches that we have one obligation to one another, which is love. When we want to heal the feeling of being unloved by our spouse, it helps to remember that your husband or wife is your closest neighbor. If you’re offering them scraps of your mood, time, and commitment, then you’re not following God’s instruction for your life. If you want to get on the same page as a couple, you’ll have to develop a culture of honest and open communication in the home. Focus on communicating the details of your day, your gratitude for each other, and share your feelings. Communication grows connections which lead to being able to love one another well again.

Colossians 3:12 – Since God chose you to be the holy people He loves, you must clothe yourselves with tenderhearted mercy, kindness, humility, gentleness, and patience.

If you have lost the connection with your spouse, one way to rebuild what you had is by connecting heart to heart, which means connecting emotionally. To accomplish this, we first need the power of God that gives us tenderness, gentleness, and kindness. While we all aspire to offer our spouses these responses, without the help of Jesus, our selfish and impatient human nature wins out more than we’d like.

Practically living out these traits can look like you offering a listening ear when your spouse needs to vent. You could also use tenderness when your spouse is facing a situation where they’re struggling to navigate. When you choose to speak, use affirming words that let them know you hear them and see their burdens. Remind them that you’re on their team, and they’re not facing this challenge alone.

When your marriage starts to fall apart, you begin to feel like a failure. You wonder how this happened and feel like nothing can bring your marriage back together. However, restoring a broken marriage is possible with God’s help. These scriptures on marriage restoration can help remind you why you got married in the first place. When you and your spouse got married, you vowed before God to love each other for better or worse. Healing your broken marriage will honor those vows, and with God’s help, your marriage can be restored.

 

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