There are dozens of myths floating around about sex after marriage. Some of those myths say that a married couple should expect their sex life to die a slow death. Other myths claim the opposite and say that married couples will be having almost overwhelming amounts of wild sex every day. Myths like these abound on the internet, lurk in the gleam in an aunt’s eyes and are quoted as helpful “advice” given to newlyweds by well-meaning neighbors, friends and distant family members.
Despite their prevalence, few of the myths about married sex have any real basis in reality. Part of this is due to the underlying assumption that going from “miss” to “mrs.” and from “bachelor” to “husband” automatically changes a person in a dramatic way. The truth, however, is that neither the bride nor the groom magically transform into different people as soon as they say “I do.” They are still the same people with the same gifts, flaws and sexual appetites that they had previously.
Marriage does not in and of itself create any change in a couples’ sex life. Both people still like the same things they did when they were single and have the same sex drive. What marriage can change is the emotional intimacy between a couple or the amount of time and energy a couple can direct towards maintaining their sex life. The real effect the constant cohabitation and ever-growing intimacy caused by marriage has on a married couple’s sex life, however, shares little resemblance to the most commonly reference myths about married sex. Here are five myths about married sex debunked.