Lessons from a Recovering Doormat

No one is born feeling self-empowered. Confidence is learned. EVERYONE has fears and insecurities. But, some create a confident façade. Attractive people at the top of their game share fears and self-loathing at my workshops or during counseling. Nobody feels perfect but some of us magnify our flaws more than others. You CAN empower yourself,…

Years ago I told two different doctors that I believed something was wrong with my thyroid. I noticed I had symptoms of hypothyroidism. Each pooh-poohed me, saying my numbers were fine. But they weren’t. I finally went to an endocrinologist who said my numbers weren’t terrible but they indicated a problem, especially with my symptoms.…

This is post 237 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to manifest your desires.. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series to see how. It’s so easy to get caught up in the problems going on…

Do you need a reason to be happy? Do you look to other people or what you can have to be happy. Do you count on having a romantic partner to do it for you? When I was a DoorMat, I looked to others to make me happy. If a friend invited me somewhere I…

Often we don’t realize how much we’re capable of doing. When I suggest to someone that they should make the effort to do what they want, I often hear, “I can’t.” Sometimes you need someone to motivate you to push you; sometimes you can push yourself. But until you get pushed and motivated to go…

I write a lot about the benefits of gratitude but never thought of it in relation to helping lose weight. That’s why I’m thrilled to have Pat Barone as my guest today. Pat has defied all the odds life stacked against her and lived to tell her tale. The child of addicts, she often felt…

I’ve had clients ask me if it’s okay to not say, “I’m sorry” when they’re not sorry, even if it’s expected. Perhaps you tell someone you can’t volunteer for something they want you for and the truth is you’re happy to turn them down. Why say you’re sorry if you’re not? Often we say it…

It’s Memorial Day her in the U.S. Today I first and foremost honor my beloved Dad, Lt. Col. Robert C. Herman. He was a proud soldier who loved his country and when he passed away, he had a military funeral and was buried in full dress uniform. I was very blessed to have had such…

Many of us think that not having activity going on around us is uncomfortable. We don’t know how to handle silence or having a little time with nothing specific to do. When I was a DoorMat, I couldn’t handle what I thought of as “empty pockets of time and space” in my life. If I…

I recently attended SPARK, the National Association Of Professional Women’s Networking conference  There were fabulous speakers, including, Arianna Huffington, Martha Stewart and Star Jones. But one who really stood out to me was Danielle Miller, brand strategist/reinvention coach. After hearing Danielle speak, I had to get some of her advice to pass on. Her suggestions…

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