Healing and Transformation

How are we born into this world?

First, there is a soul. The soul must find a body within the three-dimensional earth field in which to incarnate. A body is not born without a soul. A soul finds a suitable body to inhabit via a process of elimination, guided and intelligent choice via the wisdom keepers, and enlightened guides.

The process of soul incarnation is likened to a drop of fluid descending downwards from a waterfall down to a pond below where the energy collects within the body. The heavenly realm is light, filled by rainbow-density.

When people speak about a twin flame – they mean a split soul – a soul split in two entities, two elements (not necessarily male and female, yet usually they have taken on opposing genders). This is not unusual, yet what is unusual is for the split soul to meet and choose to fall in love with opposite parts of itself. That is not a foregone conclusion.

I haven’t personally encountered such a thing. Logically, I do not expect that it would be commonplace, simply as it doesn’t make a lot of sense that it would be.

In fact (and correct me if I am wrong), I haven’t come across any reported cases that had evidence for this.

I don’t discount it however – theoretically it is possible – it just seems unlikely.

What is common are soul agreements, which people call destiny.

It is usual for souls to meet each other again and again in arrangements people crudely describe as “soulmates.”

People choose who will be their parents and the family in which they are born and the type of lifetime they will live. For instance you chose your family and their financial status – how you would grow up and the type of values you would be exposed to. This was your choice before you were incarnated.

People also have a clear picture of their significant others (like a husband/wife) – if they have one – when it is an important relationship. There is a “soul recognition” that often occurs subconsciously on meeting this person, people frequently report noticing “signs” and symbols around them, as if the symphony of creation is dancing with them at this magical time in their life. They are being pulled in a certain direction, sucked into the vortex of creation, that signifies their destiny.

People don’t really usually understand that much about the spirit worlds (due to the veil of forgetting – the frequency divide between the spiritual world and the “solid” physical world) – I have some knowledge myself – yet it is important to understand free will. This is the currency of existence. God does not interfere in people’s free will. Also humans often rush to meet goals – perhaps a soul is slow to learn. Why the rush? Each unique expression is valid.

Everyone has different “soulmates” and perhaps different expectations and experiences and definitions of what this word means. What does it mean to your soul? Would you like to share your soulmate or twin-flame experience?

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The soul is not the body. The body is not the soul. Yet they are brought together and synergise to jointly co-create the life you experience as your own.

Each has its own history, personality and unique characteristics. For instance, a body may have a tendency towards action and its soul may seek to complement that, to embrace physicality. This may be for the purpose of soul growth.

Indeed it is an alchemy between body and soul.

The human being that results from this alchemy will often seek out relationships with people.

Nowadays some people may take on numerous relationships. It’s not necessarily certain that this was preordained – how soul-made (soul-created) these choices are before being incarnated varies. Some aspects of one’s future life are more clear or certain than others. Yet all of it is contained within a field of choice.

To explain this (and I am trying to make it as simple as possible): a person may choose to be born into a privileged and cultured family in Paris in the year 2000 in order to pursue their soul aim of becoming a successful musician and revisiting a previous life in Paris. The choices of romantic interests may be varied and up to free will choice. However in mid-life, there may be a clear opportunity to settle down with a chosen person. It is still free will whether this person will take this chance

The feelings and circumstances will arise in a magnanimous and orchestrated way to make sure this event and soul choice is made.

There is much that is decided beforehand in terms of the potential growth and what would be worked on – yet many things can and do go wrong and there is always free will.

A soul may come for one purpose and then take their own life and remove themselves from the planet – then their life purpose was not achieved – we all fail – many times – we set goals for ourselves – we have ambitions, hope and dreams as a soul.

Nothing is accidental or by mistake.

This planet is not easy or simple. Our soul needs to fend for itself. It needs to learn to be human. It needs to deal with many different and often contrasting energies and agendas. When a soul chooses another soul for marriage – it is saying – this is the soul I wish to work with and cocreate with – this is the soul where I will have the best chance of achieving my life’s aims. With this soul – I can meet my goals for this lifetime.

Then you could say from an abstract level – this is your soul friend – your soulmate. You are choosing to cocreate together – to learn together. Surely it qualifies as a “soulmate” – it all depends on what definition and understanding one has.

A soulmate in a romantic sense may be chosen for the goal of mutual spiritual growth and support. Often via negotiation and communication, a course of action is decided upon that may mutually benefit both souls. There is also an important understanding of masculine and feminine principles that must be pursued, independent of the particular genders involved. The higher soul expressed itself through playing or dancing together with polarities, yet not being controlled by them.

Soulmate love is soul-chosen love or partnership. Romantic love can be a transient expression of soul love or dancing with creation. True love

Each person may take on a role within a partnership. This is nuanced and individual, expressing the soul choices. When fear-based, it can involve with-holding of love, control, manipulation, pretence, fantasy, etc. Expectations differ. Seeing beyond the masks, beyond the inherent duality, beyond the “dream” of playing a role / various roles, one moves into Unity Consciousness or Oneness.

This is indeed possible within soul pairs or soulmates. Uniting with another, especially playing out the masculine and feminine polarities, indeed is a way to transcendence. The idea of enlightenment is enriched by having a partner. In the tradition of tantra – this is highlighted.

Within the western tradition, twin-flame love is seen as a way of unmasking the dense cobweb of forgetting (who we are). The morass of spiritual compost is shed by the power of love. As always love is our link to Creation, our link to Creator. Love is our link to the eternal flame of Union, of Oneness, the sacred path to the Heavenly realms.

With love,


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Love between people – is there a twin flame and a soulmate?

What are the differences between a soul mate and a twin flame?

These are common questions and frequently misunderstood. Worse still I’ve heard of people changing their behaviour in order to seek out one or the other, or convince themselves that somebody they know is one or the other. I once had a friend I studied with who became convinced I was her twin flame, even though we weren’t in a relationship, and I didn’t feel the same way about her.

I am concerned at the amount of speculation that goes on and the consequences of it. People are suffering for their theories or what other people are telling them.

Please be careful, if you are reading this. Nobody’s opinion of your love status or lack thereof should replace qualified professional advice.

Some fundamental understandings are important in a discussion about love:

Everyone has a soul.

In Buddhist theology, we understand that reincarnation is inevitable unless and until our soul achieves a very high level of insight and wisdom. When people talk about soulmates or twinflames, usually they are confused. These concepts are not based on empirical evidence. They are based on sentimentality.

This said (and warnings reiterated) – there are souls we are closer to. And those souls one could consider one’s soulmates. In fact a mate is a friend. On a soul level, we group into souls. Like a soul family. Members of this family may choose to incarnate together for the purposes of soul growth. Also a discarnate entity like a spirit guide may choose to incarnate close to us in order to help us along our soul progression.
Usually one may incarnate with souls that are familiar due to working out karma from previous incarnations. These are not what is meant by soulmates – in a romantic sense – these are souls that we choose to work with.

On another higher level – every soul and all beings are our mates. A soul is our spiritual link to eternity, Oneness (Creator God). Even the worst person still has something sacred within them. That is the part of them that wishes to do acts of God, to embody the holy spirit in human form. Even the cruellest person is capable of kindness.

Every soul can be incarnated in animal (or even non-animal form), even a rock contains consciousness and a soul could choose to navigate within that sphere. This is why the Buddha taught a very important principle of kindness to all living beings. Even animals. We should also be kind to discarnate beings as they may have lived previously or will live in the future in another body.

Romantic fantasies aside, all relationships require hard work. At a soul level, there are no accidents in real connections and shared lives, yet free will choice remains a constant and of paramount importance. One can always create a new connection and forge a new soulmate relationship.

Romantic illusions of love to the moon (with singing nightingales) is unrealistic. Every soul (by nature of being incarnated) has work to do. A real love relationship is based on mutual respect and support, and results in real growth.

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Who are you?

Who am I?

We are ONE. We are not separate.

That other person is you.

The myriad forms around you are a multi-dimensional mirror. In other words, every thing you see, every person you meet – is really you. The illusion is complete because we are programmed to completely believe in separation. We believe that each other person is a separate individual instead of merely another “self” – although we are part of the whole.

The whole system is actually GOD. Intense ONENESS.

Love for all.

We have many streams of consciousness around us to contend with. I know, personally, as David Starlyte, it is not easy to differentiate, to understand, to always see the bigger picture and embrace the illusion for what it is. I may at times (maybe often) tune into a fear-based frequency from here in the three-dimensional world. I am not always ready to embrace unconditional acceptance and love in these moments. It takes a leap of faith to transmute the heaviness of the natural 3-D mask, and enter into the impermanence and deep peace of the 5-D world. Love is the greatest barometer. The inter-dimensional time-traveller knows he must embrace his heart to enter into other timelines and other worlds.

I am coming to understand that each moment is ‘perfection’ – however strange and mystical that may seem. It definitely seems impractical and otherworldly to assume or contend perfection of all things. Yet it is all based on the “seeing” – perception is all. Even a murderer may be taking his free will steps to meet his Creator in his own way. it seems strange to contend that his actions are perfection. Time is an illusion, the all-forever is all now, all completion, all the “Oneness” that this writing is entitled.

At times I am like the brother of Christ. In truth, Christ Consciousness is for all. It is based on unconditional love and unconditional acceptance. We all can meet and embrace the Christ consciousness.

Who needs our love?

All things. All people.

The most lost and disconnected people need our greatest love.

Accept the strange ones into your heart.

We are all SOURCE.

We all are made in Heaven.

Love all that is.

And play with these beautiful illusions. They are all perfection.
Be kind to your brothers and sisters and to all beings (animals, plants, etc.)

Live from the heart and live fully in this short-lived appearance of what is real. Oscar Wilde wrote these enchanting words, “To live is the rarest thing in the world. Most people exist, that is all.”

Live inside this bubble of your making. Truly live.

With love and compassion,


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