Doing Life Together

Something is really bothering you. So you complain. Complaints are about the difference we see between our expectations and reality. We expect something and then it doesn’t come true. But does complaining really help? After all, it is  easy to complain and it comes naturally to many of us. Has complaining  become a habit like brushing your teeth? Are you so used…

Most of you won’t remember the old Newlywed Game that aired on television years ago. The goal of the game was to win by guessing your spouse’s right answer to a number of questions. If you matched answers, you could win the game. The game tested how well you knew the person you recently married. We all…

When Mike and Jan sat in my office for couples counseling, I knew they were on a slippery slope. They were doing the one thing marriages can’t tolerate. Jan rolled her eyes every time Mike brought up a complaint and responded, “Whatever.”  John responded with an insult. Then came name-calling, mocking and complete disrespect for one…

                                                                                             

Today is Good Friday and some of us may feel as if life is lived in a perpetual Good Friday mode. Like the movie, Groundhog Day, it seems we are replaying the same bad day over and over, fighting despair and struggling. Disease, broken relationships, prodigal children…the landscape looks bleak and can easily lead to despair. Good Friday…

Co-dependency can hurt  your sense of self and ruin your relationships. Not sure if that is you, keep reading. If you say yes to these questions, you have some work to do. Are you constantly putting the needs of other before yours? Is your relationship one-sided? Do you allow others to fill their needs but discount yours? Are…

“I am blocking on the name of that movie! Give me a minute and I will remember.“ Many of us have a commitment to exercise our physical body, but how about exercising our memory and brain? Here are a few things  we can do to improve our memory. Stop slouching! It may surprise you that proper posture…

Living with someone with borderline personality disorder is not easy. “One minute I am her best friend and the next, she won’t talk to me. Everything is a crisis or a conflict. And I am wondering if I should even answer the constant text messages blowing up my phone.” This all or nothing behavior is characteristic…

Shooting drills are now part of most public schools. Similar to when, as children, we practiced tornado drills, these exercises have become routine. Some public school students have been participating in these drills since their grade school years. Often the drills are unannounced so students can practice how to handle a lockdown in case of a real…

You are driving down the road and can hardly keep your eyes open. Note to self–I need more sleep. In fact, if you are awake for nineteen hours, you as as cognitively impaired as someone who is legally drunk. Sleep is needed to reboot our body and keep us alert. We need at least seven hours a…

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