Jack and Jenna came to couple therapy to get help for their very unhappy relationship.The problem was, they didn’t really want the help. They wanted me to validate their decision to break up. It took only a few minutes to see their dysfunctional patterns of interaction. The path to their unhappiness was predictable. In my…

It was time for my routine mammogram. The center’s waiting area was not where I expected to read about how porn could help me! But a magazine was placed (interestingly) next to a Bible on a small table. Curious by the cover story, I picked up the magazine and began flipping through the pages. I…

A friend asked an interesting question. “Can I love someone into changing?” She is married to a man who has many issues, and she’s finding it is harder and harder to live with him.  She wonders why her love hasn’t been enough to inspire him to change. Doesn’t love conquer all? Forget all the romantic movies…

One thing you can count on in life is being disappointed. It happens to all of us now and again. For example, you didn’t get the raise you thought you deserved. Your spouse didn’t do much for your birthday. Or your friend didn’t invite you to a party. When our expectations don’t align with reality,…

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