Question: Regarding harmonious extended family relationships: How do you go about mending a problem (or do you?) between a sister and a wife that was caused by the mother, who naturally is now getting along with both? Answer: Much in […]
Question: How do you begin to be open, when the pain and anger is so strong? How do I support my loved ones when I feel so cold inside? Is it fear that is keeping me locked up in this […]
Work consciously to deliberately drop the names of your pains and you will also learn to let go of all the reasons you have for experiencing them.
The next time you want to go ahead with any project — whether it’s designing a rocket ship or finally getting around to repairing your favorite rocking chair — and you start to feel those old familiar doubts, dreads, or […]
The heart watered by tears of self-pity soon turns to stone.
Brooding, resenting, regretting… all are forms of unconscious suffering, and serve to strengthen the false notion that the negative state is a product of the condition, instead of a reflection of one’s consciousness. To suffer consciously is to act in […]
So many people want to know, “What can I do for someone who is troubled, who comes to me for answers, or a way out of their pain?” And then, though rarely added to their question, what they don’t state […]
Question: I’ve said and done some terrible things to people in my life. How do I get through this guilt? Is there a right way to make amends to people I’ve wronged? Answer: Yes. Change yourself. In the long run, […]
Whatever justifies the unconscious suffering inherent in anger, blame, or bitterness is, itself, a part of — in league with — these same negative states. And that’s what we have to see if we ever want to be free of […]