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Most of us at least sense that whenever we fall into despair, lose our temper, or relive some past painful regret, we have lost possession of ourselves. To some extent we know that negative states limit our freedom because, in […]

On the surface, meaning seen through the eyes of the self caught up in a negative reaction, resistance to an unwanted revelation about oneself makes “sense” — as in when we “eject” an intruding pest from our house. But, as […]

In these times, where social appearance is more important than spiritual substance, what has become our longing to change is really the unconscious desire to control not just the shape of our bodies — according to prevailing values — but […]

It isn’t something of which most of us are aware, but we human beings are “marked” with a certain strange feature: and that is…we want to change. Perhaps you’re thinking: “What’s so strange about that?” After all, who amongst us […]

You can turn any painful event into a new kind of victory…

We must do more than just try to remember that nothing disturbs our peace of mind without first having gained our consent to enjoin us in that conflict; we must learn to fight for ourselves, to boldly reject any negative […]

Question: Regarding harmonious extended family relationships: How do you go about mending a problem (or do you?) between a sister and a wife that was caused by the mother, who naturally is now getting along with both? Answer: Much in […]

Question: How do you begin to be open, when the pain and anger is so strong? How do I support my loved ones when I feel so cold inside? Is it fear that is keeping me locked up in this […]

Work consciously to deliberately drop the names of your pains and you will also learn to let go of all the reasons you have for experiencing them.

The next time you want to go ahead with any project — whether it’s designing a rocket ship or finally getting around to repairing your favorite rocking chair — and you start to feel those old familiar doubts, dreads, or […]