Learn to see and to use the presence of any psychological pain as an invitation to reprioritize your present values. . .
Most of us at least sense that whenever we fall into despair, lose our temper, or relive some past painful regret, we have lost possession of ourselves. To some extent we know that negative states limit our freedom because, in […]
On the surface, meaning seen through the eyes of the self caught up in a negative reaction, resistance to an unwanted revelation about oneself makes “sense” — as in when we “eject” an intruding pest from our house. But, as […]
In these times, where social appearance is more important than spiritual substance, what has become our longing to change is really the unconscious desire to control not just the shape of our bodies — according to prevailing values — but […]
It isn’t something of which most of us are aware, but we human beings are “marked” with a certain strange feature: and that is…we want to change. Perhaps you’re thinking: “What’s so strange about that?” After all, who amongst us […]
You can turn any painful event into a new kind of victory…
We must do more than just try to remember that nothing disturbs our peace of mind without first having gained our consent to enjoin us in that conflict; we must learn to fight for ourselves, to boldly reject any negative […]
Question: Regarding harmonious extended family relationships: How do you go about mending a problem (or do you?) between a sister and a wife that was caused by the mother, who naturally is now getting along with both? Answer: Much in […]
Question: How do you begin to be open, when the pain and anger is so strong? How do I support my loved ones when I feel so cold inside? Is it fear that is keeping me locked up in this […]
Work consciously to deliberately drop the names of your pains and you will also learn to let go of all the reasons you have for experiencing them.
The next time you want to go ahead with any project — whether it’s designing a rocket ship or finally getting around to repairing your favorite rocking chair — and you start to feel those old familiar doubts, dreads, or […]
The heart watered by tears of self-pity soon turns to stone.
Brooding, resenting, regretting… all are forms of unconscious suffering, and serve to strengthen the false notion that the negative state is a product of the condition, instead of a reflection of one’s consciousness. To suffer consciously is to act in […]
So many people want to know, “What can I do for someone who is troubled, who comes to me for answers, or a way out of their pain?” And then, though rarely added to their question, what they don’t state […]
Question: I’ve said and done some terrible things to people in my life. How do I get through this guilt? Is there a right way to make amends to people I’ve wronged? Answer: Yes. Change yourself. In the long run, […]
Whatever justifies the unconscious suffering inherent in anger, blame, or bitterness is, itself, a part of — in league with — these same negative states. And that’s what we have to see if we ever want to be free of […]
Part I: The only one who never loses sight of his True Nature, who never becomes a captive of negative states, is that fortunate person who never forgets this one great truth: Even though nothing we look upon in this […]
Freedom follows the discovery that whatever it is within us that compels us to achieve can never itself be made content by achievement. *** Real Success in life is not determined by measuring up to some pre-set social standard of […]
It seems to me that the main reason we suffer, as we do — over the things we do — is not because these things, in themselves, have the “power” to punish us, but rather because we forget in these […]
Have you ever snapped at a family member? Have you ever fought over a parking place? Have you ever jumped up to make a phone call to straighten someone out? These are moments when you sell your soul. What you […]
The pain we feel over being betrayed is not the fault of the one who has fractured our trust. Such anguish belongs to, and is created by, those darkly combustible parts of us into which we so readily fall and […]
Question: I’ve tried to work but can’t get beyond a major depression. My home has been stolen from me by one of the banks that our government has bailed out, and my credit has been destroyed. Can I move forward? […]
The greatest, most “expensive” gift that anyone can give to another is priceless, and yet… it is available in abundance for everyone to give all the time. Not only that, but this same gift rewards its giver in the same […]
Question: Would you give me some specific strategies to help me when I start to feel depression pulling at me and dragging me down? Answer: Here are three bright new actions for you to take. Each is designed to help […]
Question: When I look at myself, it seems that my most prevalent emotion is anger. It’s always there, and I feel powerless to stop my raging thoughts. What can I do? I really am weary of my own out-of-control emotions. […]
QUESTION Last week I had a strong feeling of generalized anxiety come over me, even though there was no apparent cause. I want to remain with the emotion in order to understand it. I watch it, and it lifts, only […]
Every saint, sage, and wise man or woman from every timeless tradition — East or West, past or present — has a special message for you: You have been left a great inheritance. A treasure chest of spiritual gifts awaits […]
In this video blog by Guy Finley learn the secret truth behind the fact that no negative state can exist without resistance and begin to free yourself of troubling thoughts and feelings.
In this podcast, Guy Finley talks about the vast difference between mere ideas about spirituality and the direct perception of living spiritual principles.
QUESTION What key lessons in particular can I apply when the job situation looks so grim and at any moment I won’t even have rent money?
We all have things inside of us that we fear: haunting thoughts and dark feelings we sense are down there, but that we’d rather not face for fear they may drag us down into their domain. So instead of questioning […]
Though few understand the truth of the following, freedom is (always) a question of possibilities. Prisons, of any kind, strip away our possibilities. For example, (an inmate) has lost the simple freedom to just wander where he wishes, outside in […]
In this video blog by Guy Finley discover how working to understand your own inner life is the same as transcending who and what you have been in favor of higher awareness, revelation, and a truly fearless life.
It’s a little known secret that our experience of life in any given moment is a direct reflection of what we actually value in that same moment. We may deny this unsettling truth but, when it comes to what we […]
Real power isn’t the ability to imagine and implement an endless series of new solutions to old problems, but to awaken the higher understanding that allows us to transcend the need we have to live with any painful problems at […]
How do you move from a life of endless problems to a life of endless possibilities? Learn to cultivate the four conditions of happiness: clear eyes, a quiet mind, a sense of beauty, and an open heart.
Have you ever fought with someone over a parking place? Have you ever jumped up to make a phone call to straighten somebody out? Have you ever snapped at a family member? These are moments when you sell your soul. […]