The thing that is unwanted in any moment is not the event we blame for our pain. The real source of our suffering is mechanically identifying with a negative reaction, and then unconsciously resisting our own dark state. In other […]
We rarely see how, or when we act against ourselves – or others – because of how instantly, easily we agree to identify with a legion of sleep-inducing thoughts and feelings that appear to serve one purpose: to justify a […]
Real life never stops starting over, but before one can dwell in this this newness—and know its unencumbered freedom—one must let go of any and all attachments in the past that produce a painful sense of self. www.YourImmortalSelf.com
When it comes to healing mental or emotional pain, the first step to freeing oneself is in seeing the following facts: resistance to anything (including psychological pain) is a secret form of fascination with it, and to be fascinated with […]
Guy explains that every time we are identified with a negative state that is judgment day. We are judged, but not in a punishing sense. We are actually invited to see where we have acted from an imbalanced state.
The next time (and every time) you catch some negative thought or feeling that says, “I am anxious,” “I am scared,” “I am mad,” or “I am in so much pain” — the first thing to do is to come […]
Question: Someone I love has hurt me deeply, betrayed my trust, and now I don’t know how I should feel about this person. Should I forgive and forget, or try to find another who won’t be the same way? Seems […]
Freedom from the prison of negative states remains impossible until one loses interest in the false, but powerful, sense of self derived from identifying with (one’s own) surging sensations.
Guy Finley explains that we all have natural preferences in life, based on our individual make-up and conditioning. But when life doesn’t match up with our preferences, the pain and negativity we feel isn’t because of what has happened, it’s […]
Question: My life lately has been a seemingly unending string of “unwanted events.” I keep thinking God is trying to teach me something, or worse, that He is punishing me for something (à la Job in the Old Testament!). It’s […]
We may not yet see it as being so, but whenever unwanted situations come along — stripping us of some beloved attachment — it is the operation of one world acting upon another. There is our familiar world, the one […]
Have you ever seen in a relationship that you have with someone that the alignment is starting to go off (so to speak) and you can see the car starting to drift? So, you grab the steering wheel — meaning […]
Question: All of the difficulties we have with one another seem to be due to the fact that we’re all trying to protect ourselves. It seems like in the very process of trying to keep ourselves safe, we actually create […]
Question: Why in the world am I so weak that I can’t remember my good intentions? How will I ever succeed spiritually when this weakness keeps getting in the way of my making any real progress? Answer: Part of the […]
Question: Happiness is elusive! How do I let go of an ever-present feeling of being discontented? If there is one weed in a field of roses, you can bet the weed is what I will see. Answer: When it comes […]
Why does jealousy rise again? Why does wishing that this wasn’t this way and they weren’t that way have to be like that? How many times does that rise again? We know that resistance somehow is always rising. It is […]
Question: I (and many others) have lost so much in the recent storm. How do we begin to move beyond all the grief and suffering to some kind of peace and understanding of why such a thing could have happened? […]
Depression always begins as an intrusion of the psychic kind, and gradually works its way into our material body. Bit by bit we become infused with certain chemicals as a result of this energy we have mistakenly identified with. Try […]
Question: How do we feel or acknowledge a negative state without giving ourselves over to it? When it is present, how can we not be affected by it? Answer: There’s an old Chinese saying, “The birds of sadness may fly […]
Question: How can you stay peaceful when you are with people whose lives are really in distress, especially when they are close to you? Answer: You must ask yourself a different question. I’d suggest the following: What could be more […]
In this short talk, Guy Finley talks about how painful tension persists because we are relying on something outside of ourselves to tell us who we are. Click here to listen to “Stop Waiting and Start Living”
Question: The past keeps coming into my thoughts when situations arise that bring rehearsed doom and gloom feelings that hamper the chance for success in the present. What do I do in that moment? Meditate? Pray? Try to think of […]
In this podcast, Guy Finley explains that true self-command becomes possible when we begin to consciously interrupt the momentum of the unconscious nature that is presently in control of our lives.