Letting Go with Guy Finley

Letting Go with Guy Finley

Caregiving Aging Parents

posted by Guy Finley

Question: My father has had cancer for about two years. Neither of us talk about dying. When a nurse asked him about dying, he said he was afraid he wouldn’t go to heaven. I would like to help in some way, but I’m also afraid to talk to him about it and I don’t really know what I would say.

Answer: We can’t really help anyone — in any given moment — more than we are willing to be honest about ourselves. In this instance (in all instances, really), what someone really wants (especially when facing his own mortality) is someone to talk to about their fears without being hammered by a bunch of nonsense from people who know nothing about what they profess. But we have all practiced pretense for so long with each other that virtually no one today can sit down and just listen and then speak from his or her heart about what they just heard. Even more than this… people intuit that we aren’t really there for them, but rather to soothe our own guilts… so to what end speak of anything? What your father needs is a friend; and it’s not too late to initiate this new relationship with him. No pretense. No past. No posturing. Just sit down and be a living invitation, through your own honesty, to talk to each other like two mortals who have not understood the immediacy of their own imminent mortality. Start there… and see what happens.

The Breeding Ground of Self-Defeat

posted by Guy Finley

Stress, anxiety, and tension are the dark jewels adorning a thorny crown we must wear whenever we try to live more than one moment at a time…

 

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(Audio) Stop Looking For Trouble and You Won’t Find It

posted by Guy Finley

In this short talk, Guy Finley talks about the importance of being present to ourselves, especially when the mind seeks to identify with something so that it can feel disturbed.

Stop Burning and Start Learning!

posted by Guy Finley

Sooner put out a fire with jet fuel than gain the upper hand on some anxious state by throwing more agitated thoughts into its turmoil.

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Caregiving Aging Parents
Question: My father has had cancer for about two years. Neither of us talk about dying. When a nurse asked him about dying, he said he was afraid he wouldn't go to heaven. I would like to help in some way, but I'm also afraid to talk to him about it and I don't really know what I would say. Answe

posted 12:00:22pm Jan. 26, 2015 | read full post »

The Breeding Ground of Self-Defeat
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posted 12:00:50pm Jan. 23, 2015 | read full post »

(Audio) Stop Looking For Trouble and You Won't Find It
In this short talk, Guy Finley talks about the importance of being present to ourselves, especially when the mind seeks to identify with something so that it can feel disturbed. [audio mp3="http://www.beliefnet.com/columnists/lettinggo/files/2015/01/20141102_stop_looking.mp3"][/audio]

posted 12:00:11pm Jan. 22, 2015 | read full post »

Stop Burning and Start Learning!
Sooner put out a fire with jet fuel than gain the upper hand on some anxious state by throwing more agitated thoughts into its turmoil.

posted 12:00:34pm Jan. 21, 2015 | read full post »

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posted 12:00:42pm Jan. 20, 2015 | read full post »


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