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You Can’t Buy Love

Love isn’t a product, like shoes, or lemons. Yet people pleasers try to buy it with favors and being agreeable. I did whewn I was a DoorMat! And like many women, I was under the erroneous belief that if I […]

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Rewriting Elizabeth Barrett Browning

  Elizabeth Barrett Browning wrote How do I love thee? Let me count the ways. I borrowed it for the title of the book I’m giving away through The Self-Love Movement™—How Do I Love Me? Let Me Count the Ways. […]

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Imperfectly Pleasing

DoorMats go out of their way to please everyone, trying to be a perfect people pleaser. That’s what I did when I lived in DoorMatville. I was always trying to be the perfect little pleaser to insure that everyone would […]

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Law of Attraction in Action: Selfishness

This is post 276 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to manifest your desires.. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series […]

Soothing Yourself

What do you do when you get anxious? Do you work yourself up and make yourself feel worse? Or are you loving to you? My guest today has a technique you can try. Tina Gilbertson is a psychotherapist in Portland, […]

Doing Good vs. You

Sometimes you have to make a choice between what’s best for someone else and what’s best for you. You may want to do what you see as ”the right” thing for someone even if it goes against what you’d like. […]

Be Your Own Valentine Today!

I was just talking to a guy about Valentine’s Day and was surprised when he said he dreaded February 14th. There was no special woman in his life and he and his buddies would probably drown their sorrows about not […]

People Pleasing Anger

DoorMats/people pleasers often have a lot of reasons to be that way, most based on circumstances they bring on themselves. Pleasing everyone is a choice, not an obligation. But it’s common to get angry about the repercussions from it , […]

Self-Love & Forgiveness

Self-Love Month is over but I’ll continue posting abot sel-love.you should still be working on nourishing yours. Carrying anger around with you hurts you, which isn’t loving. The antidote is forgiveness. Today my guest is Self-Love Ambassador Alice McCall  In […]

31 Days of Self-Love 2014

Self-Love Month is over  but the love shouldn’t be!  it’s important to not forget the importance of giving yourself love as much as you can. If you haven’t already done do, I highly recommend you read my free book, How […]

Dreams Do Come True!: New Self-Love Video

It’s fun to dream, but not when you never see any results. It can get frustrating to want something you dream about and feel like it’s out of your reach. I’ve had many dreams that never materialized. Years ago, after […]

I Love Me” Tip: List “Why I Deserve the Best.”

Today is Day 25 of my 31 Days of Self-Love posts to celebrate Self-Love Month with suggestions for jump-starting your own self-love and joining The Self-Love Movement™. Do you think you deserve the best? It’s common to have some niggling […]

Start an Inner Revolution

Today is Day 24 of my 31 Days of Self-Love posts to celebrate Self-Love Month with suggestions for jump-starting your own self-love and joining The Self-Love Movement™. I say it often: In order to be happy, you have to work […]

Law of Attraction in Action: Tapping for Better Self-Esteem

Today is Day 21 of my 31 Days of Self-Love posts to celebrate Self-Love Month with suggestions for jump-starting your own self-love and joining The Self-Love Movement™ This is post 268 in my series on the Law of Attraction in […]

Why It’s Fun to Be Perfectly Imperfect

Today is Day 20 of my 31 Days of Self-Love posts to celebrate Self-Love Month with suggestions for jump-starting your own self-love and joining The Self-Love Movement™. Perfection. So many of us are taught that we should strive for that […]

What Do You Say When You Look at Yourself in the Mirror?

Today is Day 11 of my 31 Days of Self-Love posts to celebrate Self-Love Month with suggestions for jump-starting your own self-love and joining The Self-Love Movement™. When I met cancer survivor an Self-Love Ambassador Cathy Hamilton, I was struck […]

How Do I Love Me? More Suggestions from Pros 2014

    Today is Day 16 of my 31 Days of Self-Love posts to celebrate Self-Love Month with suggestions for jump-starting your own self-love and joining The Self-Love Movement™. I recently asked some experts how they show themselves love and […]

Is Falling in Love Always Good?

Today is Day 12 of my 31 Days of Self-Love posts to celebrate Self-Love Month with suggestions for jump-starting your own self-love and joining The Self-Love Movement™. Most people look forward to falling in love. But there are times when […]

“I Love Me” Tip: Love Your Heart

Today is Day 11 of my 31 Days of Self-Love posts to celebrate Self-Love Month with suggestions for jump-starting your own self-love and joining The Self-Love Movement™. Now and then it’s good to pause in our pursuit of happiness and […]

Who Matters the Most?

Today is Day 10 of my 31 Days of Self-Love posts to celebrate Self-Love Month with suggestions for jump-starting your own self-love and joining The Self-Love Movement™.   Who matters the most to you? Be honest! There’s only one good […]

How Do I Love Me? Suggestions from Pros 2014

Today is Day 9 of my 31 Days of Self-Love posts to celebrate Self-Love Month with suggestions for jump-starting your own self-love and joining The Self-Love Movement™. I thought it would be helpful to ask some experts how they show […]

“I Love Me” Tip: Say Kind, Reassuring Words to Yourself

Today is Day 8 of my 31 Days of Self-Love posts to celebrate Self-Love Month with suggestions for jump-starting your own self-love and joining The Self-Love Movement™. It’s so easy to put ourselves down, I talked about in my post […]

Why Self-Acceptance Is the Most Delicious Dish

Today is Day 3 of my 31 Days of Self-Love posts to celebrate Self-Love Month with suggestions for jump-starting your own self-love and joining The Self-Love Movement™. When you don’t accept yourself, it’s hard to love yourself. Seeing yourself through […]

Happy 2014!

    Today is Day 1of my 31 Days of Self-Love posts to celebrate Self-Love Month with suggestions for jump-starting your own self-love and joining The Self-Love Movement™. It’s a new year!! It’s also the start of Self-Love Month! If […]

Trade Resolutions for a Commitment to Yourself

Soon New Years’ resolutions will begin to be made. It can be fun to declare all of your wishes for the New Year. I used to enjoy the thrill of making make New Years resolutions every December. It was fun […]

9 Ways to Jumpstart Your Life

People seem to think that New Year can automatically bring change. We make resolutions like wishes with hope that the New Year wish fairy will make it happen. But then the year progresses and you’re disappointed that nothing good has […]

Why Self-Absorption Isn’t Loving or Empowering

There’s a fine line between self-love/wanting to be an empowered person and self-absorption. It’s easy to get lost in new-found self-awareness and overcompensate with too much self-indulgence or act like no one else matters, which is unhealthy for friendship, whether […]

Calming Those Feelings of Being Overwhelmed

We all go through those periods where it feels like life is dumping on you too much and you feel as if you’re drowning in things you need to do. It might even be good things, opportunities to advance your […]

Start 2014 with a Commitment to YOU

Soon 2014 will be here. January can be a dreary month, depending on where you live. Yet most of us like the idea of starting the year on a positive note. That can be hard if your resolutions seem daunting […]

Describe Yourself

How would you describe yourself? Are you positive? Apologetic? Defensive about who you are? How you speak of yourself reflects self-image. If you speak in a less than positive manner, it’s harder to feel totally positive. Change your life by […]

Law of Attraction in Action: Huge Goals

This is post 257 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to manifest your desires.. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series […]

Don’t Be a Life Tourist!

I’m an avid traveler, both in the U.S. and overseas. But, I hate being a tourist. When I travel, I like to just exist in the place. That doesn’t mean I don’t go see the sights. I do. But I […]

Living with Regrets

Do memories of things you did or didn’t do lead to self-recrimination? Do you wish you’d done things differently? All those things that you did or didn’t do in the PAST can haunt you today. I emphasized PAST because they […]

You in 3 Words

I recently talked to a woman who was writing an interesting book. She was going crazy trying to find a title for it. As she described it I told her that it sounded like Eat, Pray, Love for parents. She […]

Be Your Best You Today

When you’re not happy, you look to the future to begin to  feel good about yourself and who you are. But why wait? Chances are if you can’t make right now work, the future may not get any better. If […]

Be Happy for No Reason

Do you need a reason to be happy? Do you look to other people or what you can have to be happy. Do you count on having a romantic partner to do it for you? When I was a DoorMat, […]

Give Yourself Permission to Walk Away

Often we take something on and feel obligated to finish. Or, we set a goal that feels daunting but believe it’s what we’re supposed to do. That can create a lot of stress, which makes it hard to embrace what […]

How to Receive a Compliment

How do you respond when someone gives you a compliment? Do you say something to negate it? Many of us do. For years getting compliments was almost painful because I didn’t think I deserved them or I was afraid owning […]

Who Is Your Body Image Role Model?

When I interviewed a woman who had been a model she said that the worst feeling was being a model, thinking she had a good body and then having her photos airbrushed to make her look slimmer and more perfect. […]

Self-Defense and Self-Love

Finding ways to protect yourself is an act of self love. Many years ago I took a series of self-defense classes and still remember the main moved I learned. It has truly help me feel more powerful. That’s why I’m […]

Tips for Lovingly Reconnect with Your Body

A negative body image is on of the biggest self-love and self-esteem busters. It’s so easy to tell you to begin to love your body yet so hard to do. Erena DiGonis, LMSW, CHC, a licensed psychotherapist and certified health […]

Does Loving Yourself Seem Selfish?

I’m delighted to have Wendy Walsh, Ph.D., America’s thought-leader on relationships, as my guest today. Each week on CNN, she breaks down the psychology of sex, love, gender roles, divorce, parenting and other human behaviors. A former co-host of “The […]

Honor YOU on Valentine’s Day!

Happy Valentine’s Day! It’s the day earmarked for love. But, don’t forget to love yourself, even if you have a romantic partner. I personally think that every day should be a day for love, not just February 14th! Many women […]

Let Love Start with You

While Self-Love Month is over for this year, I want to keep reminding you why you should keep working on loving yourself. That’s why I’m happy to have psychotherapist Derek O’Neill as my guest today. An internationally acclaimed motivational speaker, […]

Can You Forgive Your Body for Being Imperfect?

A big block to building self-love is being unhappy with your body. Too many people tell me they’ll work on self-love when they lose weight, buff up more, etc. But self-love includes loving your body exactly as it is. That […]

Empower Yourself

While Self-Love Month is over, I hope that you’ll continue to seek ways to love yourself. Self-love is the fuel for many positive things in your life. It fortifies you to build a happy life and to stand up to […]

Keep Self-Love Going Through 2013

Today is Day 31 of my 31 Days of Self-Love posts to celebrate Self-Love Month with suggestions for jump-starting your own self-love and joining The Self-Love Movement™. Today is the last day of Self-Love Month but it’s also the first […]

Building Your Self-Worth

Today is Day 30 of my 31 Days of Self-Love posts to celebrate Self-Love Month with suggestions for jump-starting your own self-love and joining The Self-Love Movement™. When you have low self-worth, it’s hard to love yourself. But you may […]

Who Is Stopping You from the Life You Want?

Today is Day 28 of my 31 Days of Self-Love posts to celebrate Self-Love Month with suggestions for jump-starting your own self-love and joining The Self-Love Movement™. In my workshops and with clients, I often ask, “Who is stopping you […]

“I Love Me” Tip: Why Exercise is Self-Love

Today is Day 23 of my 31 Days of Self-Love posts to celebrate Self-Love Month with suggestions for jump-starting your own self-love and joining The Self-Love Movement™. Today’s “I love me” tip is from self-love ambassador, Taylor Ryan, NASM CPT, […]

The Illusion of Perfection

Today is Day 25 of my 31 Days of Self-Love posts to celebrate Self-Love Month with suggestions for jump-starting your own self-love and joining The Self-Love Movement™. Many of us strive to be perfect because we compare yourselves to others. […]

Give Yourself the Best Gift

Today is Day 24 of my 31 Days of Self-Love posts to celebrate Self-Love Month with suggestions for jump-starting your own self-love and joining The Self-Love Movement™. I’m always happy to have self-love ambassador Tina Tessina, Ph.D. (aka “Dr. Romance”) […]

“I Love Me” Tip: Take Yourself Out for Some Quiet Time

Today is Day 23 of my 31 Days of Self-Love posts to celebrate Self-Love Month with suggestions for jump-starting your own self-love and joining The Self-Love Movement™. Life can get hectic. Stress triggers are everywhere. A great way to say, […]

Law of Attraction in Action: Old stories

Today is Day 22 of my 31 Days of Self-Love posts to celebrate Self-Love Month with suggestions for jump-starting your own self-love and joining The Self-Love Movement™. This is post 220 in my series on the Law of Attraction in […]

How Criticism Can Empower You

Today is Day 21 of my 31 Days of Self-Love posts to celebrate Self-Love Month with suggestions for jump-starting your own self-love and joining The Self-Love Movement™. Few people like criticism. I sure don’t, especially when it’s about something that […]

Do You Feel Defective?

Today is Day 20 of my 31 Days of Self-Love posts to celebrate Self-Love Month with suggestions for jump-starting your own self-love and joining The Self-Love Movement™. I’m delighted to have Karen R. Koenig, LCSW, M.Ed., as my guest today. […]

“I Love Me” Tip: Express Love to Others

Today is Day 19 of my 31 Days of Self-Love posts to celebrate Self-Love Month with suggestions for jump-starting your own self-love and joining The Self-Love Movement™. A very loving act is to spread your love to other people. Almost […]

Lovingly Spruce Yourself

Today is Day 18 of my 31 Days of Self-Love posts to celebrate Self-Love Month with suggestions for jump-starting your own self-love and joining The Self-Love Movement™. It can be easy to fall into habits of not caring how you […]

How Do I Love Me? More Suggestions from Pros 2013

Today is Day 17 of my 31 Days of Self-Love posts to celebrate Self-Love Month with suggestions for jump-starting your own self-love and joining The Self-Love Movement™. I recently asked some experts how they show themselves love and included some […]

“I Love Me” Tip: Unplug for a Period of Time

Today is Day 16 of my 31 Days of Self-Love posts to celebrate Self-Love Month with suggestions for jump-starting your own self-love and joining The Self-Love Movement™. I admit, I don’t own a Smart phone or any of the tech […]

Law of Attraction in Action: Creating a Personal Mantra to Empower You

Today is Day 15 of my 31 Days of Self-Love posts to celebrate Self-Love Month with suggestions for jump-starting your own self-love and joining The Self-Love Movement™. This is post 219 in my series on the Law of Attraction in […]

Why You Should Love Being Imperfect

Today is Day 14 of my 31 Days of Self-Love posts to celebrate Self-Love Month with suggestions for jump-starting your own self-love and joining The Self-Love Movement™. It can be exhausting to be on a mission to be perfect and […]

Why Self-Love Rules!

Today is Day 13 of my 31 Days of Self-Love posts to celebrate Self-Love Month with suggestions for jump-starting your own self-love and joining The Self-Love Movement™. I’m happy to have self-love ambassador Dina L Wilcox as my guest today. […]

“I Love Me!” Tip: Call a Friend Who Makes You Feel Good

Today is Day 12 of my 31 Days of Self-Love posts to celebrate Self-Love Month with suggestions for jump-starting your own self-love and joining The Self-Love Movement™. Some people can increase our angst. Others can soothe it. In this world […]

Putting Yourself into Your Schedule

Today is Day 12 of my 31 Days of Self-Love posts to celebrate Self-Love Month with suggestions for jump-starting your own self-love and joining The Self-Love Movement™. I’m happy to have self-love ambassador Caren Schmidt, a Holistic Health Coach, New […]

Give Yourself Permission to Do What’s Best for YOU

Today is Day 11 of my 31 Days of Self-Love posts to celebrate Self-Love Month with suggestions for jump-starting your own self-love and joining The Self-Love Movement™. Often habits keep you stuck with behavior and responses that you don’t find […]

Self-Love in Action

Today is Day 10 of my 31 Days of Self-Love posts to celebrate Self-Love Month with suggestions for jump-starting your own self-love and joining The Self-Love Movement™. Today I have a special guest. Self-love ambassador Brenda Lidwell wrote to me […]

Law of Attraction in Action: Taking Life for Granted

Today is Day 8 of my 31 Days of Self-Love posts to celebrate Self-Love Month with suggestions for jump-starting your own self-love and joining The Self-Love Movement™. This is post 218 in my series on the Law of Attraction in […]

“I Can’t Do It”

Today is Day 7 of my 31 Days of Self-Love posts to celebrate Self-Love Month with suggestions for jump-starting your own self-love and joining The Self-Love Movement™. A great way to show yourself love is to get comfortable saying those […]

What If the World is Better Because of YOU?

Today is Day 6 of my 31 Days of Self-Love posts to celebrate Self-Love Month with suggestions for jump-starting your own self-love and joining The Self-Love Movement™. Since it’s Self-Love Month, it’s very fitting to have Self-Love ambassador, my fabulicious […]

“I Love Me” Tip: Compliment Yourself

Today is Day 3 of my 31 Days of Self-Love posts to celebrate Self-Love Month with suggestions for jump-starting your own self-love and joining The Self-Love Movement™. How often do you look in the mirror and give yourself a compliment […]

Building Self-Appreciation

Today is Day 2 of my 31 Days of Self-Love posts to celebrate Self-Love Month with suggestions for jump-starting your own self-love and joining The Self-Love Movement™. I’m delighted top have self-love ambassador Friedemann Schaub MD., Ph.D., the founder of […]

Self-Esteem vs. Self-Love

Today is Day 4 of my 31 Days of Self-Love posts to celebrate Self-Love Month with suggestions for jump-starting your own self-love and joining The Self-Love Movement™. People often think that self-love and self-esteem are one and the same. But […]

How Do I Love Me? Suggestions from Pros 2013

Today is Day 3 of my 31 Days of Self-Love posts to celebrate Self-Love Month with suggestions for jump-starting your own self-love and joining The Self-Love Movement™. I thought it would be helpful to ask some experts how they show […]

Self-Acceptance: The Freedom to Be YOU

        Today is Day 2 of my 31 Days of Self-Love posts to celebrate Self-Love Month with suggestions for jump-starting your own self-love and joining The Self-Love Movement™. I remember the days when I couldn’t accept me […]

How Kind and Loving Are You To You?

Often we don’t pay attention to how we treat ourselves. Yet doing so can help you see where you need work in building self-love. With Self-Love Month almost here, I’m happy to have Jean Fain, L.I.C.S.W., M.S.W., a Harvard Medical School-affiliated […]

How My Self-Love Began at a Mary Kay Cosmetics Party

Often we need a catalyst to wake up to feeling at least a teeny bit worthy of loving ourselves. When I was a DoorMat, my first shred of self-worth began when my neighbor had a Mary Kay cosmetics party. I […]

Law of Attraction in Action: Loneliness During the Holidays

This is post 216 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to manifest your desires.. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series […]

Commit to Yourself for 2013

The New Year is coming. It’s a time to rethink your life and how you want to change yours. It’s also a time that you tend to look for what you can do differently in the next year. You might […]

Join The Self-Love Movement™!

I’d appreciate your doing something for me. Please read this and pass it to as many people as you can. The message below can make a meaningful difference in the world. I’m thrilled and excited to announce that my self-love […]

Where Do You Belong?

People tend to fall into patterns and make life decisions based on what they’ve been guided to do. Sometimes they were kind of programmed to go in a certain direction. Many women are taught young that their biggest goal as […]

Can You Marry Yourself?

As a big proponent of building self-love, I was fascinated by Sara Sharpe, who married herself. At first I thought it was weird but now I understand it was a pledge to love and honor herself. She explains it in […]

What’s Your Guilty Pleasure?

What’s Your Guilty Pleasure? Is it eating chocolate? Watching reality shows? Pigging out on the weekend? Most people can identify something when asked that question. I used to have lots of guilty pleasures, until I realized that most pleasure shouldn’t […]

Showing Reverence For Your Body

I’m delighted to have Laura M. Turner, M.Sc., CNHP back as my guest today. She’s an author, journalist and wellness mentor specializing in natural anti-aging practices and nutritional medicine. Below Laura provides insight about accepting all aspects of your body […]

Law of Attraction in Action: How Saying “No” to Something Can Backfire

This is post 193 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to manifest your desires.. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series […]

Make Friends with YOU

How would you feel if a friend called you fat for having ice cream? It would ruin your pleasure. What if she called you stupid for making a mistake? You’d feel angry and hurt and think she should be kinder. […]

Recognize Your Beauty

We see the beauty in other people and in the world around us. But, often we don’t recognize or acknowledge our own. Do you balk or try to minimize compliments? Is it easier to put yourself down? Are your flaws […]

The Benefits of Being Happy

People tend to look for ways to feel happy, but they’re often fleeting. Often we’re so busy trying find happiness we don’t recognize it when you have it. Happiness isn’t something you build by buying stuff or adding more bells […]

How Do You Want to Be Remembered?

Someone I know who I’ll call Cindy passed away suddenly at forty-one. She was healthy and never expected to be killed in a car accident. I was with some of her friends soon after and they talked about her funeral […]

Question: How Can I Feel Empowered When I See the Ex Who Hurt Me?

A reader who I’ll call Lisa wrote that she has to go to an event for a friend who is friendly with her ex-boyfriend, so he’ll be there too. This guy took advantage of Lisa when they were involved. She […]

Get an Attitude of Happiness

I’m a happy person—a very happy person! People say they envy me as they try to figure out what I have that they don’t so maybe they can buy it too! Happiness is one of those feelings that’s hard to […]

Staying Grounded in Your Awesomeness

I’m happy to have Beauty Activist and Celebrity Red Carpet Makeup Artist Kenetia Lee as my guest today She is a leading authority on beauty empowerment. Her goal is to inspire women everywhere to express themselves authentically without fear. Are […]

Have You Learned Your Lessons?

Do you find yourself making the same mistakes, over and over? Or continuously ending up in the same situation that you don’t like? People tell me they feel jinxed when this happens to them. They look for what or who […]

Law of Attraction in Action: Making Every Day a Loving One

This is post 175 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to attract all that you need. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in […]

Whitney Houston: Losing the Greatest Love

We often think that celebrities have it made. With all their money they can buy anything. They can get the best care, the best food, top of the line cosmetic work, and the best treatments for their problems. Yet Whitney […]

Who’s Giving You Love on Valentine’s Day?

Valentine’s Day is considered a day for love. But there’s no law that love has to be the romantic kind. Giving flowers and gifts was a tradition created by companies that sell the products you buy. It puts pressure on […]

31 Days of Self-Love 2012

Self-Love Month is over but the love shouldn’t be!  it’s important to not forget the importance of giving yourself love as much as you can. If you haven’t already done do, I highly recommend you read my free book, How […]

Law of Attraction in Action: Be a Loving Person

Today is the last day of my 31 Days of Self-Love posts to celebrate Self-Love Month with suggestions for jumpstarting your own self-love. This is post 173 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use […]

The Joy Within

Today is Day 29 of my 31 Days of Self-Love posts to celebrate Self-Love Month with suggestions for jumpstarting your own self-love. I’m happy to have Sheila Viers as my guest today. She’s a Life Coach and Co-founder of Live […]

“I Love Me” Tip: Do Something Spontaneously

Today is Day 28 of my 31 Days of Self-Love posts to celebrate Self-Love Month with suggestions for jumpstarting your own self-love. It can feel more comfortable to plan your activities in advance. No surprises, No risks. But doing something […]

Do You Have the Patience to Be Happy?

Today is Day 27 of my 31 Days of Self-Love posts to celebrate Self-Love Month with suggestions for jumpstarting your own self-love. You have the patience to wait on line to buy a ticket to a movie you’re anxious to […]

How’s Your Relationship with YOU?

Today is Day 26 of my 31 Days of Self-Love posts to celebrate Self-Love Month with suggestions for jumpstarting your own self-love. Today I have Teri Johnson, author of Overcoming the Nevers by Gardening Your life and Nurturing Seeds of […]

“I Love Me” Tip: Post Happy Thoughts

Today is Day 25 of my 31 Days of Self-Love posts to celebrate Self-Love Month with suggestions for jumpstarting your own self-love. Often things that bother you can override the good you have. Studies have shown that negative emotions can […]

Law of Attraction in Action: Self-Appreciation

Today is Day 24 of my 31 Days of Self-Love posts to celebrate Self-Love Month with suggestions for jumpstarting your own self-love. This is post 172 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your […]

How Do I Love Me? More Suggestions from Pros 2012

Today is Day 23 of my 31 Days of Self-Love posts to celebrate Self-Love Month with suggestions for jumpstarting your own self-love. I recently asked some experts how they show themselves love and included some in a post, to give […]

Healing with Self-Love

  Today is Day 22 of my 31 Days of Self-Love posts to celebrate Self-Love Month with suggestions for jumpstarting your own self-love. I’m delighted to have Alice McCall as my guest today. Alice is a Cellular Level Healing Consultant, […]

“I Love Me” Tip: Learn to Say “No”

Today is Day 21 of my 31 Days of Self-Love posts to celebrate Self-Love Month with suggestions for jumpstarting your own self-love. I’ve encouraged you to say “no” many times yet I know how hard it is to begin to […]

“Am I Willing to Love Me?”

Today is Day 20 of my 31 Days of Self-Love posts to celebrate Self-Love Month with suggestions for jumpstarting your own self-love. “Am I willing to love me?” I always wanted to love myself. It seemed like the right thing […]

“I Love Me” Tip: Commit to Doing One Small Task Every Day

Today is Day 18 of my 31 Days of Self-Love posts to celebrate Self-Love Month with suggestions for jumpstarting your own self-love. I often get frustrated at how quickly my dinette table gets cluttered with stuff. It can seem overwhelming […]

Law of Attraction in Action: Following Your Passion

Today is Day 17 of my 31 Days of Self-Love posts to celebrate Self-Love Month with suggestions for jumpstarting your own self-love. This is post 171 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your […]

Get Your Creative Hat On!

Today is Day 15 of my 31 Days of Self-Love posts to celebrate Self-Love Month with suggestions for jumpstarting your own self-love. I’m happy to have Melissa Dinwiddie, an artist, creative coach and inspirationalist known for getting people sparked, stoked […]

“I Love Me” Tip: Say, “I Approve of Myself”

Today is Day 14 of my 31 Days of Self-Love posts to celebrate Self-Love Month with suggestions for jumpstarting your own self-love. Saying “I approve of myself as I am,” over and over, even if you don’t, can make it […]

Building Loving Energy

Today is Day 13 of my 31 Days of Self-Love posts to celebrate Self-Love Month with suggestions for jumpstarting your own self-love. I’m delighted to have Laura M. Turner, M.Sc., CNHP back as my guest today. She’s an author, journalist […]

How Do I Love Me? Suggestions from Pros

Today is Day 12 of my 31 Days of Self-Love posts to celebrate Self-Love Month with suggestions for jumpstarting your own self-love. I thought it would be helpful to ask some experts how they show themselves love, to give you […]

“I Love Me Tip: Make a Bad Habit Piggy Bank

Today is Day 11 of my 31 Days of Self-Love posts to celebrate Self-Love Month with suggestions for jumpstarting your own self-love. We all have habits that we don’t like. It could be an addictive one like overeating, or the […]

Self-Love vs. Selfish

Today is Day 9 of my 31 Days of Self-Love posts to celebrate Self-Love Month with suggestions for jumpstarting your own self-love. There’s more than a fine line between being selfish and being loving to yourself. Yet some people confuse […]

Confessions of a Misguided Love Junkie

Today is Day 8 of my 31 Days of Self-Love posts to celebrate Self-Love Month with suggestions for jumpstarting your own self-love. I’m delighted to have unconditional love expert Lisa McCourt as my guest today. I featured her video on […]

“I Love Me” Tip: Do Something Useless But Fun

Today is Day 7 of my 31 Days of Self-Love posts to celebrate Self-Love Month with suggestions for jumpstarting your own self-love. We can get very practical in our decisions when we’re busy and these days who isn’t busy? In […]

Changing Your Thoughts to Build Self-Love

Today is Day 6 of my 31 Days of Self-Love posts to celebrate Self-Love Month with suggestions for jumpstarting your own self-love. I’ve said before that my whole life changed when I read You Can Heal Your Life by Louise […]

“I Love Me” Tip: Find the Exercise You Enjoy

Today is Day 4 of my 31 Days of Self-Love posts to celebrate Self-Love Month with suggestions for jumpstarting your own self-love. I work out in the gym with a personal trainer and only work with weights. From the beginning, […]

Law of Attraction in Action: Appreciating Life Right Now

Today is Day 3 of my 31 Days of Self-Love posts to celebrate Self-Love Month with suggestions for jumpstarting your own self-love. This is post 169 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your […]

The Joy of Being Imperfect

Today is Day 2 of my 31 Days of Self-Love posts to celebrate Self-Love Month with suggestions for jumpstarting your own self-love. Many of us were brought up with very high standards. Your parents might have pushed you to get […]

Happy New Year Filled with Self-Love

Happy New Year!  I hope that your entry into 2012 was a happy one. As usual, I enjoyed doing my spiritual work to clear my energy for a good start to the next year of my life so I began […]

Blessings for the Holiday and Beyond

Whether you celebrate Christmas or Hanukkah, Kwanzaa or don’t have a specific religion, it’s lovely to enjoy the spirit of this holiday season. People seem friendlier. I love walking through the streets of Manhattan and always express amazement about how […]

Go for the Whole Enchilada!

DoorMats settle for crumbs—occasional attention from someone you do a favor for, romantic involvement with someone who is “better than nothing,” bits of happy times, etc. I remember clearly how that feels. Back in my Doormat days, I got used […]

10 Reasons to Love Yourself

With the holiday season upon us, everyone is out looking for gifts to give others. Yet it’s also important to consider the gifts you can give YOU. The greatest give you can give yourself is yourself—filled with self-love. Unfortunately, many […]

Do Unto Yourself as You Do Unto Others

I was taught it’s nice to please people. And it is, as long as you don’t sacrifice your own needs to do it, as many of us do. Putting more into pleasing others than you do to please yourself is […]

Give Yourself Permission to Be Down—Sometimes

I’ve always been an upbeat person and known for my smile. As a child, people liked me more because of it so even when I had nothing to smile about, my mouth automatically curved up. Even when I grew up […]

Richard Simmons & the Power of Self-Love—Part 2

Yesterday I had Part 1 of my interview with the amazing Richard Simmons where he told how he went from a very overweight kid to being at the top of his game and leading so many people down a healthy […]

Richard Simmons & the Power of Self-Love—Part 1

Recently I saw Richard Simmons on several TV talk shows. I’ve always thought of him as a fun guy with lots of hair in little shorts and HUGE enthusiasm about leading and encouraging people to exercise and live a healthy […]

‘Tis the Season for Self-Love

The holidays are coming. Winter is in the air. Soon there will be decorations going up. My neighborhood dresses up in wonderful ways, which takes the edge off of cold weather. But many people begin to feel down during this […]

Class Reunion

I was invited to a school reunion and thought it would be fun to attend. High school was a happy time for me. I had loads of friends and was involved in many activities. So I went and it was […]

Guarding Your Time

“Do you have a few minutes for me to pick your brain?” “I’ll be visiting NY and would like to meet you for a cup of coffee to ask you some questions.” I hear this all the time from fans […]

“I Love Me” Tip: Listen to Uplifting Music

Consciously make sure you have music you enjoy playing whenever you can. Music can definitely life the soul. Make sure it’s music that makes you feel good, not creates a negative mood. Years ago, when I’d break up with a […]

“I Love Me” Tip: Take an Hour of Solitude

We all have something we enjoy doing on our own. It can be reading a book, taking a bath, meditating, having a cup of coffee or tea, or a glass of wine in silence, take a walk, or a million […]

People Withdrawal

On Tuesday I had a Law of Attraction in Action post on Friendship and how we attract the kinds of people we accept as friends. Here I tell you how I changed the message I sent to attract better friends. […]

Question: Why Does My Daughter Say I Like To Be Treated Poorly?

A reader asked in a comment, how could her daughter say she liked being treated like crap? She and her brother use it as an excuse to treat Mom poorly and she wants to change it. How could they say […]

“I Love Me” Tip: Make Time to Read

I LOVE to read! When I was younger I read books voraciously, at least 2-3 a week. Yet in the last few years, I haven’t read much. I’ve been reading Eat, Pray, Love for many months, and I LOVE the […]

Need vs. Love

Divorce rates are higher than ever. Many people get married fast these days. Celebrities lead the pack, making high profile quickie marriages seem like the norm. But it isn’t, or at least it shouldn’t be in most cases. Celebs like […]

“I Love Me” Tip: Make A Conscious Effort To Get A Good Night’s Sleep!

I’m amazed by how many people scoff off the idea of getting a good night’s sleep. The say they don’t have time. Five hours is enough. But it really isn’t. While people get used to functioning on little sleep, it […]

“I Love Me!” Tip: Clean Out ONE Cluttered Drawer

I’ve always found that cleaning can empower you. It gives you control over your environment and yourself for doing it. Often making changes can seem difficult, and it’s hard to get started. That’s why I advocate taking baby steps for […]

Don’t Waste Your Life!

Yesterday I posted an interview with Rita Cosby, an award-winning journalist who wrote the amazing book, Quiet Hero, the story her dad’s harrowing journey as a member of the Polish Resistance during WWII and how she connected to him after […]

“I Love Me!” Tip: Splurge Calories on a Goodie—Guilt-Free

Guilt can ruin the pleasure of eating something yummy. Many of us are in a perpetual cycle of watching our weight. I try to be careful not to gain much. But the pursuit of a slimmer body can cloud our […]

Law of Attraction in Action: Why Can’t I Make Myself Happy?

This is post 137in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to attract all that you need. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action […]

“I Love Me” Tip: Write a Script to Help You Ask

Since I’m focusing on learning to ask for what you need, here’s a practice I found helps me to ask. How does this relate to self-love? Asking for what you wants is an act of self-love. When you ask and […]

Begin the New Year with Self-Love!

Happy New Year! I hope your entry into 2011 was a good one! I was home, doing the spiritual work I love to do at the end of each year, nurturing the love I have for me. After being a […]

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Ditch the Victim Mentality
A common thread among clients who come to me for self-empowerment counseling is “Why do people use me?” And they groan, “Why me?” And they whine, “I’ll never get what I want because of _____.”  I tell them to fill in that blank with, “because I allow myself to be a victim.” People

posted 10:41:37pm Jul. 21, 2014 | read full post »

Standing Up for Yourself
You may be angry at many people and want to tell them all of. But you need to –prepare to take a stand first. Before taking a stand, ask, “Am I WILLING to be serious?” You may want to stop unacceptable behavior, but are you willing to leave or mean “no” or cut visits if ignored? Decide how

posted 12:01:04pm Jul. 18, 2014 | read full post »

Law of Attraction in Action: What You Think Of Yourself
This is post 290 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to manifest your desires. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series to see how. Very often, your biggest roadblocks to achieving goals are the labels you put on yourself.

posted 8:44:56pm Jul. 16, 2014 | read full post »

Why People Become DoorMats/People Pleasers
George Bernard Shaw said, “The reasonable man adapts himself to the world: the unreasonable one persists in trying to adapt the world to himself.” Having DMS (DoorMat Syndrome) made me a People Pleaser wh

posted 2:09:35pm Jul. 14, 2014 | read full post »

Law of Attraction in Action: “It’s for the best”
This is post 289 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to attract all that you need. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series  to see how. People get confused when they’re trying to manifest if something doesn’t work out

posted 12:01:14pm Jul. 08, 2014 | read full post »

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