Mom always said, “Eat your vegetables!” Was she on to something? Apparently so, as certain vegetables may be not only be good for your eyes, but also good for your brain!
Have you ever said, “I wish I knew then, what I know now?” Wisdom comes with age–at least that is the hope. And that aging wisdom is related to a type of intelligence that uses the knowledge and experience we pick up over the years. It is called, “crystallized intelligence,” a type of intelligence that comes with maturity and one that is measured on standardized tests. If you have ever played Trivial Pursuit and done well, it is probably due to your crystallized intelligence. It involves your declarative memory of people, places and things.
Researcher Elizabeth Johnson, Ph.D., a scientist in the Antioxidants Laboratory at Tufts University, thinks this type of intelligence may be,in part, preserved by what you eat. One of those brain power foods has been showing up in everything from smoothies to chips. Kale, a green leafy vegetable accumulates in the brain and appears to provide a neuroprotective role. It contains a plant pigment called lutein. Lutein is found in cruciferous vegetables like broccoli, spinach, collards, and in egg yolks and other dark green leafy foods.
We already know that lutein is good for your eyes. It lessens the risk for age-related macular degeneration, Now, we think lutein may also be connected to brain health. In one study that assessed makers of cognitive measures like language, learning and memory, it was that found that having a lutein-rich brain was associated with better brain health.
Currently, there are no dietary recommendations for lutein, but most Americans probably do not get the 6 mg a day needed to lower the risk of eye problems and possibly protect the brain. So next time you are in the grocery store, grab several servings of green! Add a spinach salad, kale to a shake or grill broccoli for your next side dish.
Mom was right! Eating our vegetables is good for our bodies, particular our eyes and brain!
It’s a common saying, “You need to take better care of yourself?” Or “Exercise a little self-care and you will feel better.” But I find many people are unable to do this, or are uncomfortable with the idea–either they feel there is too much emphasis on the self or that self-care is a selfish focus.
For insight, let’s look at the life of Jesus while on earth. While He was fully God, He was also fully man and had a physical body to care for while completing his ministry. Friend and Fuller professor, Siang- Yang Tan offers this, “In the midst of his busy ministry, meeting the needs of many people, Jesus regularly took time off to be in solitude and to pray, to be in communion with the Father by the power of the Holy Spirit (Matt 14:23; 26:36; Mark 1:35; 6:46; 14:32; Luke 5:16; 6:12; 22:41; John 17:1; Heb 5:7).
Jesus stayed strong by exercising self-care in the middle of his ministry life. He understood the importance of rest and time alone with the Father. Professor Tan (2003) suggests these self-care strategies modeled and given to us by Christ:
1) Abide in Christ (John 15:5). Jesus said, I am the vine; you are the branches. Whoever abides in me and I in him, he it is that bears much fruit, for apart from me you can do nothing. The vine is Jesus and we are the branches. The more connected and dependent we are on Christ, the more fruit we bear.
2) Surrender all to Him. Make Him Lord of your life. Surrender brings focus to our lives. It puts all our efforts into seeking God and allowing Him to guide us. That focus takes us away from our selfish desires.
3) Take time for solitude and silence-in today’s busy world, this is often difficult but necessary to recharge. Even Jesus rested! Yet, rest is difficult for so many of us because of our lack of practice being quiet and listening. To be still and know is a a practiced skill of rest and silence.
4) Simplify your life as much as possible. This will lessen your stress. When we lose the clutter and remove the distractions, our focus on the things of God will improve and give direction but also bring peace.
5) Keep the Sabbath. Most of us are guilty of not resting on one day of the week yet this in one of the ten commandments. Dedicating a day to rest and relax rejuvenates the body, mind and spirit.
6) Be in a spiritual community. Surround yourself with this who will encourage you, pray with you and be there for difficult times. We are made for relationships and will be revitalized by healthy Christian relationships. Self-care includes building a community of believers with whom to do life.
7) Work on stress management from a biblical perspective. This means you approach stress from a position of love and humility, not competition and pride. Contemplative prayer, quiet meditation, deep breathing, renewing the mind daily, humor and other stress management skills help. His promise its to keep us in perfect peace if we keep our mind stayed on him.
At times, God calls us to sacrifice our time, be good stewards of His gifts and talents and perhaps even suffer. We may get “out of balance” in the terms of a secular view. Ultimately,we trust in God’s sovereignty. It is God’s care for us that matters most.
Candace and Mike haven’t had sex in over a month. And neither is talking about it. Candace and Mike are like many couples who suffer in silence, never bringing up the issue of boredom or inattention to their sexual lives. When Candace and Mike began to talk, they knew what they had to do to correct things. But had they not pushed each other to talk about a sensitive issue like sexual satisfaction, they might be struggling still today.
Candace admitted that she lost interest in Mike when he stopped having great conversations and talks with her. She felt that as the years of marriage increased, their communication had dwindled to a few words and interactions such as, “How was your day?” and “Everything OK?” For her, changing a boring sex life meant re-engaging in conversation again, rekindling a forgotten friendship by doing things together like they did when they dated. They were in a rut and had to get out of their routine and shake things up a bit. So, as a first step, Mike planned an overnight at a nearby hotel that he found on Groupon. Simply changing the scenery and getting out of the house sparked feelings of romance.
During the night at the hotel, Candace decided to take an even bigger risk. She would talk to Mike about the way he touches and stimulates her physically. She knew he wanted to arouse her, but felt they had never communicated how this could be done best. At times, his touch felt awkward and was not stimulating her in the way he had hoped. When she talked to Mike, he was highly receptive and willing to make adjustments.
As authors, Robert Butler Myrna Lewis, say in their book, Love and Sex After 40, “Love and sex are twin arts, requiring effort and knowledge. Only in fairy tales do people live happily ever after without working at it.” Prior to this time, Candace and Mike were not working at their sex life. They had neither knowledge of likes and dislikes, nor were they making much of an effort to set the stage for sexual encounters.
“Working at it” often requires discussing behaviors that are pleasing and acceptable to each other. Ask your partner, what is considered normal, disgusting, acceptable, etc., when it comes to sexual behavior? This is usually determined by upbringing, experience and years of exposure to media and other sexual behavior and warrants discussion. It is often the case that couples have differing opinions. Without discussion, you can’t know these details.
Certain sexual acts are not mentioned in the Bible, but couples should read Song of Solomon, a beautiful biblical book that provides a picture of intimacy between a man and woman. In fact, when Candace and Mike read Song of Solomon out loud to each other, their inhibitions lowered and they began to dialogue regarding the sensitive issues of sexual behavior with each other. The passages opened the door to frank conversation regarding needs and desires.
With just these few changes—changing up the routine and bringing a bit of novelty to the relationship, talking through their preferences about sex and intimacy, and reading a sensual Bible passage together, Candace and Mike went from boring to interesting again. Perhaps it is time for your marital relationship to do the same.
Convictions are those fixed and firm beliefs we hold true.
These days, they are hard to talk about without being accused of being intolerant. Holding firm to a belief now means you are judgmental, narrow minded, maybe even hateful or bigoted. For example, when someone stands by a conviction on social media, the claws come out, the name-calling and bullying ramp up. What results is friends who defriend, and family members who won’t get together anymore because they are too offended.
How did we get to the point where a woman won’t sit next to a man on an airplane because he doesn’t share her convictions on climate control? The roots can be found in political correctness- the government’s solution to controlling our hearts and minds. Political correctness silences talk of convictions–unless they are the convictions that the politically correct deem right.
Many of the professors on our college campuses teach young minds to hold only liberal convictions and to vilify those who disagree with words of slander and offense. This is all done in the name of “new” tolerance –a conviction that all beliefs, lifestyles and truths are equal. Thus, I can no longer claim genuine conviction regarding my own beliefs without a fight!
C.S. Lewis saw this as dangerous. A tolerant man, under the old definition, meant someone who’d respect us and treat us kindly even when he disagreed. But if tolerance today means all beliefs are equal and no one has truth, then religious people are labelled intolerant. This “new” tolerance leads to a lack of conviction.
You can love someone and still disagree with that person. You can love the sinner and not love the sin. This is a conviction many people hold and is ridiculed. Yet, it is a conviction that leads to treating people who disagree with you with respect.
Just because you feel something to be true, doesn’t make it true. And believing in biblical truth does not make you intolerant of others. Don’t believe this nonsense. All of this is an attempt to silence the voices of those with Christian beliefs.
Call sin, sin. Hold on to biblical truth. Stop bowing to those elites who hold the microphone or have a platform. Speak the truth in love. Hold fast to what you know to be true. We need more people with convictions to stand for truth.