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April 2010 Archives

Don’t Mistake the Middle for the End

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I realize the more professional thing to do would be to keep this to myself, but, since I’ve always vowed to be as truthful as possible in my blog, here it is … I’ve been in the process of mourning […]

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Tiny Stars of Love: Little Lights of Hope

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I love this meditation that I read the other morning by Jean Vanier, the founder of l’Arche, an international network of communities for the mentally disabled. I believe that the forces of life and the desires for communion are greater […]

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Video: My Exodus Story

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It’s helpful for me to remember concrete moments where I gave up all control, when I let myself be transformed under the “stars of hope. Here is one such moment, an “exodus moment,” when I crossed the Red Sea from […]

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12 Depression Busters for the Unemployed

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The unemployment rate today has skyrocketed to approximately 10% and is forecasted to stay above 9.5 percent for the rest of 2010. For the first time in American history, more women are working than men because close to 80 percent […]

Depression Busters for EVERYONE!

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Brilliant editor Holly Rossi has compiled of all my Depression Busters pieces into one cool resource page. Divorced? Unemployed? Caregiver? New mom? I got ya covered. Take a look and share with your friends if you think they would, you […]

Face It: 6 Steps to Help a Women Deal with Aging

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Mark Twain once wrote, “Age is an issue of mind over matter. If you don’t mind, it doesn’t matter.”   I like that. But get real. In a culture preoccupied with youth and beauty, where there has been a 114 […]

Surrender to Me, Surrender to Peace

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I love this time of the liturgical year, because the readings are full of hope and renewal, of promise and light. Here’s a nice meditation I read the other morning by Richard Hobbs, a convert to Catholicism and father of […]

Mindful Monday: Acknowledge Your Powerlessness

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Since we’ve been exploring the relationship between recovery from depression or another mood disorder and twelve-step work, I thought I’d share this meditation by Henri Nouwen with you as a Mindful Monday. This first step–admitting powerlessness–is so very important not […]

Addiction: Am I Really Powerless?

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Mark Gauvreau Judge wrestles with the belief that an alcoholic must admit to being powerlessness in order to begin recovery. I found this intriguing because I had such difficulty with that myself, since I gave up booze so early in […]

How Do You Find a Good Therapist? An Interview with Dr. John Grohol

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Today I have the great pleasure of interviewing a hero of mine, the brilliant mind behind PsychCentral.com, the Internet’s largest and oldest mental health network … Dr. John Grohol. John is the CEO and founder of Psych Central and has […]

No April Joke: 20 Things You Should Know About Suicide

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No joke. More suicides occur the month of April than any other month of the year. That doesn’t seem right, I know. Peach and azure tulips begin to open, the cherry blossoms, stunning with their pale pink flowers, perfume the […]

Depression: The Caretaker

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A depressive doesn’t always know how her illness affects those around her. Or if she does, she might try not to think about it too much. Watching this video of Eric was both painful and illuminating for me. I saw, […]

My Illness Is Not My Identity

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“In my experience, a diagnosis is an opinion and not a prediction.” How can you make your illness separate from your identity?

Addictions, Afflictions, and Mindfulness: A Psychotherapist’s Journey

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I suppose one of the perks of low self-esteem is that you are always flabbergasted when professional people read your stuff, and comment, and then BLOG about it. As my therapist aptly pointed out, my problem is not conceit. On […]

Depression Documentary Update

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Thanks so much to all those who expressed interested in the depression documentary being made by a large website. I didn’t know this piece of information when I learned of it, but they are looking for folks in the NY/NJ/Connecticut […]

Mindful Monday: The Art of Listening

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My friend Michelle just sent me a greeting card that says, “Things people say to cheer you up: 1. Look on the bright side. 2. Things could be worse. 3. Hey, it’s not so bad! Things that you can say […]

Who Wants to Be Featured in a Documentary About Depression?

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A large website just contacted me and asked if I knew of any interesting people suffering from depression who would be willing to talk to a journalist about coping skills, daily life, and so forth. A camera crew would need […]

7 Healthy Reasons to Cry Your Eyes Out

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New York Times reporter Benedict Carey referred to tears in a recent piece as “emotional perspiration.” Given that I sweat a lot and hate deodorant, I suppose it makes sense that I weep often. But I’m not going to apologize […]

You Might Want to See a Specialist

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Today’s guest post is written by Michelle Rapkin, author of “Any Day with Hair Is a Good Hair Day: How to Get Through Cancer and Get On with Your Life.” Yesterday I received a very funny chain e-mail that’s making […]

On Tax Day: Take a Moral Inventory of Yourself

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One of the most helpful steps for me when I started going to twelve-step meetings was to conduct a moral inventory of myself. Never before had I forced myself to be  accountable for some of the destructive events in my […]

Optimism for the iPhone is Here!

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Awhile back I wrote about James Bishop’s Optimism Software. It’s where technology meets self-help, and I believe his program can be very beneficial. (Click here for my blog about his software.)   Well, James has been very busy over the […]

50 Life Lessons: An Interview with Regina Brett

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When she was 50, journalist Regina Brett published a column of life lessons. By popular demand, here they are!

50 Lessons for Life’s Little Detours

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Here’s a cool widget thingy (if you don’t know what I’m talking about, stay cool), where you can put your mouse on the arrow and go through all 50 of Regina Brett’s lessons. Cool! if (WIDGETBOX) WIDGETBOX.renderWidget(‘ca65cdee-b57b-4191-b236-890e119a703d’); Get the God […]

The Power of Self-Preservation

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I subscribe to NPR’s “This I Believe” series, and so often find nuggets of hope in the stories they cover. The following excerpt is from the essay by Hugo Haas, who was forced by the Nazis out of his Czech-born […]

The Pocket Therapist: Mental Health To Go!

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Imagine a GPS navigational system that said something like this: “In approximately 30 minutes, you will run into your old boss, who will want to make you feel like a worthless pile of feces. Erect personal boundaries immediately…. I said, […]

6 Things I Learned in Therapy

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I’ve spent more time in therapy than I care to think about. More hours on that bloody couch than I’ve spent in the shower, brushing my teeth, or on the phone with telemarketers, because let’s face it, when I’m home, […]

Shania Twain: Emerging from a “Very Deep, Dark Slump”

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Shania Twain talked openly on Oprah Winfrey’s new cable network about her depression following the collapse of her marriage to Robert Lange, “a very deep, dark slump,” and how she forced herself back into life again. “I had to force […]

10 Ways to Find a Good Therapist

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A number of tips to find the right therapist by popular blogger and psychotherapist Elvira Aletta.

Competing Models? When Mental Health Recovery Clashes with Twelve-Step Programs

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In my chapter about substance abuse in Beyond Blue, I wrote: Today I realize the recovery cultures of addiction and mental illness clash. Like the Church of Scientology and neurobiology. Like Tom Cruise and common sense. Because complaining is considered […]

How Can I Make Someone Get Help?

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Recently I’ve gotten more involved in NAMI, the National Alliance for Mental Illness, who produces some great publications for those of us who either struggle with mental illness or live with a loved one’s disorder. One of my favorite features […]

Life = Risk: A Video to Motivate and Inspire

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Fellow blogger Marie of Journeying Beyond Breast Cancer shared this video on her site. On the same day as I featured 21 Ways to Overcome Disappointment. I had goosebumps as I listened to it. I hope you do too! * Click […]

The People Who Love You When No One Else Will

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When her biological family fell apart, Cecile Gilmer found a new family. She believes the love and kindness these chosen “relatives” gave her allowed her to become an open and loving person.

This I Believe: A World of Vibrant Colors

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I believe in a world of colors. A Crayola box full. A life of hues that exists between the continents of Black and White. I believe in nuanced theories rather than dogmatic statements, in thoughtful queries over simplistic answers. I […]

To Tell Or Not To Tell Your Boss: Bipolar and Depression In the Workplace

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How much should you disclose about your mood disorder to your employer? Here’s the pros and cons.

12 Office Depression Busters: Tips for Work Depression

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In his classic, “The Prophet,” Kahlil Gibran writes: “Always you have been told that work is a curse … But I say to you that when you work you fulfill a part of earth’s furthest dream, assigned to you when […]

Mindful Monday: Stressed Out Anyone? Friends, Religion, and Nature Can Help

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One of the most beneficial tools of my recovery from depression and anxiety is to keep a mood journal. James Bishop offers a fantastic program called Optimism software if you’re interested in a sophisticated form. I simply keep a notebook […]

10 Stress Busters (the gallery)

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Stress is like dark chocolate. A little of it won’t kill you. In fact, small blocks here and there can be good for you, or at least give you a reason to get out of bed in the morning. But […]

No, Really, I’ll Take the Coffee: Easter and Stories of Renewal

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Just as important as tracking your relapses, or sudden mood swings, is recording your progress. Because by looking at how far you’ve come, you essentially give yourself a booster shot to run even further.   Easter and Spring, especially, are […]

Nine Ways to Live Easter

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The following piece is also featured as a Beliefnet gallery, which you can get to by clicking here. One of my favorite scripture verses is John 20:15, when Jesus finds Mary Magdalene crying at the door of the tomb and […]

Thank You, God, for Easter

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The following is one of my favorite pieces from my archives because I wrote it when I was just ascending out of a very deep depression. I thought of it yesterday, when Katherine and I colored Easter eggs. I wish […]

Pheobe Prince: Mean Girls and the Lessons of Bullying

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Reports of nine people charged in the Pheobe King case resurfaces the problem of bullying in many forms.

9 Ways Humor Heals

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I wrote this post awhile back, and Beliefnet featured it as a gallery.  Of all my tools to combat stress-especially the stress of dealing with my illness or someone else’s–humor is by far the most fun. And just like mastering the […]

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