A Reason to Smile

Michelangelo clearly understood....

This was one of my my controversial (and popular) articles to date.   In honor of the Beliefnet post on “Who said it: Jesus or Paul” (and the challenge of Christianity vs Paulianity) I am reposting it here:

Question submitted via
“I feel guilty for not being a virgin and sometimes having gay feelings (because I was raised with the belief that both are wrong). I feel like less of a spiritual person because I had pre-marital sex and I feel lesbian sometimes. What’s a girl to do???”

The first thing to do, is split this question into two parts: 1, is it necessary to wait until marriage to have sex, and 2. is it ‘wrong’ to be a lesbian.

Let’s look at the first part, first.
While Christians are not the only ones who hold these beliefs, they certainly are the most common in the United States at least; so let us look at a passage from the Bible that is most often used as ‘proof’ that pre-marital sex is wrong.

1 Corinthians 6:12-20 (New International Version)

Sexual Immorality
12″Everything is permissible for me”—but not everything is beneficial. “Everything is permissible for me”—but I will not be mastered by anything. 13″Food for the stomach and the stomach for food”—but God will destroy them both. The body is not meant for sexual immorality, but for the Lord, and the Lord for the body. 14By his power God raised the Lord from the dead, and he will raise us also. 15Do you not know that your bodies are members of Christ himself? Shall I then take the members of Christ and unite them with a prostitute? Never! 16Do you not know that he who unites himself with a prostitute is one with her in body? For it is said, “The two will become one flesh.”[a] 17But he who unites himself with the Lord is one with him in spirit.

18Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a man commits are outside his body, but he who sins sexually sins against his own body. 19Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; 20you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your body.

Seems pretty straight forward, right?
Or is it?

First thing, who wrote this, and who was it intended for?
Paul wrote this somewhere around the year 55 AD; DECADES after Jesus Christ was already crucified. Add to that, Paul never even knew the man, ‘being struck blind on the road to Damascus’ notwithstanding.
And just in case you take Paul’s word as Gospel (pun intended), remember Peter was the rock that Jesus said his church would be built on. And Peter and Paul became *bitter rivals * while they were both still alive.

In these verses, Paul is advising against sexual immorality…what is that?
What does morality or immorality even mean?
I’ll tell you: it’s *totally relative *.

There is no universal definition of morality; it varies from place to place, time to time, situation to situation, and person to person.
I’ll give you an example: most people would agree murder is wrong, yet soldiers win medals for killing large numbers of people.
Or we agree stealing is wrong, but what about police raiding a drug dealers warehouse and stealing their drugs? That’s a ‘good’ thing, even though they are still breaking, entering, and stealing from those people.


So is the point that you shouldn’t listen to Paul?
Not necessarily, the point is you should decide how much weight you should put into a letter written 2,000 years ago to a group of people you’ve probably never heard of!

Another point that was made in our previous talk about sex is that in the past, land and title were passed along by bloodline; so being ABSOLUTELY SURE a child was yours was top priority. In that case, making sure your wife was a virgin on your wedding night was the best way to make sure the child was yours.
In the year 2011, however, we have a little thing called a DNA test. It’s no mystery who the father is anymore, so that reason for waiting for marriage is out.

And for the arguments that it is ‘better’ to wait: no one knows if it’s better to wait or not.
Why? Since the people who waited, waited; they don’t know what it is like to have pre-marital sex with someone. And the ones who didn’t wait, didn’t wait; they don’t know if it would have been better on their wedding night or not.

So what’s the answer to the first part of the question?
Sex is only a ‘sin’ if you think it is.
There is no logical reason to believe it; biological drives are biological drives. If two consenting adults decide to SAFELY lay with one another, who are we to judge?
Just be sure not to mistake sex for love; the two quite often have nothing to do with each other, especially for men!

Now to the second part.
Whether or not it is a ‘sin’ to be gay is a HUGE can of worms that I couldn’t do justice if I wrote 100 more pages, so I will try to be brief.

A lot of the Bible based arguments against it were written by our good friend Paul.
Recognize also, he was actively trying to preach to the Greeks, where homosexuality was VERY common. The Greek solution to the problem of keeping women virgins (an idea they came up with quite independently of Christianity…see? Culture.) was for men to have sex with men.

Sex was also a big part of the Greek Mystery Religions, which were the popular faiths of the time. What’s the best way to get people to stop doing something? Convince them God hates them for it.
What’s the best way to get new converts? Promise them you’ll tell them how to make God stop hating them.

Here’s the challenge, though.
Most of the anti-gay passages in the Bible are aimed at specific individuals, like the people of Sodom and Gomorrah, who were terrible for MANY reasons. Look up the Book of Jasher and see what it says about them in there! None of these verses exist in a vacuum; they were written by someone, for someone, at a certain period in time; it’s a mistake to look at them like absolute statements that apply at all times to all people.

The Bible, and any other ‘Holy Book’ only has what power and authority that you give it. If you’ve ever wondered why you quote Bible verses to people and they don’t care, this is why. Same as if someone comes at you with verses from the Koran, Torah, or Rig Veda it may not have too much of an impact on you, either; if you haven’t decided to ‘believe’ in the authority of those books.

But let’s say it is a ‘sin’ (which I don’t personally believe): then
“23for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God”
Romans 3:23 (New International Version).

And add to that

When they kept on questioning him, he straightened up and said to them, “If any one of you is without sin, let him be the first to throw a stone at her.”
John 8:7 (New International Version).

The bottom line is this:
there is NO absolute benchmark of right and wrong in this world; almost any situation you can think of either has situations where it is accepted, or at least was accepted at some point in the past.
And if there is no absolute benchmark of universal morality, then right and wrong is how you define it. If you choose to define it in a Christian framework, that’s fine; but you can do it in a Jewish, Muslim, Hindu, or even Atheist framework just as easily.

Remember, the person you need to be concerned about is not your family, friends, and church members. You should *only * concern yourself with He who hung the stars and put the planets in motion.
And I can tell you, that God doesn’t think like we do.
God knows everything, who you are, who you came into this world to be; your mind, your heart, your impulse, and what is ‘right and wrong’ for YOU.

If you are curious about girls, mess around with one, and see if you like it.
If you decide you are a lesbian, or bisexual, then be the best one you can be.

Turn within, talk to God, figure out what’s right for you and do it.

The world would be MUCH better off if more people followed their own bliss and served God in their own way to the best of their own ability, rather than trying to dictate to OTHER people how *they * should live.

What do you think? Feel free to comment down below!

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You have to trust *yourself* before you can forgive others!

If you have been following this blog, then you have no doubt heard that you have to forgive the people in your life who have hurt you.
No matter who it was, no matter what they’ve done: forgive them.

The reason why this is, is as Buddha says: “holding on to anger with the intent of hurting someone else, is like picking up a hot coal with the intention of throwing it: you are the one who gets burned.

Above all else, realize that forgiving someone doesn’t mean you are saying what they did is OK (it’s not); forgiveness means you are giving up the negativity and anger you still harbor inside.
It’s not a gift that you give them, it’s a gift you give YOU.

Recently many people have asked HOW to forgive, which we have talked about before; but there is enough to say about forgiveness that it could fill up hours of time!
So here in Episode 52 of All About You, we discuss both how to forgive, and how to trust (which actually is a by product of forgiveness, or at least the ability to forgive):

Part 1, on forgiveness

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Part 2, on trust (the last 10 seconds of the episode were cut off by accident, but my point was already made!)

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Please enjoy these videos, and resolve today to stop giving away your power to other people. Remember, no one can make you feel inferior without your permission; learn and apply these tools to forgive and trust YOURSELF first, and then those in your life. Once you gain the ability trust and forgive unconditionally, you’ll be able to love unconditionally; once you can do that, you can do anything.

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All you have to do is listen....

“All complex things decay…work out your own salvation with diligence”
-Buddha’s dying words

The reason why I became a Spiritual Coach, and do the work that I do, is because I am working hard to bring God back to the forefront of people’s minds and lives.

And even as you read that, you probably reacted in one of two ways: if you are a religious person, it probably filled you with some sort of pride about ‘your side winning’. And if you are a non-religious person, it may have made you roll your eyes in semi-disgust. So if you are still reading, I appreciate it!

The fact is, over the centuries, quite a lot of damage has been done to this world ‘in the name of God’; and there are some who would try and paint our current political and military conflicts with the same white wash.

Now, in the video below, I explain many ways about how to know what God is like, how to know it in your heart, and how to experience it for yourself.

So here in this article I’d like to expand a little more on the barriers to knowing God, and how they can be overcome.

For reasons I also give in the video below, no one KNOWS where we come from, or what happens when we die; fervent belief is *no substitute * for absolute empirical knowledge. Ttherefore all we are left with are our faith, and our beliefs. In other words, all ANY of us have to go on, are our opinions. As such, I am not holding mine out to be the absolute truth; that is something you must decide for yourself. But I’d like to share with you some ideas to try on, which will help you find and connect with your Creator like never before.

First, give up the idea that God chooses sides.
Consider, when you watch a little league baseball game, are you REALLY rooting for one side to win or lose, or are you hoping they all enjoy playing the game? Or, if you truly are hoping one side wins, are you wishing ultimate and total destruction on the the losing team?
This seems to be a simple analogy, but I believe it to be an apt one. The majority of the world’s religions teach that we are all God’s children, and that this Deity is All Knowing, and All Powerful.
So consider, how can an All Knowing, All Powerful Deity be ‘against’ anything? If God was against something, it simply wouldn’t be.
If God has the capacity to eradicate something at any time, and doesn’t, then that thing must serve some purpose. Of course, this raises quite a few questions about the ‘problem of evil’.

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Second, give up the idea that you are somehow separated from God.
I have discussed in the past how the entire concept of ‘Sin’  has been massively blown out of proportion. If you look across time, the bigger a given Church or religious authority became, the bigger deal that sin became.
Remember, for our purposes, God is both All Knowing, and All Loving, or at the *very * least, neutral. How then, can you be separate from a God who knows all and sees all? How can anything you’ve done, or thought about doing, ‘offend’ a mind like that?

Consider again, how we are with children. It is a parent’s role to teach and guide a child, and punish them when necessary; but even when you have to discipline them, do you HATE them? Do you wish your children to suffer for the rest of their lives for spilling juice in the car?
Of course not. Then how can we believe our Father (or Mother) in Heaven can hold an eternal grudge, when we don’t even given our limited awareness?

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Third, give up the idea that there is only one truth.
Let me be clear, I am not saying give up YOUR truth. If you have found a religion or system of belief that helps you make sense of the world, to feel safe and connected with the Universe, and generally positive and happy: stick with it! What I am inviting you to do, is to give up opposition of people who see things differently then you do. There are over 6 billion different people, with different perspectives and combinations of experiences and cultural heritage; it is impossible to dictate to someone else what is right for them, when most of us have difficulty finding it for ourselves!
And remember, even your most deeply held convictions would probably be vastly different if you’d been born 1,000 miles east or west of where you were, or 100 years into the past or future. Many things that seem like absolutes are still byproducts of our *own * perceptions, culture, and experiences.

Fourth, give up thinking God thinks like we do.
Consider, how smart would you need to be to memorize every book ever written? Or the words to every song ever sung? Or even something easier: the name of every single person you’ve ever met ever.
Can’t do it?

Compare that, with a Mind  that not only conceived of all of Creation, but actually set it in motion! A Mind that (I believe) is still monitoring and interacting with that Creation all the time.

And then think of what that Mind must be like.
Does it seem like a Mind that will get ‘offended’ by the fact that you eat pork, or miss a trip to the Temple from time to time?
Now let me be clear, there is a lot of value in strict adherence to religious rules and guidelines, but the point I am making is that is for our Human benefit, not for the sake of a Creator who is beyond logic, comprehension, or limitations.

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Finally, know that God loves you.
God loves you.
Let me say it again: God loves you.
And just in case you missed it, or it makes you feel somehow unworthy, or not good enough: GOD LOVES YOU!

How can I say this with certainty? Simple: you got to live.
God set all of Creation in motion, to align forces to create you, just you! Think about it, out of 500 million sperm cells, it was just you that emerged. Out of every near miss in your life, you have survived, Your parents met and survived, and theirs before them; the odds of you existing are incomprehensible! You are a Miracle. An absolute, Divine masterpiece. You have all the power of the Universe coursing through every inch of you, every cell.

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You are made in the image and likeness of your Creator, however you conceive of it. You are the child of royalty, the absolute center of the Universe: you are perfect.

Give thanks for the great gifts you have been given, and show your gratitude  by making the absolute most you can of your time, and getting to know your Creator in ways like never before.

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It's always 11:11 twice a day!

I must admit, when  my little girl was born 1 year ago today (at 10:10 am no less), I was a little excited about the fact that she’d be one on 11/11/11.

So, what’s the big deal about 11/11/11?

Wikipedia states: “Numerologists believe that events linked to the time 11:11 appear more often than can be explained by chance or coincidence.[1] This belief is related to the concept of synchronicity. Other authors believe it is an auspicious sign, and others that it signals a spirit presence.[2]

Another Numerology website states:

“In the study of Numerology most double-digit numbers are reduced down to the vibration of a single number (i.e. 12 is reduced to a 3 by adding 1+2, and 13 becomes a 4). However, in numerology 11 and 22 require special emphasis and attention. These numbers are called ‘Master Numbers‘.

People with an 11 or 22 appearing in their name or birth date are endowed with special gifts of leadership and high-level inspiration, but they are also very challenging and highly paradoxical. They radiate enormous potential, accompanied by a high level of inner tension resulting from an overwhelming desire to achieve something extraordinary.

Due to the intensified vibration and potency of 11 and 22, those who are born with them often feel a heightened sense of obligation in life and a greater need for self-discipline and purity of consciousness. They tend to have challenging childhoods, yet often lead extraordinary lives after learning to utilize their full potential – therefore many are late bloomers.

People whose core numbers reveal Multiple Master Numbers often experience more challenges in life than most, evidence of their higher-self’s intense inner drive to propel itself onto a higher path in this lifetime.”

Now all this is well and good, and the fact that three master numbers are occurring on the same day would certainly make it seem like an auspicious day.   My only personal hang up, is the fact that today is 11/11/11 is *completely arbitrary*.

Here in the west, we follow the Gregorian Calendar, which began on 24 February 1582.  Other cultures that follow different calendars, such as the Arabic or Jewish Calendar, have completely different dates today.  So while we all may agree that today is special, I am not convinced it actually MAKES it so.

For my money, the fact that right now there is a Full Moon in Taurus is MUCH more significant, since the motions of the planets and their affect on us is Universal; everyone on Earth is feeling it however they choose to measure the time.

At any rate, whether you believe today is special because of the 11/11/11 synchronicity, or because of the full moon, or because it’s Friday doesn’t matter as long as you make the most of it.

The day does certainly seem to be alive with it’s own unique power and opportunities…but so is every other day once you start paying attention to it.

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Thank you all for everything you do

Happy Veterans Day to the brave men and women of the United States Armed Forces.

Thank you for the tremendous sacrifices you have made to defend us and our freedoms that we all too often take for granted.

It is my sincere hope that this day finds you in safety and comfort surrounded by loved ones, as we all work towards the day that all of mankind can live together in peace.

The following is a sampling of inspirational quotes for Veterans Day; you can find all these and more at:

“On this Veterans Day, let us remember the service of our veterans, and let us renew our national promise to fulfill our sacred obligations to our veterans and their families who have sacrificed so much so that we can live free.”
– Dan Lipinski

“My heroes are those who risk their lives every day to protect our world and make it a better place–police, firefighters, and members of our armed forces.”
– Sidney Sheldon

“A hero is someone who has given his or her life to something bigger than oneself. ”
– Joseph Campbell

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The Rose Cross

People often ask me what I personally believe; what follows is the sum total of my life experience, as well as spiritual and philosophical thought…so far at least.

The points below came to me suddenly, or were ‘received’ over a period of a few days. I have not changed them, other to correct some grammar and typos, hence the almost stream-of-consciousness quality to it. Some of it has been covered in bits and pieces in my other articles, but I leave it in tact here to give to you as it was given to me. I have absolute faith that in the fullness of time these ideas will weighed and considered in hearts and minds all over the world.

Gnostic Theism It is not a religion, so much as a philosophical world view and approach to life, meant to inform and animate an individual’s beliefs, but it certainly could serve the function of a religion standing on its own. It is an intellectual framework to hang your experiences on and help make sense of life.

Gnostic Theism is the evolution of spiritual thought:
Gnostic – Gnosticism is an ancient belief system that holds that a connection with the Creator and the real answers to life’s problems and challenges can only be found within.

Theism – Theism is a school of philosophy that conceives of God as personal and active in the physical world and universe at large.

Gnostic Theism is non-dogmatic, in that the PROCESS of deciding what you believe is more important than what you believe. Though you may find various guides along the way, the fact is in the end, we must each walk the Path alone.

As such, there is room in this Philosophy for people of all Faiths and world views. As with any system of thought, there are some fundamental ideas to be weighed and applied, or discarded, as necessary. Again, it is more important to know WHY you believe or don’t believe a thing, than whether or not you actually believe it.

The fundamentals of Gnostic Theism are as follows:
The universe is vast an infinite, and one of an infinite number of vast and infinite universes.

The Grand Creator exists outside and independent of these universes, and outside of time and space. This Being is the Author and Architect of all things, and can not be known in any way at the human level of consciousness.
The Grand Creator has given Divine Mind dominion over this entire universe, which It interpenetrates in all ways and at all times. This Divine Mind is ‘God’ as it is conceived of by most people.

Divine Mind is everywhere at all times, overseeing and animating everything in existence from the tiniest of particles to the planets and the universe itself; this Mind oversees. Divine Mind is not limited by time and space as we understand them, and It is aware of all occurrences in all dimensions simultaneously.

The Universe is designed and run like a tremendous machine; its individual functions are delegated to conscious and non-conscious beings to perform. These beings, pending the scope of their activities are the angels, gods, and spirits of common experience.

Everything exists, whether in physical, or non-physical form. It is easier to assume any given being, entity, god, demon, alien, etc is real or based on something that was real, than not. It is impossible to say if a given deity, Apollo for instance, exists because he was created to serve a purpose, or centuries of veneration and belief have given him a conscious existence. Imagine how leaves and branches flowing in a river collect into masses that can become so large they block the river itself; it’s the same with energy. Enough energy directed by enough people accumulates to form or strengthen the thing believed in.

Mankind is a microcosm of the macrocosm; any and everything that exists outside of us exists inside of us. Our outer experiences constantly reflect our inner state in an attempt to reach equilibrium; the easiest way to enact outer change it to enact inner change. As the Hermeticists say: As Above, So Below; As Within, So Without.

Each individual human being is infinitely powerful. You literally have all the power of the universe at your disposal, if you would just dedicate your self to its mastery.

Science is king, for its purposes, and religion is king, for its purposes. Science can tell us how, religion can tell us why. Using science in an attempt to disprove the existence of God is like trying to use a knowledge of music to disprove the existence of Beethoven. The Philosophy of Gnostic Theism, for our purposes, is a hybrid approach that allows us to not only know the Creator by knowing the Creation, but to know the Creator by truly knowing ourselves.

Gnostic Theism, therefore, is the study of the Divine and Its hand in existence by comprehending ourselves and our True Nature. Any other pursuit in life will necessarily fall short of the value of truly connecting with the source of All That Is.

Our current religious, scientific, social and political mechanisms have largely failed. Religions have been used as a tool of domination and social control for so long they are largely devoid of their original anima. Science has largely given way to Scientism, the arbitrary belief that the only things that are real are what can be measured in a lab or seen under a microscope. This was a necessary push back against domination of the Church, but in the modern day it is contrary to common experience, and puts human beings in the impossible situation of being forced to choose their minds or their hearts. This false division can only lead to stress and inner turmoil, the likes of which we see played out every day in the lives of Humanity.

Our social system has been crippled by negative ego and greed. Consider, if asked the average person on the street may say they don’t believe in UFOs. But consider what that person is really saying. They are saying that millions of people, over thousands if not hundreds of thousands of years, were ALL wrong in their accounts of UFOs. Even if you say they were mistaken instead of outright lying, you are putting yourself in a position of intellectual superiority over legions of strangers, and passing judgment on events you didn’t even witness. This type of negative ego based thinking is rampant in the world today, and causes each of us to live in glass towers of self-serving vanity that are as imprisoning as they are fragile. And to the counter arguments given that “I don’t believe it because there is no evidence”, I can only say that there are mountains of evidence that you may either be unaware of, or perhaps you have simply misinterpreted it.

Politically we suffer from the same misguided concepts, as our other conventions have failed we seek to fill them in with something else to believe in. But consider how in our current system, nothing ever really gets done. Because the politicians aren’t actually concerned with accomplishing things, but with doing just enough to get reelected. The actual good of the people represented runs a distant second to their own self interest. There is more than enough resources to go around, if the Governments of the world were more concerned with human rights and dignity, than global grandstanding and selfishness.

In the absence then, of functioning structures we must create new ones. And the place to create them first is in our own hearts and minds. Gnostic Theism will provide you with an intellectual framework to hang your experiences on, and make sense of day to day existence as well as your greater place in the cosmos

You are cosmically important. Everything you do, every thought you think, radiates out through eternity. Your purpose in this plane of existence is to realize this, and access your own true power and Inner Divinity. You can not afford the luxury of even one negative thought, just as you would not eat food with just one drop of sewer water on it.

It is our belief that life on Earth is a school, and you will continue to return to this Earthly plane again and again to learn the lessons placed before you. But while an idea of reincarnation may seem imprisoning, it is in truth the most liberating of ideologies. Because, rather than see things that happen to you as trials and tribulations in a limited life, you can instead see them as experiences in an infinite existence. It becomes that much easier to co-exist with others and accept their life choices, since it may be the lesson of this life for them to experience the worst forms of negative existence, either to work off past karmic debts, and or to prepare them for brighter incarnations in the future.

There are those in the world right now who have a vested interest in keeping you weak and bound. And I’m not talking about some shadowy conspiracy, but something much more mundane. Fear keeps you tuning into nightly news broadcasts. Feelings of inadequacy fuel a multi billion dollar fashion business. Paranoia generates billions of dollars in legal profits, and crippled health care systems and even bigger health care industry. Your dissatisfaction keeps sports teams and movie theaters going strong. Spiritual destitution keeps churches and temples open around the world.
Unfortunately your bondage is big business; there isn’t much money to be made off of free, intelligent, self-determinant people.

We exist at the crossroads of unbridled achievement, and abject ruin.
The current road we are traveling is leading us towards inner spiritual and outer social and economic collapse. It is only through the creation of a new class of free thinker, able to weigh situations critically, logically and thoroughly, that the potential crises can be averted, and victory achieved.

All things being equal, a person with no cause to lie, with no evidence of deception, should be believed or at least weighed impartially. Just like people are considered innocent until proven guilty, they should be considered honest until proven deceptive. A healthy dose of common sense is of course necessary, in that a person who says “An angel appeared in my bedroom last night” is one thing, if that person says “give me $500 and I’ll show you the angel” then you should probably be concerned.

It has always struck me as odd that people reporting unusual experiences are often accused of doing so to gain attention, or get on television; but consider, who’s more likely to be grandstanding: the person who risks ridicule and embarrassment to come forward, or the professional skeptic who’s claim to fame is shooting down other people and their beliefs.

“”Men are not punished for their sins, but by them” — Elbert Hubbard
Over the centuries, much has been made of the concept of ‘sin’. The original Greek word Harmatio means: “sin, to miss the mark; error; failure”, which is a far cry from the one way ticket to damnation it is often touted to be.
It is our position that the Divine is transcendent in every way (although still imminently present), and by Its very nature is beyond the ability to be offended by anything we do. The easiest explanation of what God is like is that of Divine Parent (Father or Mother, as you choose to perceive it); just like a parent has to discipline an unruly child, it doesn’t mean you hate that child or choose to imprison them for the rest of their lives.

Moreover, it does not follow logically that an all knowing, all loving, God can condemn people to eternal damnation. It also speaks to the greater ‘problem of evil’. Consider: if God is all powerful, He (or she) could miracle the Devil (or evil in general) out of existence at any time. And yet, He doesn’t. Even more, an all knowing God would have known what Lucifer was going to do when he was created, but He did it anyway, why?
The only answer can be that Lucifer’s rebellion, and ‘evil’ in the world must serve some sort of Divine purpose.
And if it does, how can you label it as ‘evil’?
Now, let me be clear: I am not arguing that there aren’t reprehensible acts, but that labeling a given thing ‘good’ or ‘evil’ is completely relative.

Let me give an extreme example: imagine if a 35 year old person were killed suddenly in an accident, a tragedy by any standard. But, what if you knew, with absolute certainty, if that person hadn’t died that day they’d have have contracted a painful degenerative disease, and lived every day of the rest of their life in constant agony. Is it still as tragic?
Or an even more extreme example: assume a woman has an abortion, something that no matter what your political affiliation we all can agree is unfortunate. But, again, what if you absolutely KNEW that child would have grown up to be the next Adolf Hitler. Is it still so terrible?

Obviously these examples are reaching. But they are illustrative of a greater point: life in this Universe is simultaneously more complex than you can ever imagine, and simpler than you can ever believe. The need for ‘redemption’ would require some form of ‘fall’ that has been massively over played across time. Our current misconceptions are the result of thousands of years of social engineering, designed not only to build better mousetraps, but to condition the mice to willingly lay their necks across the block.

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So…why can’t I?

*Note, I didn’t write this; but it’s been floating around the internet for a few years now, and every time I read it, it makes me smile (especially since my wife is Canadian!).

It highlights the real difficulty of *situational* use of the Bible as an authority, which doesn’t work for reasons we’ll discuss a little later.

Why Can’t I Own a Canadian?

October 2002

Dr. Laura Schlessinger is a radio personality who dispenses advice to people who call in to her radio show. Recently, she said that, as an observant Orthodox Jew, homosexuality is an abomination according to Leviticus 18:22 and cannot be condoned under any circumstance. The following is an open letter to Dr. Laura penned by a east coast resident, which was posted on the Internet. It’s funny, as well as informative:

“Dear Dr. Laura:

Thank you for doing so much to educate people regarding God’s Law. I have learned a great deal from your show, and try to share that knowledge with as many people as I can. When someone tries to defend the homosexual lifestyle, for example, I simply remind them that Leviticus 18:22 clearly states it to be an abomination. End of debate. I do need some advice from you, however, regarding some of the other specific laws and how to follow them:

When I burn a bull on the altar as a sacrifice, I know it creates a pleasing odor for the Lord – Lev.1:9. The problem is my neighbors. They claim the odor is not pleasing to them. Should I smite them?

I would like to sell my daughter into slavery, as sanctioned in Exodus 21:7. In this day and age, what do you think would be a fair price for her?

I know that I am allowed no contact with a woman while she is in her period of menstrual uncleanliness – Lev.15:19- 24. The problem is, how do I tell? I have tried asking, but most women take offense.

Lev. 25:44 states that I may indeed possess slaves, both male and female, provided they are purchased from neighboring nations. A friend of mine claims that this applies to Mexicans, but not Canadians. Can you clarify? Why can’t I own Canadians?

I have a neighbor who insists on working on the Sabbath. Exodus 35:2 clearly states he should be put to death. Am I morally obligated to kill him myself?

A friend of mine feels that even though eating shellfish is an abomination – Lev. 11:10, it is a lesser abomination than homosexuality. I don’t agree. Can you settle this?

Lev. 21:20 states that I may not approach the altar of God if I have a defect in my sight. I have to admit that I wear reading glasses. Does my vision have to be 20/20, or is there some wiggle room here?

Most of my male friends get their hair trimmed, including the hair around their temples, even though this is expressly forbidden by Lev. 19:27. How should they die?

I know from Lev. 11:6-8 that touching the skin of a dead pig makes me unclean, but may I still play football if I wear gloves?

My uncle has a farm. He violates Lev. 19:19 by planting two different crops in the same field, as does his wife by wearing garments made of two different kinds of thread (cotton/polyester blend). He also tends to curse and blaspheme a lot. Is it really necessary that we go to all the trouble of getting the whole town together to stone them? – Lev.24:10-16. Couldn’t we just burn them to death at a private family affair like we do with people who sleep with their in-laws? (Lev. 20:14)

I know you have studied these things extensively, so I am confident you can help. Thank you again for reminding us that God’s word is eternal and unchanging.

Your devoted fan,


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It never gets any easier....

(Unedited) Question submitted via Formspring

“How to deal with someone who beats his parents on a regular basis? His parents tried everything to fix his aggressive character but he doesn’t want to come out of the shell of his own. I somehow feel agitated when I am about to meet him, what to do?”

So, to be clear: this guy beats his parents?

The second line about “he doesn’t want to come out of the shell of his own” is throwing me off slightly, but I believe you are saying he is aggressive and physically violent, and nothing they have done so far has helped.

The simple answer is: don’t deal with him.

Don’t have anything to do with him at all.

A person who has enough anger and hostility built up to be willing to physically lash out at those closest to him is a person who can just as easily lash out at YOU.

“I somehow feel agitated when I am about to meet him” pretty much says it all; deep inside even you know that you aren’t safe around him.  So…don’t be around him.

To go out on a bit of a limb, if this is a situation, like perhaps some sort of arranged marriage…don’t agree to it.  Whatever you are being promised with (or afraid of) is not worth a life time of living with an abuser, or in fear of being abused.  Since, as I said before, that anger will come out just as easily on yourself or your children.

And, if are you in the extremely unfortunate situation of being FORCED to be around this guy, then I’d say do your best to figure out what triggers him, and avoid doing it as much as possible.  Also try to figure out what calms him down when he is raging, so you can be ready to deal with it when it happens.

But under no circumstances should you start thinking you can ‘fix’ him, or ‘change’ him…since you can’t.

The only chance for him to change is if he decides it for himself; but based on what you said earlier he doesn’t seem too interested in it.

So, get away from this guy as fast as possible and get as far away from him as possible….and God forbid he has already put his hands on you, you can find out how to deal with that here.

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Sometimes slaying the giant is only the beginning!

*This was one of the articles that lead to me winning the ‘Next Beliefnet Blogger’ contest; I am reposting it here for anyone who missed it:

Question submitted via Formspring
“What does Psalms 35 mean to you?”

Psalms 35 is a rather lengthy passage, so I have pasted it down below.
Like any passage from any scripture, there are many ways to interpret this.
First and foremost, it has to be seen in context; David wrote this around the time he ran from Saul the first time, and he had just faked like he was insane in front of Abimelech, who drove him away.
So, he was writing this at a particularly low time in his life.

The number one thing I take from it, is that people had the same sort of problems we have today, over 3,000 years ago when this was written!
Even David, the giant-slayer, was worried about his enemies and what people thought of him!

In this Psalm, he is praying to God to deliver him from the hands of his enemies, which God in turn did. So, a happy ending, right?

Not quite!
First, recognize that David took that deliverance and allowed his newfound power as king to corrupt him. He went on to murder a man (Uriah) so that he could have his wife (Bathsheba). Despite David being punished for this, the child born of this union was Solomon, the wisest man of all time!
From this, you can see both how 1. God will deliver us, but 2. it doesn’t mean we can do whatever we want; but 3. even from the worst situations, God can create blessings for the whole world, but 4. it doesn’t mean we escape responsibility.

What I REALLY take from this, is the thing no one wants to hear: responsibility.

Note, David’s story begins when he is chosen by God to be the king; but he still has to fight Goliath, a task no one else is even willing to consider. His faith in God is greater than literally everyone else’s in the land of Israel.
He stood up to do the seeming impossible, and God delivered victory into his hands.
However, this victory was not the end of his problems, it was really only the beginning!
What this means is just because you are being prayerful and faithful, it doesn’t mean you won’t have problems, in fact it means quite the opposite!

And, once David was king, he still had to take responsibility for his actions regarding Bathsheba, which lead to a civil war in his own household.
That means that just because you are delivered, doesn’t mean you can do whatever you want and assume you’ll get away with it!

The final thing, is passages like this make it easy for people to think they can sit back and wait for God’s intervention in their lives, but you can’t get that if you read it in the context of David’s life.
He fought Goliath, fled Saul, and fought literally for years before he became king. We don’t know how old he is when he is chosen; the Bible only says he was ‘young’, and he was around 37 years old when he finally became king.

Even though he had faith, even though God had promised him a certain destiny, he TOOK ACTION to make his goals become a reality.

That’s what I take from the passage: faith, action and responsibility are the keys achieving our goals and our destiny.

You can find Psalm 35 down below my signature!

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Psalm 35
Of David.

1 Contend, O LORD, with those who contend with me;
fight against those who fight against me.
2 Take up shield and buckler;
arise and come to my aid.

3 Brandish spear and javelin [a]
against those who pursue me.
Say to my soul,
“I am your salvation.”

4 May those who seek my life
be disgraced and put to shame;
may those who plot my ruin
be turned back in dismay.

5 May they be like chaff before the wind,
with the angel of the LORD driving them away;

6 may their path be dark and slippery,
with the angel of the LORD pursuing them.

7 Since they hid their net for me without cause
and without cause dug a pit for me,

8 may ruin overtake them by surprise—
may the net they hid entangle them,
may they fall into the pit, to their ruin.

9 Then my soul will rejoice in the LORD
and delight in his salvation.

10 My whole being will exclaim,
“Who is like you, O LORD ?
You rescue the poor from those too strong for them,
the poor and needy from those who rob them.”

11 Ruthless witnesses come forward;
they question me on things I know nothing about.

12 They repay me evil for good
and leave my soul forlorn.

13 Yet when they were ill, I put on sackcloth
and humbled myself with fasting.
When my prayers returned to me unanswered,

14 I went about mourning
as though for my friend or brother.
I bowed my head in grief
as though weeping for my mother.

15 But when I stumbled, they gathered in glee;
attackers gathered against me when I was unaware.
They slandered me without ceasing.

16 Like the ungodly they maliciously mocked [b] ;
they gnashed their teeth at me.

17 O Lord, how long will you look on?
Rescue my life from their ravages,
my precious life from these lions.

18 I will give you thanks in the great assembly;
among throngs of people I will praise you.

19 Let not those gloat over me
who are my enemies without cause;
let not those who hate me without reason
maliciously wink the eye.

20 They do not speak peaceably,
but devise false accusations
against those who live quietly in the land.

21 They gape at me and say, “Aha! Aha!
With our own eyes we have seen it.”

22 O LORD, you have seen this; be not silent.
Do not be far from me, O Lord.

23 Awake, and rise to my defense!
Contend for me, my God and Lord.

24 Vindicate me in your righteousness, O LORD my God;
do not let them gloat over me.

25 Do not let them think, “Aha, just what we wanted!”
or say, “We have swallowed him up.”

26 May all who gloat over my distress
be put to shame and confusion;
may all who exalt themselves over me
be clothed with shame and disgrace.

27 May those who delight in my vindication
shout for joy and gladness;
may they always say, “The LORD be exalted,
who delights in the well-being of his servant.”

28 My tongue will speak of your righteousness
and of your praises all day long.

Why so serious?

“Concern should drive us into action and not into a depression. No man is free who cannot control himself.”

For reasons I discussed in the video below, there is a world of difference between someone who is a bit down in the dumps who says they are depressed, and someone with a real diagnosable illness.
Real depression requires real treatment, so I don’t want to be irresponsible and make it seem like it’s all the same. If you aren’t sure which you have, check the video.

In fact, watch the video below either way!

For now, I want to talk a bit more about depression, and how to get a handle on your ‘negative’ emotions.

I’ll let you in on a ‘secret’: there is no such thing as negative emotions.
Some of them feel better than others, of course; but they all have their place.



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So I’d like to talk here, about why it is you feel depressed in the first place.
I said before that gratitude is all about what you choose to focus on. If you want to feel grateful, and by extension bring more good things into your life, you just have to focus on what IS working rather than what isn’t.

Depression, however, is choosing to focus on what is NOT working, and by extension you bring more of what is not working into your life.

In the above quote, Pythagoras is saying that what we are concerned about should move us into action, not into depression, and he is absolutely right!

But not only that, he has given you the solution to cure your depression: ACTION!

I have said many times before, that your emotions are your navigation system, they are designed to let you know when you are and aren’t on the right track. So they don’t really have any deeper meaning than that, even though we often attach all kinds of extra baggage to them.

And it’s the same with depression. Let’s assume you feel bad about something, if you take it to mean that you are moving in the wrong direction, what can you do to fix it?

I’d like to take a slight detour here, and share with you a message I recently sent out as a part of my email Coaching  service, but I think it is relevant here:

“In the final analysis, the questions of why bad things happen to good people transmutes itself into some very different questions, no longer asking why something happened, but asking how we will respond, what we intend to do now that it happened.
Pierre Teilhard de Chardin

I have talked many times about being ‘committed’ without being ‘attached’; what that means is to be able to give your all to something, with having no expectations about how it will turn out.

See, it’s not what actually HAPPENS to us that makes us happy or sad, but how we *react * to what happens to us.

So the question is: when is enough, enough?

When do you get so fed up with something that you just HAVE to change it?
It can be easy to interpret being committed without being attached as saying you should always take everything Life gives you without getting upset about it, either way.

And to SOME degree, this is true.
But it does NOT mean tolerate people and situations that aren’t working. You still have to know what it is you want, and create it.

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Whenever you are faced with a difficult situation, or something you are unhappy with, you have TWO (2) options:

1.Deal with it.
2.Change it.

That’s it, that’s the menu! Stay in it and complain without doing anything, is not a choice.

Decide what it is you want; if it’s your job, your relationships, anything; YOU choose what you want, first. THEN decide if it is possible to create it where you are, with who you are, or if you need to move on.

And then decide when enough is enough, or to quote Popeye: “when it’s all you can stands, and you can’t stands no more”.

I don’t suggest you tell your boss, significant other, or whomever that you have decided if things haven’t changed in a week/month/year or whatever then you’re leaving, since they will only see it as a threat or ultimatum, and probably not handle it too well.

But the key is YOU know. And when the time comes, if things haven’t turned around, or aren’t turning around: move on.

It’s all too easy to stay stuck in unworkable situations, and you’ll look up one day and 10 years have passed and life has passed you by. And I can tell you, life is both too short, and waaaay too long, to settle for anything other than true happiness and fulfillment.”

So to bring it all back together, if you are feeling depressed about something (and you’re sure it isn’t Clinical Depression), look at what you have done and haven’t done, and what you can do to change the situation and then DO IT!

Once you are in motion, I’m sure you find your ‘negative’ emotions start to take care of themselves.

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