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How to break the cycle of self-sabotage

Question submitted via Formspring:
“I’m in a two years relationship. I always thought, that we were indestructible, but for a few months I don’t think that anymore… And I dont wanna think all the time about “are we meant to be” cause i know that i can decide if we are. But how do I know?”

The important thing to remember about any self-sabotaging behavior, or situation you are worried about is: things only get scary if you look too far ahead!

If your relationship is working fine right now, that is what matters; whether or not you’ll get married 3 years from now will have to wait until 2 ½ years from now!

If you think about it, self-sabotage is rooted in fear, fear that whatever happens in the future will be bad. Fear of the future, and of uncertainty in general are such problems that I did an entire program on how to fix it.

The answer to the question above, along with the details on my new program, are included in the video below:

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Part 2 of the video talks more about the concept of self sabotage, including:
*Why you self-sabotage
*What it gets you
*Why you need to stop
*How you can change

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What do you think ? Feel free to comment down below!

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B. Dave Walters

Writer, Life Coach, and Talk Radio Host

Find out more about me:
http://about.me/BDaveWalters

Ask me anything:
http://formspring.me/BDaveWalters

Pages I support:
Jesus and Buddha  — Interfaith dialog

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Yo Gabba Gabba live was AWESOME, lol

To bring up a child in the way he should go, travel that way yourself once in a while.  ~Josh Billings

In honor of my daughter Alexandria Sophia (Lexi)’s birthday, I’d like to talk a little bit about parenting.

Parenting has been called the hardest job you get no training for, and I couldn’t agree more! We all set out with the best intentions and highest hopes for our children, but as time passes it’s very easy to get off track. For our purposes, there are two sides to parenting: being a good parent, and being a good child yourself.

Let’s look at being a good child first.
How do you feel about your parents?
Were they “good” or “bad” parents?
Were they supportive? Were they there for you when you needed them?
Is there anything you wished they had or had not done?
Remember when we said before that people make the best choice they can at the time. This means that for all your parent’s faults, they were almost certainly trying to do their best.

Now, a quick aside about abusive parents: unless they were outright sociopaths, even they were trying to do a good job in their own way. While there are unquestionably sick people in the world, applying unilaterally sinister motives to what they did or didn’t do, only hurts you now, not them.

I’ve touched on the need to complete the past; they key is to realize what has happened has happened. What is done, is done. You have to forgive, TRULY forgive, any grudge you’re still holding against them, and let it go. Carrying that anger in your heart does nothing but weigh you down. If they are still alive you can tell them you forgive them if you like; but realize they may react negatively if they don’t think they’ve done anything wrong. The important thing is that you forgive them in your heart and move on.
For those of you who’s parents may no longer be here, you can achieve the same release by writing a letter to them, and getting it all out on paper.

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Here’s a useful trick I’ve learned: find someone of the same age now your parents were when you were born; IE if your mom was 25 when you were born, find a 25 year old girl.
Look at her and ask yourself: does she look like she has all the answers?
Do the same thing for a guy your father’s age. Kind of puts things in perspective, doesn’t it?

And by the way, unless you were raised by animals, they probably did some things right, too. Tell your parents how much you appreciate everything they did for you; if nothing else, if not for them you wouldn’t be here at all!

So how can you apply this to raising your own children?
First, realize that large sections of who we are is inherited from our family. Our language, most if not all of our morality and religious beliefs, our work ethic and world view are heavily shaped, if not outright inherited from our family. And by the way, living exactly the opposite of how you were raised still counts as having been shaped by your parents!

Knowing this, what are your children inheriting, or going to inherit from you?

Here is what I suggest: first, decide what it is you want for your children.
I advise against micromanaging them by doing things like deciding they be a doctor, or marry a spouse you choose for them. Rather, instead of insisting they be a doctor, try instilling in them a love of education and a desire to succeed. Instead of picking their spouse for them, instill in them a sense of self respect and appreciation for healthy relationships.
As a side note, they will probably emulate your relationship with your own significant other, so the best example you can give them of a good relationship is having a good relationship yourself!
We said before that we are comprised of 4 bodies: a physical body, a mental body, an emotional body, and a spiritual body. Here is how you can support your children’s proper development in all these areas.

Physical:
This is biggest mistake I see people make: it’s not enough to just put food on the table, you have to actually spend some face to face time with your children! You and I understand that you work hard for their sake, but they don’t, and never will. Years from now, they won’t think “oh, Dad was gone working to put a roof over my head”, they will think “Dad was gone”.
Find a way to spend time with your children, at least once a week if not every day; and if you have more than one, you need to find a way to spend some alone time with each of them so that they feel special.
I know, I know, you’re busy; but we all have the same 24 hours in a day and 168 hours in a week to get things done. Turn off the TV once in a while, get up a little earlier or go to bed a little later, whatever it takes. Because if your children grow up believing you don’t care about them, everything else you’ve done will be for nothing.

Mental:
You must, must, must, must, (did I mention must?) instill in your children a love of learning. There is no single greater advantage you can give them in this life than a desire to learn and do new things. The easiest way to do this, is for you to learn new things, too! Children come into the world with an inborn curiosity and genius that the world systematically stomps out of them, it’s your job to keep that sense alive in them, which keeps them young; and keep it alive in yourself, that keeps you young, too!

Emotional:
Don’t be in too big of a hurry to have your children ‘grow up'; they have their entire lives to be cogs in the wheel. It’s up to you to instill a rock solid sense of self-confidence and optimism for the world. It’s your job as a parent to be vigilant about the dangers in the world, but NOT to pass on an undue amount of fear and paranoia before it’s time. This can be a tough line to walk, since obviously you have to teach them not to walk out into the street, or hop into a stranger’s car, so what can you do? My recommendation is be honest with them. Let them know that they need to be careful, and that bad things sometimes happen; but above all else to trust their instincts. Kids know when something is wrong, just like you do. As long as you teach them to be vigilant (and you are twice as vigilant), you can instill in them courage and caution at the same time.
And one other thing: when children are upset over some random ‘childish’ thing, like losing a toy, recognize they are REALLY upset. Just because it wouldn’t phase you as an adult, doesn’t mean it isn’t earth shattering to them and their life. When you tend to them, always realize their feelings are valid; acknowledge their anger, frustration, or jealously, just as you acknowledge their happiness, playfulness, or joy. The emotions are our own personal guidance systems; there is no such thing as a ‘bad’ emotion; the sooner your children learn to trust their feelings, and themselves by extension, the easier and happier their lives will be.

Spiritual:
I have some friends who refuse to teach their children about anything spiritual, insisting that their kids will figure it out for themselves. I know others who are spiritual tyrants, who enforce their beliefs and refuse to let their children explore any other spiritual paths.
Personally, I think either way is a mistake.
Spirituality is a way of making sense of the world, and Children need some foundation to make life make sense (and they will never really out grow it!). But the same token, they are their own people and will have to walk their path, so if they start to go a different way later in life you have to support them. Even if you think they are making a mistake, it’s their mistake to make. Besides, no one KNOWS the truth of things, your attempts to keep them on your path may be blocking them from knowing God better than you ever have.

I can sum all this up pretty easily: love your children and let them know you love them. As long as you do that, everything else will fall into place.

What do you think ? Feel free to comment down below!

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B. Dave Walters

Writer, Life Coach, and Talk Radio Host

Find out more about me:
http://about.me/BDaveWalters

Ask me anything:
http://formspring.me/BDaveWalters

Pages I support:
Jesus and Buddha  — Interfaith dialog

Gnostic Theism — Religion and Spirituality for the 21st Century (Join the Movement!)

Love One Another —  A group for the coolest Spiritual people on the Internet!

    

 

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The Sword and the Scale are both necessary

Question submitted via Formspring:

“I am a defense attorney, and my job requires that I defend all of my clients regardless if they have confessed their guilt to me or if I just know that they are guilty. This worries me and my prosecutor friends who convict innocent people. Any advice?”

In a recent episode of my radio show, Rise UP with B. Dave Walters, we discussed:

Ending the pain of the past, how to tap your own inner strength, how to make the changes you REALLY want to make. During the Q&A portion of the show we talked about this question, but there is definitely more that can be said about it.

The number one thing to consider is that the right to a fair trial is the absolute cornerstone of Democracy, and what makes this (and any country) great.

Without a trial system, there is nothing to stop a king, dictator, or who ever decides to from throwing people in jail based on accusations.  Quite frankly, it’s what stops another Salem Witch Trial from taking place.

My advice would be never losing track of how important your role is for all of us, and to try to emphasis justice being done rather than just getting people off completely (if such a thing is possible).   It can’t be easy to swear an oath to defend people to the best of your ability, and potentially overlook a small loophole or oversight in procedure that would let a guilty person go free.

Try to work with the Judges and opposing council to find fair sentences and punishments that befit the crime.  For instance, maybe a drunk driver who’s a first time offender needs rehab rather than straight jail time, OR to go free unscathed.

In short, try to keep the focus on justice being served instead of just winning and losing.

Your position is as absolutely vital as it is difficult, and there will inevitably be many situations with no clear solution or way to please everyone.  It’s been said that a compromise that everyone is equally unhappy with is probably a good one, and I tend to agree.

Thank you for all you do.

What do you think they should do? Feel free to comment down below!

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B. Dave Walters

Writer, Life Coach, and Talk Radio Host

Find out more about me:
http://about.me/BDaveWalters

Ask me anything:
http://formspring.me/BDaveWalters

Pages I support:
Jesus and Buddha  — Interfaith dialog

Gnostic Theism — Religion and Spirituality for the 21st Century (Join the Movement!)

Love One Another —  A group for the coolest Spiritual people on the Internet!

    

 

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He can't give you what you're looking for

(Unedited) Question submitted via Facebook
“O life coach (lol) I have something that is constantly on my mind that I can’t seem to shake. I want to get married. It’s constantly on my mind. Everyone around me is getting married or engaged and I’m constantly wondering when am I ever going to get married myself. From past experience I know not jump into anything bc i may end up regretting it (which is good bc in the past I would rush in to things…. I was like Joan from girlfriends. Every man i see i ask myself if he’s my hubby. I know scary) I’m talking to this gentleman right now but every time I talk to him I’m constantly asking myself “is he my husband” I know it’s not healthy. How do I stop it?”

My first, second, and third questions are: what does getting married mean to you?
Does it mean that you have a man who is never going to leave you? The divorce rate here in Los Angeles is over 75%, so marriage means no such thing.

Does it mean you can brag to your family and friends and have your dream wedding?What difference does it make what anyone else thinks? As long as you are happy with you, you don’t need anyone else’s approval.

Or does getting married mean that you are good enough and that you are worth loving?
The love that you are looking for can only come from within, you have to love you, first. As we’ve discussed before , you can’t love anyone else more than you love yourself, and you won’t let them love you more than you love yourself. Even if you find the right man tomorrow, you’ll put an unrealistic expectation upon him and your relationship, since you’ll be looking for him to fill a hole that only you can fill.
And you start filling it, by realizing it doesn’t actually exist!

So to answer your question: you get over obsessing over marriage by loving you, first. And when you find the right man

things will fall into place naturally, all by themselves.

Keep us posted on how it turns out.

What do you think she should do? Feel free to comment down below!

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And if you love me back, click ‘share’ up at the top!

B. Dave Walters

Writer, Life Coach, and Talk Radio Host

Find out more about me:
http://about.me/BDaveWalters

Ask me anything:
http://formspring.me/BDaveWalters

Pages I support:
Jesus and Buddha  — Interfaith dialog

Gnostic Theism — Religion and Spirituality for the 21st Century (Join the Movement!)

Love One Another —  A group for the coolest Spiritual people on the Internet!

    

 

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Let him know you need to hear him say 'I love you'

Question submitted via Formspring:
“Why is it hard for men to say i love you back ??”

For a real man, it isn’t!

Los Angeles is probably one of, if not the most, superficial cities in the world, so it’s not uncommon to find guys with difficulties expressing themselves. Add to that, that many guys ANYWHERE have difficulties expressing themselves! Somewhere along the way, people started to believe that ‘tough’ guys don’t have any feelings; even though the toughest guys around are very open with their feelings. Why wouldn’t they be?
They don’t care what anyone else thinks!

In this case, step one would be: DOES he love you?
His words may not be what you want them to be, but are his actions?
Does he listen to you, do things to show he values and cares about you?
In the end, words lie but actions tell the truth; as long as he ACTS like he loves you, you are off to a good start.

If you’re sure he feels it but isn’t communicating it properly, I’d look at his relationship with his own father, and his father’s relationship with his mother. If his dad didn’t say it often, he probably never learned to, either.
Have you tried *asking * him to tell you? He may not even realize anything is wrong, since guys are a lot different then women.

And worse come to worst: make sure he knows that women are a lot different then men, too!

Keep us posted on how it turns out.

What do you think?  Feel free to comment down below!

You are great, and I love you!

And if you love me back, click ‘share’ up at the top!

B. Dave Walters

Writer, Life Coach, and Talk Radio Host

Find out more about me:
http://about.me/BDaveWalters

Ask me anything:
http://formspring.me/BDaveWalters

Pages I support:
Jesus and Buddha  — Interfaith dialog

Gnostic Theism — Religion and Spirituality for the 21st Century (Join the Movement!)

Love One Another —  A group for the coolest Spiritual people on the Internet!

    

 

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Beauty is only skin deep...right? ;)

Question submitted via Formspring:
“I’m dating a man who is wonderful, except he is not as physically fit as I would love him to be.
How should I go about having him get in better shape, or should I just leave him for someone similar, but more fit?”

We have talked about how to find the right person, how to understand men, and how to understand women already, so this is a very important thing for us to talk about!

So part of the process that we’ve talked about before now, is figuring out what you want, and figuring out what you don’t want.  Keep in mind the old 80/20 rule (in this case, don’t lose someone who is 80% of perfect to chase the 20% they are missing); so if he really is that wonderful, then yes it’s worth sticking with to help him change.  If he is not that wonderful, or you already know you have no long term future together, then yes you can save you both some time by moving on now.

Now if this somehow seems shallow, or insensitive, let me help clear it up:   what is the #1 difference between a boyfriend or girlfriend and a close friend?

ATTRACTION!

If there is no chemistry, no tingle in your naughty bits, then you aren’t going to last.  I’ve have known many people that tried to force a relationship with someone they weren’t physically attracted to, and it never works over the long term.   Better to dissolve it and stay friends, while finding that fulfillment somewhere else.

Now, if you DO decide he is worth the trouble, the #1 way to get him moving is by example.  Remember, I shared in the article/video on men that our egos are very easily manipulated; squeeze his arm and ask him if he is working out…you’ll see him puff his chest out and start flexing!

Or, suggest you do things together that make you get out and get active; walks in the park, bike rides, swimming, even flag football are all good choices.  When you eat, choose healthier restaurants; try to steer him away from a pitcher of beer, have red wine instead.

Tell him that you are trying to get into better shape so you can be sexier for him, and ask him to help you; he’ll be glad to get up early and run and eat salad for dinner when he sees what’s in it for him.  Add to that you making a big deal when those muscles start to show, and how cute his butt looks in his jeans, and he’ll be working out like Mr. Olympia in no time.

One VERY important thing to point out, though: guys, if you want your ladies to lose a couple of pounds, this is not how to go about making that happen; that is a whole other can of worms.  If you want to know how to make it happen, shoot me a question on Formspring!

What do you think they should do? Feel free to comment down below!

You are great, and I love you!

And if you love me back, click ‘share’ up at the top!

B. Dave Walters

Writer, Life Coach, and Talk Radio Host

Find out more about me:
http://about.me/BDaveWalters

Ask me anything:
http://formspring.me/BDaveWalters

Pages I support:
Jesus and Buddha  — Interfaith dialog

Gnostic Theism — Religion and Spirituality for the 21st Century (Join the Movement!)

Love One Another —  A group for the coolest Spiritual people on the Internet!

    

 

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No matter what happens, someone is going to get hurt

(Unedited) questions submitted via Formspring.me
part 1: there is a married man. he meets the love of his life 20 years ago, but they didn’t got a chance, cause he doesn’t wanted to leave his son. now he and his love find to each other again. but he’s still married and waits for the right moment to break

part 2: up with his wife. his son is adult now, he was a baby then. Is the man a cheater? in my opinion a cheater is someone who have sex with others and is mean (prejudices, sorry). but he isn’t mean, its just love… what do you think?

Los Angeles has one of the highest divorce rates in the country (as high as 75% in some areas), so it doesn’t take much to split people up here. The idea of meeting the person you want to be with and NOT leaving to be with them would probably be a pretty rare occurrence!

As far as your question(s), a couple of things.
I’ve gone on record before saying it is possible to love two people at the same time; but I’ve also said that I am strictly against cheating.

So which is it here?
First, chances are *extremely * high that he will NEVER leave his wife.
Why? Based on what you’ve written, it appears you are in another country which probably frowns on divorce (but please correct me if I am mistaken). Add to that ‘looking for the right time to leave’ even though his son is an adult is a big red flag.

He probably really does care about you, but “I’m looking for the right time to leave” is an almost universal sign of saying “I’m not leaving any time soon”.

Now, does this make him a cheater?
Honestly, it depends on what it is he’s doing. I’m not too big into labelling someone ‘an emotional cheater’, since if he falls for someone else, he has no control over that. If he *wants * to be with someone else, or even is actively planning to LEAVE FIRST and then be with someone else, then no none of that is cheating.
If he’s sleeping with someone besides his wife, then yes he’s a cheater. If he is having overly explicit conversations about WANTING to sleep with someone besides his wife, he’s probably a cheater. If he is neglecting his obligations to his wife in favor of giving affection to another woman, then yes that is cheating. Whether or not he’s ‘mean’ really has nothing to do with being a cheater; many unfaithful guys are very charming; it’s how they get lots of women!

I realize the automatic reply is: “but he doesn’t love her”…which is something else cheaters say all over the world.

The bottom line is, it’s up to HIM to get out of that situation, and you probably shouldn’t stand still waiting for it to happen.
Since no matter how deep his feelings are for you, what difference does it make if he is more committed to being with another woman?

And more than that, I’ve also written before about why it’s a bad idea to leave someone FOR someone else. Leaving his wife after 20+ years and all the baggage that brings, along with whatever cultural baggage comes along with it, too is almost certain to ruin your new romance.

Anything that develops between the two of you is the fruit of a poison tree.

He needs to decide if he wants to be with his wife or not, and either work with her or dissolve their marriage *completely * before even considering moving on to something new with someone else.

And quite frankly you should demand he be man enough to resolve his situation and make himself available to you totally and freely, or not at all.

What do you think they should do? Feel free to comment down below!

You are great, and I love you!

And if you love me back, click ‘share’ up at the top!

B. Dave Walters

Writer, Life Coach, and Talk Radio Host

Find out more about me:
http://about.me/BDaveWalters

Ask me anything:
http://formspring.me/BDaveWalters

Pages I support:
Jesus and Buddha  — Interfaith dialog

Gnostic Theism — Religion and Spirituality for the 21st Century (Join the Movement!)

Love One Another —  A group for the coolest Spiritual people on the Internet!

    

 

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Subtle, yes?

Question submitted via Formspring:
“I have a male friend who lives with his girlfriend and been with her years. However, he flirts with me all the time, promises to come and see me (even though I live hundreds of miles away), says he is breaking up but never does? Whats going on?”

If you marry a man who cheats on his wife, then you’ll have married a man who cheats on his wife.
-Ann Landers.

The simple answer is: move on.
The reason why you should move on, is one of two things is going to happen, perhaps one of three:
1.He is never going to leave her, and you are wasting your time.
2.He IS going to leave her, but you’ll never trust him ever, since you know he has it in his character to cheat.
3.He really leaves her for you, but is constantly comparing you to her and every time you fight he tries to run back to her.

A common mistake people make is to leave one person for another person; a situation that will cause problems 99% of the time.
The reason why this is, is because you are comparing the totality of your relationship with your current person: seeing them happy and sad, sick and well, funny and depressing, with the other person’s best foot forward.
Or put it another way: the grass is always greener on the other side of the fence because you don’t have to mow it!

For this guy, or anyone else in a situation like this, he needs to do two things:
First he needs to decide if his current relationship has truly over, and either work with his girl to fix it, or break up and move on.
THEN the two of you need to decide if you want to be together, starting from scratch.

To do it any other way is to invite problems. Hands off this guy until he gets his act together!
Keep us posted on how it turns out.

What do you think?  Feel free to comment down below!

You are great, and I love you!

And if you love me back, click ‘share’ up at the top!

B. Dave Walters

Writer, Life Coach, and Talk Radio Host

Find out more about me:
http://about.me/BDaveWalters

Ask me anything:
http://formspring.me/BDaveWalters

Pages I support:
Jesus and Buddha  — Interfaith dialog

Gnostic Theism — Religion and Spirituality for the 21st Century (Join the Movement!)

Love One Another —  A group for the coolest Spiritual people on the Internet!

    

 

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Is it possible? Yes. Is it advisable? *NO*

Question submitted via Formspring
“Is it ever possible to love two people at the same time ?”

This is a debate that has raged for many years, and will almost certainly keep raging.

The answer is simple, but the implications are complex.
Yes, it is absolutely possible to love two people at the same time.

Here in Los Angeles, people often switch relationships like they switch shoes, and you can find most every variation of love and relationships you can think of going on!

It may be romantic to think of finding that one person who forever clouds your ability to see anything worth loving in another person, but it just isn’t the case. This speaks to the somewhat murkier idea of ’emotional cheating'; that even if you aren’t being physical with another person, just wanting to is a form of infidelity.

This idea that he or she HAS to love only me is born out of insecurity more than anything else; that if s/he sees something of value in someone else, then they are going to leave me.

Honestly, why wouldn’t it be possible to love two people at the same time?
Love is not a fixed quantity, otherwise you wouldn’t have room for parents, siblings, or children of your own in your heart. And there are many different types of love you can experience for many different types of people.

So could you find two different people that elicit deep romantic love? Absolutely.

BUT

This is not a free pass to cheat! The benchmark of ‘cheating’ then, is taking time, energy, attention, and affection from your significant other and giving it to someone else. If you are up all night chatting romantically with someone online while your mate is sleeping alone, then yes you are cheating. If you are sneaking out at all hours to see someone else, then yes you are ABSOLUTELY cheating!

Remember, if you feel the need to hide something, it is *probably * wrong!

If you commit to someone, then stay committed to them. And if you can’t be with that one person, then break up; or at least agree to see other people until you decide to settle with one or the other (if ever). Realistically, the time will come when you’ll be forced to choose between them; so unless you become polygamists, you won’t be able to keep juggling forever!

The deeper issue is, do you *really * love two people, or are you confused, and possibly afraid of committing to one person, because of all the other things you might miss?

There is also the concept of the 80/20 rule to consider; the idea that you don’t want to miss the person who has the majority of what you need, to chase the person who has just a few (but probably really FUN!) things the other person is missing.

In the end, true trust and deep intimacy is most easily built within the confines of a loving, monogamous relationship with two people who share absolutely everything with each other. Not to mention, it gets tiring having to keep track of two lives; what you did with whom, which movie you saw with whom, and that is assuming you are being totally honest about dating two people! If you are trying to hide it (a mistake), then it will only be ten times harder to function. You’ll just keep feeling more and more guilt that will prevent you from truly enjoying either person, and if you aren’t enjoying it, what’s the point?

My suggestion would be totally honest and keep seeing them both until you are either clear on what you want, or circumstances force you to choose. And remember, at any time one of them may get tired of being ‘the other wo/man’.
Keep us posted on how it turns out.

What do you think?  Feel free to comment down below!

You are great, and I love you!

And if you love me back, click ‘share’ up at the top!

B. Dave Walters

Writer, Life Coach, and Talk Radio Host

Find out more about me:
http://about.me/BDaveWalters

Ask me anything:
http://formspring.me/BDaveWalters

Pages I support:
Jesus and Buddha  — Interfaith dialog

Gnostic Theism — Religion and Spirituality for the 21st Century (Join the Movement!)

Love One Another —  A group for the coolest Spiritual people on the Internet!

    

 

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The Law is for All!

Question submitted via Formspring:

“Are plants and animals under the Law of Attraction, or is it exclusively human?”

On a recent episode of my radio show, Rise UP with B. Dave Walters, we talked about getting over Daddy Issues, dealing with REJECTION, how to change *anything* instantly, and many other things.  In the Q&A section of the show, this was one of the questions we talked about, but I’d like to say a bit more about it now.

We have talked about the Law of Attraction many times on my radio shows and in my videos, but there is always more to say about it!

The simple answer is: yes, plants and animals are absolutely under the Law of Attraction.  In fact, they aren’t just bound by that, but by all 7 Universal Laws.

The thing that sets Human Beings apart from plants and animals is that we have free will.  That means we can choose to be what we want to be, plants and animals cannot.

A squirrel has no choice in the matter, she is a squirrel.

The advantage she has, however, Is she lives her life totally in alignment with who and what she is.  She primarily has three goals: to find food, to have babies, and to not let she or her babies become food for something else.

That’s it, that’s the menu!

So since 100% of the squirrel’s energies are dedicated to this short list of things, she is pretty successful at it for her entire life.

Remember when I said we can choose to be what we want to be, plants and animals cannot?  Unfortunately most of us use that power to not be much at all!   Having infinite choice means most of us choose to do nothing, and that is the absolute worst choice you can make.

The number one thing you can learn from plants and animals is how to live in alignment with themselves and their world; that means you can pick what you want to create and go after it.

“Until one is committed, there is hesitancy, the chance to draw back– Concerning all acts of initiative (and creation), there is one elementary truth that ignorance of which kills countless ideas and splendid plans: that the moment one definitely commits oneself, then Providence moves too. All sorts of things occur to help one that would never otherwise have occurred. A whole stream of events issues from the decision, raising in one’s favor all manner of unforeseen incidents and meetings and material assistance, which no man could have dreamed would have come his way. Whatever you can do, or dream you can do, begin it. Boldness has genius, power, and magic in it. Begin it now.”

-Goethe.  (Well, probably Goethe)

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B. Dave Walters

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