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Q&A: Is it wrong to defend guilty people?

posted by B. Dave Walters

The Sword and the Scale are both necessary

Question submitted via Formspring:

“I am a defense attorney, and my job requires that I defend all of my clients regardless if they have confessed their guilt to me or if I just know that they are guilty. This worries me and my prosecutor friends who convict innocent people. Any advice?”

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In a recent episode of my radio show, Rise UP with B. Dave Walters, we discussed:

Ending the pain of the past, how to tap your own inner strength, how to make the changes you REALLY want to make. During the Q&A portion of the show we talked about this question, but there is definitely more that can be said about it.

The number one thing to consider is that the right to a fair trial is the absolute cornerstone of Democracy, and what makes this (and any country) great.

Without a trial system, there is nothing to stop a king, dictator, or who ever decides to from throwing people in jail based on accusations.  Quite frankly, it’s what stops another Salem Witch Trial from taking place.

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My advice would be never losing track of how important your role is for all of us, and to try to emphasis justice being done rather than just getting people off completely (if such a thing is possible).   It can’t be easy to swear an oath to defend people to the best of your ability, and potentially overlook a small loophole or oversight in procedure that would let a guilty person go free.

Try to work with the Judges and opposing council to find fair sentences and punishments that befit the crime.  For instance, maybe a drunk driver who’s a first time offender needs rehab rather than straight jail time, OR to go free unscathed.

In short, try to keep the focus on justice being served instead of just winning and losing.

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Your position is as absolutely vital as it is difficult, and there will inevitably be many situations with no clear solution or way to please everyone.  It’s been said that a compromise that everyone is equally unhappy with is probably a good one, and I tend to agree.

Thank you for all you do.

What do you think they should do? Feel free to comment down below!

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Writer, Life Coach, and Talk Radio Host

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Q&A: “I’m constantly wondering when am I ever going to get married myself; how do I stop it?”

posted by B. Dave Walters

He can't give you what you're looking for

(Unedited) Question submitted via Facebook
“O life coach (lol) I have something that is constantly on my mind that I can’t seem to shake. I want to get married. It’s constantly on my mind. Everyone around me is getting married or engaged and I’m constantly wondering when am I ever going to get married myself. From past experience I know not jump into anything bc i may end up regretting it (which is good bc in the past I would rush in to things…. I was like Joan from girlfriends. Every man i see i ask myself if he’s my hubby. I know scary) I’m talking to this gentleman right now but every time I talk to him I’m constantly asking myself “is he my husband” I know it’s not healthy. How do I stop it?”

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My first, second, and third questions are: what does getting married mean to you?
Does it mean that you have a man who is never going to leave you? The divorce rate here in Los Angeles is over 75%, so marriage means no such thing.

Does it mean you can brag to your family and friends and have your dream wedding?What difference does it make what anyone else thinks? As long as you are happy with you, you don’t need anyone else’s approval.

Or does getting married mean that you are good enough and that you are worth loving?
The love that you are looking for can only come from within, you have to love you, first. As we’ve discussed before , you can’t love anyone else more than you love yourself, and you won’t let them love you more than you love yourself. Even if you find the right man tomorrow, you’ll put an unrealistic expectation upon him and your relationship, since you’ll be looking for him to fill a hole that only you can fill.
And you start filling it, by realizing it doesn’t actually exist!

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So to answer your question: you get over obsessing over marriage by loving you, first. And when you find the right man

things will fall into place naturally, all by themselves.

Keep us posted on how it turns out.

What do you think she should do? Feel free to comment down below!

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B. Dave Walters

Writer, Life Coach, and Talk Radio Host

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Q&A: Why is it hard for men to say I love you?

posted by B. Dave Walters

Let him know you need to hear him say 'I love you'

Question submitted via Formspring:
“Why is it hard for men to say i love you back ??”

For a real man, it isn’t!

Los Angeles is probably one of, if not the most, superficial cities in the world, so it’s not uncommon to find guys with difficulties expressing themselves. Add to that, that many guys ANYWHERE have difficulties expressing themselves! Somewhere along the way, people started to believe that ‘tough’ guys don’t have any feelings; even though the toughest guys around are very open with their feelings. Why wouldn’t they be?
They don’t care what anyone else thinks!

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In this case, step one would be: DOES he love you?
His words may not be what you want them to be, but are his actions?
Does he listen to you, do things to show he values and cares about you?
In the end, words lie but actions tell the truth; as long as he ACTS like he loves you, you are off to a good start.

If you’re sure he feels it but isn’t communicating it properly, I’d look at his relationship with his own father, and his father’s relationship with his mother. If his dad didn’t say it often, he probably never learned to, either.
Have you tried *asking * him to tell you? He may not even realize anything is wrong, since guys are a lot different then women.

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And worse come to worst: make sure he knows that women are a lot different then men, too!

Keep us posted on how it turns out.

What do you think?  Feel free to comment down below!

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B. Dave Walters

Writer, Life Coach, and Talk Radio Host

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Q&A: “I’m dating a man who’s is not as physically fit as I would love him to be…”

posted by B. Dave Walters

Beauty is only skin deep...right? ;)

Question submitted via Formspring:
“I’m dating a man who is wonderful, except he is not as physically fit as I would love him to be.
How should I go about having him get in better shape, or should I just leave him for someone similar, but more fit?”

We have talked about how to find the right person, how to understand men, and how to understand women already, so this is a very important thing for us to talk about!

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So part of the process that we’ve talked about before now, is figuring out what you want, and figuring out what you don’t want.  Keep in mind the old 80/20 rule (in this case, don’t lose someone who is 80% of perfect to chase the 20% they are missing); so if he really is that wonderful, then yes it’s worth sticking with to help him change.  If he is not that wonderful, or you already know you have no long term future together, then yes you can save you both some time by moving on now.

Now if this somehow seems shallow, or insensitive, let me help clear it up:   what is the #1 difference between a boyfriend or girlfriend and a close friend?

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ATTRACTION!

If there is no chemistry, no tingle in your naughty bits, then you aren’t going to last.  I’ve have known many people that tried to force a relationship with someone they weren’t physically attracted to, and it never works over the long term.   Better to dissolve it and stay friends, while finding that fulfillment somewhere else.

Now, if you DO decide he is worth the trouble, the #1 way to get him moving is by example.  Remember, I shared in the article/video on men that our egos are very easily manipulated; squeeze his arm and ask him if he is working out…you’ll see him puff his chest out and start flexing!

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Or, suggest you do things together that make you get out and get active; walks in the park, bike rides, swimming, even flag football are all good choices.  When you eat, choose healthier restaurants; try to steer him away from a pitcher of beer, have red wine instead.

Tell him that you are trying to get into better shape so you can be sexier for him, and ask him to help you; he’ll be glad to get up early and run and eat salad for dinner when he sees what’s in it for him.  Add to that you making a big deal when those muscles start to show, and how cute his butt looks in his jeans, and he’ll be working out like Mr. Olympia in no time.

One VERY important thing to point out, though: guys, if you want your ladies to lose a couple of pounds, this is not how to go about making that happen; that is a whole other can of worms.  If you want to know how to make it happen, shoot me a question on Formspring!

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What do you think they should do? Feel free to comment down below!

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Q&A: A married man falls in love with another woman…is that cheating?

posted by B. Dave Walters

No matter what happens, someone is going to get hurt

(Unedited) questions submitted via Formspring.me
part 1: there is a married man. he meets the love of his life 20 years ago, but they didn’t got a chance, cause he doesn’t wanted to leave his son. now he and his love find to each other again. but he’s still married and waits for the right moment to break

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part 2: up with his wife. his son is adult now, he was a baby then. Is the man a cheater? in my opinion a cheater is someone who have sex with others and is mean (prejudices, sorry). but he isn’t mean, its just love… what do you think?

Los Angeles has one of the highest divorce rates in the country (as high as 75% in some areas), so it doesn’t take much to split people up here. The idea of meeting the person you want to be with and NOT leaving to be with them would probably be a pretty rare occurrence!

As far as your question(s), a couple of things.
I’ve gone on record before saying it is possible to love two people at the same time; but I’ve also said that I am strictly against cheating.

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So which is it here?
First, chances are *extremely * high that he will NEVER leave his wife.
Why? Based on what you’ve written, it appears you are in another country which probably frowns on divorce (but please correct me if I am mistaken). Add to that ‘looking for the right time to leave’ even though his son is an adult is a big red flag.

He probably really does care about you, but “I’m looking for the right time to leave” is an almost universal sign of saying “I’m not leaving any time soon”.

Now, does this make him a cheater?
Honestly, it depends on what it is he’s doing. I’m not too big into labelling someone ‘an emotional cheater’, since if he falls for someone else, he has no control over that. If he *wants * to be with someone else, or even is actively planning to LEAVE FIRST and then be with someone else, then no none of that is cheating.
If he’s sleeping with someone besides his wife, then yes he’s a cheater. If he is having overly explicit conversations about WANTING to sleep with someone besides his wife, he’s probably a cheater. If he is neglecting his obligations to his wife in favor of giving affection to another woman, then yes that is cheating. Whether or not he’s ‘mean’ really has nothing to do with being a cheater; many unfaithful guys are very charming; it’s how they get lots of women!

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I realize the automatic reply is: “but he doesn’t love her”…which is something else cheaters say all over the world.

The bottom line is, it’s up to HIM to get out of that situation, and you probably shouldn’t stand still waiting for it to happen.
Since no matter how deep his feelings are for you, what difference does it make if he is more committed to being with another woman?

And more than that, I’ve also written before about why it’s a bad idea to leave someone FOR someone else. Leaving his wife after 20+ years and all the baggage that brings, along with whatever cultural baggage comes along with it, too is almost certain to ruin your new romance.

Anything that develops between the two of you is the fruit of a poison tree.

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He needs to decide if he wants to be with his wife or not, and either work with her or dissolve their marriage *completely * before even considering moving on to something new with someone else.

And quite frankly you should demand he be man enough to resolve his situation and make himself available to you totally and freely, or not at all.

What do you think they should do? Feel free to comment down below!

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B. Dave Walters

Writer, Life Coach, and Talk Radio Host

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Q&A: “He says he is leaving her for me but never does, what’s going on?”

posted by B. Dave Walters

Subtle, yes?

Question submitted via Formspring:
“I have a male friend who lives with his girlfriend and been with her years. However, he flirts with me all the time, promises to come and see me (even though I live hundreds of miles away), says he is breaking up but never does? Whats going on?”

If you marry a man who cheats on his wife, then you’ll have married a man who cheats on his wife.
-Ann Landers.

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The simple answer is: move on.
The reason why you should move on, is one of two things is going to happen, perhaps one of three:
1.He is never going to leave her, and you are wasting your time.
2.He IS going to leave her, but you’ll never trust him ever, since you know he has it in his character to cheat.
3.He really leaves her for you, but is constantly comparing you to her and every time you fight he tries to run back to her.

A common mistake people make is to leave one person for another person; a situation that will cause problems 99% of the time.
The reason why this is, is because you are comparing the totality of your relationship with your current person: seeing them happy and sad, sick and well, funny and depressing, with the other person’s best foot forward.
Or put it another way: the grass is always greener on the other side of the fence because you don’t have to mow it!

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For this guy, or anyone else in a situation like this, he needs to do two things:
First he needs to decide if his current relationship has truly over, and either work with his girl to fix it, or break up and move on.
THEN the two of you need to decide if you want to be together, starting from scratch.

To do it any other way is to invite problems. Hands off this guy until he gets his act together!
Keep us posted on how it turns out.

What do you think?  Feel free to comment down below!

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B. Dave Walters

Writer, Life Coach, and Talk Radio Host

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Q&A: “Is it ever possible to love two people at the same time….”

posted by B. Dave Walters

Is it possible? Yes. Is it advisable? *NO*

Question submitted via Formspring
“Is it ever possible to love two people at the same time ?”

This is a debate that has raged for many years, and will almost certainly keep raging.

The answer is simple, but the implications are complex.
Yes, it is absolutely possible to love two people at the same time.

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Here in Los Angeles, people often switch relationships like they switch shoes, and you can find most every variation of love and relationships you can think of going on!

It may be romantic to think of finding that one person who forever clouds your ability to see anything worth loving in another person, but it just isn’t the case. This speaks to the somewhat murkier idea of ’emotional cheating'; that even if you aren’t being physical with another person, just wanting to is a form of infidelity.

This idea that he or she HAS to love only me is born out of insecurity more than anything else; that if s/he sees something of value in someone else, then they are going to leave me.

Honestly, why wouldn’t it be possible to love two people at the same time?
Love is not a fixed quantity, otherwise you wouldn’t have room for parents, siblings, or children of your own in your heart. And there are many different types of love you can experience for many different types of people.

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So could you find two different people that elicit deep romantic love? Absolutely.

BUT

This is not a free pass to cheat! The benchmark of ‘cheating’ then, is taking time, energy, attention, and affection from your significant other and giving it to someone else. If you are up all night chatting romantically with someone online while your mate is sleeping alone, then yes you are cheating. If you are sneaking out at all hours to see someone else, then yes you are ABSOLUTELY cheating!

Remember, if you feel the need to hide something, it is *probably * wrong!

If you commit to someone, then stay committed to them. And if you can’t be with that one person, then break up; or at least agree to see other people until you decide to settle with one or the other (if ever). Realistically, the time will come when you’ll be forced to choose between them; so unless you become polygamists, you won’t be able to keep juggling forever!

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The deeper issue is, do you *really * love two people, or are you confused, and possibly afraid of committing to one person, because of all the other things you might miss?

There is also the concept of the 80/20 rule to consider; the idea that you don’t want to miss the person who has the majority of what you need, to chase the person who has just a few (but probably really FUN!) things the other person is missing.

In the end, true trust and deep intimacy is most easily built within the confines of a loving, monogamous relationship with two people who share absolutely everything with each other. Not to mention, it gets tiring having to keep track of two lives; what you did with whom, which movie you saw with whom, and that is assuming you are being totally honest about dating two people! If you are trying to hide it (a mistake), then it will only be ten times harder to function. You’ll just keep feeling more and more guilt that will prevent you from truly enjoying either person, and if you aren’t enjoying it, what’s the point?

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My suggestion would be totally honest and keep seeing them both until you are either clear on what you want, or circumstances force you to choose. And remember, at any time one of them may get tired of being ‘the other wo/man’.
Keep us posted on how it turns out.

What do you think?  Feel free to comment down below!

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And if you love me back, click ‘share’ up at the top!

B. Dave Walters

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Q&A: Are plants and animals under the Law of Attraction, or is it exclusively human?

posted by B. Dave Walters

The Law is for All!

Question submitted via Formspring:

“Are plants and animals under the Law of Attraction, or is it exclusively human?”

On a recent episode of my radio show, Rise UP with B. Dave Walters, we talked about getting over Daddy Issues, dealing with REJECTION, how to change *anything* instantly, and many other things.  In the Q&A section of the show, this was one of the questions we talked about, but I’d like to say a bit more about it now.

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We have talked about the Law of Attraction many times on my radio shows and in my videos, but there is always more to say about it!

The simple answer is: yes, plants and animals are absolutely under the Law of Attraction.  In fact, they aren’t just bound by that, but by all 7 Universal Laws.

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The thing that sets Human Beings apart from plants and animals is that we have free will.  That means we can choose to be what we want to be, plants and animals cannot.

A squirrel has no choice in the matter, she is a squirrel.

The advantage she has, however, Is she lives her life totally in alignment with who and what she is.  She primarily has three goals: to find food, to have babies, and to not let she or her babies become food for something else.

That’s it, that’s the menu!

So since 100% of the squirrel’s energies are dedicated to this short list of things, she is pretty successful at it for her entire life.

Remember when I said we can choose to be what we want to be, plants and animals cannot?  Unfortunately most of us use that power to not be much at all!   Having infinite choice means most of us choose to do nothing, and that is the absolute worst choice you can make.

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The number one thing you can learn from plants and animals is how to live in alignment with themselves and their world; that means you can pick what you want to create and go after it.

“Until one is committed, there is hesitancy, the chance to draw back– Concerning all acts of initiative (and creation), there is one elementary truth that ignorance of which kills countless ideas and splendid plans: that the moment one definitely commits oneself, then Providence moves too. All sorts of things occur to help one that would never otherwise have occurred. A whole stream of events issues from the decision, raising in one’s favor all manner of unforeseen incidents and meetings and material assistance, which no man could have dreamed would have come his way. Whatever you can do, or dream you can do, begin it. Boldness has genius, power, and magic in it. Begin it now.”

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-Goethe.  (Well, probably Goethe)

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Q&A: “So is Mass Media negativity a good thing or a bad thing?” (VIDEO)

posted by B. Dave Walters

Information is good, propaganda is not.

Question submitted via Formspring:

“Seeing a horrible event on the news can make people really sad, but it can also inspire other people to take action. So is mass media diffusion of horrifying and unjust realities more of a good thing or a bad thing?”

On a recent episode of my radio show, Rise UP with B. Dave Walters, we talked about getting over Daddy Issues, dealing with REJECTION, how to change *anything* instantly, and many other things.  In the Q&A section of the show, this was one of the questions we talked about, but I’d like to say a bit more about it now.

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We have talked about the media a few times on my radio shows and in my videos, so first let me ask: have you ever heard the saying ‘if it bleeds, it leads’?
Let me give you an example:  if you are walking by the news stand, and you see the paper says “sunny and warm this weekend,” you’ll probably keep on walking.  But, if it says “terrible weather ahead,” you’ll stop and buy it.   The reason why that is, is that things that scare us get more attention than things that make us feel good; it’s a sad reality that people tend to pay more attention to bad news than good news.

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Again, think about how easy it is to dismiss someone telling you that you look nice, versus someone telling you your butt looks too big!

Add to that, the media is no longer concerned with accurately and impartially reporting the facts; they are concerned with selling advertising.  That means they slant their stories to be attractive to the type of person they want to watch in order to sell advertizing to that particular group and demographic.  So don’t feel bad if the news scares you; it is designed to scare you!

So understanding that is why the media ‘diffuses such horrifying and unjust realities,’ is that good or bad?
The reality is, it’s neither good nor bad; it just is.

Don’t be fooled into thinking the world is such a terrible place, in many very important ways life is actually getting better:
Consider some of the report’s figures on what has happened just in the last 25 years:

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• The average life expectancy worldwide rose from 64 years in the mid-1980s to 68 years today.

• Infant mortality worldwide has fallen from nearly 70 deaths per 100,000 people to 40 deaths today.

• Poverty, defined by the percentage of people living on less than $1.25 a day, fell from 43 percent of the world population in the mid-1980s to 23 percent today.

• The percentage of the world population with access to water rose from 75 percent to more than 86 percent.

• Secondary school enrollment rose from 45 percent in the mid-1980s to nearly 70 percent today.

• The number of major armed conflicts declined from 37 in the mid-1980s to 26 today.

The bottom line is this: like James Arthur Ray said in The Secret, you need to be informed, but you don’t have to be inundated.  Pick a few news outlets that you trust, and recognize that every ‘crisis’ they report is probably not so bad; they over exaggerate because there is a lot of money in scaring the hell out of you.

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If you are the type of person that can see the suffering of others, and it drives you into depression, then focus on those news outlets (mostly online) that focus on positive, happy stories.  If you are the type that seeing people in need spurs you into action, then focus on those type of outlets that focus on how to solve problems, rather than trying to convince you the world is ending…those are also mostly online.

I can tell you this for sure, though: there is a LOT you can do to help your fellow human beings right now from where you are.  Your money goes a LONG way to help people all over the world, as long as you are spending it in the right way:

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Buddha vs Tony Robbins; Or, finding the middle way

posted by B. Dave Walters

That's the whole Universe mapped out on the Tree of Life

(Unedited) question submitted via Facebook:
“Hey Dave,
one thing I would like to add to the question of how it is possible for some people like Tony Robbins to be so emotional and energized most of the time:
There are two controversial opinions on that issue.
One opinion is that one should always try his best, be at peak states and live with passion and great emotions.
The other is that emotions do harm to the person and that one should be a peaceful person, trying to breath slowly, meditate a lot and avoid stress.
I have the impression that religions like Buddhism are favoring the second option and modern coaches, great leaders and so on prefer the first one.

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Is there a right or wrong, is my impression false, is the middle way the best?. What do you think?
I mean you might be similarly busy, so what is the secret for this unbelievable endurance, or do you have bad days, too??”

In EXTREMELY broad strokes, coaches like Robbins teach that you embrace life, and embrace the world; that everyone is already perfect, and there is nothing wrong with you. That means your emotions are a navigational system that you can use to attract what you want into your life.

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Buddhism, on the other hand, teaches that this world is an illusion, and being too attached to things can only cause you pain. A common misconception is that Buddhism teaches the world is ‘bad’, but that isn’t true; a better way of saying it, is that this world is one big distraction.

So, which one is right?

The question of which one is ‘right’ or ‘wrong’ isn’t the question, so much as which one can you apply and live by?

Human beings are emotional creatures, and while you can learn in a few weeks how to focus on your positive emotions, it may take decades of meditation to gain total control over ALL your emotions.

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In the Kabbalah the far left hand path is called the Pillar of Severity, and the far right hand path is the Pillar of Mercy. The path up the middle is the ‘Middle Path’ and is the fastest, but most difficult.

As in most things, the middle path is probably the best one, but it’s not easy to realize be able to dedicate yourself with 100% passion to your goals in one instant, and be willing to let go of them completely in the next; but that’s what the spiritual path is all about!

As for me, I certainly have my own ups and downs; but instead of moving between 2 and 6 on a scale of 10 like most people, I tend to move between an 8 and a 12!
The reason why this is, is I choose to perceive the world as being on my side, and God being everywhere and watching over me.
So, if my goals don’t manifest in the time table I’d like, I realize it just means something better is happening. Even if something ‘bad’ happens, like a flat tire for instance, I choose to perceive it as helping me somehow (like maybe helping me avoid an accident I’d have been in further down the road).

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Can I prove it?
Of course not, but I walk around happy all the time and you can’t argue with results!

You are great, and I love you!

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B. Dave Walters

Writer, Life Coach, and Talk Radio Host

Find out more about me:
http://about.me/BDaveWalters

Ask me anything:
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Jesus and Buddha  — Interfaith dialog

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