How to break the cycle of self-sabotage

Question submitted via Formspring:
“I’m in a two years relationship. I always thought, that we were indestructible, but for a few months I don’t think that anymore… And I dont wanna think all the time about “are we meant to be” cause i know that i can decide if we are. But how do I know?”

The important thing to remember about any self-sabotaging behavior, or situation you are worried about is: things only get scary if you look too far ahead!

If your relationship is working fine right now, that is what matters; whether or not you’ll get married 3 years from now will have to wait until 2 ½ years from now!

If you think about it, self-sabotage is rooted in fear, fear that whatever happens in the future will be bad. Fear of the future, and of uncertainty in general are such problems that I did an entire program on how to fix it.

The answer to the question above, along with the details on my new program, are included in the video below:

Part 2 of the video talks more about the concept of self sabotage, including:
*Why you self-sabotage
*What it gets you
*Why you need to stop
*How you can change

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B. Dave Walters

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