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Which Ten Commandments; or, What Jesus taught in secret

posted by B. Dave Walters

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“Be calm, be loving unto others, be gentle, be peaceful, be merciful, give tithes, help the poor and sick and distressed, be devoted to Deity, be righteous, be good that ye may receive the Mysteries of the Light and go on high into the Light Land.”

- Yeshu (Jesus) Pistis Sophia 102

Over the years, many conflicts have arisen around the ’Ten Commandments’, and what place they should have in public life. The most recent conflict was in Alabama in 2003 when a significant battle erupted over a monument to the Commandments and whether or not it should be allowed to remain on the footsteps of a government courthouse, from which it was ultimately moved.

Many people would say they ‘believe’ in the Commandments, but the immediate follow up question has to be: which one?

Here is a quick test: name all ten commandments.

Did you do it?

Now, there are a lot of myths and misconceptions about The 10 Commandments; let’s compare what you think they are against FOUR different versions floating around out there:

Protestant

1. Thou shalt have no other gods before me.

2. Thou shalt not make unto thee any graven image, or any likeness of any thing that is in heaven above, or that is in the earth beneath, or that is in the water under the earth: Thou shalt not bow down thyself to them, nor serve them: for I the Lord thy God am a jealous God, visiting the iniquity of the fathers upon the children unto the third and fourth generation of them that hate me; And showing mercy unto thousands of them that love me, and keep my commandments.

3. Thou shalt not take the name of the Lord thy God in vain: for the Lord will not hold him guiltless that taketh his name in vain.

4. Remember the sabbath day, to keep it holy. Six days shalt thou labor, and do all thy work: But the seventh day is the sabbath of the Lord thy God: in it thou shalt not do any work, thou, nor thy son, nor thy daughter, thy manservant, nor thy maidservant, nor thy cattle, nor thy stranger that is within thy gates: For in six days the Lord made heaven and earth, the sea, and all that in them is, and rested the seventh day: wherefore the Lord blessed the sabbath day, and hallowed it.

5. Honor thy father and thy mother: that thy days may be long upon the land which the Lord thy God giveth thee.

6. Thou shalt not kill.

7. Thou shalt not commit adultery.

8. Thou shalt not steal.

9. Thou shalt not bear false witness against thy neighbor.

10. Thou shalt not covet thy neighbor’s house, thou shalt not covet thy neighbor’s wife, nor his manservant, nor his maidservant, nor his ox, nor his ass, nor any thing that is thy neighbor’s.

King James Bible, issued by the American Bible Society.

 

Catholic

1. I am the Lord thy God. Thou shalt not have strange gods before me.

2. Thou shalt not take the name of the Lord thy God in vain.

3. Remember thou keep the Sabbath Day.

4. Honor thy Father and thy Mother.

5. Thou shalt not kill.

6. Thou shalt not commit adultery.

7. Thou shalt not steal.

8. Thou shalt not bear false witness against thy neighbor.

9. Thou shalt not covet thy neighbour’s wife.

10. Thou shalt not covet thy neighbour’s goods.

Catholic Catechism by Peter Cardinal Gasparri, “published with Ecclesiastical approval” and bearing the imprimatur of Patrick Cardinal Hayes, Archbishop, New York. P. J. Kenedy & Sons, 1932.

 

Hebrew – First Tables of Stone (Exodus 20)

1. I am the Lord thy God, who brought thee out of the land of Egypt, out of the house of slavery.

2. Thou shalt have no other gods before Me. Thou shalt not make unto thee a graven image, nor any manner of likeness, of any thing that is in heaven above, or that is in the earth beneath, or that is in the water under the earth; Thou shalt not bow down unto them, nor serve them; for I the Lord thy God am a jealous God, visiting the iniquity of the fathers upon the children unto the third and fourth generation of them that hate Me; And showing mercy unto the thousandth generation of them that love Me and keep My commandments.

3. Thou shalt not take the name of the Lord thy God in vain; for the Lord will not hold him guiltless that taketh His name in vain.

4. Remember the Sabbath day to keep it holy. Six days shalt thou labour, and do all thy work. But the seventh day is the Sabbath in honour of the Lord thy God; on it thou shalt not do any work, neither thou, nor thy son, nor thy daughter, thy manservant nor thy maidservant, nor thy cattle, nor thy stranger that is within thy gates; For in six days the Lord made the heavens and the earth, the sea, and all that is in them, and rested on the seventh day; therefore the Lord blessed the Sabbath day, and hallowed it.

5. Honour thy father and thy mother; in order that thy days may be prolonged upon the land which the Lord thy God giveth thee.

6. Thou shalt not kill.

7. Thou shalt not commit adultery.

8. Thou shalt not steal.

9. Thou shalt not bear false witness against thy neighbor.

10. Thou shalt not covet thy neighbour’s house; thou shalt not covet thy neighbour’s wife, nor his manservant, nor his maidservant, nor his ox, nor his ass, nor any thing that is thy neighbour’s.

Bloch Publishing Company, New York, 1922.

 

Second Tables of Stone (Exodus 34) (“the words that were on the first”)

1. Thou shalt worship no other god (For the Lord is a jealous god).

2. Thou shalt make thee no molten gods.

3. The feast of unleavened bread shalt thou keep in the month when the ear is on the corn.

4. All the first-born are mine.

5. Six days shalt thou work, but on the seventh thou shalt rest.

6. Thou shalt observe the feast of weeks, even of the first fruits of the wheat harvest, and the feast of ingathering at the year’s end.

7. Thou shalt not offer the blood of my sacrifice with leavened bread.

8. The fat of my feast shall not remain all night until the morning.

9. The first of the first fruits of thy ground thou shalt bring unto the house of the Lord thy God.

10. Thou shalt not seethe a kid in its mother’s milk.

K. Budde, History of Ancient Hebrew Literature

 

Now, we have said before that the Bible is not infallible, and isn’t proof of anything, but this is pretty significant.

The foundation of morality that most of us have been raised with is highly variable, pending who you ask and what version you take as authoritative.

The point here is not to diminish the value of these Commandments; they still provide an excellent moral framework to live a successful spiritual life.  It should, however, provide the thinking believer with significant food for meditation on why these different versions exist, and what it means to you and your relationship with your Creator.

And finally, if you are wondering about the quote that opened this article it came from the book Pistis Sophia, originally translated and published by G.R.S. Mead in 1921.  It is supposed to be the record of what Jesus taught his disciples in private in his own words.  As with any other holy book, there is no way to know how ‘true’ it is, and whether or not these are Jesus’ actual words; but it is interesting to see the Messiah’s interpretation of the Old Testament Law that he came to fulfill:

 

Pistis Sophia Chapter 102

“Say rather to the men of the world: Be calm, that ye may receive the mysteries of the Light and go on high into the Light-kingdom.

“Say unto them: Be ye loving-unto-men, that ye may be worthy of the mysteries of the Light and go on high into the Light-kingdom.

“Say unto them: Be ye gentle, that ye may receive the mysteries of the Light and go on high into the Light-kingdom.

“Say unto them: Be ye peaceful, that ye may receive the mysteries of the Light and go on high into the Light-kingdom.

“Say unto them: Be ye merciful, that ye may receive the mysteries of the Light and go on high into the Light-kingdom.

“Say unto them: Give ye alms, that ye may receive the mysteries of the Light and go on high into the Light-kingdom.

“Say unto them: Minister unto the poor and the sick and distressed, that ye may receive the mysteries |260. of the Light and go on high into the Light-kingdom.

“Say unto them: Be ye loving-unto-God, that ye may receive the mysteries of the Light and go on high into the Light-kingdom.

“Say unto them: Be ye righteous, that ye may receive the mysteries [of the Light] and go on high into the Light-kingdom.

“Say unto them: Be good, that ye may receive the mysteries [of the Light] and go on high into the Light-kingdom.

“Say unto them: Renounce all, that ye may receive the mysteries of the Light and go on high into the Light-kingdom.

“These are all the boundaries of the ways for those who are worthy of the mysteries of the Light.

 

And for those of you who are REALLY into Hebraic law, try keeping all 613 Commandments!

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Q&A: “Why do all guys cheat?”

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All these guys only have one thing in common....

(Unedited) Question submitted via Formspring
“Hello Dave, I must admit that I like your articles on beliefnet and will like you to keep it up. My question is why is it so hard trying to get involved with a guy that doesn’t cheat, because all the guys I have been with had cheated at one time or the other.”

First of all, let me say clearly: not all guys cheat, since I myself never have and I have several guy friends who never have.

That being said, though: *LOTS* of guys do cheat.   And there are two main reasons why you keep ending up with guys who do:

The first is rather simple, and unavoidable: it is impossible for a man to stop looking at other women; he can’t help it, it’s in his blood.  But that is NOT an excuse for cheating; being able to control our impulses is what makes us different from the animals.

The second, much bigger reason you are having problems: you pick the wrong guys.

It seems based on your statement “because all the guys I have been with had cheated at one time or the other” you have what Dr. Drew calls ‘a broken picker’.  For whatever reason, you gravitate towards the type of guy who ultimately cannot be trusted, and there is probably a very good reason why.

Look at your relationship with your father and his relationship with your mother.

Chances are extremely high that either 1. Dad cheated on mom, 2. Dad wasn’t around, or 3. Both.

It is very possible that you learned at a young age that ‘men who love me cheat/leave’, and you’ve been living into it ever since.  If the issue isn’t with Dad, if you look into your early life, there is probably someone close to you who violated your trust, or seemed to leave you when you needed them most.

The solution, also has two parts:  1. Recognize you have a broken picker, and that the first guy who gets your attention is probably not the best guy to get involved with.  I for my part am attracted to crazy girls with lots of baggage; once I realized this and started paying more attention I was able to find the right woman and have been happily married ever since.

2. Forgive the person who hurt you, even if you weren’t consciously aware that it hurt before now.

Since it is only after your forgive them for what they did (or didn’t do) that you can be free from this pattern and able to create something new.

Add to this truly loving yourself and recognizing that you are good enough and your problem will magically fade away.

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Jesus and Buddha, their sayings compared; Or, meeting with the Masters

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We have discussed Buddhism and how to ‘properly’ interpret scripture before, so today we will discuss the parallel sayings of two of the world’s Great Masters: Buddha and Jesus Christ.
Originally, this article was intended to compare, contrast, and explain these passages; but upon reflection there is nothing that can be added beyond the Great Teachers’ own words.

It is sincerely hoped that by reading these few short parallel sayings, that it may awaken in you a desire to know more; and a realization of the common ground between not just these two, but of all the world’s many religious traditions.

These passages are reprinted from “Jesus and Buddha: The Parallel Sayings” edited by Marcus Borg, published by Ulysses Press.

Jesus: “Do to others as you would have them do to you.” Luke 6:31
Buddha: “Consider others as yourself.” Dhammapada 10:1

Jesus: “If anyone strikes you on the cheek, offer the other also.” Luke 6:29
Buddha: “If anyone should give you a blow with his hand, with a stick, or with a knife, you should abandon any desires and utter no evil words.” Majjhima Nikaya 21:6

Jesus: “Truly I tell you, just as you did not do it to one of the least of these, you did not do it to me.” Matthew 25:45
Buddha: “If you do not tend to one another, then who is there to tend you? Whoever would tend me, he should tend the sick.” Vinaya, Mahavagga 8:26.3

Jesus: “Put your sword back into its place; for all those who take the sword will perish by the sword.” Matthew 26:52
Buddha: “Abandoning the taking of life, the ascetic Gautama dwells refraining from taking life, without stick or sword.” Digha Nikaya 1:1.8

Jesus: “Those who want to save their life will lose it, and those who lose their life for my sake will save it.” Mark 8:35
Buddha: “With the relinquishing of all thought and egotism, the enlightened one is liberated through not clinging.” Majjhima Nikaya 72:15

Jesus: “Go therefore and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit, and teaching them to obey everything that I have commanded you.” Matthew 28:19-20
Buddha: “Teach the dharma which is lovely at the beginning, lovely in the middle, lovely at the end. Explain with the spirit and the letter in the fashion of Brahma. In this way you will be completely fulfilled and wholly pure.” Vinaya Mahavagga 1:11.1

Buddha: One is the way to gain, the other is the way to Nirvana, knowing this fact, students of the Buddha should not take pleasure in being honored, but, should practice detachment.
Jesus: No slave can serve two masters For a slave will either hate one and love the other, or be devoted to one and despise the other. You cannot serve God and wealth.

Buddha: Just as a mother would protect her only child at the risk of her own life, even so, cultivate a boundless heart towards all beings. Let your thoughts of boundless love pervade the whole world.
Jesus: This is my commandment, that you love one another as I have loved you. No one has greater love than this, to lay down one’s life for one’s friends.

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Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional , Or, why things go wrong, and how to make them go right

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“All that we are is the result of what we have thought. If a man speaks or acts with an evil thought, pain follows him. If a man speaks or acts with a pure thought, happiness follows him, like a shadow that never leaves him.”
-Buddha

As I have said before, I like learning new ideas and exposing people to new ideas. Unfortunately, there are times when people will ignore great ideas because of their own preconceived notions, so I have to be a little sneaky.

What I’m about to share with you will be life changing for some, and completely obvious to others.
For those of you who know where it came from, take it as a challenge to better apply these teachings in your own life!

So here are 4 Truths I’d like you to consider:

1. Life consists of pain; this is the first Noble Truth.
From the day we come into the world, to the day that we leave it, we all experience pain; it is universal.

2.The Root of pain is Attachment; this is the second Noble Truth.
Have you ever heard  that ‘the Great Way is not difficult, for those who have no preferences”? If you think about it, many (really, all) of the things we get upset about aren’t particularly good or bad in and of themselves, only how we relate to them. Let’s say that you’re running late for a movie, and are getting stressed out. There is nothing particularly bad about being where you are when you are there, except for the fact that you have decided you’d rather be somewhere else!
Or maybe you hate your job, but remember there was a time you were praying they would hire you; the only thing that has changed is your perception of what it is you want.

3. The End of all pain is attainable; this is the third Noble Truth
If Attachment is the root of all suffering, then their must be a way to end it; which leads to….

4. There is a Path to the End of all pain, and that Path is the Teaching, this is the fourth Noble Truth
The simple answer is give up your attachments, and you’ll stop feeling any pain. Now, this doesn’t mean that if someone steps on your foot you won’t experience a physical sensation; it only means that the accompanying emotional response will be gone.

I hear you, how do you give up your attachments? You’ve spent your whole life collecting them!
Don’t worry, people have been asking that question for about 1,500 years and have come up with 8 steps to take: right view, right intention, right speech, right action, right livelihood, right effort, right mindfulness, right concentration.

Let’s look a little closer at these 8 steps. There is no way I can do them justice in a single article, but I can try to point you in the right direction:

Right View means seeing things as they really are, which is no small feat! I’ll give you an easy example: imagine someone cuts you off in traffic, your normal response may be to honk and shout at them; but maybe that person is racing to the hospital for a sick spouse, or racing to pick up their child from school. Maybe they didn’t even see you there, who knows. Or when I deal with my Clients who tell me people are spreading rumors about them, I point out that most people are so caught up in their own lives that they aren’t thinking about you at all! And if they are, it’s probably to try to hide and compensate for their own insecurities.
The point is to try and see past your own judgments to look at things objectively.

Right Intention means to genuinely try and do the right thing. If you know you’re doing something wrong, petty, or hurtful…don’t.

Right Speech means to tell the truth, and not say things you know are going to hurt someone else. I don’t mean lie or avoid telling a person something because they may not want to hear it. But there is always a way to express yourself that will maximize people’s understanding and minimize confusion.

Right Action means to do the right thing! But beyond that, it’s doing what you know is right all the time, even when no one is looking. When you’re at work, work hard; don’t slack off because the boss isn’t looking. Or put another way, how you do anything is how you do everything; so always do a good job!

Right Livelihood means to stop doing things you know are hurting yourself or someone else. Maybe you smoke and know you should quit, or you know you should lose some weight. Well…do it! We have already talked about how to make change quickly, but if you need more help contact me and I’ll help you out.

Right Effort means always trying to do better. It’s very easy to get caught up going through the motions in life and turn around and years have passed. Think about it, how long ago was your High School graduation, or your wedding day? The next 20 years will go by in a flash, and one day there will be no more years; the sooner you develop the habit of self-improvement the greater your life will be.

Right Mindfulness means keeping your mind on the present moment. Remember when we said that Fear only lives in the future, and guilt only lives in the past? The present moment is the only time you have power, but it is where you have ALL power! Keep your head where you are and what you’re doing, and you’ll have the calm, peace, and happiness of a Saint.

Right Concentration means learning how to focus on one thing intensely. It’s very closely related to Right Mindfulness, but it is more about having a time set aside for prayer and meditation, and communing with your Creator. In my experience, this is what is most lacking in most people’s lives, even religious ones, since it doesn’t do much good to show up at Church or Temple, and shut God out of your life until next weekend’s service.

“More I would say, but words profit not. God be amongst you.”
-Archangel Gabriel

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Interpreting Scripture; Or, I don’t think that’s what Jesus/Buddha/Muhammad (PBUH) meant….

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Jesus, Buddha, and Muhammad (PBUH)

10:34 “Do not think that I have come to bring peace to the earth. I have not come to bring peace but a sword. 10:35 For I have come to set a man against his father, a daughter against her mother, and a daughter-in-law against her mother-in-law, 10:36 and a man’s enemies will be the members of his household.”
-Jesus Christ, Matthew 10:34-36

People have been writing various Holy Books for as long as there has been writing. Pending how you choose to interpret certain cave paintings, people have been recording experiences with the Sacred from *before * there was writing!

Some of the earliest known, if not absolute oldest writings every found are the Sumerian Epics of Creation, the Enuma Elish which outlines the creation of the Universe and how Man came to exist. We will look at the Enuma Elish a bit closer later on.

Needless to say, quite a bit of emphasis is placed on who’s Holy Book is ‘most accurate’, and the unadulterated word of God, so let us clarify the issue right off.

No one’s Holy Book is the unadulterated word of God.

This bold statement can be readily supported by two facts: one, unless it was written by God’s own hand, it was filtered through human beings on the way to the page, and filtered again when it was compressed into language. In the case of the Christian New Testament or the Qu’ran, these books were not written by Jesus or Muhammad (PBUH), but by followers who recorded their words to the best of their abilities. In the case of the New Testament, it was recorded by the followers of followers, usually decades after the events actually took place.

The second point, is if God had absolutely said what He mean at one time in one place, that would be the only Holy Book and that would be the only religion. The fact that an (assumed) all-knowing, all-powerful Deity allows multiple paths to exist, would seem to imply there is some value in multiple paths. How to know what the Deity is like has been explored here, and the logical flaws with believing any one Faith has all the answers has been addressed here.

What is Scripture?
First, what Scripture is *not *. Scripture is not PROOF of anything.
The argument that the Bible / Qu’ran / Torah / Bhagavad Gita says -blank- only works if the person chooses to accept the book as an authority!
Since whatever argument you are making can probably be refuted from inside your own Holy Book, much less from someone else’s.
Remember, believing something passionately is not the same as absolute empirical proof.

So what, then, is the value of Scripture?
Quite frankly, the value of Scripture is to gain an insight into the minds of people who ideally witnessed fantastic events, or at least had dedicated their lives to the service of their Creator. They provide a brilliant insight into history, mythology, and life lessons that still apply to every facet of our modern lives.

If you choose to believe that one Holy Book is vastly superior than all the others, I would pose two question: one, have you ever read any of the other ones? They may have more to offer than you think! Two, if you are unwilling to read any of the others, then take the time to educate yourself on the history of your Holy Book. Where it came from, who wrote it and when, who edited it and why, and who translated it. Just learning about what happened at the Council of Nicea should be fascinating study for any Christian, Muslim, or other related Faiths.

What, then, is the best way to interpret Scripture?
First and foremost, realize that your interpretation is just that: your interpretation. And here is a secret: your Rabbi, Imam, Preacher, anyone else only has their own interpretations as well. God is more than capable of revealing to you what God wants you to know.
A good way to answer questions and solve problems is to sit down with your chosen Holy Book and just open it at random and let your eyes fall onto the page and read it. Quite often the answer you are seeking will be revealed to you!

And above all else: wrestle with it.
If you haven’t read you Holy Book from cover to cover, make a plan and do it. If you are REALLY serious, learn it’s original language and read it there, since the process of translation always takes something out of a work, as any person who speaks multiple languages can tell you.

And when you are trying to understand things, they often make sense out of context.
For instance, at the beginning of this article is a quote from Jesus saying that he came to bring discord, not peace. Look at it in the context of the verse that come before and afterwards (this and all verses taken from www.netbible.com):

Fear God, Not Man
10:26 “Do not be afraid of them, for nothing is hidden that will not be revealed, and nothing is secret that will not be made known.
10:27 What I say to you in the dark, tell in the light, and what is whispered in your ear, proclaim from the housetops.
10:28 Do not be afraid of those who kill the body but cannot kill the soul. Instead, fear the one who is able to destroy both soul and body in hell.
10:29 Aren’t two sparrows sold for a penny? Yet not one of them falls to the ground apart from your Father’s will.
10:30 Even all the hairs on your head are numbered.
10:31 So do not be afraid; you are more valuable than many sparrows.
10:32 “Whoever, then, acknowledges me before people, I will acknowledge before my Father in heaven.
10:33 But whoever denies me before people, I will deny him also before my Father in heaven.

Not Peace, but a Sword
10:34 “Do not think that I have come to bring peace to the earth. I have not come to bring peace but a sword.
10:35 For I have come to set a man against his father, a daughter against her mother, and a daughter-in-law against her mother-in-law,
10:36 and a man’s enemies will be the members of his household.
10:37 “Whoever loves father or mother more than me is not worthy of me, and whoever loves son or daughter more than me is not worthy of me.
10:38 And whoever does not take up his cross and follow me is not worthy of me.
10:39 Whoever finds his life will lose it, and whoever loses his life because of me will find it.

Rewards
10:40 “Whoever receives you receives me, and whoever receives me receives the one who sent me.
10:41 Whoever receives a prophet in the name of a prophet will receive a prophet’s reward. Whoever receives a righteous person in the name of a righteous person will receive a righteous person’s reward.
10:42 And whoever gives only a cup of cold water to one of these little ones in the name of a disciple, I tell you the truth, he will never lose his reward.”

Jesus is talking to the Disciples about the need to live and apply his teachings, and not to be afraid of other people’s judgments or criticisms, and to be fearless even in the face of death.
While this is clearly a Christian slanted message, it applies to any Spiritual person across all areas of life: stand up straight! Know your passions and convictions and live them, since you are utterly invincible. And if the time comes that you should fall, you can either fall knowing you did your best or reaping your rewards in the next life.

And so what out of context seems like a few verses advocating arguing with your parent, in context is showing the need to be committed to your ideals and convictions no matter what life throws at you.

Understand?

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Pornography, masturbation, and sin oh my!

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Tell them to knock first next time!

Unedited questions submitted via Formspring:
“I have a great girlfriend and we have a good sex life. But I watch porn everyday and I feel ashamed. I’ve tried to stop but after about a week I go back to my old ways. She would be very upset if she found out.”

“I masturbate every day thinking bout my GF, I know its bad when its too much but I am helpless at times because I miss her , what should I do? I am really depressed ? How to control it ? Thank u ….”

These may seem like two different questions, but I post them here because the two are highly related: the morality and immorality of pornography and masturbation (since no one watches porn just to watch it).
Also, both questions deal with seeming addictions off a sexual nature

First and foremost, here is the best way to know if you are addicted to porn, masturbation, or anything else: if it is causing you negative repercussions and you are doing it anyway, then you are addicted.

As for whether or not these things are ‘wrong’, most every religion and culture has some opinion on the matter. The Christian Bible has many verses warning against ‘sexual immorality’, without ever clearly stating what ‘immorality’ is! On the one hand it says things like
“You have heard that it was said, ‘Do not commit adultery.’ But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart” (Matthew 5:28). But, then it has an entire book dedicated to graphically describing sex between two unmarried people…one of which was married to someone else! (The Song of Solomon).

We’ve spoken before about how there is no single ‘correct’ system of morality or immorality; most anything we hold to be absolutely true someone else holds to be absolutely false, so the true benchmark of right and wrong can only be found within the confines of your own mind and heart.

The reality is, Human Beings are sexual creatures, we are born with certain urges and desires that were placed in our hearts by our Creator. It’s possible to believe our own natural urges were placed there by some sort of Adversary or Devil, but to believe that means you believe God is so weak He can’t control His own Creation; something I personally can not accept.

So, then, if it is is normal and natural to feel certain urges which ALL of us experience, then why would safely expressing them in a way that is not hurting us or anyone else, be ‘wrong’? And if even wanting to do something is truly the same as doing it, then all of us are damned in advance; but that just doesn’t seem what God is really like.
Also, notice that anyone who is too adamant about what you should and should not do sexually, probably expects you to do what *they * tell you to do in this and every other area of your life.

The reality is looking at pornography or masturbating are neither good nor bad in and of themselves; like watching football or listening to opera isn’t bad in and of itself. If you begin to mistake either of these activities for what love or sex is really like, then that is a problem; since real sex  and porn sex are basically unrelated. And as we said before, if doing these things are costing you in your real life, in the sense of damaging relationships, missed work or other obligations, etc. then you may need to look into getting some help.

There is one wild card variable in all of this, however: and that is people who are sexual abuse survivors. People who were touched inappropriately as children often grow up to have warped sexual sensibilities that can manifest in unhealthy ways. If you have had something like this in your past and now you are having unhealthy sexual appetites (be it too much, or too little) then you really should seek some sort of professional help.

So, let us look specifically at these two questions specifically:
For the first question, why are you ashamed, and why would she be upset?
Do you have some particular fetish that you think is unusual, or embarrassing? Is it something you can keep private, or do you think you will have to express it inevitably? If you like something that is extremely unusual (I hesitate to use the word perverse) than it may be better to keep it to yourself or stop doing it completely.

Have you tried talking to her about it? Be sure to let her realize you aren’t looking at these things because something is wrong with her, and that it truly isn’t the same as going out and doing it. In my personal relationships coaching experience, most women are at least somewhat open to the idea of pornography, but almost never on the level that men are. This is because sex for men and women are two VASTLY different experiences. Your average woman who caught her man looking at porn would think he’s doing it because something is wrong with her; a man who caught his woman looking at porn would think it’s HOT!

As for the second question:
Give up the idea that it’s ‘too much’; the reality is that it is what it is.
Some guys, especially younger guys, can go many times in a day; so if you have the time, desire and the opportunity, have at it.
The deeper question is, where is this girl and why do you miss her? Is she still your girlfriend and just not around as often as you’d like, or did you break up with her? If your relationship is on the rocks, or if you are currently single holing yourself up in your room self-servicing yourself is not the best way to find a new relationship!

The reality is, sexuality is natural and attempting to repress it will NEVER work for long (just look at all the ‘holy men’ sex scandals in the world).
The goal, then is to find a way to express it in a healthy way that isn’t hurting you or anyone else; what one or more consenting adults do in the privacy of their own homes is their own business.
Whether or not it is ‘wrong’ or not will be debated for eternity.
If someone tries to convince you that it’s wrong, I’d say that they are almost CERTAINLY a hypocrite, and on the off chance they aren’t: tell them if they believe that then don’t look at porn and don’t masturbate. Easy.

It is really no one else’s business what you do and don’t do, AS LONG AS you aren’t hurting yourself or someone else with your behavior.

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Immortals; Or, the greatest stories ever told

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Classics are classics! =)

“For fathers are all too jealous against their children . . . What woes did Danae endure on the wide sea through her sire’s mad rage!”
Apollonius Rhodius, Argonautica 4. 1090 ff (trans. Seaton) (Greek epic C3rd B.C.) :

I’ll make a deal with you.
I won’t spoil the movie for you with this article, but I WILL explain to you why the movie is worth seeing, and more importantly why mythology is worth paying attention to.

As of the time of this writing, Immortals is leading at the box office, and receiving generally mixed reviews. Personally I found it to be AMAZING. Like 300 on steroids…and I *really* loved 300.

The movie loosely follows the story of Theseus and Phaedra, but before I go too deeply into Theseus’ story, and why it still applies to your modern life, let me tell you a little bit about what Mythology is.

One of the biggest discoveries of the 20th century was Joseph Campbell’s discovery of The Heroic Journey.
In a nutshell, the Heroic Journey is a story where:
“A hero ventures forth from the world of common day into a region of supernatural wonder: fabulous forces are there encountered and a decisive victory is won: the hero comes back from this mysterious adventure with the power to bestow boons on his fellow man”

Have you ever noticed that Star Wars, The Matrix, Lord Of The Rings, and Avatar are all basically the same movie?
What the Heroic Journey teaches is that certain stories keep getting told again and again across time because they apply to all of us, and the stages we all have to go through in our own quest for spiritual growth.

It’s outside the scope of this article to explain all 17 steps of the journey here, but it would serve you well to read them and see how it applies to what you’ve gone through up until now, and will probably face in the future.
Wikipedia gives an excellent overview of the stages, and how they apply to famous stories and even bible passages.

For our purposes here, I want to talk about Greek Mythology, and how it still applies to our day to day lives.

Mythology was never meant to be a collection of ‘boring old stories’, but the living breathing history of the human race. It’s a combination of actual events and fundamental lessons that should never be forgotten.

Immortals (loosely) combines to major aspects of Greek Mythology: Zeus’ overthrow of the Titans, and the story of Theseus, Zeus’ favorite person born of a mortal woman.

In extremely broad strokes, the back story is Cronus, God of time, overthrew his own father Uranus who was the God of the Sky.
Then Cronus married Rhea (Goddess of motherhood and female fertility), and had his own children: Zeus (God of sky and weather, law, order and fate), Poseidon (God of the sea, rivers, flood and drought, earthquakes, and horses ) and Hades (the King of the Underworld, the God of death and the dead).
In time, Cronus’ children overthrew him like he’d overthrown his own father, a cycle that played out again in the hero Theseus’ life, and his prophesied salvation of humanity.

But HERE is why this story is important:
Beyond just an interesting story about war, deception, intrigue, and sex (as if that wasn’t enough!), these stories give an insight into the very foundation of reality and all of creation.

Notice, Cronus (Time) is the offspring of Uranus (the Sky) and Gaia (the Earth). Without an earth and sky to observe, how would we even know time was passing? Once the limitations of a 24 hour period was established, it was possible for the Earth’s own creative ability (Through Gaia’s daughter Rhea) to combine with time (Cronus) to give rise to weather and seasons (Zeus), oceans, tides, and droughts (Poseidon) and even death and an underworld (Hades). The Titans give, and the Titans taketh away!

Add to that the continuing evolution from huge general concepts like Uranus as the entire sky, and the entire Earth (Gaia) down into a more concrete time (Cronus) and femininity (Rhea) into the even more distinct forms of their children Zeus, Poseidon, and Hades. And their children are even more specific.

For instance, Aphrodite (Goddess of Love) has an affair with Ares (God of War) to give birth to: Deimos (fear, dread, terror), Phobos (panic), Harmonia (harmony), and Eros (love). Passion and aggression can unite to create both beautiful and terrible things!

Thousands of pages have been written about mythology across thousands of years, so there is far more that could be said then I have space to write.
If you want to find some easy introductions to mythology, see Clash Of The Titans (new or old)! Or NBC did a great version of the Odyssey a few years back and there is also Troy, which was like the Illiad without the Gods, but still tells a good story.

Or even go to the book store or library and check out a children’s book on mythology; don’t feel embarrassed, it is easier to get started when it’s written in plain English! Every nation on Earth has their own mythology, if Greek isn’t your thing, maybe Chinese, African, Native American, or some other nation or culture’s is!

I hope you see and enjoy the movie, but even more I hope you start a love affair with the same stories that have captivated the minds of people for thousands of years!

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Homosexuality, virginity, guilt, and sex; Or, does God want you to wait till marriage?

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Michelangelo clearly understood....

This was one of my my controversial (and popular) articles to date.   In honor of the Beliefnet post on “Who said it: Jesus or Paul” (and the challenge of Christianity vs Paulianity) I am reposting it here:

Question submitted via Formspring.me:
“I feel guilty for not being a virgin and sometimes having gay feelings (because I was raised with the belief that both are wrong). I feel like less of a spiritual person because I had pre-marital sex and I feel lesbian sometimes. What’s a girl to do???”

The first thing to do, is split this question into two parts: 1, is it necessary to wait until marriage to have sex, and 2. is it ‘wrong’ to be a lesbian.

Let’s look at the first part, first.
While Christians are not the only ones who hold these beliefs, they certainly are the most common in the United States at least; so let us look at a passage from the Bible that is most often used as ‘proof’ that pre-marital sex is wrong.

1 Corinthians 6:12-20 (New International Version)

Sexual Immorality
12″Everything is permissible for me”—but not everything is beneficial. “Everything is permissible for me”—but I will not be mastered by anything. 13″Food for the stomach and the stomach for food”—but God will destroy them both. The body is not meant for sexual immorality, but for the Lord, and the Lord for the body. 14By his power God raised the Lord from the dead, and he will raise us also. 15Do you not know that your bodies are members of Christ himself? Shall I then take the members of Christ and unite them with a prostitute? Never! 16Do you not know that he who unites himself with a prostitute is one with her in body? For it is said, “The two will become one flesh.”[a] 17But he who unites himself with the Lord is one with him in spirit.

18Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a man commits are outside his body, but he who sins sexually sins against his own body. 19Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; 20you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your body.

Seems pretty straight forward, right?
Or is it?

First thing, who wrote this, and who was it intended for?
Paul wrote this somewhere around the year 55 AD; DECADES after Jesus Christ was already crucified. Add to that, Paul never even knew the man, ‘being struck blind on the road to Damascus’ notwithstanding.
And just in case you take Paul’s word as Gospel (pun intended), remember Peter was the rock that Jesus said his church would be built on. And Peter and Paul became *bitter rivals * while they were both still alive.

In these verses, Paul is advising against sexual immorality…what is that?
What does morality or immorality even mean?
I’ll tell you: it’s *totally relative *.

There is no universal definition of morality; it varies from place to place, time to time, situation to situation, and person to person.
I’ll give you an example: most people would agree murder is wrong, yet soldiers win medals for killing large numbers of people.
Or we agree stealing is wrong, but what about police raiding a drug dealers warehouse and stealing their drugs? That’s a ‘good’ thing, even though they are still breaking, entering, and stealing from those people.

Understand?

So is the point that you shouldn’t listen to Paul?
Not necessarily, the point is you should decide how much weight you should put into a letter written 2,000 years ago to a group of people you’ve probably never heard of!

Another point that was made in our previous talk about sex is that in the past, land and title were passed along by bloodline; so being ABSOLUTELY SURE a child was yours was top priority. In that case, making sure your wife was a virgin on your wedding night was the best way to make sure the child was yours.
In the year 2011, however, we have a little thing called a DNA test. It’s no mystery who the father is anymore, so that reason for waiting for marriage is out.

And for the arguments that it is ‘better’ to wait: no one knows if it’s better to wait or not.
Why? Since the people who waited, waited; they don’t know what it is like to have pre-marital sex with someone. And the ones who didn’t wait, didn’t wait; they don’t know if it would have been better on their wedding night or not.

So what’s the answer to the first part of the question?
Sex is only a ‘sin’ if you think it is.
There is no logical reason to believe it; biological drives are biological drives. If two consenting adults decide to SAFELY lay with one another, who are we to judge?
Just be sure not to mistake sex for love; the two quite often have nothing to do with each other, especially for men!

Now to the second part.
Whether or not it is a ‘sin’ to be gay is a HUGE can of worms that I couldn’t do justice if I wrote 100 more pages, so I will try to be brief.

A lot of the Bible based arguments against it were written by our good friend Paul.
Recognize also, he was actively trying to preach to the Greeks, where homosexuality was VERY common. The Greek solution to the problem of keeping women virgins (an idea they came up with quite independently of Christianity…see? Culture.) was for men to have sex with men.

Sex was also a big part of the Greek Mystery Religions, which were the popular faiths of the time. What’s the best way to get people to stop doing something? Convince them God hates them for it.
What’s the best way to get new converts? Promise them you’ll tell them how to make God stop hating them.

Here’s the challenge, though.
Most of the anti-gay passages in the Bible are aimed at specific individuals, like the people of Sodom and Gomorrah, who were terrible for MANY reasons. Look up the Book of Jasher and see what it says about them in there! None of these verses exist in a vacuum; they were written by someone, for someone, at a certain period in time; it’s a mistake to look at them like absolute statements that apply at all times to all people.

The Bible, and any other ‘Holy Book’ only has what power and authority that you give it. If you’ve ever wondered why you quote Bible verses to people and they don’t care, this is why. Same as if someone comes at you with verses from the Koran, Torah, or Rig Veda it may not have too much of an impact on you, either; if you haven’t decided to ‘believe’ in the authority of those books.

But let’s say it is a ‘sin’ (which I don’t personally believe): then
“23for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God”
Romans 3:23 (New International Version).

And add to that

When they kept on questioning him, he straightened up and said to them, “If any one of you is without sin, let him be the first to throw a stone at her.”
John 8:7 (New International Version).

The bottom line is this:
there is NO absolute benchmark of right and wrong in this world; almost any situation you can think of either has situations where it is accepted, or at least was accepted at some point in the past.
And if there is no absolute benchmark of universal morality, then right and wrong is how you define it. If you choose to define it in a Christian framework, that’s fine; but you can do it in a Jewish, Muslim, Hindu, or even Atheist framework just as easily.

Remember, the person you need to be concerned about is not your family, friends, and church members. You should *only * concern yourself with He who hung the stars and put the planets in motion.
And I can tell you, that God doesn’t think like we do.
God knows everything, who you are, who you came into this world to be; your mind, your heart, your impulse, and what is ‘right and wrong’ for YOU.

If you are curious about girls, mess around with one, and see if you like it.
If you decide you are a lesbian, or bisexual, then be the best one you can be.

Turn within, talk to God, figure out what’s right for you and do it.

The world would be MUCH better off if more people followed their own bliss and served God in their own way to the best of their own ability, rather than trying to dictate to OTHER people how *they * should live.

What do you think? Feel free to comment down below!

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How to Trust; Or, how to Forgive (VIDEO)

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You have to trust *yourself* before you can forgive others!

If you have been following this blog, then you have no doubt heard that you have to forgive the people in your life who have hurt you.
No matter who it was, no matter what they’ve done: forgive them.

The reason why this is, is as Buddha says: “holding on to anger with the intent of hurting someone else, is like picking up a hot coal with the intention of throwing it: you are the one who gets burned.

Above all else, realize that forgiving someone doesn’t mean you are saying what they did is OK (it’s not); forgiveness means you are giving up the negativity and anger you still harbor inside.
It’s not a gift that you give them, it’s a gift you give YOU.

Recently many people have asked HOW to forgive, which we have talked about before; but there is enough to say about forgiveness that it could fill up hours of time!
So here in Episode 52 of All About You, we discuss both how to forgive, and how to trust (which actually is a by product of forgiveness, or at least the ability to forgive):

Part 1, on forgiveness

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Part 2, on trust (the last 10 seconds of the episode were cut off by accident, but my point was already made!)

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Please enjoy these videos, and resolve today to stop giving away your power to other people. Remember, no one can make you feel inferior without your permission; learn and apply these tools to forgive and trust YOURSELF first, and then those in your life. Once you gain the ability trust and forgive unconditionally, you’ll be able to love unconditionally; once you can do that, you can do anything.

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What God is like, Or, how to see for yourself (VIDEO)

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All you have to do is listen....

“All complex things decay…work out your own salvation with diligence”
-Buddha’s dying words

The reason why I became a Spiritual Coach, and do the work that I do, is because I am working hard to bring God back to the forefront of people’s minds and lives.

And even as you read that, you probably reacted in one of two ways: if you are a religious person, it probably filled you with some sort of pride about ‘your side winning’. And if you are a non-religious person, it may have made you roll your eyes in semi-disgust. So if you are still reading, I appreciate it!

The fact is, over the centuries, quite a lot of damage has been done to this world ‘in the name of God’; and there are some who would try and paint our current political and military conflicts with the same white wash.

Now, in the video below, I explain many ways about how to know what God is like, how to know it in your heart, and how to experience it for yourself.

So here in this article I’d like to expand a little more on the barriers to knowing God, and how they can be overcome.

For reasons I also give in the video below, no one KNOWS where we come from, or what happens when we die; fervent belief is *no substitute * for absolute empirical knowledge. Ttherefore all we are left with are our faith, and our beliefs. In other words, all ANY of us have to go on, are our opinions. As such, I am not holding mine out to be the absolute truth; that is something you must decide for yourself. But I’d like to share with you some ideas to try on, which will help you find and connect with your Creator like never before.

First, give up the idea that God chooses sides.
Consider, when you watch a little league baseball game, are you REALLY rooting for one side to win or lose, or are you hoping they all enjoy playing the game? Or, if you truly are hoping one side wins, are you wishing ultimate and total destruction on the the losing team?
This seems to be a simple analogy, but I believe it to be an apt one. The majority of the world’s religions teach that we are all God’s children, and that this Deity is All Knowing, and All Powerful.
So consider, how can an All Knowing, All Powerful Deity be ‘against’ anything? If God was against something, it simply wouldn’t be.
If God has the capacity to eradicate something at any time, and doesn’t, then that thing must serve some purpose. Of course, this raises quite a few questions about the ‘problem of evil’.

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Second, give up the idea that you are somehow separated from God.
I have discussed in the past how the entire concept of ‘Sin’  has been massively blown out of proportion. If you look across time, the bigger a given Church or religious authority became, the bigger deal that sin became.
Remember, for our purposes, God is both All Knowing, and All Loving, or at the *very * least, neutral. How then, can you be separate from a God who knows all and sees all? How can anything you’ve done, or thought about doing, ‘offend’ a mind like that?

Consider again, how we are with children. It is a parent’s role to teach and guide a child, and punish them when necessary; but even when you have to discipline them, do you HATE them? Do you wish your children to suffer for the rest of their lives for spilling juice in the car?
Of course not. Then how can we believe our Father (or Mother) in Heaven can hold an eternal grudge, when we don’t even given our limited awareness?

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Third, give up the idea that there is only one truth.
Let me be clear, I am not saying give up YOUR truth. If you have found a religion or system of belief that helps you make sense of the world, to feel safe and connected with the Universe, and generally positive and happy: stick with it! What I am inviting you to do, is to give up opposition of people who see things differently then you do. There are over 6 billion different people, with different perspectives and combinations of experiences and cultural heritage; it is impossible to dictate to someone else what is right for them, when most of us have difficulty finding it for ourselves!
And remember, even your most deeply held convictions would probably be vastly different if you’d been born 1,000 miles east or west of where you were, or 100 years into the past or future. Many things that seem like absolutes are still byproducts of our *own * perceptions, culture, and experiences.

Fourth, give up thinking God thinks like we do.
Consider, how smart would you need to be to memorize every book ever written? Or the words to every song ever sung? Or even something easier: the name of every single person you’ve ever met ever.
Can’t do it?

Compare that, with a Mind  that not only conceived of all of Creation, but actually set it in motion! A Mind that (I believe) is still monitoring and interacting with that Creation all the time.

And then think of what that Mind must be like.
Does it seem like a Mind that will get ‘offended’ by the fact that you eat pork, or miss a trip to the Temple from time to time?
Now let me be clear, there is a lot of value in strict adherence to religious rules and guidelines, but the point I am making is that is for our Human benefit, not for the sake of a Creator who is beyond logic, comprehension, or limitations.

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Finally, know that God loves you.
God loves you.
Let me say it again: God loves you.
And just in case you missed it, or it makes you feel somehow unworthy, or not good enough: GOD LOVES YOU!

How can I say this with certainty? Simple: you got to live.
God set all of Creation in motion, to align forces to create you, just you! Think about it, out of 500 million sperm cells, it was just you that emerged. Out of every near miss in your life, you have survived, Your parents met and survived, and theirs before them; the odds of you existing are incomprehensible! You are a Miracle. An absolute, Divine masterpiece. You have all the power of the Universe coursing through every inch of you, every cell.

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You are made in the image and likeness of your Creator, however you conceive of it. You are the child of royalty, the absolute center of the Universe: you are perfect.

Give thanks for the great gifts you have been given, and show your gratitude  by making the absolute most you can of your time, and getting to know your Creator in ways like never before.

What do you think? Feel free to comment down below!

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