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Making Space for Peace

posted by Jodi Chapman

Jodi Chapman - CandlesI’ve been looking for ways to invite more peace into my life. More balance. More yin energy. More restful energy. More “ahhhhhhh” energy.

Like many of us, I’ve been going, going, going for years. And all of this doing has become a habit. It’s become the known in my life. It’s become my comfort zone.

I love what I do. I really do. I get to write, inspire, connect, and collaborate. I get to witness shifts in others. I get to be a part of seeing someone embrace their life and realize how they, too, can communicate regularly with their soul. I get to see how their lives deepen and become fun again. I also get to sleep in, choose how to spend my days, and go where my muse takes me. And I’m definitely filled with so much gratitude for all of this. Truly I am.

I just want to shift my energy a little bit. I want to slow down and nurture my spiritual foundation. I want to listen to my body and give it what it needs: to rest, to recharge, to be still. 

I want to create routine where downtime is built in and peacefulness is the norm. I want to create space where I connect with my inner voice and the divine.

It’s time. And I think that if I’m feeling this yearning, chances are someone else is, too.

So I’m going to share what I’m doing to create this peaceful, easy feeling in my life. And I hope that you’ll get in touch with your soul and make space for peace in your life as well.

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Here’s what I’m doing to create this space:

  1. Setting boundaries. This is a big one for me. I tend to want to please everyone, which means I say yes to things that I don’t have time for, don’t always want to do, or do want to do but don’t need to do right this moment. So I’m learning to set boundaries. I create buffers in my day. I take the first week of each month off from calls/Skype sessions in order to center myself and have space to go within. I also have at least 3-4 days each week without calls for the same reason. And I’m learning to be extra mindful of not saying yes to something right away. I’m sitting with it first and seeing how it would feel if I said yes. Does it fit into my life right now? Does it create stress and constriction or openness and excitement? I am learning to listen to my heart and go where it leads – even if it means disappointing someone else (which isn’t ever a good feeling, but it’s all part of honoring my own needs).
  2. Creating a sanctuary. I am creating a peaceful home, which feels amazing. I have LED candles that all go on at the same time each night and fill my home with a warm, soothing glow. I have artwork that invokes a calming energy. I have soft, comfortable couches with blankets to snuggle up with. I turn the lighting down. I turn the phone off and the music off and the TV off, which helps me go within and simply BE.
  3. Making time. I am finding that if I wanted to, I could always come up with a reason (excuse) for why I simply don’t have time to slow down. There will always be so many things to do. There will always be a million reasons why I should keep going. There will always be the same number of hours in the day that I will want to fill with creative projects. But there comes a point (now) where it’s enough. There comes a point where I have to remember that a peaceful life is the foundation of everything – a peaceful life leads me to my core, my essence. And everything flows from that space of knowing. So when I try to come up with a reason why I don’t have time to slow down, I’ll remember this and do it anyway.
  4. Giving myself permission. I’ve found that there have been times when I want to make time to slow down, but I felt a little strange doing it – almost like I was slacking on the job (even though I’m my own boss). I am so used to doing and going that simply being has become uncomfortable. So giving myself permission to relax has been huge. It allows me to lie on the floor and space out or take an afternoon nap and not feel guilty or sit outside while soaking up the sun and watching the birds without thinking about what I “should” be doing. Permission is huge for me, and I’ll keep reminding myself that I deserve this rest. We all do.
  5. Taking peaceful action. It’s one thing to say that I’m going to invite more peace into my life. It’s another to actually make changes and do it. Because this is so important to me, I’m making sure that each day I do something to create a more peaceful life. Whether I sit outside for a little while and soak up the sun or I sit in my living room and stare at the candles, I have made the commitment to embrace the downtime and make it a habit in my life. 


I would love to hear some of the ways you are already making space for peace in your life (or how you plan to begin making space). 

We all deserve this. We really do.

And I can’t wait for all of us to make room for it. We’ll have so much more to give others if we’re settled in and at peace in our life.

Hugs,

Jodi

 

about jodi
Jodi Chapman is a bestselling author, an award-winning blogger, and a soulful community builder. She lives her life with love and faith in the driver’s seat, and she hopes to leave a trail of inspiration wherever she goes. She believes that we each have the ability to hear our soul’s whisper and create our best lives. She would love to connect with you!

Website   ♥   Facebook     ♥   Free Ebook & Meditation     ♥   Soulful Life Sanctuary

The Gift of Presence

posted by Jodi Chapman

matter copyI’ve been feeling more and more that in a world that seems to be speeding up and in a time when gadgets and technology are available (and oftentimes in our hands) at any moment, that presence has become the best present we can offer to ourselves and also to others. 

Years ago, when cell phones were just becoming popular and mainstream, I was having lunch with a friend. In the middle of our conversation, her phone rang. She went to grab it, and I thought that she was going to turn the ringer off and apologize. Instead, she answered it and began having a conversation. I sat there not entirely sure what to do. Should I busy myself with something else? Should I pretend that I can’t hear the conversation? Should I get up and leave? While the phone conversation only lasted a minute or two, in those moments I felt like I wasn’t important to her, like I didn’t matter. And that definitely didn’t feel good.

This experience was actually such a blessing for me. Because I will always remember how I felt in that moment, and I vowed to do everything in my power to be fully present for those I interacted with from then on. I wanted them to know that when I was with them, I was there 100%.

Like I said, this was years ago. And so much has changed since then. We now have even more gadgets to distract ourselves from those who are right in front of us. We have a constant stream of Facebook updates and Tweets and Instagram pictures and texts and calls and videos and the list truly goes on and on. And I will admit that I’m not immune to these distractions. I feel the pull to check Facebook when I’m on a call with someone. I feel the desire to just look and see if any new emails have come in. And while I’m definitely not perfect, I can say that I do my best to stay present and give my full attention to whomever I am talking to. I know that they deserve this attention. I know that if the tables were turned, I would want that from them. I feel that the best gift I can give to them is this complete presence – letting them feel on a deep level that they matter to me. Letting them feel that they are more important to me than anything else that is happening in the world. All of that stuff will still be there when our conversation ends. But in this moment, I want them to feel that they have my full attention.

I was on a group Skype call the other day with five other people. Two of the five were watching TV in the background and one was constantly checking her smart phone. And while they were (for the most part) keeping up with the conversation, it still reminded me of how I felt all of those years ago with my friend answering her phone. I felt that they didn’t really want to be there.

And while I know that it’s nothing personal and that everyone seems to do this and it has nothing to do with me, I can’t help but take it a bit personally, to be honest. I feel like if we’re going to be together (virtually or in person), we can give each other the gift of presence. We can put our phones down and our gadgets down and (as best we can) turn our full attention to whomever we are with for the entire time we are with them.

You can feel the difference when someone is present, and it feels amazing, right? You can tell when someone is physically with you but their thoughts are clearly somewhere else. And you probably don’t think that it feels that great when someone is listening to you and also checking their email at the same time or watching the game or texting their friend.

And while I definitely don’t think that anyone means any harm by any of this, I do believe that it is doing harm. It’s perpetuating the feeling that we aren’t enough – that we don’t matter – that we aren’t seen. And all of this can be remedied with presence. It’s really that simple.

This non-presence is simply a habit that many of us have gotten into that we can change (if we want to). We can choose to be present. We can choose to give our full and complete attention to each person that we interact with. We can choose to show them how much they matter to us. We can help them feel that they are enough.

So with that in mind, I would love for all of us to try an experiment: 

Let’s all commit to being fully present with everyone we interact with for the rest of the day. 

When you eat dinner with your family, put your phones away. Turn the TV off. And if you notice that your thoughts start to drift away from the conversation, lovingly bring them back.

When you are checking out at the grocery store, look up and smile at the cashier. Ask them about their day. Listen to their response. Really engage with them.

When your kids ask you to help them with their homework, again put away all distractions that may take you away from being fully present with them. Let them feel how important they are to you. Let them see that this is where you want to be. Give them your undivided attention.

When your spouse asks to spend time with you, be there for them. Ask them how they are feeling. Listen. Look into their eyes. See them. Really see them.

I guarantee that doing this will help each person that you interact with to feel seen and heard and loved. They will love this gift of presence that you have given them, and they will be more likely to give this gift to someone else. It has a beautiful ripple effect. And it all starts with setting the intention to be as present and as engaged as you can be with each person.

See them. Hear them. Listen to them. Be present for them.

It’s so, so worth it.

It’s a beautiful way to go through your day. Fully connected. Fully present.

Hugs,

Jodi

 

about jodi
Jodi Chapman is a bestselling author, an award-winning blogger, and a soulful community builder. She lives her life with love and faith in the driver’s seat, and she hopes to leave a trail of inspiration wherever she goes. She believes that we each have the ability to hear our soul’s whisper and create our best lives. She would love to connect with you!

Website   ♥   Facebook     ♥   Free Ebook & Meditation     ♥   Soulful Life Sanctuary

I Am Here

posted by Jodi Chapman

 

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I am here to hold your hand when you aren’t sure if you can keep going.

I am here to cheer you on when you have soared higher than you knew was possible.

I am here when you are elated. I am here when you are devastated.

I am here when you have forgotten me. I am here when you remember me.

I am here when you push me away. I am here when you pull me close.

I am here to love you with a love that’s fuller than anything you’ve ever felt.

I am here when you have lost all faith. I am here to help you find it again.

I am here if and when you forget how to put one foot in front of the other. I am here to guide you forward one step at a time.

I am here to help you remember why you are here.

I am here to encourage you to dream – to live fully.

I am here to connect you with all of life.

I am here to support you in remembering to love, love, and love some more.

I am here to remind you that it’s all going to be okay. Because it already is, even if it doesn’t feel that way.

I am here.

I am right here. Inside you. All around you. Everywhere.

I am here – loving you endlessly and unconditionally.

I am here – loving you always.

I am always here – in your next breath, in your next word, and in your next heartbeat.

I am here.

With you. Forever.

Love,

Your Soul

 

about jodi
Jodi Chapman is a bestselling author, an award-winning blogger, and a soulful community builder. She lives her life with love and faith in the driver’s seat, and she hopes to leave a trail of inspiration wherever she goes. She believes that we each have the ability to hear our soul’s whisper and create our best lives. She would love to connect with you!

Website   ♥   Facebook     ♥   Free Ebook & Meditation     ♥   Soulful Life Sanctuary

A Soul’s Perspective on Death

posted by Jodi Chapman

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I’ve been in a reflective space today and have been thinking about dying and the soul and the other side and why we’re here and why we leave when we do.

Do you ever have those days? I call them my “seeker” days – where these deeper thoughts are at the forefront of my mind and at the tip of my heart.

I think about all of the amazing people in our world who have passed onto the other side. I think about how many of them were ready to go and how many of them wanted to stay. I think about how many of them had time to process that they were leaving and how many transitioned to the other side before they even realized it – not having had the chance to say goodbye to their loved ones.

Death can seem messy and unplanned and tragic and extremely sad. And I started to think that these are words that my human self is using to describe this natural part of our time here on Earth.

From our soul’s perspective, I know that there is no such thing as death – there is only a transition from one realm to another. And so, when one of our loved ones die here on Earth, I believe that it is only their physical body that dies. Their soul floats away from it and continues on somewhere else.

And this brings me so much comfort. Just like you, I have lost loved ones throughout my journey here on Earth. And each time it happens, I am so very sad and long to bring them back. I long for our moments together to stand still in time. I wish that we could go on together like that forever. And I’m always terribly sad when I realize that I will never see them here on Earth again. That I will never hear them laugh again. Or see them smile again. My heart breaks that time in their physical body is over. That they will not grow older. That they will not do the things that they wanted to still do. Their time as they knew it had ended.

And this is so painful to think about. My human self mourns and grieves and cries. Which is all exactly what a human is supposed to do. It’s normal to long for things to remain the same. It’s normal for us to wish that our loved ones would never leave us.

But that’s just not the way things work, right?

And so when I’m grieving for those who have gone before me, something that helps me tremendously is to span out – away from my physical body and my mind and even my heart – and expand into my soul. This is the part that is connected to the universe and to the afterlife and to everything. This is the part that goes on and that is connected to all of the other lives that are also eternal.

And in doing this, I remember that we never die. I remember that we are always together. I remember that death is a transition. I remember that our time here on Earth is just a blip of time along the entire spectrum of our soul’s life. I remember that I can reach out to my loved ones at any moment and talk to them, listen to them, be with them. I remember that we have all chosen to be here, and we have all chosen when and how we will leave. I remember that our time here on Earth is a beautiful journey – one to be embraced and celebrated. I remember that we are all made of pure love, and we will all return to pure love when we leave this world.

And while remembering these things doesn’t take away my pain completely, it definitely does bring some comfort to me.

We’re always together, and while we may not currently understand why it was our loved one’s time to transition to the other side, just knowing that there is a plan and a purpose and life after death helps me so much.

I hope that it brings comfort to you as well when you are missing your loved ones.

Hugs,

Jodi

 

about jodi

Jodi Chapman is a bestselling author, an award-winning blogger, and a soulful community builder. She lives her life with love and faith in the driver’s seat, and she hopes to leave a trail of inspiration wherever she goes. She believes that we each have the ability to hear our soul’s whisper and create our best lives. She would love to connect with you!

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