I am watching my friend recover. She's struggling to turn around a life-long habit of people-pleasing. Her progress is painfully slow. Cara is the most wonderful, awe-inspiring, amazing woman you'd ever meet. Everyone says so: except her husband and her boss. They are her only critics. Surely you know someone like Cara. She does everything for everyone else, only to be used like a doormat on a rainy day. He should have seen it coming. Her husband is stunned. After 30 years of marriage she got crabby. She was annoyed with being annoying to the one person in her life who should appreciate her most. Harris didn't have a clue and he rightly asks, "What happened to the woman I married, the one who never complained, and loved me as I am?" He's angry that the rules changed so late in the game. I'm a contributor to a woman's advocacy group called . It's a very effective non-profit, started in 1973 by and . The organization has been very successful in making life better for working women. Laws have been changed and doors are now open, to give female workers equal pay and equal rights. It takes a lot of voices to be heard in the political arena. Do the same principles apply when we see injustice in someone's personal life? Read next feature >