If you’ve been avoiding talking about painful issues, it’s time to begin your healing journey. Before you initiate a restorative conversation with the person you want to find closure with, talk to a good friend who can help you discern what’s really bothering you. Don’t just vent, though -- make sure you are being honest about your role in the breakdown of your relationship with that person. Once you feel like you can take accountability for your actions, you are ready to have the chat.