You are who you choose to be. You are the choices you make. If you want to be miserable in life, you chose that. If you want to be happy in life that’s another choice you make. If you want to bring everyone else down just because you’re miserable that is yet another choice you make. If you want to let everything and everyone in life get to you and to take everything personally, you can do that too. But where does any of that negativity get you in the long run, really? Do you really want to be miserable for your entire life and bring everyone else down in the process? Or do you want to try and find happiness in your life?

If you want to stuff your emotions with drugs or alcohol or even both, and then can’t figure out why you feel the way you do, look in the mirror and see how hard you’re making your own life. You can choose to stop using drugs and alcohol or continue to do what you’re doing. You can continue to use drugs and alcohol as a crutch in life, or you can stand up against the demons you face because of your addiction. You can choose to get help and feel better about life or you can continue to not only hurt yourself but hurt others as well.  But if you choose the latter path, don’t come looking for a shoulder to cry on when no-one in your family wants to be around you.

All the emotions you feel and the things you do in life are choices. Everyone should know the difference between right and wrong. But not everyone does. Even still, not everyone wants to know or even learn the difference between right and wrong. Not everyone takes into account how their actions and words, or lack thereof, affect others. Not everyone stops and thinks about the potential consequences each situation or each statement could bring. Often times, people run their mouths out of anger. People become especially irrational when they are on a drunken rampage or high. But all you can do is be there for them and try to help them in the ways you know best. If you have to, get them professional help before they hurt you or themselves or hurt someone else.

These people choose to start fights when they feel the weight of the world is on them and they will do anything in the world to bring others down with them to their self-induced pity party of shame. They want to bring others down to their level of misery because they just can’t find any happiness in their life. It seems as misery and despair are all they know, and it might be all they are willing to know. They might even think trying to find and achieve happiness takes too much time and effort. What they don’t realize is how much effort and energy they’re wasting by carrying the anger and misery within their hearts and their minds. They have the choice to let those feelings of anger, disappointment, and despair go and replace them with love, hope, and joy. It all depends if they are willing to try feeling those things though too. All you can do is try and point them in the right direction of a healthier and happier life. But, don’t lose yourself while trying to help them get through their problems.

Whatever you choose to do in life, it will make you into who you are, for the rest of your life. Be careful who you turn into. You can be happy in life and look towards the goodness that life has to offer. Do something that makes you happy. Try and bring others happiness in your words and actions.

If you’re constantly trying to bring others down, you will never find happiness. Nor will you ever seek happiness because you’ve never tried to obtain it before. Some people probably don’t even know where to start looking for it. To those of you like this, life isn’t that bad. Life should never be so bad for you that you purposely want others to suffer. You can make a conscious effort to change your mood and how you feel. Or you can stay in the same miserable place you have gotten yourself into, and live out the rest of your life in sorrow, wondering why people have abandoned you.

To those of you struggling with people like this in your life, you can choose to try and help them. Or you can remove yourself from the situation altogether for your sake and your own well-being. Do not give those people the upper hand. Don’t let them and their negative emotions control your life. Don’t listen to the negative things they say about you. A lot of the things they say aren’t even true.Remember, just because they are miserable in their life, doesn’t mean you ever have to be miserable and wallow in sorrow along with them. Choose happiness, joy and look for the good in the people and things around you. Find something to be thankful for every day of your life. You’ll be much happier and healthier too.

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