NICE GIRLS CAN FINISH FIRST is out! It’s a book. MY book!
Good progress is usually slow. I advocate taking baby steps in order to have the best chance to succeed at what you want or to break old habits. One of the downsides of baby stepping is that the bits of progress can be minimal each day so it’s not obvious. Someone you see every day, like yourself, ? might not notice that you’re losing a half pound a week on your diet since each bit you lose doesn’t make a discernible difference in your body.

But someone who hasn’t seen you in 4 months will see the results of losing 8 pounds while you still wonder why your clothes feel loser since you didn’t notice a weight loss.

It’s important to be conscious, and grateful, for all the small steps we take. But of course we often don’t. While I’m probably more conscious than most, things get by me. I’ve been so busy lately that I’ve barely had time to breathe. I’m writing 2 new books as my latest titles are released. So much on my plate made me eat without tasting. That’s why Tuesday night—my double book release party—was so special, and eye-opening to me. It was at Bamboo 52, a fabulous sushi lounge on West 52nd Street in NYC. My guests indulged in their yummy sushi, washed down with sake and champagne in the friendly atmosphere the staff creates. They LOVED it! I’m so grateful that I was able to have my party there! That’s me above with super chick, Zanade Mann at my party!

After over an hour of greeting the crowds of people that attended, everything felt surreal. It was hard to process they were there for ME! Then I stood up to address the crowd. I was on a padded bench looking out over the sea of people and it hit me—they WERE there for ME!! There were family, friends, colleagues and fans. Pamela and Xavier Davis actually flew in from Minneapolis. Another fan called to apologize that she was sick and had to cancel in from Detroit. For me! ?

As I prepared to speak, I thought about where I started—the sad DoorMat, bored and hating herself. Tonight was different! I loved how I looked in my black ruffled dress and felt good. I felt liked and appreciated. When I lived in DoorMatville I thought I had to please people to be liked but I knew I wasn’t liked. I just wanted to not be alone so I did my best to please everyone, everyone but ME! I thought is was worth the price of having people around.

But I learned that you can be lonely in a crowd if you don’t think people like you for you and are just there for the favors.

Tuesday night I was SO FAR from lonely. A big crowd of people were there to celebrate my accomplishments! I sort of was aware of the baby steps I’ve taken toward success. I get many fan letters every day. But as I immerse myself in work, my bits of success don’t always process. As I wrote my 2 new books simultaneously, I was excited. It meant a lot to me to be able to have them published. While they’re my ninth and tenth books, it doesn’t get old. But as I prepared to talk to the crowd on Tuesday, it hit me.

This DoorMat is living out her dreams! I have come full circle!

My music biz books have become some of the most popular in the world. My third edition of Start & Run Your Own Record Label (Billboard/Random House) is out! When I was the first white female rapper, and one of the first women to start a record label, I was teased and not taken seriously. My inner self-empowerment kicked in and I learned how handle myself in ways that earn respect and allow me to still be nice—what I call a Nice Girl on Top. I’ve been writing my other new book and preparing for it release but now I need to scream:

NICE GIRLS CAN FINISH FIRST is out! It’s a book. MY book!

It reflects my journey from being a DoorMat to becoming an empowered chick, with many techniques I’ve used for getting taken seriously without raising my voice or losing my kind nature. This book is my heart and soul! I LOVED writing and hope it helps many women find the kind of peace, freedom from anger and satisfaction that I have by using the tools in the book. A few men who’ve read it said it helped them too.

NICE GIRLS CAN FINISH FIRST is out! Okay, I’m excited. Pardon me for shouting it a few times! ?And here’s some of the testimonials for the book:
Never underestimate the power of a woman – especially
a nice one. This book is a must read for today’s world where, thankfully, nice is finally getting the respect it deserves. Mean is so last millennium. Nice Girls Can Finish First offers brilliant tools and savvy advice for making ‘nice’ work for you in business and in life. Nice girls do finish first and this is their ‘how-to’ manual.
~~Linda Kaplan Thaler, CEO of The Kaplan Thaler Group and bestselling author of The Power of Nice

In Nice Girls Can Finish First, Daylle Deanna Schwartz proves that women who are basically good-hearted can still be taken seriously in both their business and personal lives. In fact, when used properly, kindness and consideration can go further than selfishness and bitchiness. Good lessons to learn and live by. Daylle proves that we don’t have to be a bitch to be taken seriously in the world: in business and in our personal lives. The more we read books like this, the more it will sink into our brains that have been programmed to please. ~~Nina Disesa, chairman of McCann Erickson New York and author of Seducing the Boys Club

Anybody can be a bitch. And effective as that might be in the short run, in the long run (and it is a long run) it’ll bring you down. It takes a woman who’s smart, strong and confident to assume the best from people and motivate them to deliver it. Daylle Schwartz shows you how to finish first – every time. ~~Gail Blanke, Author, Throw Out Fifty Things, Clear the Clutter Find Your Life, life coach and motivator

Daylle Deanna Schwartz provides many constructive techniques for being soft-spoken, friendly and considerate to others in ways that get satisfying results. This book is for women who are fundamentally nice, want to stay true to that and who also want to be taken seriously, earn respect and get their needs met. Terrie M. Williams, author of The Personal Touch: What You Really Need To Succeed in Today’s Fast-Paced Business World

How blessed am I????? Years ago I rarely heard a kind word about me. Now I have testimonials from these awesome women. So as I come down from the rush this week brought me, I’m vowing to make a bigger effort to pay attention to and appreciate the results of all my little steps as I have bits of progress. I want to taste more along the way. Tuesday night brought it all together. I had tears hearing everyone cheer for me. I cheered for me! ?While women are encouraged to be modest, I will own all the accolades since I KNOW I deserve them! ? I’ve worked hard and know how many folks my books have helped.


Okay, that’s the last time I’ll shout it. ? I’m SOOOO excited! I’m still a nice girl but now I’m on top of my world and get respect and satisfaction. Check out my book and you’ll learn lots of ways to take more satisfying control of your world. And, go celebrate yourself!

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