I just wrote a piece on 5 Ways to Get Over It. It’s a few tips on moving on from a disappointment whether it’s relationship, career, or just general life.

The first way is to “feel the pain”. I listed it first, because it’s so odd that it’s the easiest step to bypass. I mentioned this in a previous blog. We spend so much time acting differently than how we really feel. When we’re hurt, instead of admitting that we’re hurt, we get angry.

And it’s not just men. I think a spirit of fierce independence, while sometimes necessary, has hardened women up a bit. Now, nobody wants to admit that some days you really just want a hug and a good cry.

So go ahead and let it out. Cry if you feel like crying. Scream if you need to scream. Feel the pain so you can heal the pain.

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