I remember at the very worst of my divorce stopping for a red light. Now, when I say the worst. I mean the War of the Roses, worst celebrity divorce, beleaguered, I don’t know how I will get out of bed this morning – DIVORCE. As I sat at that light, I thought “What a…

This is the column I wasn’t supposed to write. The one that is politically incorrect in divorce court. I no longer care. I am done. I am exhausted. I am fighting back. I am the quintessential momma bear Only one thing matters to me in this world. My beautiful boys. I have spent the better…

There are significant reasons one should fear leaving a narcissist. A narcissist can escalate when an individual decides to leave or divorce them. They can become outraged, enraged, indignant, irrational and more. Many of the same qualities of the average separating individual; however, the narcissist never balances their emotions and finds healing. They truly believe…

I hope to find love again one day. I hope it’s an ego-less love. The kind of love that makes us not breaks us. I hope the guy I meet: Believes that love is so much more important than being right. Believes that being gentle is a signature of strength. Believes in living a life…

I am chatting with my old college friend on the phone. As always, the names are changed to protect the innocent. I will call her ‘Dear Abby.’ Abby should have been a counselor. Who am I kidding? She is – she’s just the volunteer version. She’s loving, funny and open and as her husband jokes,…

The real problem with most relationships? They revolve around difficult personalities rather than LOVE. It’s a complete contradiction. Yet, we tolerate it as an acceptable norm. We need to elevate the hypocrisy. A tremendous number of relationships don’t end because of a lack of love, they end because an ego (I mean a person –…

There are people you know. And then, there are people who know you. These are the people who view every single emotional bump and bruise as what chiseled you – not whittled you. They believe your shortcomings attract – not detract. They buy the whole package – not just the value added features. Some believe…

My friend and I are chatting about another friend who has just begun the divorce process. We are trying to determine ways to help her. The truth? We know we can only help her so much. We are so much smarter than we used to be. You know, before we started this whole divorce thing.…

Divorce should put an end to the unhealthy roles played in the marriage it is ending. However, in truth, it often extends the roles throughout the lengthy dissolution process. The saddest and most unfortunate part? Individuals file for divorce, naively believing they are going to be able to put the pain or abuse of a…

No, it’s not what you’re thinking. I’m not talking about financial loss. Anyone who has been through divorce realizes that money is just a tool that misdirected people use to control or punish someone in divorce. There’s a far greater cost. I always say, “It’s great if I like you – better if I respect…

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