One value that I hold dear in any relationship, whether it is family, friendship, romantic or business, is in this question, ‘what can I be counted on to do?’ Too often, relationships are lopsided and disjointed, in part because we aren’t clear about our expectations for ourselves and the folks with whom we interact.

Here’s what I came up with as I take my own inventory:


To be available as support.
To listen with as open mind and heart as I can.
To offer the best of myself.
To share ideas and resources.
To be on time for appointments, unless I renegotiate.
To follow through on agreements. (See #5 above)
To tell those in my life how I feel about them, knowing that the chance may not come again.
To speak up if I witness bullying or other unfair treatment and intervene if someone is being abused.

To spread ‘good gossip’ about people I know who are putting their work out into the world.

To tell people I am proud of their accomplishments, since event the most successful people sometimes feel like they operate in a vacuum.
To see the highest in others, even if they may act in un-skillful ways.
To be open to hearing what others have to say, even if I don’t particularly like it.
To be a fun friend.

To be a safe place to land for friends in free fall and help them adjust their wings.
To be reliable.
To go for a win-win.
To acknowledge my role in any interactions, knowing that every relationship is 100/100.
To sit explore options and possibilities, rather than throwing up walls and blocks.
To deliver more than I promise.
To be easy to work with.
To meet deadlines.
To be be honest if I think someone is doing something harmful.
To lo
ve with my whole heart.

Knowing that I am a work in progress.
I ask that same thing of others in my life. What can you be counted on for?

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