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Start Giving Yourself What You Really Want

posted by Guy Finley

It’s a little-known secret that our experience of life in any given moment is a direct reflection of what we actually value in that same moment. We may deny this unsettling truth, but when it comes to what we are […]

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Unmask the Source of Pain

posted by Guy Finley

There is a direct and proportionate relationship between the degree of inconsolable pain that we have and a deep-seated misunderstanding of our real purpose for being alive. . .   www.YourImmortalSelf.com

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Unleash Yourself from Self-Limiting Influences

posted by Guy Finley

The next time (and every time) you catch some negative thought or feeling that says, “I am anxious,” “I am scared,” “I am mad,” or “I am in so much pain” — the first thing to do is to come […]

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Freedom is an Inside Job

posted by Guy Finley

It’s impossible to separate a false purpose in life from the pain that it produces.

The Truth that Transforms All Dragons into Delight

posted by Guy Finley

Whenever a negative state comes to you, try to see yourself in that state through the intelligence of the following idea as opposed to seeing it through the ignorance that the state produces in you: All negative states are an […]

(Video) See How Your Preferences Are Causing You Pain

posted by Guy Finley

Guy Finley explains that we all have natural preferences in life, based on our individual make-up and conditioning. But when life doesn’t match up with our preferences, the pain and negativity we feel isn’t because of what has happened, it’s […]

Stop Being Knocked Down by Punishing Demands

posted by Guy Finley

Question: My life lately has been a seemingly unending string of “unwanted events.” I keep thinking God is trying to teach me something, or worse, that He is punishing me for something (à la Job in the Old Testament!). It’s […]

Stop Cooking Your Own Goose!

posted by Guy Finley

Any time you sit, think about, and “stew” over what someone did to you, or simmer in anger about some past event, the real reason for your pain is because you’re cooking your own goose!

(Audio) How to See the End of All of Your Enemies

posted by Guy Finley

Guy Finley explains in this brief talk that it is possible for us to find complete freedom from the mechanical, enemy-making nature that presently tricks us into believing that it is necessary to our well-being to have enemies of any […]

The Power to Dismiss Discontentment From Your Life (Conclusion)

posted by Guy Finley

Awakening to see this cycle of discontent for what it is not only empowers us to cancel it, but it also brings to an end the strain of living under the unseen contradiction in our consciousness: the hope that one’s […]

The Gift of Newness

posted by Guy Finley

  Past mistakes cannot create a present pain…

Reliving the Past is Powerless to Change the Present

posted by Guy Finley

Beating ourselves up after making a blunder doesn’t mean that we actually know better than what we just did — nor does this kind of suffering lead to greater command or better decisions the next time around. Self-punishing acts prove […]

How to End the Cycle of Hurting and Being Hurt (Conclusion)

posted by Guy Finley

Each time we will consciously refuse to strike back in anger or act out some aggression toward the one who hurts us, we sow the seed of a new order of a conscious life. Now instead of being used by […]

How to End the Cycle of Hurting and Being Hurt (Part 3)

posted by Guy Finley

Most of us already suspect what needs to be done if we are to have any hope of moving beyond the conflict so common in our relationships. Nevertheless, here is a brief description of the spiritual action to be taken: […]

How to End the Cycle of Hurting and Being Hurt (Part 2)

posted by Guy Finley

It doesn’t matter how, or where, this dark cycle of conflict got started. It is not important any longer. Why? Because once we understand that to try to hurt someone — even just to want to — is to hurt […]

How to End the Cycle of Hurting and Being Hurt (Part 1)

posted by Guy Finley

When someone acts thoughtlessly towards us, it is a similar thoughtlessness in us that responds. In other words, our own hostile reactions take no thought for anything outside of what they call into account for their suddenly heated existence — […]

Allow Life’s Shocks to Teach You

posted by Guy Finley

Question: I recently found out that my husband of 21 years has been unfaithful. I should have picked up on the signs long ago, but what do I do now? Do I go out and find another love? I feel […]

The Nature that Lives to Want

posted by Guy Finley

When you finally see that you can have almost anything in the world that you want, but that nothing you give to yourself actually brings an end to your wanting, then you’ll slowly cease giving yourself to this painful nature […]

The Pain of Rushing Around

posted by Guy Finley

Think of how many dangerous car accidents wouldn’t happen at all if only motorists slowed down their cars even to a small degree. Then imagine just how many painful personal encounters with others we would be able to walk right […]

Go Beyond the Experience of Self

posted by Guy Finley

Our experience of life is somewhat like a game of ping pong. Someone says something to us that we perceive as negative, and a certain “I” pops up that we identify with. The content of that “I” then directs our […]

The Easily Offended is the Self Most Defended

posted by Guy Finley

Key Lesson: The smaller the self, the bigger the sense of offense it takes whenever anyone steps up to challenge one of its precious self-images. Realize Real Self-Command There is a very surprising reason why we tend to suffer over […]

Authentic Inner Change

posted by Guy Finley

If our spiritual aim in life is authentic inner change, then we must know two facts.  First, any measure of true self-change is the positive effect of one having paid the price to realize some new degree of self-wholeness… Which […]

The Light that Transforms Darkness

posted by Guy Finley

It goes without saying that what took place in Newtown is unimaginable, as is––in many ways––the pain and grief felt by those directly impacted by this monstrous act. And, of course, it’s natural and necessary that the individuals whose lives […]

A Gateway Through the Unthinkable Pain of Loss

posted by Guy Finley

Question: I (and many others) have lost so much in the recent storm. How do we begin to move beyond all the grief and suffering to some kind of peace and understanding of why such a thing could have happened? […]

What is Real Cannot Be Lost

posted by Guy Finley

What else is the blow of any pain that follows the loss of something thought to be our own, but a sharp and merciful reminder that in this life we do not possess what we imagine we do! *** The […]

Stop Giving Yourself to Negative States

posted by Guy Finley

Question: How do we feel or acknowledge a negative state without giving ourselves over to it? When it is present, how can we not be affected by it? Answer: There’s an old Chinese saying, “The birds of sadness may fly […]

The Gift of Calm Detachment

posted by Guy Finley

Question: How can you stay peaceful when you are with people whose lives are really in distress, especially when they are close to you? Answer: You must ask yourself a different question. I’d suggest the following: What could be more […]

The Freedom to Change Your Experience of Life (Part 1)

posted by Guy Finley

The truth about the past is simply that it has passed. This means that our experience of each moment — for its pleasure or pain, peace or trouble — is a direct reflection of what we are in relationship with […]

New Understanding About Lies and Betrayal

posted by Guy Finley

Question: I have been married for more many years. Recently, I discovered that my husband, who travels a lot for his job, has been unfaithful to me during his time away from home. I don’t want to expose that I […]

The Power to Walk Away from Useless Suffering

posted by Guy Finley

Question: Would you give me some specific strategies to help me when I start to feel depression pulling at me and dragging me down? Answer: Here are three bright new actions for you to take. Each is designed to help […]

Three New Choices That Dismiss Dark Conditions

posted by Guy Finley

The only thing most of us know to do when life takes an unwanted turn, bringing us what we don’t want, is to take a turn for the negative ourselves. And when the circumstance in question really makes a wreck […]

(Audio) Catch the Ticker Tape Mind and Cut It

posted by Guy Finley

In this short talk, Guy Finley talks about why the mind is always so busy thinking about itself, and how becoming aware of its mechanical activity is the beginning of a beautiful new relationship with real life. Click here to […]

A New Wish for Self-Understanding

posted by Guy Finley

QUESTION I am tired of suffering uselessly, and want to make a new wish for greater self-understanding. Are there any practical steps I can take to strengthen my wish? ANSWER It may not seem so at the time of a […]

Finding True Forgiveness

posted by Guy Finley

QUESTION When do you know that you have truly forgiven someone? Although I have forgiven someone and myself, the pain still comes back at times.

Be the Better, Brighter World You Want to See

posted by Guy Finley

There are times when the greatest act of kindness we can express towards another human being is to swallow our own sadness, or to refuse to make that sarcastic or impatient remark. Acts of kindness such as these cost us […]

(Video) Stop Giving Your Life Away to Dark States

posted by Guy Finley

Receive spiritual encouragement in this video blog by Guy Finley. Discover how to reach for what is true in times of trial and let the light of higher awareness act for you.

The Power to Outgrow Problem People in Your Life

posted by Guy Finley

Most of us already suspect what needs to be done if we are to have any hope of moving beyond the conflict so common in today’s relationships. Nevertheless, here is a brief description of the spiritual action to be taken: […]

New Healing for Painful Patterns

posted by Guy Finley

QUESTION Every year at this time I get ill. I don’t understand the lesson I need to learn. Try as I might, I can remember nothing from the past that would have set off such a pattern. Do I need […]

Cancel Self-Wrecking Resentments

posted by Guy Finley

Two men stroll down a leaf-covered wood lot path on a clear, brisk autumn morning. Jeff and Mark have been friends for years. They enjoy their Saturday morning walks and talks together. Yet, something’s different about Mark today. Jeff senses […]

Freedom From the Fear of Feeling Powerless

posted by Guy Finley

Real power isn’t the ability to imagine and implement an endless series of new solutions to old problems, but to awaken the higher understanding that allows us to transcend the need we have to live with any painful problems at […]

The First Lesson in Owning Your Own Life

posted by Guy Finley

QUESTION What’s wrong with knowing that someone or something outside of me is responsible for making me feel unhappy?

Give Yourself Life’s Greatest Gift

posted by Guy Finley

Here is how to receive a gift from Life greater than can be told: never again give to another person any thought or feeling that you wouldn’t want to keep for yourself. To help you consider this lesson more deeply, […]

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Love's Healing Touch
We cannot separate the problems of this world—including the pain endured in agreeing to honor, respect, and support those we love—from the awakening of a patience and kindness that can be born in us no other way. ...

posted 12:00:10pm Apr. 24, 2015 | read full post »

(Video) Four Words for Any Family Crisis
Guy Finley reveals and explains the four words that will always aid you and those around you in any stressful family situation. [youtube]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VFeMInPYahc[/youtube] ...

posted 12:00:21pm Apr. 23, 2015 | read full post »

Helping Others to Start Healing
The only way we begin to act as a true force of healing in the lives of others is when, at last, we cease to hurt ourselves. ...

posted 12:00:21pm Apr. 22, 2015 | read full post »

Learn to Relax with Others by Releasing Yourself
Here’s a simple but ultimately very self-liberating action to take if you wish to reduce the amount of stress and anxiety that you feel in the company of others, friends, or family: Choose to be more interested in quietly discovering the ...

posted 12:00:18pm Apr. 21, 2015 | read full post »

Discover Your Unseen Attachment to Heartache
When it comes to healing mental or emotional pain, the first step to freeing oneself is in seeing the following facts: resistance to anything (including psychological pain) is a secret form of fascination with it, and to be fascinated with ...

posted 12:00:59pm Apr. 20, 2015 | read full post »

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