Question: When I look at myself, it seems that my most prevalent emotion is anger. It’s always there. I frequently find myself caught up in what you call “mental movies,” remembering all the cruelty and unfairness that seem to justify […]
Real life never stops starting over, but before one can dwell in this this newness—and know its unencumbered freedom—one must let go of any and all attachments in the past that produce a painful sense of self. www.YourImmortalSelf.com
Nothing infuriates evil as much as being seen for what it is . . .
It’s a little-known secret that our experience of life in any given moment is a direct reflection of what we actually value in that same moment. We may deny this unsettling truth, but when it comes to what we are […]
There is a direct and proportionate relationship between the degree of inconsolable pain that we have and a deep-seated misunderstanding of our real purpose for being alive. . . www.YourImmortalSelf.com
The next time (and every time) you catch some negative thought or feeling that says, “I am anxious,” “I am scared,” “I am mad,” or “I am in so much pain” — the first thing to do is to come […]
It’s impossible to separate a false purpose in life from the pain that it produces.
Whenever a negative state comes to you, try to see yourself in that state through the intelligence of the following idea as opposed to seeing it through the ignorance that the state produces in you: All negative states are an […]
Guy Finley explains that we all have natural preferences in life, based on our individual make-up and conditioning. But when life doesn’t match up with our preferences, the pain and negativity we feel isn’t because of what has happened, it’s […]
Question: My life lately has been a seemingly unending string of “unwanted events.” I keep thinking God is trying to teach me something, or worse, that He is punishing me for something (à la Job in the Old Testament!). It’s […]
Any time you sit, think about, and “stew” over what someone did to you, or simmer in anger about some past event, the real reason for your pain is because you’re cooking your own goose!
Guy Finley explains in this brief talk that it is possible for us to find complete freedom from the mechanical, enemy-making nature that presently tricks us into believing that it is necessary to our well-being to have enemies of any […]
Awakening to see this cycle of discontent for what it is not only empowers us to cancel it, but it also brings to an end the strain of living under the unseen contradiction in our consciousness: the hope that one’s […]
Past mistakes cannot create a present pain…
Beating ourselves up after making a blunder doesn’t mean that we actually know better than what we just did — nor does this kind of suffering lead to greater command or better decisions the next time around. Self-punishing acts prove […]
Each time we will consciously refuse to strike back in anger or act out some aggression toward the one who hurts us, we sow the seed of a new order of a conscious life. Now instead of being used by […]
Most of us already suspect what needs to be done if we are to have any hope of moving beyond the conflict so common in our relationships. Nevertheless, here is a brief description of the spiritual action to be taken: […]
It doesn’t matter how, or where, this dark cycle of conflict got started. It is not important any longer. Why? Because once we understand that to try to hurt someone — even just to want to — is to hurt […]
When someone acts thoughtlessly towards us, it is a similar thoughtlessness in us that responds. In other words, our own hostile reactions take no thought for anything outside of what they call into account for their suddenly heated existence — […]
Question: I recently found out that my husband of 21 years has been unfaithful. I should have picked up on the signs long ago, but what do I do now? Do I go out and find another love? I feel […]
When you finally see that you can have almost anything in the world that you want, but that nothing you give to yourself actually brings an end to your wanting, then you’ll slowly cease giving yourself to this painful nature […]
Think of how many dangerous car accidents wouldn’t happen at all if only motorists slowed down their cars even to a small degree. Then imagine just how many painful personal encounters with others we would be able to walk right […]
Our experience of life is somewhat like a game of ping pong. Someone says something to us that we perceive as negative, and a certain “I” pops up that we identify with. The content of that “I” then directs our […]
Key Lesson: The smaller the self, the bigger the sense of offense it takes whenever anyone steps up to challenge one of its precious self-images. Realize Real Self-Command There is a very surprising reason why we tend to suffer over […]
If our spiritual aim in life is authentic inner change, then we must know two facts. First, any measure of true self-change is the positive effect of one having paid the price to realize some new degree of self-wholeness… Which […]
It goes without saying that what took place in Newtown is unimaginable, as is––in many ways––the pain and grief felt by those directly impacted by this monstrous act. And, of course, it’s natural and necessary that the individuals whose lives […]
Question: I (and many others) have lost so much in the recent storm. How do we begin to move beyond all the grief and suffering to some kind of peace and understanding of why such a thing could have happened? […]
What else is the blow of any pain that follows the loss of something thought to be our own, but a sharp and merciful reminder that in this life we do not possess what we imagine we do! *** The […]
Question: How do we feel or acknowledge a negative state without giving ourselves over to it? When it is present, how can we not be affected by it? Answer: There’s an old Chinese saying, “The birds of sadness may fly […]
Question: How can you stay peaceful when you are with people whose lives are really in distress, especially when they are close to you? Answer: You must ask yourself a different question. I’d suggest the following: What could be more […]
The truth about the past is simply that it has passed. This means that our experience of each moment — for its pleasure or pain, peace or trouble — is a direct reflection of what we are in relationship with […]
Question: I have been married for more many years. Recently, I discovered that my husband, who travels a lot for his job, has been unfaithful to me during his time away from home. I don’t want to expose that I […]
Question: Would you give me some specific strategies to help me when I start to feel depression pulling at me and dragging me down? Answer: Here are three bright new actions for you to take. Each is designed to help […]
The only thing most of us know to do when life takes an unwanted turn, bringing us what we don’t want, is to take a turn for the negative ourselves. And when the circumstance in question really makes a wreck […]
In this short talk, Guy Finley talks about why the mind is always so busy thinking about itself, and how becoming aware of its mechanical activity is the beginning of a beautiful new relationship with real life. Click here to […]
QUESTION I am tired of suffering uselessly, and want to make a new wish for greater self-understanding. Are there any practical steps I can take to strengthen my wish? ANSWER It may not seem so at the time of a […]
QUESTION When do you know that you have truly forgiven someone? Although I have forgiven someone and myself, the pain still comes back at times.
There are times when the greatest act of kindness we can express towards another human being is to swallow our own sadness, or to refuse to make that sarcastic or impatient remark. Acts of kindness such as these cost us […]
Receive spiritual encouragement in this video blog by Guy Finley. Discover how to reach for what is true in times of trial and let the light of higher awareness act for you.
Most of us already suspect what needs to be done if we are to have any hope of moving beyond the conflict so common in today’s relationships. Nevertheless, here is a brief description of the spiritual action to be taken: […]
QUESTION Every year at this time I get ill. I don’t understand the lesson I need to learn. Try as I might, I can remember nothing from the past that would have set off such a pattern. Do I need […]
Two men stroll down a leaf-covered wood lot path on a clear, brisk autumn morning. Jeff and Mark have been friends for years. They enjoy their Saturday morning walks and talks together. Yet, something’s different about Mark today. Jeff senses […]
Real power isn’t the ability to imagine and implement an endless series of new solutions to old problems, but to awaken the higher understanding that allows us to transcend the need we have to live with any painful problems at […]
QUESTION What’s wrong with knowing that someone or something outside of me is responsible for making me feel unhappy?
Here is how to receive a gift from Life greater than can be told: never again give to another person any thought or feeling that you wouldn’t want to keep for yourself. To help you consider this lesson more deeply, […]