Question: The more I think I know about true spirituality, the more I become easily aggravated by the behavior of others when I hear them make an obviously false (spiritually) statement, or I observe their inconsistent behavior. I sense that […]
The only thing that troubles you about other people is what you secretly want from them. How many of you lose command when you’re with other people? Have you ever walked down the street, and somebody that you’ve never even […]
Guy Finley explains that you can either sit and regret the cruel behavior you’ve been subjected to by others in your past, or you can use your awareness of the pain it causes you in the present to become properly […]
Judging oneself may seem wise to the level of self involved in that judgment; but all judging of oneself is the deflection of a revelation that would heal oneself… if allowed to flower.
The past is the past. It has no foothold in us save for the parts of us that are fascinated with reliving the pain for the purpose of confirming the reality of self. The darkness that torments us over what […]
Question: I recently found out that my husband of 21 years has been unfaithful. I should have picked up on the signs long ago, but what do I do now? Do I go out and find another love? I feel […]
The only kind of “thanks” you can expect from others who see that you’ve decided to serve something higher than your own self-centered interests — including bringing an end to your previous support of their inflated self images — is […]
In that moment when we are thrown into emotional conflict, regardless of its initial cause, the first step this in-the-dark nature takes to deceive us is to direct our awareness away from the actual hurt we feel. It accomplishes this […]
By the very absence of the healing that ought naturally follow any form of injury, we should be able to deduce that certain counter forces must be at work within us. There have to be unseen anti-healing forces with a […]
Evil transforms suffering into unconscious acts of blame, bitterness, and self-pity — harmful forces that punish everyone; while the Good transforms these same dark states into conscious suffering — creating humility that heals whomever it touches.
Real love can never betray you… for when you start with, and then endeavor through what love asks of you, you will come to know this greatest of truths that sets you free: love’s endpoint begins – and has always […]
In this life, we have one of two choices when it comes to painful events, past or present. We can either go on hating and fearing what we think life has done to us (or others), and let these negative […]
In difficult moments with others let us remember this truth: it is better to find ourselves lacking the love we need to be kind — and to quietly suffer this humiliation — than it is to act from what is […]
A big part of our inner work in all of our relationships involves remembering this key idea: whenever we are not present and properly attentive to ourselves, we may be sure the false self is busy attending to something we’ll […]
Question: I’ve said and done some terrible things to people in my life. How do I get through this guilt? Is there a right way to make amends to people I’ve wronged? Answer: Yes. Change yourself. In the long run, […]
Whatever justifies the unconscious suffering inherent in anger, blame, or bitterness is, itself, a part of — in league with — these same negative states. And that’s what we have to see if we ever want to be free of […]
If our spiritual aim in life is authentic inner change, then we must know two facts. First, any measure of true self-change is the positive effect of one having paid the price to realize some new degree of self-wholeness… Which […]
Each time we feel an emotional pain, we should use that as a signal that we’ve made a mistake, that we’ve crashed and now need to find and try another new way. For example, our presently pained position is the […]
When we start to see that there is very little that’s constant in us, very little to be counted on in times of crisis (inwardly or outwardly), the tendency is to fall back into some kind of self-loathing or blaming […]
Don’t be afraid to let the truth strike you. What does this mean? Whether in simple truths like the ones you’re about to read, or in an moment of great personal crisis, don’t fear what life is trying to show […]
There is only one reason why any of us ever do wrong to another, blame someone else for our sorrow, forget to be thankful for what we have, or go through our entire day without remembering our God… and that’s […]
Part 1 Whoever would set blame upon another for feeling misunderstood, or who becomes bitter towards those thought to have let him down, has failed to realize the following self-liberating truth: the first root of sorrow in this life is […]
Question: If you see something someone else is doing, whether professional or personal, and it involves you and you know it’s not right (and the person that is doing the wrong definitely knows it isn’t right), should something be said, […]
The pain we feel over being betrayed is not the fault of the one who has fractured our trust. Such anguish belongs to, and is created by, those darkly combustible parts of us into which we so readily fall and […]
Dwelling on any unhappy moment in life is like channel surfing through a thousand possible TV shows, selecting the one that troubles you the most, and then blaming your TV set for the pain you’re feeling.
If only we would cease giving others Reasons to resist our presence, Bear ourselves With what we burden them, Leaving no reason for blame . . . Then . . . that great silent rage Hidden in the human heart […]
Once we start to see, to know in our innermost heart, that life itself is already complete, we can let go of whatever — or whoever — would have us believe otherwise. Old attachments and their long-standing aches are now […]
Following are three short key lessons. Use their insights to help free yourself from the self-inflicted punishment of complaining. Until we become conscious of how many more times a day we complain about our life than we feel gratitude for […]
Why do you say that your color is white? When I can see that you are blue, Spoke one who saw herself as being green, But, who was a yellowish hue. Then snapped someone who had thought himself red But […]
QUESTION What’s wrong with knowing that someone or something outside of me is responsible for making me feel unhappy?
QUESTION In this time of unprecedented economic downturn, people without jobs and families losing their homes, is there anything to say to those of us who have experienced this loss and trauma? I don’t know what to say to my […]