When someone says something that is unkind or cruel, it’s because they have perceived something in you that has produced a reaction in them that is born of expectation. They are helpless to act otherwise, which stirs a similar reaction and helplessness within you as well. If you will meet those moments with the wish to see your own unconscious reaction instead of blaming the other person for theirs, a new possibility arises that transcends the helpless nature in you… and eventually in your relationships with others.

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