I’m going to let you in on a secret. It’s a secret that is really, really good to know, especially during times when you feel like you’re flailing about and have no idea how to take the next step forward. It’s a secret that is extremely helpful when you look around and start comparing yourself to everyone’s seemingly perfect lives and wonder why you can’t seem to get your own life together – even just a little bit. It’s a secret that has helped me more times than I can even count – because, as a perfectionist, I have tended to be extremely hard on myself over the years. And once I realized this secret, it helped me ease up on myself and begin to enjoy my life a whole lot more.
Here’s the secret:
No one has their life all figured out. They’re all just winging it.
No one here on this beautiful planet knows what they’re doing 100% of the time. They may pretend that they know. It may appear that they know. And they may even think that they know. And they may know to a certain extent, but if they were being completely honest with themselves, I have a feeling they would realize that they are in reality simply winging it.
I used to think that those “at the top” had everything all figured out. I used to think that once you reached a certain level of success, you received some sort of key explaining the ways of the world. And it all of a sudden became crystal clear how to move forward, how to live, and how to make your way through your time here on Earth.
After spending the last few years lovingly interacting with many successful people, I can tell you that this assumption is completely not true. Those at the top don’t have a special key or a sacred map to see how to thrive in this lifetime.
What I have learned is that while these successful people may not have it all figured out, they don’t let that stop them from trying, from moving forward, from continuing to learn and grow and persevere. They keep going. They fall down, and they get up again. And they keep doing this over and over until something clicks. Until something works. Until they become successful.
But they’re still winging it. And they still don’t have it all figured out.
They still make mistakes. They are still human. They still don’t have all of the answers – not even close. They still wake up in the morning – sometimes uncertain and sometimes not sure of how they will put one foot in front of the other. They still have no idea what will happen next.
But they don’t let that unknowing stop them from moving forward. They don’t let it keep them from experiencing life fully.
And I loved learning this secret. Because on the days when I have felt extra low and wondered how I was going to keep going forward, knowing this gave me hope.
I found such freedom in knowing how much none of us truly knows. We’re all just winging it. And it’s comforting to know that we’re winging it together.
Jodi Chapman is a bestselling author, an award-winning blogger, and a soulful community builder. She lives her life with love and faith in the driver’s seat, and she hopes to leave a trail of inspiration wherever she goes. She believes that we each have the ability to hear our soul’s whisper and create our best lives. She would love to connect with you!