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Doing Life Together

Doing Life Together

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It is rare that a trained academic who speaks passionately to the heart of people providing real answers to real life problems and in a relatable style. Dr. Linda’s fun personality comes through whether she’s helping her audiences prevent a divorce or make peace with their thighs!

Dr. Linda Mintle is a national expert on the psychology of food, weight and body image and relationships. With years of clinical experience in weight loss and eating disorders, she is uniquely qualified to bring sensibility and real help to anyone struggling with weight, eating and body image. Her latest book, Press Pause Before You Eat explores how to say goodbye to mindless eating and hello to the joy of eating.

Dr. Linda is a best selling author, winner of the Mom’s Choice Award, a national news consultant and blogger and hosts her own website. Her academic appointment at Eastern Virginia Medical School keeps her abreast of current research in her areas of expertise. Her media experience includes seven years as the resident expert for ABC Family’s Living the Life television show and regular appearances on network television and radio. Her current assignment as a national news consultant allows her to comment on mental health issues in the news. As a licensed marriage and family therapist and licensed clinical social worker, she brings 25 years of clinical experience to every day living.

It is often said that being with Dr. Linda is like having coffee with a friend. She makes the complicated issues of relationships and mental health easy to understand and applicable to every day living. The ease she has with people, coupled with her clinical training and experience makes her a sought after speaker on college campuses, at conferences and special events. Whether she is doing a TV skit with Tim Conway or discussing teen violence with Queen Latifa, Dr. Linda will entertain, educate and help you with Real Life. Real Answers.

The Mismatch of Conflict Styles: How to Handle It

posted by Linda Mintle

                If you’ve taken the FREE quiz on my website, drlindahelps.com, you know your conflict style–avoider, reactor or negotiator. Now the issue is, does your style match with those with whom you are […]

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8 Questions: Are You A Hard Worker or Workalholic?

posted by Linda Mintle

In the same way a drug addict uses cocaine or an alcoholic downs booze, work can have an anesthetizing effect on negative emotions. People use work to escape and avoid unpleasant emotional states. But because hard work is so sanctioned […]

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Breaking the Mental Habit of Worry

posted by Linda Mintle

Because worry is in the mind, it is a mental habit that must be broken. Here are a few practical tips to help break the worry habit: Identify the thought behind the worried or anxious feeling. Let it come and […]

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Hurt By a Conflict? How Do You ReBuild Trust?

posted by Linda Mintle

You’ve heard the saying, trust is easy to break, hard to repair. How do you go about building trust with someone you’ve hurt! The key is to know the other person’s world and reliably respond to it. Do what you […]

Should You Keep Secrets From Your Partner?

posted by Linda Mintle

I was in the grocery store yesterday, and the tabloids were headlining the secret love child of yet another celebrity couple. Even though we tend to expect this sort of thing from celebrity relationships, secrets are a problem. They don’t […]

What’s Your Attachment Style in Conflict?

posted by Linda Mintle

We all develop an insecure or secure bond with our original families. That bond is referred to as an attachment style. The more secure the bond, the better you will deal with conflict. Two bonding styles make conflict difficult–anxious and […]

Why Men Need to Talk: Preventing Depression

posted by Linda Mintle

When Janet’s dad died suddenly, she was able to talk to friends and get though the tragic loss. Her husband, Jack, didn’t fare as well. Being male, he felt he had to be strong for Janet. Yet, Janet’s dad was […]

10 Tips to Help Your Child Make A Best Friend

posted by Linda Mintle

Families are busy and when there is a little down time, kids usually grab their screens and engage in solo play. If they are on social media, they may have a number of “friends” but these are not deep friendships […]

How Do You Deal With Conflict: Take the Quiz?

posted by Linda Mintle

WE NEED TO TALK! When you hear that phrase, what goes through your mind? Take the short quiz here and see how you deal with conflict. Now that you know your primary style, let me ask you a few more […]

Could a Difficult Childhood Age You?

posted by Linda Mintle

Jack was the victim of child abuse growing up. Then, his mother died and he became a ward of the state, in and out of foster homes. His childhood was not only filled with abuse and trauma, but abandonment. As an adult, […]

The Positive Side of More Screen Time

posted by Linda Mintle

Please, put away your cell phone! We are eating dinner.  Get off the video game now. You have homework to do.  How many hours have you spent on Facebook? How about a real conversation? I admit, I tend to focus […]

We Need to Talk: How to Successfully Navigating Conflict

posted by Linda Mintle

Jim and Rachel are at it again. They can’t seem to agree on so many issues and all the fighting is taking a toll. Like so many of us, this couple needs help navigating conflict in a way that grows, […]

10 Ways to Resist Sex Outside of Marriage

posted by Linda Mintle

Sean Lowe, made famous by the reality television shows The Bachelorette and The Bachelor, was known as the Virgin Bachelor. But Lowe makes no apologies for his desire to wait until marriage to have sex with the woman he wanted to marry. Recently, he […]

A Therapeutic Way to Deal With Heartache or Tragedy

posted by Linda Mintle

He sat in my office and told me his father died suddenly of a heart attack. There was no warning and he and his mom were heartbroken.  She was crying as she talked about her 20 year marriage coming to […]

Take the Quiz: Do You Love Money Too Much?

posted by Linda Mintle

Money, money, money…The OJays sang about it, reminding us us what people will do for the love of money-steal from their mother, rob from their brother, lie, cheat and don’t care who they hurt or beat, etc. In Matthew, Jesus […]

A School Success Measure More Important Than Intelligence

posted by Linda Mintle

These days, parents seemed consumed with their children getting high test scores. The belief is that high test scores predicts academic success. But a new study suggests that parents should put their efforts elsewhere–in developing the personalities of their children. With […]

One Way to Facilitate the Feeling of Love

posted by Linda Mintle

Rosie is a little anxious about her first date with Sean. We all know how important first impressions are when it comes to finding love. After a few outings at a local coffee shop, her feelings of attraction were obvious. The setting was […]

Want to Stay Young? Engage in the Arts!

posted by Linda Mintle

Music, dance, drawing, reading, listening to poetry–all ways we can engage the arts. But is there a connection between staying young and engaging these activities? Yes, engaging in the arts helps you stay young. 1) Take up dancing. Dancing is […]

What Is Really Drawing Women to Fifty Shades of Grey?

posted by Linda Mintle

Yesterday, I heard a CNN reporter talking about the movie 50 Shades of Grey like she was promoting a Disney Movie. I was stunned by what she was saying. She was giddy with approval (not sure how that was journalism) and telling me […]

Do You Suffer From iPhone Separation?

posted by Linda Mintle

The other day I was running late for a meeting. As I rushed to the meeting, I suddenly realized I left my iPhone on my desk. For a moment, I panicked. Should I excuse myself and go back and get it? […]

Are Women More Emotionally Stimulated Than Men?

posted by Linda Mintle

When my husband and I watch a movie that has a strong emotional story line, I seem to be more moved by the story. For example, the opening scene of Saving Private Ryan felt traumatizing to me. I kept whispering […]

Boring Love: 10 Ideas to Rev it Up This Valentine’s Day

posted by Linda Mintle

Coming this weekend is Valentine’s Day. Raise your hand if you are doing the standard dinner out, flowers and candy. While this is nice, some of you may need to infuse a little more excitement into your boring relationship; The key: […]

The Teen Brain: Why Addiction is So Much Worse

posted by Linda Mintle

It’s the end of the school day. Your teen is moody and complains about having a bad day. You later learn he has made poor decisions and acted impulsively. He tells you he smoked pot, missed class, but it is […]

A Secret to Making Love Last

posted by Linda Mintle

It’s exciting watching young couples in love. Their desire and love for one another is infectious. But those of us who have been married for quite awhile have some advice when it comes to keeping love alive and making it […]

5 Factors That Put You At Risk for An Affair

posted by Linda Mintle

Justin Lehmiller at Purdue University is the author of The Psychology of Human Sexuality and studies sex and relationships. He has found that about 1 in 4  or 1 in 5 married people admit to sexual infidelity. So what puts a person […]

Mean Girls or Is It Mean Boys?

posted by Linda Mintle

Perhaps you’ve seen the movie Mean Girls. If so, you remember the popular clique of girls who ruled the social scene by backstabbing and being verbally mean to anyone they didn’t like. The movie reminds most of us of those one or […]

Could Visualizing Food Make You Eat Less?

posted by Linda Mintle

You are on your way to work and feel hungry. The morning rush caused you to skip breakfast. You pass the bakery as you walk to your office. The smell of freshly baked croissants is tempting. As you look in the […]

Treating Binge Eating With Medication?

posted by Linda Mintle

Every day Sally vows she will not eat herself sick. But today is no different. She is distressed, eating past full and feeling as if she has no control. Sally suffers from Binge Eating Disorder (BED) which has been recognized […]

Is Binge Drinking Just College Fun?

posted by Linda Mintle

In the throws of January, college students begin dreaming about Spring Break. Those plans often include partying on a beach with nonstop drinking. Binge drinking is “a pattern of drinking that brings blood alcohol concentration (BAC) levels to 0.08 g/dL. […]

Does the Cold Make You Catch a Cold?

posted by Linda Mintle

My mom used to tell me to put a hat on my baby when the weather was cold. I used to argue, “Mom, babies don’t catch colds from the cold. They get them from viruses. I’m not putting a hat […]

How Often Should I Weigh Myself?

posted by Linda Mintle

We all know that the number on the scale isn’t suppose to define us, but that doesn’t stop us from thinking about how much we weigh on any given day. And the number often influences our mood. So how often should we weigh? […]

Do Professional Women Have a Place in the Church?

posted by Linda Mintle

It was a usual Sunday and time for announcements. The Associate Pastor announced the women’s meeting at 10:00 a.m. on Tuesday. The focus was on decorating the church for the holidays. The men were meeting Friday morning at 6:30 am. […]

What To Know About Treating Depression

posted by Linda Mintle

You feel depressed and you know you need help. Where do you begin? First step, make an appointment with a mental health professional. This could include a psychiatrist (able to prescribe medications), licensed psychologist, licensed clinical social worker, licensed marriage […]

Treatment Approaches for OCD: What Works

posted by Linda Mintle

In any year, 1% of the U.S. population suffers with Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) according to NIMH. OCD is characterized by intrusive thoughts that produce anxiety (obsessions) and behaviors or thoughts that reduce that anxiety (compulsions). Is is often debilitating. […]

Working Out in Cold Weather: How to Get Motivated

posted by Linda Mintle

I spent a week in South Florida this Christmas break. Every morning I was up and out the door to do a 2 mile hike to the beach. I simply got out of bed, put on my workout clothes and bolted out […]

Making Family Change: How Are You Doing?

posted by Linda Mintle

We are one week in to our New Year Resolutions. If you made family resolutions, it is time to evaluate how you are doing. For those of you losing steam, don’t give up on those areas of family life you […]

Time to Get Organized: 10 Tips to De-Clutter

posted by Linda Mintle

It’s a new year. Time to question your thinking, “I might need this someday!” All year long I’ve stared at that cluttered basement–wrapping paper everywhere, half-emptied boxes scattered over the floor, bins of “stuff” that need to be sorted and […]

New Year’s Resolutions: Nice Idea, But Do They Work?

posted by Linda Mintle

It’s the start of a brand new year. Happy 2015! Once again, you determine to make a fresh start. You’ve thought it through. There are a few things on your list of TO DOs this new year. So, like millions, […]

The Emotional Side of Caregiving: What to Know

posted by Linda Mintle

Caregiving an elderly parent is not an easy job. The toll of decision making, talking with doctors, flying home on a regular basis and taking care of multiple needs can be physically and emotionally exhausting. For me, it wasn’t an […]

Merry Christmas! The Gift of a Lifetime

posted by Linda Mintle

MERRY CHRISTMAS I had to laugh as I watched the commercial. A woman and man were running towards each other just like you see in an old romantic movie. But as they get nearer and nearer, arms stretched out ready […]

When Disappointment Gives Way to Joy

posted by Linda Mintle

It’s a familiar part of the Christmas story.Luke 1: Zechariah is told by the angel, Gabriel, that his wife Elizabeth would have a child. This proclamation was surprising because Elizabeth and Zechariah were infertile and had been praying for a […]

Grieving During the Holidays

posted by Linda Mintle

I was driving down the road the other day when a song played on my phone. It touched me and it will touch you. I encourage anyone who will be missing a special someone this holiday season to click on […]

Relatives Who Drink Too Much: How to Handle it

posted by Linda Mintle

Question: We will be traveling to our relatives in another state for several family gatherings during Christmas. Two of my siblings are problem drinkers and I am not sure how to handle this with my family. We do not drink […]

Christmas Shopping With Toddlers: Dr. Linda’s 10 Tips

posted by Linda Mintle

A reader asks: As much as I love to shop on-line, I prefer to tackle the masses during Christmas and head to the malls and store. My question is, “How can I shop with two little ones (ages two and […]

What’s Eating You This Holiday Season? Keep a Log and Find Out!

posted by Linda Mintle

Joanne looked at the chocolate-covered donut in her hand. As she took her first bite, she wondered, “Why am I eating this? I”m not really hungry, but the plate of goodies sitting by the office coffee pot just looks good. Besides, my […]

10 Ideas to Avoid Depression During the Holidays

posted by Linda Mintle

It’s the most wonderful time of the year….well, not for everyone. Holidays can be difficult if you struggle with your mood and family issues. However, there are proactive ways to keep your spirit bright. 1) Don’t overspend. Avoid being caught […]

6 Tips to Avoid Child Meltdowns During the Holidays

posted by Linda Mintle

Are you dreading that trip in the car to grandparents? Is the hype of the holidays overstimulating your children? Too  much sugar, too little sleep? Try these 6 tips:   1) Routines and rituals: Try to keep as many going […]

Do You Really Want to Eat That Holiday Cake? 10 Ways to Stop!

posted by Linda Mintle

I know, the Christmas cookies are everywhere. There are candies, special coffees, extra treats….all temptations to indulge. So before you dive into that third cookie, ask yourself, “Do I really want to eat this? Will I be upset and sorry […]

Money Can’t Buy Love, But What About Happiness?

posted by Linda Mintle

Most of us think, “If I just had more money, I could relax, feel better about life and be happy.” But is this true? We know money can’t buy us love, but what about happiness? And if you are blessed […]

Do Right or Be Right? The Challenge of Betrayal

posted by Linda Mintle

We’ve all experienced it at one time or another–a friend breaks trust, a husband cheats, a boss promotes someone else, etc. The challenge is to respond to betrayal in a way that honors God. What better example to learn from […]

10 Reasons Why You Are Not Having Sex in Marriage

posted by Linda Mintle

You are busy. I get that. Welcome to life! When we are busy, sex can take a back seat and get lost in our everyday TO DO list. Of course busyness isn’t the only reason why sex wanes in a […]

10 Ways to Respond to Family Betrayal

posted by Linda Mintle

Forgive and love generously. Remember, as you choose to forgive, bless and do good, this does not mean you condone negative behavior, are minimizing hurt or denying problems. It means you have decided to follow the words of Christ and […]

One Secret to Staying Young

posted by Linda Mintle

Getting old is not for the faint at heart, at least, that is what my mother used to say. But is this attitude about aging one of the reasons we don’t age well? Research on aging tells us that the […]

TODAY GIVE THANKS!

posted by Linda Mintle

I am thankful for a world of beautiful color! For family who loves me and loves God! For a marriage that has endured 40 years with my best friend! For children who honor God and each other! For my dad […]

4 Ways to Cultivate An Attitude of Gratitude

posted by Linda Mintle

There is a great deal of entitlement in our culture. Daily, we are reminded as to what we deserve. Humility seems to be a lost character trait in a celebrity culture. So how can you intentionally develop an attitude of […]

10 Ways to Encourage Your Partner to Go to Couple Therapy

posted by Linda Mintle

“Our marriage needs help but my husband won’t go to therapy.” I’ve heard this statement often and it is usually filled with frustration, sadness and sometimes anger. A relationship is in trouble but one spouse refuses to get help. If a marriage […]

Change Whining Into Gratitude

posted by Linda Mintle

A mom asks: The other day I was so embarrassed because my child whined around when I was trying to talk to another mom. When our children whine, it really bothers us. We want to turn that whining to gratitude. […]

8 Tips for a Better Night’s Sleep

posted by Linda Mintle

Are you irritable? Difficult to live with because you are constantly tired? Time to look at your sleep habits and do something about them. If you are tossing and turning consider these 8 tips: Women take an average of nine minutes […]

Do You Help Your Teen Too Much? Answer These 5 Questions

posted by Linda Mintle

Julie was handed her biology test in class. While she studied for the test, the material was difficult. When she saw the red C at the top of the exam, she began to cry. Racked with anxiety, she couldn’t believe […]

Eating Well: Rules for the Road

posted by Linda Mintle

I’ve been commuting between a small town and a large city. The almost four hour rural commute usually requires a meal stop. Here is where the challenge comes. The only food stops on the rural route are fast food restaurants. […]

If You Want a Child Who Sticks To It, Look at Dad!

posted by Linda Mintle

If you want a persistent child, dads are key. Persistent is a trait most parents want to see developed in their children. When the assignment is difficult, we want  our kids to persist in their studies and do well. When […]

Thanks to All Our Veterans

posted by Linda Mintle

To all our veterans, To my dad, 93 years-old, a veteran of WWII, the greatest generation, love and prayers. Thank you for joining the fight at a young age and defeating the enemy! To my brother, Captain Gary Marquardt who lost […]

The Difference Between Remorse and Repentance

posted by Linda Mintle

John admits. He  struggles with addiction. He is determined to beat his habit but gives in, feels bad, intends to make a change, but ends up slipping time and again. When he does, it deeply hurts his wife. He sees the pain […]

Is Being Anxious Character Assassination of God?

posted by Linda Mintle

“Holding on to anxiety is like character assassination to our Father. “ This statement took me aback. It is a quote from my pastor. I had never quite thought of holding on to anxiety is this way. As the pastor […]

A Connection Between PTSD and Food Addiction?

posted by Linda Mintle

At the age of 10, Nicole, like so many children adored her mom. One day, the two were at the park playing and having a great time. Suddenly her mom fell to the ground and died. Nicole was traumatized by […]

Success at Work? Maybe It’s Your Spouse’s Personality!

posted by Linda Mintle

Dave is getting a promotion. His boss is impressed with his hard work. But could Dave’s work success be related to his wife’s conscientious personality? Possibly! Your spouse might influence your career. Conscientious, hard-working, agreeable….are these traits you list on your […]

Should You Celebrate or Ignore Halloween?

posted by Linda Mintle

A reader asked: My husband and I talked about it and decided we are not going to celebrate Halloween. Our child is three-years old and she really doesn’t know much about the holiday yet, but we do. I have been […]

Can You Multi-Task If You Are A Digital Native?

posted by Linda Mintle

Lately, we’ve heard a lot about people who think they can multitask but perform poorly. So parents all over America are turning off music and screens, telling their teens to focus on the single task of studying. Good idea, right? Maybe not […]

10 Ways to Recover and Respond to Angry Email

posted by Linda Mintle

It happens to all of us. Someone sends an email that upsets us and we react by firing off an angry response. This impulse to react usually leads to regret and ends up damaging our relationships. So how do we respond to hurt, […]

Is Fear Stopping You From Taking Medications?

posted by Linda Mintle

If you have ever seen a TV commercial for a specific drug, you probably wonder why anyone would ever take that drug. The speed reading list of possible side effects is enough to stop most of us from even considering […]

Could Watching Violence and Sex in Movies Affect Your Children?

posted by Linda Mintle

Mr. and Mrs. Johnson are considered good parents. But are they too lenient when it comes to letting their children watch movies filled with sex and violence? A new study sheds light on why parents may be too lenient when it comes […]

Waiting: The Trying of Patience

posted by Linda Mintle

Flying is no picnic these days. I dreaded the two-stop flight I recently took and for good reason. I was delayed on each leg. Fortunately, I had long lay overs and didn’t miss connections, but several people on my flights […]

Loving Your Body, Imperfections and All!

posted by Linda Mintle

Is it so difficult to accept the bodies we’ve been given, to celebrate them as uniquely designed by God and created in His image? Apparently. Loving, even liking, your body is a rare thing in today’s culture. It seems we […]

What Type of Decision Maker are You?

posted by Linda Mintle

Last week, I was going out of town for the weekend. I spent hours going over my wardrobe choices. What if it rains, gets cold, I want something more formal, etc.? My husband opened his suitcase, threw in a few […]

5 Coaching Tips to Improve Adult Mother-Daughter Relations

posted by Linda Mintle

Mandy was at the end of her rope with her mom when she called me for coaching. Every conversation ended with frustration. Why couldn’t the two of them get along better? Why did her mom constantly criticize her and tell […]

Why Our Wants May Not Turn Out to Be Our Likes

posted by Linda Mintle

When our first dog died, we thought we wanted another. We did, but when we got the dog and our schedules all demanded more time, the dog became more of an imposition. Don’t get me wrong, we love her to […]

Does Happiness Affect Your Success?

posted by Linda Mintle

Happiness is a good thing, right? Yes and no. There is actually a down side to too much happiness. 1)   Happy people tend to be less persuasive. When happy, you can overlook details. Unhappy people can focus more on the […]

Are Couples Who Play Together More Satisfied?

posted by Linda Mintle

When I was dating my husband, I realized he was a huge soccer fan. Me, not so much! I grew up in the north where hockey ruled game day. But because I was falling for him, I decided I better […]

Emma Watson on Gender Equality: Is “Feminism” a Dirty Word?

posted by Linda Mintle

If you missed it, actress Emma Watson, gave a moving speech to the UN last month.  Her topic was on gender equality and her #heforshe campaign–a movement trying to raise the issues involved with gender equality. If you are not one […]

Fatal Attraction: What You Found Attractive May Now Bother You

posted by Linda Mintle

When John dated Katie, he was attracted to how book smart she was and how much she loved to learn new things. He is the first to tell you, he’s not cut out for academics and loves to play instead […]

Would You Rather Be Shocked Than Bored?

posted by Linda Mintle

I can remember so many times when my kids would say to me, “I’m bored!” And they didn’t like my response, “That’s a good thing. Maybe you can listen to your thoughts or think creatively.” Truth is, most of us […]

Kardashian Catwalk Controversy: A Little Sibling Rivalry?

posted by Linda Mintle

Think drama! NO, think mindless drama. Now who comes to mind? The Kardashians of course. If there is a way to keep their names in the news, they find it. And so it goes with the latest “controversy.” Apparently, 18- […]

Lifestyle Changes Now May Prevent Alzheimer’s Later

posted by Linda Mintle

I remember when my grandmother began to have memory loss in her early 80s. It was hard to watch because she knew she was losing it. Eventually, Alzheimer’s took its hold on her mind and she ended up in a nursing […]

What is Bipolar Depression?

posted by Linda Mintle

When academy award winning actress, Catherine Zeta-Jones announced that she suffered from Bipolar II Disorder and checked into a mental health facility for a brief stay in 2011, it made celebrity news. People wondered. What is Bipolar Disorder and how does […]

Adrian Peterson: When Does Spanking Become Abuse?

posted by Linda Mintle

This week has been filled with reports about NFL Minnesota Vikings running back Adrian Peterson’s accusation of reckless or negligent injury to his four-year-old son. The incident has once again raised the controversy surrounding the use of corporal punishment. Three issues are […]

Would You Allow Your Teen to Have Sex in Your House?

posted by Linda Mintle

A friend of mine was having coffee with me and mentioned something that took me aback. Someone we know is allowing her son’s girlfriend to live in the house with them and have sex under their roof. Neither of these […]

Does Porn Affect Your Relationship?

posted by Linda Mintle

During an evening talk show  there were plenty of jokes about pornography. And as the host and celebrity guest settled down, it was evident, porn, in their opinions, is no big deal.  If fact, many of the tabloids and even a few […]

5 Ways to Live in Financial Harmony

posted by Linda Mintle

Money can’t buy you love but it sure can make love difficult. Especially if you are in a relationship and not managing your money well. When it comes to money, here are 5 tips to live in relationship harmony: 1) Decide […]

Understanding Depression: Let’s Keep Talking

posted by Linda Mintle

This week, Janet Parshall had me on her radio show, In The Market, to talk about a topic the church and society have  a great deal of trouble discussing–depression. The phone lines were constantly lit up. People wanted and needed to talk. […]

Should You Try Again After an Affair?

posted by Linda Mintle

We all know how devastating an affair can be to a marriage. The question often asked is, “Should I try to work through the betrayal and give the person another chance?” It’s a question most of us hope we never have […]

5 Safeguards to Prevent Cheating On-line

posted by Linda Mintle

It’s easy to do. You are bored, mad at your partner and notice a Facebook Message from an old flame. Your curiosity is peaked. What harm could it do to answer and catch up? Next thing you know, you are […]

Do Genetics or Lifestyle Determine Our Diseases?

posted by Linda Mintle

My father has type 2 diabetes. His mother had it as well. Does this mean I will get it too? Most of us look at our family history of disease and wonder if we inherited our parents’ illnesses. We worry that […]

Brangelina Married, But Why?

posted by Linda Mintle

Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie finally tied the knot. After nine years and six children, something prompted them to become a legitimately married couple. Only they know the real reason they waited so long. Perezhilton.com reported the marriage was to honor a […]

10 Ways to Respond to Someone Who Is Depressed

posted by Linda Mintle

One good thing that came out of Robin William’s death is that we are once again talking about depression. Depression can be a silent killer and still has a stigma despite the numbers of people who struggle with it in […]

The Real Reason We Yawn!

posted by Linda Mintle

It’s late afternoon. You are sitting in a meeting. Three people at the table yawn and you do the same. Are you bored? Tired? Or what? Need more coffee? Need more sleep? Or maybe you need a nice cool air-conditioned […]

Teacher Tells Student What Words She Cannot Say!

posted by Linda Mintle

Some things defy common sense…here is one of them. Be ready to be outraged! Maybe you heard the story last week. High school senior Kendra Turner was suspended in Dyer County Tennessee for breaking a class rule. You might be […]

Mariah Carey and Nick Cannon Split: Telling All May Have Been Too Much

posted by Linda Mintle

The gossip train is all a buzz with what looks like a split between pop diva, Mariah Carey and her husband, America’s Got Talent host, Nick Cannon. The usual suspects, TMZ, People, Hollywood Life and others are reporting the spilt, […]

Withholding Friendship as a Weapon

posted by Linda Mintle

I’ll never forget the day my five-year-old came home and said, “No one will play with ‘Sandy’ because she doesn’t do what they say!” I was upset and thankfully, my daughter thought it was mean. But the other girls excluded little […]

Look Before You Lock: Leaving Kids in Hot Cars

posted by Linda Mintle

It’s August. It’s hot! You just need to run into the store for a few minutes to grab a few groceries. Your six-month-old is sleeping soundly and he really needs a nap. Should you leave him be and run in […]

More Bad News for Pot Smokers

posted by Linda Mintle

As the legalization of marijuana gains momentum, more data pours in that is NOT good news. Here are some of the findings: Sometimes, marijuana is addictive. If you begin as a teen, you have a higher chance of developing an addiction. […]

Robin Williams: Laughter and Sadness

posted by Linda Mintle

The news that Robin Williams had died, hit me hard. This incredible funny man was introduced to me as an alien on Mork and Mindy. Immediately, one could see the quick wit of a comedian destined for stardom. He made us laugh! Then he […]

And the Winner for the Highest Calorie Meal in a Restaurant Goes To…

posted by Linda Mintle

Are you on the go and too busy to cook? Before you pull in to that chain restaurant for a quick meal, consider the calorie count of some of the meals. You might be a little sticker shocked when it […]

Are You Drinking Your Calories to Weight Gain?

posted by Linda Mintle

My daughter and I made a Starbucks stop the other day. She was in the mood for an Iced Caramel Macchiato Coffee and I wanted a Caramel Latte. So we pulled up our fast food app and looked at the […]

An Easy Way to Build Trust, Love and Acceptance

posted by Linda Mintle

Turn off your TV and stop watching all the shows about betrayal, revenge and hurting people. And stop listening to all the cultural voices telling you that you aren’t good enough and need to improve. I’ve got a simple way you […]

10 Ways to Fail as a Leader

posted by Linda Mintle

Merrill Lynch CEO, John Thain (The picture is not John Thain!) was upset when he didn’t receive a year-end bonus for losing billions of dollars. His reason–yes, the company lost billions, but his leadership probably prevented even more hemorrhaging. HE thought […]

Why Talking on the Phone is Like Driving Drunk

posted by Linda Mintle

I now live in a fairly small town and have noticed how many people drive and talk on their cell phones. Without fail, when someone is driving erratically, too slow in a lane or crossing over the mid line, I […]

What Does Your Clutter Say About You?

posted by Linda Mintle

Is your closet a window into your mental health? Are you what you wear?  Does saving your old college sports uniform remind you of the glory days of your life?  How about those hundreds of books you will never read again, but […]

Teens and TV: Are They Overdoing It?

posted by Linda Mintle

By now, most of you are aware that too much screen viewing for children and teens is linked to  elevated blood pressure, high cholesterol, lack of sleep, school problems, aggression, and being overweight. And we know that teen viewing habits often […]

Body-Brain Connection: When Bigger Really is Better

posted by Linda Mintle

“As your weight goes up, the size and function of your brain goes down.” This, according to psychiatrist, Daniel Amen. It’s true, smaller doesn’t always mean better, especially when it comes to the size of your brain! Dr. Amen, author […]

5 Proactive Steps to Get Rid of Job Worry

posted by Linda Mintle

Downsizing, added work loads, difficult co-workers, budget cuts and poor leadership can cause even the calmest person to worry on the job. On way to deal with stress and job worries is to control the things you can and trust God […]

Hair Raising: Kids Getting Bikini Waxes

posted by Linda Mintle

When the New York Post reported that 14-year-old Glynis Coyne has been getting her legs waxed since she was eight years old, I just gasped. Apparently, I am not up on the trend–hair removal for prepubescent girls! Instead of a […]

10 Reasons Couples Therapy Needs a Spiritual Base

posted by Linda Mintle

Let’s say your marriage is hurting and you know you need help. If you are a Christian couple, does it matter who you see and what approach the person uses to help you? Absolutely. So much of couples therapy is […]

Health Worries? The Internet a Blessings and a Curse!

posted by Linda Mintle

So I am reading the morning paper, enjoying my coffee, when I come across a small article tucked in the health and wellness section of the Wall Street Journal. According to research in a British journal, calcium supplements, typically used to prevent […]

10 Ways to Help Your Child With Nightmares

posted by Linda Mintle

Sarah sat up in bed and began to cry. Another nightmare woke her from a deep sleep. Between the ages of three and six, nightmares occur for two developmental reasons: 1) Fears begin to develop 2) A child’s imagination is […]

Teen Health Risk Report Card: How Does Your Teen Fare?

posted by Linda Mintle

A new government survey on teens and health risk behaviors has been released by the Center for Disease Control and Prevention. The Youth Risk Behavior Surveillance System (YRBSS) looks at six types of health risk behaviors that contribute to leading […]

Commercials That Empower Girls: Much Ado About Nothing

posted by Linda Mintle

Have you noticed the trend?  Companies trying to sell us hair and feminine products, soap and make-up are targeting girls with messages of empowerment. Stop being weak, telling people you are sorry and wallowing in low self-esteem! #GirlsCan! First it was Dove’s Real […]

The HOT Trend that Could Be Deadly: Size Triple O Jeans

posted by Linda Mintle

I was listening to the news and heard a story about the latest fashion fad–triple O jeans. Yes, you read that right OOO! I didn’t even know there was such a size.  And frankly, that size should be in the children’s […]

Smoking Anything Isn’t Good For You

posted by Linda Mintle

With the rise of hookah bars, teens tend to think that this trend is a safer alternative to smoking cigarettes. This simply isn’t true. The Center for Disease Control and Prevention is warning us that smoking anything increases our risk […]

High Conflict at Home? How You Are Hurting Your Kids

posted by Linda Mintle

It’s a typical Friday night and mom and dad are at it again. Little Jill covers her ears. Billy runs under the table and tries to hide and Angie cries. The kids are stressed and can’t take their parents constant […]

Are You Entering the Nap Zone?

posted by Linda Mintle

It is afternoon. You have a talk to give. When you enter the room and begin to set up, you notice people looking rather sleepy. In fact, as you scan the audience, some people are already nodding off. You think, “This […]

10 Signs That Someone Might Be Lying to You

posted by Linda Mintle

You are reading an email from a man you are dating. Your gut tells you, “I’m not sure this is the truth.” How do you know if he is lying to you? It’s tough. With social media you don’t have the […]

Should Your Junk Food Be Taxed?

posted by Linda Mintle

We know that obesity is a global epidemic and that something has to be done to curb the eating of most Americans. One solution being proposed is to tax junk food. This would mean government would decide the winners and […]

Justin Bieber’s Baptism: Are You a Believer?

posted by Linda Mintle

For days, I have been listening to all the chatter about Justin Bieber and his alleged return to God. All the buzz was about his bath tub baptism by NYC’s Hillsong pastor, Carl Lentz. Yes, Bieber has a faith background. […]

Want to be a Great Dad? Have a Great Marriage

posted by Linda Mintle

It’s Father’s Day this weekend and children all over the country will find ways to honor their dads.  Dad’s are important for so many reasons. They are more than a second adult in a home. They impact the psychological, academic […]

Offended? You Have Three Choices

posted by Linda Mintle

I was watching Selling New York the other day and one of the sellers was so offensive to the real-estate  agent. He was making insensitive ethnic jokes and insulting him left and right. The agent took it on the chin. […]

The Magic Bullet for Improving Your Brain

posted by Linda Mintle

At 90, my dad was just as sharp witted as ever. One of the secrets of his alert mind was his regular exercise. Every day, no matter the weather, he drove to the mall and walked with several of his […]

Is Texting Helping or Hurting Your Relationship?

posted by Linda Mintle

Many of us remember the woman who fell in the fountain at the mall because she was so distracted texting. And we know texting and driving is extremely dangerous, but what about the dangers or help of texting on our […]

Frozen in Conflict? 10 Ways to Thaw the Tension

posted by Linda Mintle

The hit movie Frozen includes a plot line of  sisters avoiding conflict. But does a conceal versus reveal approach to conflict pay off in real life? Not really. Now that we are all singing, “Let it Go” in our heads, […]

Do You Really Understand What Leads a Teen to Cut or Self-Injure?

posted by Linda Mintle

Test your knowledge on self-injury: Take the True or False Quiz  Self-injury is: 1) A suicidal behavior. False. It is an attempt to self-soothe, control emotions, communicate what is difficult to say, or control and punish oneself through trauma reenactment. It helps a […]

Internet Addiction Changes the Brain

posted by Linda Mintle

Just a word of warning. If you are a gamer or tied to the video gaming industry, you won’t like this report given to the American Psychiatric Association’s 2014 Annual Meeting.  It has to do with a review of 13 […]

A Brief Update on Autisim

posted by Linda Mintle

If you have a chance to listen to Geneticist Wendy Chung’s TED talk on autism, do so. She briefly summarizes where we are on better understanding the Autism Spectrum Disorders. Here are a few of her points: 1) Autism is […]

Is Frequent Tanning a Marker of Depression?

posted by Linda Mintle

I’ ve written several articles on the dangers of tanning to the skin, but now we may have additional concerns when it comes to mental health, especially the mental health of our teens. The teenage years are marked with insecurity […]

Memorial Day: Honor the Dead but Take Care of the Living

posted by Linda Mintle

Memorial day is supposed to honor men and women who died in all wars. This is why many of us visit the graves of our fallen loved ones and fly the American flag at half-staff until noon. Others march in […]

Are You Addicted to Love?

posted by Linda Mintle

Some of you remember singer Robert Palmer’s well-known music video, Addicted to Love. The chorus repeats the line, “Might as well face it, you’re addicted to love.” What if Palmer was on to something here? Can people be addicted to […]

Boys Dealing With Rejection

posted by Linda Mintle

“No, you can’t play with us! ” When children are left out of activities with their peers, it is painful. No one likes to be the child that isn’t picked in P.E. or the one who didn’t get invited to […]

Help! My Child Eats Dirt!

posted by Linda Mintle

A mom notices that her three-year-old son eats dirt, paper and sand. She wonders if this is normal and if he will eventually grow out of this behavior.   A child who persistently eats nonnutritive substances like dirt, sand and […]

10 Guidelines for Talking to Your Kids About Marital Separation

posted by Linda Mintle

It’s tragic whenever a marriage comes to a point where two people are struggling to coexist. When a relationship becomes toxic, dangerous, emotionally exhausting or so contentious that two people can’t have a civil conversation, separation can function like a […]

Are Energy Drinks Good for Kids?

posted by Linda Mintle

It’s Spring soccer for the kids. We take the field, watch our kids run in a herd towards the goal and come back to the sideline for a short pep talk. Then, it is halftime. The mom in charge of […]

Happy Mother’s Day: Giving Back to Mom

posted by Linda Mintle

Even though my mom is no longer with me, I will miss her this Mother’s Day! This is a picture of us celebrating years ago. And while my mother-daughter relationship was not perfect, there was so much she gave me […]

How Social Media Affects Moms

posted by Linda Mintle

The Barna Group surveyed American moms in their FRAMES project and discovered both positive and negative influences of social media on how moms feel about themselves. We all know that  social media can certainly make someone look better than perhaps […]

Mom Taking Care of Mom: A Little Self-Care Needed!

posted by Linda Mintle

It’s 6 a.m. You begin your day with two cups of coffee, feed the kids, and grab a granola bar as you run out the door to meet the school bus. Then you make a mad rush to do errands. […]

New Report: No Amount of Alcohol is Safe!

posted by Linda Mintle

In the past few years we have heard about the benefits of having a little alcohol (e.g., red wine), but a new report says the downside of alcohol outweighs the benefits. And certainly we know how easily alcohol can be […]

Hope for That Difficult Person in Your Life

posted by Linda Mintle

We all have that one or two people in our lives that are hard to live with or obnoxious to be around. You know, the person who growls when any little thing goes wrong, or maintains a frown when people […]

More Evidence That Pot is Not Harmless

posted by Linda Mintle

In recent months, the debate concerning the harm of marijuana has been in full force. Our own President insisted that smoking pot was no worse than alcohol. But the science, not the opinions of many, of marijuana use is proving […]

Mad at Your Spouse? Go Eat!

posted by Linda Mintle

The last thing you will hear from me, an eating disorders specialist, is to grab some food when you are angry. This is exactly what I help people NOT do –eat when they are emotional. So many of us channel […]

Too Much Information (TMI) Tori Spelling!

posted by Linda Mintle

Tori Spelling, former Beverly Hills 90210 TV actress and daughter of well known television and film producer, Aaron Spelling, takes her broken heart to reality TV.  After seven years of marriage and four children, Tori is telling all in her […]

Why is There a War on Christianity?

posted by Linda Mintle

Every time I turn on the news I hear about some group who is trying to strip God out of the culture. They don’t want prayer in school, God on our money, the 10 commandments in court rooms, Christian clubs […]

Have You Found Your Soul Mate?

posted by Linda Mintle

People tell me in therapy that they have or want to find their soulmate.  I’m really not sure what that means. Murray’s new book, The Curmudgeon’s Guide to Getting Ahead defines  soulmate as your closest friend to whom you are sexually […]

Should You Marry Young?

posted by Linda Mintle

Friends of ours married off their son when he just turned 21. Another is getting married at 20 and hey, I was married at 19! Yes, I know, that is really young. But is marrying young a good idea? Well, […]

The Hope of the Resurrection

posted by Linda Mintle

It’s Good Friday. Do you sometimes feel as if your life is lived  in a perpetual Good Friday mode? Like the movie, Ground Hog Day, it seems you are replaying the same bad day over and over, fighting despair and […]

Honey, Do Your Know Where My Glasses Are?

posted by Linda Mintle

It’s a running joke in our house. Where are mom’s glasses? Mom, that would be me, is constantly putting them down and forgetting where they are! I don’t think it is an aging thing because the misplaced glasses have been […]

It’s Tax Day But How Is Your Emotional Bank Account Doing?

posted by Linda Mintle

Yes, today is tax day and many of you will make that last minute run for the post office before midnight! Why? Because you don’t want to be penalized by the federal government. But what about your emotional bank account? […]

Bully Targets Not Who You Think

posted by Linda Mintle

A high school sophomore takes two kitchen knives to his school and goes on a stabbing frenzy in the hallway of his high school wounding 22 people. According to his lawyer,  he was well liked and not a loner. The […]

Chew on This If You Chew on Gum

posted by Linda Mintle

When that new flavor of gum hits the grocery store, its tempting. Watermelon sour, triple berry fruit…sounds like dessert in a stick, but what is the skinny on gum chewing? As a mom, I didn’t let my kids chew gum, […]

#NOT TALKING TO YOU #FIGHTINGAGAIN: Tweeting Our Way to Conflict

posted by Linda Mintle

TWEET: You didn’t follow through on your promise today#madatyouagain TWEET: How about the way you responded #outofcontrol TWEET: No way. Call me @JohnSmith. I’m over Tim! TWEET: #overreacting. #outofcontrol and trying to blame me. I guess I eat out tonight! […]

I’m Trying to Fall Asleep But I’m Too Wound Up!

posted by Linda Mintle

I spent too much money on a pillow that was supposed to help me sleep better. The promise was that it would stay cool and not cause any neck discomfort. It is a comfortable pillow, but I still find myself […]

Your Doctor May Be Checking a New Vital Sign!

posted by Linda Mintle

Let’s say you just had a check up and found out your blood sugar was too high. Your doctor talked to you about managing your diet in a way that might bring those levels down. Now, it is up to […]

Are You a Hoarder?

posted by Linda Mintle

You walk down the stairs to your basement. It is filled with stuff, everywhere. There isn’t a pathway to walk because of all the boxes and things you have stored and kept. You are afraid to throw away anything. After […]

The Cure for Body Dissatisfaction

posted by Linda Mintle

Imagine living your life free from distraction, distortion, obsession and self-preoccupation…imagine living in the moment and liberated from the patterns of the past while being excited about the future. Imagine accepting and even celebrating the body you’ve been given, knowing […]

Who is Telling Grandma to Stop Baking Cookies?

posted by Linda Mintle

My grandmother could cook with a vengeance. I have many fond memories of sitting at the kitchen table watching her pull dough for strudel, bake pies and create German delights. So when the U.S. Department of Agriculture (USDA) came out […]

Worried? Take Those Thoughts Captive!

posted by Linda Mintle

Worry is one of the easiest things to do considering the world in which we live. We can worry about anything—nuclear war, unrest in the Mideast, a failing economy, our marriage, aging parents, what to wear to a party or […]

5 Ways Parents Can Help Kids Who Use Hurtful Words

posted by Linda Mintle

“You are an idiot and I hate you!”  “You make me sick! Loser!”  Parents cringe when they hear this type of speech out of the mouths of children. The tongue is one of the most powerful parts of the body (James […]

Real Pain, But No Solution?

posted by Linda Mintle

“Hey doc, I have this pain in my back and I don’t know why?” Chances are, your doctor may not know either. One study (2011, 620 German primary-care patients,  Journal of Psychosomatics) estimates that up to two-thirds of patient pain […]

Is Monogamy Only for Women?

posted by Linda Mintle

I generally like the work of biological anthropologist, Helen Fisher. She wrote a book called, The Anatomy of Love, and concludes that women are more wired for monogamy than men. She claims that men are wired to want sex with many partners […]

Could Strawberries Prevent Memory Loss in Alzheimer’s?

posted by Linda Mintle

What if eating strawberries, cucumbers and other produce could prevent an Alzheimer’s patient from memory loss? There may be new evidence for this based on mice studies. These findings have not been replicated on Alzheimer patients yet, but the mice […]

College Abuse of ADHD Medications: What You Should Know

posted by Linda Mintle

Mike is a 20-year-old college student who needs to score well on his next big test. If he doesn’t get a high grade, it could jeopardize his grade point average and chances of getting into medical school. Mike knows that […]

March Madness: 8 Tips for Anger Management

posted by Linda Mintle

March Madness, as most of you know, is a term referring to college basketball play offs that are scheduled in March. We are now in the thick of those playoffs. What you might have noticed is  aggressive and violent acts […]

Can’t Sleep? 8 Tips For a Good Night’s Rest

posted by Linda Mintle

You turn on the TV  with the hope that the late night show will put you to sleep, but does it? That depends … 1) If your female, it will take you longer to fall asleep than your male counterpart. […]

Relationship Dissatisfaction? Could be a Power Imbalance?

posted by Linda Mintle

When  Donna and Jim were asked if they want an equal relationship, they answered, “Yes.” What they mean by that answer is where communication breaks down. People have widely different ideas about what equal means in a relationship. Power usually […]

Let’s Ban Profanity, Not “Bossy”

posted by Linda Mintle

When I heard Beyonce was part of a campaign to ban the word “bossy” for female empowerment, I was confused.  She is worried about “bossy” when her husband Jay-Z spews filthy and degrading lyrics on most of his songs? If […]

Signs that Your Child May be Bullied

posted by Linda Mintle

The federal government has a website called Stop Bullying Now.  On that website are these signs that may indicate your child is being bullied. As you look at the list, keep in mind that it is important to intervene early […]

Facebook: Do I LIKE What I See and Does it Affect Me?

posted by Linda Mintle

When Kelly looks in the mirror, she is usually self-critical. Not much changes when she checks her Facebook every day. She clicks through the posts mostly looking at photos. When she encounters one with her picture in it, she is […]

Mrs. Obama Says Let’s Move to User Friendly Food Labels

posted by Linda Mintle

As I was finishing off a bag of pre-popped popcorn, I decided to read the label. To my surprise, the half bag I had already consumed was considered 3 servings. Oops, that was a total of 480 calories for that […]

Appearance More Important Than Health, Finances and Family

posted by Linda Mintle

“I feel fat today. I need to lose five pounds.” “I hate my stomach!” Do you feel old, unattractive, find yourself staring at that selfie and saying, “What? I don’t look like that!” According to a survey from Today/AOL, Ideal […]

10 Ways to Manage Single Mom Stress

posted by Linda Mintle

Ten Ways to Manage Single Mommy Stress: 1) Find another single mom and trade out a morning or few hours of kid time so you both get a break. You agree to take her kids for a morning and then she […]

What Will You Give Up for Lent?

posted by Linda Mintle

Today is Ash Wednesday.  It is the beginning of the 40 days of preparation (Lent) that leads to the celebration of Chris’s death (Good Friday), burial and resurrection (Easter). On this day, we focus on our sins, repentance and God’s […]

Manorexcia: Men With Eating Disorders

posted by Linda Mintle

When we hear anything about eating disorders, we tend to think of girls and women. Yet, some of you are familiar with the term “manorexic,” referring to boys and men who also struggle with a clinical eating disorder some time […]

A Non Medication Treatment for Depression

posted by Linda Mintle

Not every person who is depressed can tolerate the side effects of antidepressants, nor are the medications always effective. So if a treatment with few side effects that targeted a specific region of the brain was available, would you be […]

Could Music Help Alzheimer Patients Remember?

posted by Linda Mintle

When I would visit my mom in the nursing home, I would visit the Alzheimer’s unit  and ask my mom to come sing with me while I played the piano for the patients.  What was remarkable was that the Alzheimer […]

A Trick to Snacking Less!

posted by Linda Mintle

When it comes to losing weight, all the tricks we know help! So here is one to add to your bag. If you want to eat less of an item, buy it individually wrapped rather than loose in the bag. […]

Hey Mom, Time for a Little Self-Care!

posted by Linda Mintle

It’s 6 a.m. You begin your day with two cups of coffee, feed the kids, and grab a granola bar as you run out the door to meet the school bus. Then you make a mad rush to do errands. […]

Keeping Health Worries at Bay

posted by Linda Mintle

Everyday, we are exposed to new health findings in newspapers, blogs, on-line websites, and news feature. If you listen to them all, you will end up confused, and feeling like your family gets an “F” in health. And all of […]

Five Tips to Help Your Child Adjust to a Stepparent

posted by Linda Mintle

Terry slouched on my therapy couch and mumbled, “My mom has a new husband. She wants me to be nice to him, but I don’t feel like being nice. I’m sick and tired of not seeing my dad. I don’t […]

How to React to a Child Swearing

posted by Linda Mintle

According to a  study by psychology professor Timothy Jay at Massachusetts College of Liberal Arts, the rise in adult vulgarity is being mimicked by children and teens. Jay says that swearing really takes off between ages three and four. The […]

Sexless Marriage Can Get the Sparks Flying Again

posted by Linda Mintle

Sex therapist will tell you that lack of sex in a marriage could be a sign of marital crisis. While that may be true, it is normal for a couple’s sex life to slow down over time and even stop. […]

Does Father’s Drinking Impact His Unborn Child?

posted by Linda Mintle

We all know the warnings new moms are given to stay away from alcohol and drugs before and during a pregnancy. Maternal exposure to alcohol in-utero is a risk and cause for Fetal Alcohol Syndrome (FAS). Children born with FAS can […]

Coveting: The Socially Acceptable Sin

posted by Linda Mintle

Joshua 7, a sobering chapter deals with sin in the Israelite camp. It begins with a sin committed by Achan, one member of the tribe of Judah. When the Israelites took the city of Jericho as recorded in chapter 6, […]

How to Keep Passion Alive

posted by Linda Mintle

Rick and Susan were once passionate lovers. Now, they wonder what happened. Can they keep passion alive in their relationship? For years, researchers believed that romantic love wore off after about 18-36 months, explaining why romantic love burns hot in the […]

Singles and Relationships: Oh How We’ve Changed

posted by Linda Mintle

A survey of more than 5000 singles for Match.com reveals real change in the attitudes of singles when it comes to marriage and relationships. When asked about sex dating and what is OK in relationships, here is what the survey […]

Discouraged Because You Are Not In Love?

posted by Linda Mintle

Reminders of Valentine’s Day are everywhere. When you are not in love and would like to be, this can be a discouraging week. Whatever it is that is discouraging you, note the cure the psalmist David employed in Psalm 103:1-5. […]

10 Ways to Love That Difficult Family Member

posted by Linda Mintle

This season of love, take a look at your family relationships. Forgive and love generously. Remember, as you choose to forgive, bless and do good, this does not mean you condone negative behavior, are minimizing hurt or denying problems. It […]

A Quick Worry Evaluation

posted by Linda Mintle

  BODY: Check for physical tension. Do you have any of the physical signs of anxiety such as a racing or pounding heart, sweaty palms, difficulty breathing, stomach upset, frequent urination or diarrhea, muscle tension, headaches, fatigue or insomnia? Be […]

A Challenging Response to Betrayal

posted by Linda Mintle

Betrayal cuts deep. A husband cheats, a daughter lies, a friend goes behind your back…Your heart is broken! Jesus knew the heartbreak of betrayal when he watched his beloved disciples turn against him. Judas gave Him over to his enemies […]

Friday Night Tykes or Frights?

posted by Linda Mintle

Here we go again. Toddlers and Tiaras, Dance Moms and now Friday Night Tykes. Yes, one more installment in the reality TV genre that leaves the viewer wondering if entertainment involves watching children being screamed at with profanity, then humiliated […]

Tips to Handle the Terrible Twos

posted by Linda Mintle

I have a two-year-old and we are right in the middle of the “terrible twos.” I want to encourage her development but some days I feel like pulling out my hair! I need help with the frustration I feel. There […]

Shamed by a Secret? Let it Go!

posted by Linda Mintle

Do you have a secret? If so, you join more than 95% of people who do. Most of us keep one fact or piece of information about ourselves from others. One reason for this is that secrets often involve shame. […]

Does the NFL Make You Fat?

posted by Linda Mintle

The big game is right around the corner and people are planning their Superbowl menus. But what if your fan experience could make or break your weight loss efforts? That’s right, if you are a big Denver or Seattle fan […]

How to Break Out of Feeling Lonely

posted by Linda Mintle

What happens if you tell yourself that nobody like me…When you have that negative thought that somehow you don’t matter? Nothing good! You experience loneliness, not to be confused with depression or aloneness. Being alone is not a bad thing. But […]

Are You Showing Respect for Your Child’s Teachers?

posted by Linda Mintle

Your child comes home from school and tells you the teacher treated her unfairly. There was a fight and she was sent to the principal’s office. But it wasn’t her fault and the teacher was picking on her. Do you? […]

Weight training? How About Temperature Training to Lose Weight?

posted by Linda Mintle

Temperatures are expected to plummet to single digits again tonight. But is there an upside to all this cold weather when it comes to weight loss? As they say in frigid Minnesota, “You betcha!” It has something to do with […]

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